Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Nobody: 4:25pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Miami11: Pray and fast for your wife Talk to her calmly about the issue Divorce is a sin Knee down and ask for forgiveness Treat her right Talk to your pastor Take her for deliverance Correction, divorce is not a sin as scripture clearly stipulates the conditions around which it can be done. I can place the reasons and interpretation before you as proof if you need convincing |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Nobody: 4:25pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
End time ladies. |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Olukat(m): 4:25pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Miami11: Pray and fast for your wife Talk to her calmly about the issue Divorce is a sin Knee down and ask for forgiveness Treat her right Talk to your pastor Take her for deliverance Pray and fast for who? Anyway, the dullard needed advise. I guess, he just got it from you. 1 Like |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by nayoubiko: 4:27pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
YOU ARE THE ONE THAT LOVE HER, AND SHE DID NOT CARE ABOUT THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR HER, AND ALSO SHE IS TAKING YOU FOR GRANTED BECAUSE SHE KNOW YOU LOVE HER AND YOU CANNOT DO WITHOUT HER.
LET HER KNOW YOU CAN DO WITHOUT HER, AND YOU ARE A MAN YOU WILL FIND OUT SHE WILL CHANGE AND MAKE A GOOD HOME.
YOUNG GIRLS THIS DAYS WANT TO MARRY AND HAVE A BOYFRIENDS AROUND THEM 2 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by ladycomfort(f): 4:27pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
See life ooo ! Hai if the OP were to be a woman she would be adviced to dress sexy, pray and forgive for the sake of her children. Huhi think OP should try to be a better husband , forgive and pray. But I sincerely hope its not that OP has a very small dick cos I don't understand why she will be requesting for another mans dick. Anyways. Improve on your bedroom skills and be more romantic. ![kiss](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/kiss.gif) 7 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by freshvine(f): 4:28pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Run to a specialist and conduct a Paternity test first.
Retro viral screening too.
Write your will as a matter of necessity (her mom is involved) cos your death is around the corner or
... end the ungodly contraption
And live for your kids and society. 5 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by zynzyn(m): 4:28pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Do u actually need advice?! ![](/faces/huh.png) Not sure! For me, yes, divorce is sin! But the sin u may end up committing if this woman no change dey fear me! Especially seeing the attitude of her mum! Odikwa risky! ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) U know yourself!!! 1 Like |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by yankison(m): 4:29pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
get more eviden and divorce her. the man might tell her to kill you very soon... You can get a single mom to be spending time with and enjoy yourself.. You already had kids so there is actually noting you are looking for other than companionship |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Nobody: 4:29pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Confirm if you are the father of those kids self. She might have gone beyond snapping of pics only metamorphosed into real stuff . 1 Like |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by yoksy(f): 4:29pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
its so unfortunate some people get married without knowing d meaning of marriage |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by andyanders: 4:29pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Op, from what you stated herein, I will say that you are one in a million for having to even stay in same house with such a woman for that long without throwing her out.
Even if she has 30 kids for me, it will be over the first day I saw the pix, talk less of having to stomach that for that long.
Anyway, maybe you are the weak type that is under the skirt of a woman. 1 Like |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by 3kay945(m): 4:30pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
This is what happened when ladies jump from one boyfriend to another seeking more money, fun or love. When they finally get married, their past keep chasing them. Ladies of nowadays and olosho have more things in common. ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png) 3 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by donodion(m): 4:30pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
AstuteJ: I need your candid advice on how to handle the various cases of infidelity against my wife. We have been married for 10 years with kids and I have never had any reason to doubt her until the following incidents began to unfold;
1. Sometimes in 2012, I took her to the market on a Sunday morning. She left her phone inside the car while she went into the market. A message dropped and I picked her phone to check, what I saw was a joystick sent by one of her BBM contacts. I dropped the phone aand pretended I dint see anything. When she came back, she checked the phone, saw the picture, deleted it and pretended nothing happened.
I waited for like 5hours to be sure she wasn't going to talk about it before bringing it up. She claimed it was sent in error and went ahead to call the guy to register her displeasure. I believed her and laid the matter to rest.
2. About six months later, I was out of the country. She called about 6pm that she needed to drop some items for a client at City Mall, little did I know she went to meet a man at Swe bar. I got back some days later and noticed she was all over her phone chatting and smiling while I was talking to her. I took the phone from her to see whom she was chatting it. All the previous chats had been deleted and I continued chatting with the guy. I could not flow well because the guy was coding and suspected he wasn't chatting with the right person.
