This article was written by me after a few interviews with some ladies. I actually used to fall under this kind of guys 'Mr Nice Guy '. Trust me when I say it really isn't a bad thing to be a Nice guy but the real trouble comes when you are being too nice. 

Enjoy as you read





1. Good Guys Are Interested In The Wrong Set Of Ladies :We all know that  it takes a mature man to recognize a good lady. It also takes a mature lady can recognize a good man. If she hasn’t grown enough psychologically or  mentally she will be unable to appreciate how rare it is to encounter a guy as great as you! Instead, her focus would be on the popular bad guy around. This definitely doesn’t mean you should become “the bad guy” to get her attention. Just wait for the one who appreciates you. ‎

2. Just too nice . There is a thin line between being nice and being too nice. When you are too nice you let a woman get away with anything which isn't sexy. I was once in a restaurant to relax, then came a lady I used to know. She came to that same restaurant with her boyfriend at that time. to my surprise, after we ate, the guy paid for our meals even after flirting with his lady. Trust me, being nice is cool but being too nice.......Nahh

3. Trying too hard . It’s ok to be aggressive, but too aggressive is a turn off. Instead, try being assertive. When you are too aggressive you are calling every day, trying to spend every waking moment with a woman. You’re buying gifts, flowers, etc. Now these are all things that women like, but if you are doing it too often it may appear as if you’re trying too hard. You should be able to win her heart not only by doing those nice things, but just by being yourself.

4. Boring . You are no fun. The nice guys are typically the dinner and a movie kind. They like staying at home and relaxing most of the time. Switch it up a bit. There’s more to do than dinner and a movie!

5. Too needy . Every once and awhile a girl wants to hear, “I need to see you” or “I miss you.” When you say it all the time you come off as being needy. It’s ok to need or want to see your girl, but please refrain from telling her how you feel every time the feeling arises.

6. So predictable. We know your every move. What you are going to say or do. We even know how you are going to feel if we say certain things. Predictable = Boring!

7. You’re a pushover . A pretty lady of mine once told me that if she us dating a guy and she can easily get her way with him she would be immediately turned off. She said ladies prefer to have a man who can stand up for himself. She was like 'If I can get over on you, I can only imagine who else can'. Being a guy that is easy to manipulate is not cool! You can’t expect me to be a strong woman and be led by a weak man.

8. You agree with everything, even when you really don’t!  :oWhen there is an argument, instead of calling her out on my wrong doings you just agree with everything she says. Regardless of how mean it may make you seem, a man should be confident and honest enough to say how he feels. If there is a problem in the relationship you should be the one figuring out a way to resolve things properly. Don’t just agree with a woman when she’s wrong. Tell her why!

9. Are you insecure ? Sometimes ladies feel as if the good guy lacks confidence in himself. He’s afraid that he won’t find a good woman because he’s had so many bad experiences. At this point he accepts all the crap and settles for a bad one because he’s too afraid to be alone.

10. You’re lame . The good guys are usually the ones that weren’t very popular in high school. This is something I can care less about because I wasn’t popular either. However, you have women who don’t like when a guy comes off as corny. He has lame jokes and he usually doesn’t have many friends. He’s the guy whose life revolves around his girlfriend.

11. Too open . Some stuff is better left unsaid. Leave a little mystery for your partner. No woman needs to know all the details of your life. Please don’t go crying around her either. I’ve had this happen. So not cool!

12. Don’t take control . There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a man who can plan out a date without asking for her suggestions. He calls her tells her what to wear, when to be ready, and where to meet. Good guys don’t always do this (Heck, I don’t think many guys do this at all). The conversation usually sounds like, “Well what do you want to do? I want to do whatever you want to do? Whatever you like it doesn’t matter to me!” Dude! It does matter. Speak up!

The common denominator in all of these opinions is this is how most of the women you date will view you. Nice guys finish last (if at all) because after a woman has dated enough idiots and/or bad guys she starts to develop an appreciation for the good guy. The best thing a good guy can do is find someone who knows his worth. At least then you won’t have to be last in line.



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Tunchi101



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Agreed!

But in the later years, women all start chasing the "good guys" so patience is key!

Nice One!

But OP I think It's Time You Peeps cut all These sermons & Stop discouraging the "Nice Guys" Already. If someone Was "born nice" Why try to Chance your "Niceness" To "Meaness" Simply because You want To Lay a Lady? Shiit is Absurd To me!

My point is This, There are no laid down Principles on"Stuffs like these", Its all natural. Just Be your Fuccking self!

TEAM BAD GUYS, i like that adrenalin feeling dat rushes through my blood vessels when ladies refer to me as a bad guy in a sexy way. "who good guy don help?

