Oliviaarims:



Lol. Thanks.

BTW.. Keep jumping from one acct to the other

Kachisbarbie:
Some ladies expect guys to know when they are in the mood to be wooed, if they are his level or not... like he is psychic _ yet they can't do same.
Guys get turned down everyday, and they are not dead.

You don't go about approaching every random guy, those signs you expect a young man to watch out for, you should be smart enough to watch out for same signs.

Observing a guy closely(especially when you guys have established a reasonable degree of familiarity), you would notice if he is into you but has issues expressing himself probably for fear of being turned down too. That's the time to strike...

RexKexMilann:
Calm Down Caro. Not everyone is Well equiped with the art of mastering subtle signs. What if your green light is quite not green to him?

I will advice you to discard that ideology. Stop giving guys Greenlight before Age will give you red Light. Biko!

Oliviaarims:



Alright. That's an acceptable instance u gave. That's why I said whoever advocates that it's okay for a girl to make the first move should elaborate on the circumstances.

Sure, marriage proposal and dating are two different things. I think it would even be better for a girl to ask a guy to marry her than asking him to date her.

Because, before the question of marriage can come up, they must have had sth tangible going and she must have viewed the situation as OK. Plus, a guy would almost never agree to marry a girl except he truly loves and wants to settle down with her. But he can date her without loving her or intending to marry her. If she's ready to get married and he isn't, she can decide to take a walk.

misspicy:
lol,and I was telling someone this the other day,NL guys came for me


Maybe in another life time I will ask a guy out again,bae you will be seen as a desperate one...


#truetalk

Oliviaarims:



Sweetheart, I'm not sure we're talking about the same thing. U're coming in from a totally different angle.

Are u saying we should watch out for greenlights in a man? Lol

Aha. U modified. But still, a guy shouldn't be so shy that he can't make a move after seeing the greenlights. Greenlight says "go ahead, I'll be receptive. I'm interested in you, too."

I read your post perfectly and I maintain, some guys are not vocal enough to even act after seeing the greenlight, if one happens to be with such guy_ why not help a young man'.

A guy shouldn't be that shy? Lols, I guess guys are immortals, they don't have fears.

RexKexMilann:
Nope, It's not that. My other account was banned simply because I posted some Physiological terms on D&M Section.

Buh it's all good. You really Repping.

wristbangle:

The only answer to your question is, He is NOT in love with such lady.

CaroLyner:
whats with nigerian guys &age ? am not upto twenty so i cant be bothered.

TrapKNNG:
OP you are Wrong! Very wrong! Lemmie tell you why..

The last serious relationship I was in was with a wonderful wonderful lady. She practically wooed me from top to bottom, left-right and center, and I respected her for that. I grew fond of her, I agreed and we started dating but never did I look down on her for one day!! At a point in the relationship, it didn't even matter who did the wooing cos I forgot about that and took charge of my relationship like the man that I am. we had fights like every normal couple nd did all the normal stuff regardless of who wooed who.

So quit deceiving ladies out there. A guy might be shy and thus a little bit apprehensive about approaching his crush, the crush on the other hand might pick up his signal and decide to throw him a bone! Its no biggie!!

wristbangle:


Lol, do you think its easy to deal with rejection?

Oliviaarims:


Aww. U were banned. Did u feel like bashing the mod like most of the others who get banned tend to do?

Kachisbarbie:
Some ladies expect guys to know when they are in the mood to be wooed, if they are his level or not... like he is psychic _ yet they can't do same.
Guys get turned down everyday, and they are not dead.

You don't go about approaching every random guy, those signs you expect a young man to watch out for, you should be smart enough to watch out for same signs.

Observing a guy closely(especially when you guys have established a reasonable degree of familiarity), you would notice if he is into you but has issues expressing himself probably for fear of being turned down too. That's the time to strike...
Sis, may God bless you for this post. Though many ladies won't agree with this and will be on the defensive side saying ''Should ladies woo a guy''? No. #500 recharge card for you

Diddyydiva:
Why should I approach a guy?
Am I mad?

ERM.......
lemme practice ............
Me: hi Ray Ray: hi dear friend Me: ( silence). Ray am I still a friend to u? Ray: Yes you are hun . my very good friend. Me: hmmmmmmmmm but I ...... I......... Ray: what's it diddy ? Me: I want more of you Ray: ( speechless). Bae na sinach sing am Me: ( force a hard laugh) You. caught me there


Mtcheeeeeewwww

I can't do it.
There are other ways to go after what you want without being direct.


it works for some people tho but the chances are slim .

Kachisbarbie:
Some ladies expect guys to know when they are in the mood to be wooed, if they are his level or not... like he is psychic _ yet they can't do same.
Guys get turned down everyday, and they are not dead.