I went through her phone for any prior message between them and I saw an SMS she sent to him at about 11:45pm the day she went to City Mall; "I just got home, please call if you can"! I did further findings before she confessed she went to meet with the guy at Swe bar and had to call to lis to me in case she runs into one of my friends. She claimed the guy is an old friend and had issues in his marriage, so she turned a marriage counsellor overnight to go solve the issues.
3. While I was still with her phone, the guy that sent his joystick pinged and I started chatting with him. The guy went very romantic and I cautioned him not to put me in trouble like he did when he sent an unsolicited pix of his joystick. The guy went "Ah Stella, but you asked me to send it na, have you forgotten? That you even sent me a pix of your laps taken in a dark room when I asked for yours"! I was speechless! He went "and you said you told your hubby it was sent in error and he believed you". I confronted my wife with all these and she still had some "stories" to tell.
4. We were at her Mum's place two years ago and she got a call, she told the fellow to come see her there. Her ex came in some minutes later to the warm embrace of the mum. We greeted and he wasted no time to settle in and joined the discussion on ground. The last time I saw him was before we got married and she claimed they never dated. The guy talked about his wife, how poor she is in home keeping, in the kitchen. on bed etc. My wife cut in "and this lady is supposed to be enjoying Andy o, cos I remember Andy knows how to take care of a woman, each time he came visiting in the university days, he always came with bags full of goodies". She even suggested seeing the woman to advise her and the guy said "no you are not in the best position to do that, you know she is not too comfortable with you".
All these happened right in the presence of my mother in law and I kept my calm all through. We left there after the show of shame and I warned her to cut all communications with the guy.
5. Few weeks later, same guy came to our church to worship. After the service wifey told me his kids would like to follow us home to meet our kids; I did not respond. Her mum and aunt was also in the church same Sunday and I drove them and my wife straight to my house. The guy drove behind. We got home, wifey went to the kitchen to cook, her mum and aunt settled in to a good gist with this guy in my own very living room. I picked my keys and left the house for them. I returned late in the night when they had all left and you can guess what happened afterwards.
6. I was with her phone few weeks later and another ex bumped in. "My baby, how are you doing, I have missed you bla bla bla". He requested they meet somewhere on the mainland two days later! After taking a second look at the unsaved number, I remembered the number had sent her an SMS; "can I call you now" about twice in the past. the second time I saw the SMS, I called the number with her phone but the guy refused to pick all thru the day!
7. Last Christmas dat, she gave me her phone to check something on her whatsapp and a chat came in from a guy I have been monitoring his number for a while. The excerpt of the chat is below (I took over the chat from the line he asked for her pix).
5/12/2015, 7:51 am - sy: May d joy of Xmas be for u and ur family IJN 25/12/2015, 7:52 am - sy: Enjoy ur day 25/12/2015, 11:08 am - Jimmyeatery: snap i wanna see yur Sexy look 25/12/2015, 11:09 am - Jimmyeatery: I hope youre alone 25/12/2015, 11:09 am - sy: Lol 25/12/2015, 11:09 am - sy: Yes 25/12/2015, 11:09 am - Jimmyeatery: Plsssssss 25/12/2015, 11:10 am - Jimmyeatery: IM alone here too 25/12/2015, 11:10 am - sy: That's good 25/12/2015, 11:10 am - Jimmyeatery: IM deleting it immediately 25/12/2015, 11:11 am - sy: Where is the one you have 25/12/2015, 11:11 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme snap 25/12/2015, 11:11 am - sy: Ok 25/12/2015, 11:14 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0006.jpg (file attached) 25/12/2015, 11:15 am - Jimmyeatery: Pls delete it quickly 25/12/2015, 11:15 am - sy: Nice 25/12/2015, 11:15 am - sy: Why should I delete it 25/12/2015, 11:15 am - Jimmyeatery: Tnx 25/12/2015, 11:16 am - Jimmyeatery: Someone can misplaced phone 25/12/2015, 11:16 am - sy: That's true 25/12/2015, 11:16 am - Jimmyeatery: I dont want yur man to one across it as well 25/12/2015, 11:17 am - Jimmyeatery: To be on safe side 25/12/2015, 11:17 am - sy: Ok 25/12/2015, 11:17 am - Jimmyeatery: I wanna see u babe 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: You have my pix already now 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme see yur Sexy body babe 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Nope 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Very not seen it 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: Is it even new to you 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - syt: OK o 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: Till we see again 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Ive not 25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: Plsssssss 25/12/2015, 11:19 am - sy: Why are you in a hurry 25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: Dont be shy dear 25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: IM just lonely here 25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: Soo lonely 25/12/2015, 11:20 am - syt: What about your wife 25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: In London 25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: In London with my kids 25/12/2015, 11:21 am - sy: Good 25/12/2015, 11:21 am - Jimmyeatery: I av 1% left 25/12/2015, 11:21 am - sy: What? 25/12/2015, 11:21 am - Jimmyeatery: Snap lemme see you 25/12/2015, 11:22 am - syt: You will see me when I change my dp 25/12/2015, 11:23 am - syt: You there? 25/12/2015, 11:43 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0009.jpg (file attached) 25/12/2015, 11:45 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0008.jpg (file attached) 25/12/2015, 11:44 am - Jimmyeatery: My ba3 low N phone went off 25/12/2015, 11:44 am - Jimmyeatery: Im using my laptop to charge now 25/12/2015, 11:46 am - syt: OK Sir 25/12/2015, 11:47 am - sy: Was wondering why you kept quiet 25/12/2015, 11:51 am - sy: Can't talk please 25/12/2015, 11:51 am - Jimmyeatery: Ok 25/12/2015, 11:51 am - Jimmyeatery: I tot u said youre alone before 25/12/2015, 11:52 am - sy: My kids are here now 25/12/2015, 11:52 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme know wen youre free to talk 25/12/2015, 11:52 am - Jimmyeatery: Oook 25/12/2015, 11:52 am - sy: Let's chat, say whatever you wanna say here 25/12/2015, 11:52 am - syt: My hubby is out 25/12/2015, 11:53 am - Jimmyeatery: Are u Sure? 25/12/2015, 11:53 am - syt: 😃 25/12/2015, 11:53 am - syt: Yeah 25/12/2015, 11:53 am - Jimmyeatery: Snap lemme be sure if youre d right person IM chatting with................
Please advise me in how to handle all these.......
Thank yothis Ol boy... Take thia from me...out 10 married women 7 does all you posted.They are only clever to delete all messages and pictures so you won't have proof to nail them.As they are reading this they know its the truth.Most will even call it ' casual flirting" Left to me, I suggest you separate from her but before then, when nexr you have access to her phone, install spy software. That way all her sms and chats come straight to your in- box as evidences. Call a surprise family meeting of both sides to a delicious lunch or dinner,don't ket them be aware your intention. After menu menu, give them all print out copies of her ' runs' .Demand they take her with then as they are leaving else two people will mark attendance at the other side of life tonite. " That last supper " would forever remain in her parents memory till eternity. A cheat hardly repent until when caught and proven to be unworthy. My =N=1 advice. 9 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Nobody: 4:33pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
you must not be doing something right... either you aren't satisfying her sexually or giving her adequate attention...whichever it is, your wife is a one hell of a mean bïtch, that's if you have been faithful all this while as well, then you don't deserve to be treated this way..
It must be really traumatic & painful, especially after you paid her bride price, & have been living with her for 10 years only to discover she's a good for nothing hoe...
divorce her ASAP.... accept no apologies...and don't fall for her crocodile tears.. 1 Like |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by sexaddict08(m): 4:33pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Miami11: Pray and fast for your wife
Talk to her calmly about the issue
Divorce is a sin
Knee down and ask for forgiveness
Treat her right
Talk to your pastor
Take her for deliverance
that woman fit dey fvck pastor self 1 Like |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Nobody: 4:34pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
elantraceey:
What do you intend to gain from using cuss words on a fellow woman like you? Please don't judge her at least not yet.
@Op I took the time to read all you posted and I can't help but notice how the guy is so immature and your wife too. Please first let go of any thought of divorce in your head as what you have now are just assumptions.
She's your wife and you've been with her for 10years so you should know how to get the truth from her and I'll say you should use love not anger. Ask her questions like if she isn't satisfied with you or where you've missed it or something,.make it seem like the fault is coming from you even though its not and she'll most likely be comfortable and she'll begin to open up. Be ready to forgive no matter how bitter it turns out at least for the sake of your children.
Make sure she deletes and block those guys and try to resolve whatsoever reason she'll give.