RexKexMilann:

hope u dnt friendzone nice guys like us

RexKexMilann:
Nice One!

But OP I think It's Time You Peeps cut all These sermons & Stop discouraging the "Nice Guys" Already. If someone Was "born nice" Why try to Chance your "Niceness" To "Meaness" Simply because You want To Lay a Lady? Shiit is Absurd To me!

My point is This, There are no laid down Principles on"Stuffs like these", Its all natural. Just Be your Fuccking self!

sure. That's d main thing

Op no mind dem jare, they prefare a weed smoker and a cultist (even a womanizer) to a cool and gentleman........smh

You can easily be the nice guy, and still be the guy women chase. That's the kind of stuff my whole blog is about. You should really read this article first, if you're intersted in learning how to be successful with women http://www.alphamalenaija.com/are-you-her-friend-lover-or-maga-guy

its never good to get too comfortable and friendly with a girl just like that...it wud eventually breed contempt and disrespect...its still not good for a girl to b too comfortable around you when you guys are not dating yet.....

I have been a really nice guy (it's in my DNA sha)... My thought?!..dont change because of anybody. The one person that would appreciate you would come along and it surely would be a wonderful ride,trust me!!

obejoseph10:
Op no mind dem jare, they prefare a weed smoker and a cultist (even a womanizer) to a cool and gentleman........smh

and what about weed smokers? so its written down somewhr that weed smokers are bad pipo? I think that level of reasoning is myopic..

Your right
Good guys never get the girls

They get the ladies
Shout out to all the good guys

With time, all women come back from the dark
side. They learn firsthand that bad guys are
bad for them. They realize that being treated as if they were
worthless and spending most of their time
either alone or feeling alone isn’t part of the
relationship they now want to have. All the
excitement turned into a migraine. All the
drama turned into painful memories. Now she wants a nice guy who will love her,
treat her with respect and spend time with her
because he wants to. Unfortunately for them,
by the time they realize the mistake they’ve
made, there are only assh*les left

dubylhover:


and what about weed smokers? so its written down somewhr that weed smokers are bad pipo? I think that level of reasoning is myopic..

yeah, most of u guys get touched in d head at times, and I guess dats just wat happend to ur brain right now

I'm a gentleman but to ladies alone.

obejoseph10:
yeah, most of u guys get touched in d head at times, and I guess dats just wat happend to ur brain right now

"you guys"? dude grow up......

dubylhover:


"you guys"? dude grow up......

ain u a weed smoker? U just reasoned like 1

dubylhover:

"you guys"? dude grow up......

ain u a weed smoker? Cos U just reasoned like 1

obejoseph10:
ain u a weed smoker? Cos U just reasoned like 1

hoe k

Anyway OP,,, m a good guy still i don't av any probs when it comes to datin d girl i lyk.. I laugh at guys who turn bad just attract women.
Most of my friends re d so called bad boys, yet they sometimes come to me 4 advice when it comes to getting a girl ..
SO 4get, just be confidence n have good conversational skills.
u want counter thread abi ... am coming

;h

hottest111:
Anyway OP,,, m a good guy still i don't av any probs when it comes to datin d girl i lyk.. I laugh at guys who turn bad just attract women.
Most of my friends re d so called bad boys, yet they sometimes come to me 4 advice when it comes to getting a girl ..
SO 4get, just be confidence n have good conversational skills.
u want counter thread abi ... am coming

Ss

This nice guy issue again . . . Well, i have a few tips for any nice guy looking for an upgrade . . . Without actually going through a total personality change like this article is suggesting.

1. NEVER laugh at your own jokes first. Don't ever try it. If you tell a joke, make sure you don't laugh until she does. That way, if it's not funny, she won't even know you told a joke, and you can move on with he conversation without her thinking you're boring. At least a few of your jokes will click, she will laugh, totally unaware of the countless tries you've previously made.

2. In the presence of a competing guy, who might be hotter or maybe have a better chance, GTFO. Seriously, leave them. Vanish. Staying around will lead to eventual competition. Which will lead to unfavourable conditions. You want to be the sly snake. Not the foolish lion.

3. Keep her on the edge. You WANT to watch a horror movie with this girl. You want to beat her in a spicy pepper eating challenge. You want to tell her a totally sad story. You want to show her your secret hideout that no one knows(a total lie of course. But who cares.). In short, you want to bring her into a world of constant change. Where everything is totally unpredictable and nothing stays the same. Eventually, you'll trick her into falling. Totally easy.

