Adaeze003:
I hope I don't sound weird on this one and I hate to be the bearer of bad news but...

Not everyone's vision will become a reality... damn! Hit the damn nail on the head.

Yes, we plan, plan and plan but it doesn't always align in reality like in our heads...

In my opinion(emphasis on the "MY" ) even as you're trying out your different ideas, you should have some plan B that puts food on YOUR table!

For example, I know a software developer who has ideas and has created apps that are on google play but we all know that field is still not fully blown here. So, if he sits at home creating apps all day, he might just go hungry so... he got a blue collar job that at least pays the bills for now while working on his vision!

No1 needs to abandon his/her vision for anyone but you must know that "potential" don't put food on no table.

And heck! If you feel your girl is weighing you down, you leave her and move ahead. Saying stuff like "she made me loose sight of my vision" is just weak abeg... like really weak.

Oh... the last paragraph is on gf/bf basis... if you're married, your wife is only tryna pull you back to reality... you just can't afford to be stuck on a dream you had as a teen when you have babies to feed. unless of course she's the bread winner... and you know what that does to your egos.

Toks2008:


I guess a typical Nigerian dating Seun in 2006 you would have asked him to forget his dream of owning the largest online forum in Africa and start distributing CVs to all the companies in Nigeria abi?

There was a time Dangote was selling sugar,salt and so on in ridiculous small quantity and im very positive a typical Nigeria lady would have asked him if he will not mind adding a paid job to augment.

Adaeze003:
I hope I don't sound weird on this one and I hate to be the bearer of bad news but...

Not everyone's vision will become a reality... damn! Hit the damn nail on the head.

Yes, we plan, plan and plan but it doesn't always align in reality like in our heads...

In my opinion(emphasis on the "MY" ) even as you're trying out your different ideas, you should have some plan B that puts food on YOUR table!

For example, I know a software developer who has ideas and has created apps that are on google play but we all know that field is still not fully blown here. So, if he sits at home creating apps all day, he might just go hungry so... he got a blue collar job that at least pays the bills for now while working on his vision!

No1 needs to abandon his/her vision for anyone but you must know that "potential" don't put food on no table.

And heck! If you feel your girl is weighing you down, you leave her and move ahead. Saying stuff like "she made me loose sight of my vision" is just weak abeg... like really weak.

Oh... the last paragraph is on gf/bf basis... if you're married, your wife is only tryna pull you back to reality... you just can't afford to be stuck on a dream you had as a teen when you have babies to feed. unless of course she's the bread winner... and you know what that does to your egos.

TheSonOfMark:



Untelligent girls like yourself would never contribute meaningfully to thought-provoking treads. You flippant comments always betray you.
Return to the fashion section where simpletons like you converge to drool over the lastest brand of make-up , buttpads and earrings.

Toks2008:


Talking about the ladies,trust me, i am so so so so disappointed in nairaland ladies and i can't stress this enough.MOST OF THEM ARE TOO UNINTELLIGENT because they hardly make intelligent and insightful contributions to threads that are of utmost importance to even them.

But many of them are excellent abusers and can give you unwarranted insults..just mark my word and you wil see one quote me soon with a reprisal comment.

IamOdin:
Well bros Toks,,as u can see this set of people are soo engaged in romance that they don't care about their future..if u would post this on the business section it would be attended to.

The kids here isn't old enough to hustle,,they're still into their parents.i hope u got it.

JustKeen:

For every successful Dangote, there are over 500 that tried and failed.

Vikky014:
TOKS2008 This ur thread reminds me of a book i read Rich Dad and Poor Dad by Robert .T.Kiyosaki. DT book really shaped my thought about being a salary earner. It even made me to strt learning many skills. before i was having this mindset of working after school bt nw i know better
It is only fear that keeps most people working as a salary earner. The fear of not paying their bills, the fear of not having enof money and the fear of starting over. but being an entrepreneur enables one to avoid one of LIFE BIGGEST TRAPS WHICH IS SALARY

As a lady i will go for any man that will mind his own business even if he is a salary earner. He shld jst hv a plan of being an entrepreneur after few yrs of earning the salary

so in other words i prefer a promising entrepreneur to a salary earner... Salary is a curse to me..

smvinreal:
Well as for me i can't date a guy who does'nt have anything he is doing "an idle mind is the devils workshop"

JustKeen:

Funny how you comfortably used two exceptions to make general rules. For every Seun that aimed to own the largest African online forum and succeeded, there are over 100 that failed. For every successful Dangote, there are over 500 that tried and failed.

