Oliviaarims:



Lmao. Sorry.

simplisity:
We waive nature and culture( how things suppose to be done) and embrace civilisation and modernisation in d name of evolution thinking that we are smart, but later nature and culture will return back and take their places, aftr we had suffered the consequences. Sanity has being lost in d society bcs of modernisation. Do not remove ur ancient land marks, thats wat Solomon d wisest man told us in proverb. [b/] If a woman suppose to woo a man, she should pay for d dowry[b/] too.

Laveda:
Naijaboiy..read this

You know what? That girl Isheartless That's the worst way of turning a Nigga down..it can be done politely .... before u embark on such journey again..I need to look very well
.and it won't be a random Nigga...I need to study him very well and know his kinda person..this should be applicable to you too...

tosyne2much:
As a guy, I just can't imagine myself wooing a lady. The highest I can do, is show her greenlight and If she can't woo me, she should go hang herself for all I care!!


*nobody should quote*

Wildngent:


I'd buy you a bottle of chilled coke any day any time. But i do not agree she goes all out stating her relationship intentions if they were first timers. There are ways she'd strike a natural conversation that leaves loose ends for either one of them to capitalize on and this time, luring the man to take advantage of. Well pointed out all the same.

oseod:


Just study ke? By the time I'm done analysing the girl I'll even write project report on her, her past and her future. .........

But true tho.....It can't be a random person the risks are just too much...
Most of the girls I know were either coursemates at school or collegues at work or friends of close friends....

Yeah..we're all scared of being rejected...
One still needs to take the risk though

ronald4lif:


I've always maintained that we guys are responsible for how we're being treated by women. They would continue to lacerate you like the bellyaches that you are.

You see a woman and perhaps someone you've become friends with and ask her out. Then say a woman shouldn't do same citing culture as reason? Can you please define culture for a start and if it's constant or static?

A woman who ask a guy out is confident, and strong, sui generis and one with true character. It shows she knows what she wants and not afraid to go for it. It depicts one who's not afraid to defy her societal inhibitions and dogmas that aimed at restricting her potentials. And a real man will appreciate her boldness and examplary character.

A relationship is a two way street. Who ever made the "rules" of who always has to text first or do the asking is an idiot.

I ordinarily didn't set out to join the discuss after observing it was a luxuriant ground for some hoity-toity display of self-importance for those who falsely think they're some deity.

tosyne2much:
So you have Dija-bosom-like ?

TrapKNNG:
OP you are Wrong! Very wrong! Lemmie tell you why..

The last serious relationship I was in was with a wonderful wonderful lady. She practically wooed me from top to bottom, left-right and center, and I respected her for that. I grew fond of her, I agreed and we started dating but never did I look down on her for one day!! At a point in the relationship, it didn't even matter who did the wooing cos I forgot about that and took charge of my relationship like the man that I am. we had fights like every normal couple nd did all the normal stuff regardless of who wooed who.

So quit deceiving ladies out there. A guy might be shy and thus a little bit apprehensive about approaching his crush, the crush on the other hand might pick up his signal and decide to throw him a bone! Its no biggie!!

Toks2008:


Are you by chance related to prof wole shoyinka or senator patrick? Abeg take am easy o..lol

But seriously i want to be wooed by a sweet confident chic right now cos i don hang boot for wooing matter...

kinglekan:



Don't mind tosyne2much, thats how he wee be vibrating like jelly fish at the mention of anything Olivia....

naijaboiy:

Leave am!

She thinks because she's showing a guy green light then it's a big favour.

Do we not also have a plethora ;of fish in the sea to choose from?

Some girls and their empty egostitical attitude

ronald4lif:


I've always maintained that we guys are responsible for how we're being treated by women. They would continue to lacerate you like the bellyaches that you are.

You see a woman and perhaps someone you've become friends with and ask her out. Then say a woman shouldn't do same citing culture as reason? Can you please define culture for a start and if it's constant or static?

A woman who ask a guy out is confident, and strong, sui generis and one with true character. It shows she knows what she wants and not afraid to go for it. It depicts one who's not afraid to defy her societal inhibitions and dogmas that aimed at restricting her potentials. And a real man will appreciate her boldness and examplary character.

A relationship is a two way street. Who ever made the "rules" of who always has to text first or do the asking is an idiot.

I ordinarily didn't set out to join the discuss after observing it was a luxuriant ground for some hoity-toity display of self-importance for those who falsely think they're some deity.

ronald4lif:


I've always maintained that we guys are responsible for how we're being treated by women. They would continue to lacerate you like the bellyaches that you are.

You see a woman and perhaps someone you've become friends with and ask her out. Then say a woman shouldn't do same citing culture as reason? Can you please define culture for a start and if it's constant or static?

A woman who ask a guy out is confident, and strong, sui generis and one with true character. It shows she knows what she wants and not afraid to go for it. It depicts one who's not afraid to defy her societal inhibitions and dogmas that aimed at restricting her potentials. And a real man will appreciate her boldness and examplary character.

A relationship is a two way street. Who ever made the "rules" of who always has to text first or do the asking is an idiot.

I ordinarily didn't set out to join the discuss after observing it was a luxuriant ground for some hoity-toity display of self-importance for those who falsely think they're some deity.

Oliviaarims:



Perhaps you can explain how it can be diplomatically done...

Oliviaarims:


Lol. So it seems.

ronald4lif:


Self confession time at the bold?

You see, you are admitting your cravings to be wooed by a lady. Not to worry every guy loves to experience a woman initiate romance. So what makes anyone think a woman who's distinct and stepped out of her imposed precinct, out of her limits would be neglected and slight for displaying such exraordinary character. Who would treat such a sanguine and nonpareil character with contempt? Something you crave for?

I understand some irresponsible, unfledged, and sex-starved guys who don't value rare act of bravery will slight such a woman but to use that as a premise and citing culture or unnatural as grounds is laughable.

Laveda:
Yeah..true that..and same way only matured guys can handle it..and not use that to take advantage ...

kinglekan:



Na boobi go kee u.

Oliviaarims:



It's not every man out there who's a real man. Too many will simply choose to try to take advantage of the woman.

And this isn't about any overblown idea of self-importance as u've chosen to believe.

donephi:


What do you mean take advantage?

Him taking advantage of you is only your mindset. No "MAN" takes undue advantage of a lady who wooed him, rather he respects her confidence and becomes very careful not to hurt her feelings especially when she knows her onions as a "LADY"

IMO22:
Wise words buddy, but d Nigerian factor doesn't respect wisdom. 90 percent or more of guys in relationships birthed that way take the girls concerned 4 granted.U know better!!

Toks2008:


My submission is simple...dont woo a man head on..show subtle signals i tagg green light.

even on nairaland a lady can show a green light by just quoting a guy and she could lash out at u and that can be a green light.

see ladies should wake up..real men no longer have time for this shit called wooing and these guys will just easily fall for any smart chic.

So ladies should continue forming levels,i trust the wobey guys to be on your neck and while you are feeling cool that a guy is persistently chasing you,the guy is simply doing wat he naturally knows how to do best and that is hunting you down no matter how long and how hard and once he gets u,he marks his register n move on...

Real responsible men will harly persist on winning a lady cos na even by Gods grace for them to woo you in the first place..quote me anywhere.

Oliviaarims:



Ronald, u've still not explained to me what u understand by a lady making the first move.

tonyx4x44:




Nobody should go all out at first sight... Male or female