You don't go about approaching every random guy, those signs you expect a young man to watch out for, you should be smart enough to watch out for same signs.

Observing a guy closely(especially when you guys have established a reasonable degree of familiarity), you would notice if he is into you but has issues expressing himself probably for fear of being turned down too. That's the time to strike...

joliyp:
I only reject timid guys

RexKexMilann:
I can picture my Aunt saying that to Her friend 29 Years ago, She's still single. Promise me you won't End Up like her.


BTW. You didn't have to Generalize.

Oliviaarims:



Those examples u listed up there are what we sum up as giving the green light.


And, hey.. A lil bit of pride is very necessary. Everybody's got to have pride. Pride is OK. Arrogance isn't.

Oliviaarims:




There are always exceptions. Doesn't mean ur case is the obtainable norm.

Oliviaarims:



LOL. Very funny illustration.

Decker:


I don't quite agree with you. People date for different reasons. Not every dating instance is veered towards marriage. Marriage isn't always the primary objective when two people decide to date it other.

There is a higher chance a girl would get viewed as desperate if she proposes marriage to a guy than if she just asks to date the guy, irrespective of the fact that she is dating the guy or not.

Marriage is a very serious issue and most men don't handle it lightly. A guy could easily agree to date a girl and still keep other side chicks. But with marriage, it's just that one woman. And not just that, he is also expected to spend his life with her and be faithful to just her all through.

So you see, it's a lot more serious issue than just asking someone out.

wristbangle:


Even if he possess satisfactory appearance and buoyant financial status?

CaroLyner:
lol.your imaginary aunt though.
trust me am all good.

Kachisbarbie:


I read your post perfectly and I maintain, some guys are not vocal enough to even act after seeing the greenlight, if one happens to be with such guys_ why not help a young man'.

A guy shouldn't be that shy? Lols, I guess guys are immortals, they don't have fears.

Diddyydiva:
the ones wey dey toast sef still dey chop clean mouth. let alone the one you are not sure of his feelings for you.




well I will be here to read stories that touch

Oliviaarims:



And I disagree. The primary purpose of dating is get married at the end of the day. That's the very end purpose.. Getting to know each other to see if they'd be compatible..

Okay, I agree marriage is a more serious issue. But that's the more reason it's okay. Because if he agrees, it's more guaranteed there won't be silly games.

RexKexMilann:
No! The ban Was totally Unwarranted.

misspicy:

lmao

trust me,I have been there before and the end product wasn't good at all

Mjshexy:
Yea i do understand u perfectly, a little pride as a lady to show her worth is necessary but u well know that Pride at the climax will not even allow some girls stoop so low to give a green light or chik a guy, the guy may not even notice ur green light because he has his mind on something or someone else so make known ur intentions, common if u really want him go for him, it won't reduce ur status or take away ur beauty.

Oliviaarims:
This notion seems to be trending these days. But pls, before anyone goes about saying it's okay for a woman to make the first move, then perhaps they should also elaborate on what circumstances and the manner in which it should be done. So many girls are being misled already.. And making complete fools of themselves. I witnessed one such event yesterday and I just couldn't help laughing. This girl must have been feeling like a real 21st century chic when she even contemplated making the move. But with the way things turned out, I can bet on my two Di'ja-like-boobs that she's so never going to try that again. Heck, that dude was mean!


Back to my topic. I really don't get why a girl should be encouraged to make the first move. Look at it this way. Wooing a woman is sth that comes very natural to men. It's what they do. It's what they've always done right from time, what reason then has a guy not to make a move on the girl he likes? So this boy and girl know themselves, perhaps not as friends or anything serious, but each knows about the existence of the other. They are perhaps in the same location.. Work in the same place, live in the same neighborhood, attend the same Uni;So, surely they get to see each other from time to time. Why then should it be the girl making a move since she's interested in him? Hasn't he seen her before? If actually he had any interest whatsoever, he'd make the first move. It shouldn't be an issue at all. Girls are used to being wooed.

But he doesn't and some girl would think it's okay for her to make the first move. Trust me, chances are high that he won't take u seriously if ever u should go into a relationship. He'd simply see the whole thing as him doing u a favour by dating u and perhaps getting an advantage for himself if he succeeds in sleeping with you . I can't even imagine how u'd feel comfortable being in that relationship. He's most likely always going to be eager to show u the door, because after all, u made the first move on him, when he was just on his own doing his thing. It's just like reversing roles entirely. And IMO, it shows desperation.

And I also thought guys used to enjoy the chase. They want girls to be the ones chasing them now? Lol.

Pls, giving the green light and not playing too hard to get is enough. A man's supposed to know what to do when he sees the green light. If he doesn't, well, that's sad. It simply implies that there are so many things about women he isn't sensitive to.

Call me old-fashioned. I like being old-fashioned if this is what being old fashioned is all about.