@ OP, the reality in Nigeria is that its very difficult succeeding from the scratch as an entrepreneur. Too many factors likely to nip your efforts in the bud. Agreed paid job has its risks too, but the risk factor in "budding entrepreneurship" is graver. Its a journey one can still undertake if one feels one has the grit and means. But any lady that wishes her man settles for paid job than entrepreneurship is doing so from a valid fear underpinned by realistic understanding of the present political economy of the country



**What am I typing even**

MrsChima:
I am so tired of this dry repetitive shit.

beycity:
Can someone plss summarize this plsss....

misspicy:
who has d summarized version pls?

Mhizkel:
You are right Op...Some ladies have killed the dreams of their men due to their own selfish desires...why should he be working under someone when he can create his own business and establish himself? Though, you have to work under a boss before becoming your own boss, but whatever worth doing is worth doing well and time waits for no man...As for me, i love the self employed group of men..Even if it's little money you have got, start it up with something and who knows what might happen next!

smvinreal:
Well as for me i can't date a guy who does'nt have anything he is doing "an idle mind is the devils workshop"

misspicy:
who has d summarized version pls?

Adaeze003:
Ok... I'm confused... when did the topic change to "let's talk about how dumb ladies are"

Why must every thread be about how guys are in some way better than girls...

Like what the hell?! @toks2008

lols.
If the topic was "why do ladies love marriage so much?". They won't wait for ladies to comment o, at that point they would know more about ladies than ladies themselves.

Now them dey call ladies dumb, I am still looking for the IQ test he passed, he is yet to show me.
They claim to be hardworking guys, well all the hardworking guys around me rarely have time to discuss women. I really don't know about some of these ones on NL.

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To the topic, I think it has more to do with uncertainty, it's not just about ladies... it cuts across every human.
We know how long it would take a business to stand on its feet, that's if it even stands finally. Within those years, expenses would arise_ these expenses have to be met.

It's very normal for loved ones, be it male or female advising you to get a job first, then start your side business_ when it crosses the budding stage, you resign and focus on it.

harristo:


You spoke my thoughts exactly. I have seen salary earners criticize and condemn budding entrepreneurs simply because it is taking years for them to start of earning significance from their business.
Only for those entrepreneurs to eventually go on to start making millions and building houses, while the salary earners that were condemning the path they choose, would still be making enough to maintain a rented apartment.

And the key point is that most of those who are earning salary and living comfortably will remain in that good status for years to come and never breakout to making millions, heck tens and hundreds of millions if they choose to remain as salary earners and not take the path of entrepreneurship / investments.

Salary earning can and will be a curse to the lazy and timid.

Toks2008:


I agree but apparently if you check very well..women are largely responsible for 300cases of failure out of the 500...quote me anywhere

harristo:


The key is to maintain a balance between the two. A man shouldn't give up his entrepreneurship dream simply because the harsh economy forces him to go get a job. He can pursue both at the same time if he is hard working and the nature of both permits.

If he can't pursue both at the same time, he should save enough money from his salary job and invest it in the business he had in mind and have others manage it for him, while he continues his salary job and eventually leaves it.

Settling for paid jobs only isn't something I would advice anybody to do, unless they aren't really interested in breaking the banks (I mean millions monthly).

Swissheart:
......... Toks why would a man claim a woman discouraged him from pursuing his dreams when of cos he has his head intact. Go to the streets... You see women frying stuffs, baking, decorating, events planners even while certified enough to earn salaries but yet they chose to do this things because they want to be employers of Labour, then a grown man will say his girl discouraged him from actualizing his..... Posterity won't forgive such.



Even our holy says..... Can two work together except they agree? Hell no! If your girl refuses to understand or believe in what you are aiming..... End it amicably before she destroys you like Samson. Who knows why she thinks you aren't on track? Whichever way..... we are to complement ourselves. I told someone close how I intend going into production of locust beans(iru) after closing from work........ And he said.... dearest why? You don't need it. I reasoned how much of a lazy fellow he is........ Above all he couldn't stop me. That is how it is.

No one sees your dream better than you......

IamOdin:
Mehn cry me an ocean instead of all these.

May be modified when am done reading tho,but 4 now, Cry! Cry!! Cry!!!

*Modified*
hey bro,,you made sense from start till end,forgive my agitation cos long threads like these end up being shit but this one's really different.

You're seconded in everything u said .

But my advice to fellow entreprenuers,cos i am one,,never u,i mean NEVER u give up cos of pressures from ladies,u should know they are brainless especially the single ones and have been that way since the time of ADAM.Always stay focused and if possible DUST these distractions b4 they ruin ur career.Though i believe any determined person should know this already.

And once more big brother Toks,forgive my agitation.

My 2kobo