4. Make MONEY. . . . apparently, if i don't list this point, nairaland dudes will hunt me down. So, here it is.

5. Don't need her. Want her.
This perhaps makes the most difference. You don't want to find yourself in a situation where you think you can't live without her. The hell! Of course you can. She's just another girl you're attracted to. Probably not going to last a year anyway. You can start needing her after you're hooked. But for now, stop the needy bullshit.

#peace

Player, Play on

Teempakguy:
This nice guy issue again . . . Well, i have a few tips for any nice guy looking for an upgrade . . . Without actually going through a total personality change like this article is suggesting.

1. NEVER laugh at your own jokes first. Don't ever try it. If you tell a joke, make sure you don't laugh until she does. That way, if it's not funny, she won't even know you told a joke, and you can move on with he conversation without her thinking you're boring. At least a few of your jokes will click, she will laugh, totally unaware of the countless tries you've previously made.

2. In the presence of a competing guy, who might be hotter or maybe have a better chance, GTFO. Seriously, leave them. Vanish. Staying around will lead to eventual competition. Which will lead to unfavourable conditions. You want to be the sly snake. Not the foolish lion.

3. Keep her on the edge. You WANT to watch a horror movie with this girl. You want to beat her in a spicy pepper eating challenge. You want to tell her a totally sad story. You want to show her your secret hideout that no one knows(a total lie of course. But who cares.). In short, you want to bring her into a world of constant change. Where everything is totally unpredictable and nothing stays the same. Eventually, you'll trick her into falling. Totally easy.

4. Make MONEY. . . . apparently, if i don't list this point, nairaland dudes will hunt me down. So, here it is.

5. Don't need her. Want her.
This perhaps makes the most difference. You don't want to find yourself in a situation where you think you can't live without her. The hell! Of course you can. She's just another girl you're attracted to. Probably not going to last a year anyway. You can start needing her after you're hooked. But for now, stop the needy bullshit.

#peace

Nubian113:



Player, Play on

seriously.
i've repented since naa. I just decided to share some of the tricks i used to use.
Now, i'm a regular nice guy who just wants lady friends.

RexKexMilann:
Nice One!

But OP I think It's Time You Peeps cut all These sermons & Stop discouraging the "Nice Guys" Already. If someone Was "born nice" Why try to Chance your "Niceness" To "Meaness" Simply because You want To Lay a Lady? Shiit is Absurd To me!

My point is This, There are no laid down Principles on"Stuffs like these", Its all natural. Just Be your Fuccking self!

your post would have made sense , if the fonts and style are better

Mek I book dis space.

Teempakguy:
This nice guy issue again . . . Well, i have a few tips for any nice guy looking for an upgrade . . . Without actually going through a total personality change like this article is suggesting.

1. NEVER laugh at your own jokes first. Don't ever try it. If you tell a joke, make sure you don't laugh until she does. That way, if it's not funny, she won't even know you told a joke, and you can move on with he conversation without her thinking you're boring. At least a few of your jokes will click, she will laugh, totally unaware of the countless tries you've previously made.

2. In the presence of a competing guy, who might be hotter or maybe have a better chance, GTFO. Seriously, leave them. Vanish. Staying around will lead to eventual competition. Which will lead to unfavourable conditions. You want to be the sly snake. Not the foolish lion.

3. Keep her on the edge. You WANT to watch a horror movie with this girl. You want to beat her in a spicy pepper eating challenge. You want to tell her a totally sad story. You want to show her your secret hideout that no one knows(a total lie of course. But who cares.). In short, you want to bring her into a world of constant change. Where everything is totally unpredictable and nothing stays the same. Eventually, you'll trick her into falling. Totally easy.

4. Make MONEY. . . . apparently, if i don't list this point, nairaland dudes will hunt me down. So, here it is.

5. Don't need her. Want her.
This perhaps makes the most difference. You don't want to find yourself in a situation where you think you can't live without her. The hell! Of course you can. She's just another girl you're attracted to. Probably not going to last a year anyway. You can start needing her after you're hooked. But for now, stop the needy bullshit.

#peace

Nicely said man

Michellla:
With time, all women come back from the dark
side. They learn firsthand that bad guys are
bad for them. They realize that being treated as if they were
worthless and spending most of their time
either alone or feeling alone isn’t part of the
relationship they now want to have. All the
excitement turned into a migraine. All the
drama turned into painful memories. Now she wants a nice guy who will love her,
treat her with respect and spend time with her
because he wants to. Unfortunately for them,
by the time they realize the mistake they’ve
made, there are only assh*les left

I shall never have ashes left by another...!!! Amen! Amen!! Amen!!! Holy.....!!!

We are really in a confused world