#Myhumbleopinion
Lalasticlala help this guy get good advice. .I was reading your post then the Light on My Olosho detector just went Red!! Its been Blinking Red since then Are you sure you are not one? 3 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Eromsboy: 4:34pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
AstuteJ: I need your candid advice on how to handle the various cases of infidelity against my wife. We have been married for 10 years with kids and I have never had any reason to doubt her until the following incidents began to unfold;
1. Sometimes in 2012, I took her to the market on a Sunday morning. She left her phone inside the car while she went into the market. A message dropped and I picked her phone to check, what I saw was a joystick sent by one of her BBM contacts. I dropped the phone aand pretended I dint see anything. When she came back, she checked the phone, saw the picture, deleted it and pretended nothing happened.
I waited for like 5hours to be sure she wasn't going to talk about it before bringing it up. She claimed it was sent in error and went ahead to call the guy to register her displeasure. I believed her and laid the matter to rest.
2. About six months later, I was out of the country. She called about 6pm that she needed to drop some items for a client at City Mall, little did I know she went to meet a man at Swe bar. I got back some days later and noticed she was all over her phone chatting and smiling while I was talking to her. I took the phone from her to see whom she was chatting it. All the previous chats had been deleted and I continued chatting with the guy. I could not flow well because the guy was coding and suspected he wasn't chatting with the right person.
I went through her phone for any prior message between them and I saw an SMS she sent to him at about 11:45pm the day she went to City Mall; "I just got home, please call if you can"! I did further findings before she confessed she went to meet with the guy at Swe bar and had to call to lis to me in case she runs into one of my friends. She claimed the guy is an old friend and had issues in his marriage, so she turned a marriage counsellor overnight to go solve the issues.
3. While I was still with her phone, the guy that sent his joystick pinged and I started chatting with him. The guy went very romantic and I cautioned him not to put me in trouble like he did when he sent an unsolicited pix of his joystick. The guy went "Ah Stella, but you asked me to send it na, have you forgotten? That you even sent me a pix of your laps taken in a dark room when I asked for yours"! I was speechless! He went "and you said you told your hubby it was sent in error and he believed you". I confronted my wife with all these and she still had some "stories" to tell.
4. We were at her Mum's place two years ago and she got a call, she told the fellow to come see her there. Her ex came in some minutes later to the warm embrace of the mum. We greeted and he wasted no time to settle in and joined the discussion on ground. The last time I saw him was before we got married and she claimed they never dated. The guy talked about his wife, how poor she is in home keeping, in the kitchen. on bed etc. My wife cut in "and this lady is supposed to be enjoying Andy o, cos I remember Andy knows how to take care of a woman, each time he came visiting in the university days, he always came with bags full of goodies". She even suggested seeing the woman to advise her and the guy said "no you are not in the best position to do that, you know she is not too comfortable with you".
All these happened right in the presence of my mother in law and I kept my calm all through. We left there after the show of shame and I warned her to cut all communications with the guy.
5. Few weeks later, same guy came to our church to worship. After the service wifey told me his kids would like to follow us home to meet our kids; I did not respond. Her mum and aunt was also in the church same Sunday and I drove them and my wife straight to my house. The guy drove behind. We got home, wifey went to the kitchen to cook, her mum and aunt settled in to a good gist with this guy in my own very living room. I picked my keys and left the house for them. I returned late in the night when they had all left and you can guess what happened afterwards.
6. I was with her phone few weeks later and another ex bumped in. "My baby, how are you doing, I have missed you bla bla bla". He requested they meet somewhere on the mainland two days later! After taking a second look at the unsaved number, I remembered the number had sent her an SMS; "can I call you now" about twice in the past. the second time I saw the SMS, I called the number with her phone but the guy refused to pick all thru the day!
7. Last Christmas dat, she gave me her phone to check something on her whatsapp and a chat came in from a guy I have been monitoring his number for a while. The excerpt of the chat is below (I took over the chat from the line he asked for her pix).
5/12/2015, 7:51 am - sy: May d joy of Xmas be for u and ur family IJN 25/12/2015, 7:52 am - sy: Enjoy ur day 25/12/2015, 11:08 am - Jimmyeatery: snap i wanna see yur Sexy look 25/12/2015, 11:09 am - Jimmyeatery: I hope youre alone 25/12/2015, 11:09 am - sy: Lol 25/12/2015, 11:09 am - sy: Yes 25/12/2015, 11:09 am - Jimmyeatery: Plsssssss 25/12/2015, 11:10 am - Jimmyeatery: IM alone here too 25/12/2015, 11:10 am - sy: That's good 25/12/2015, 11:10 am - Jimmyeatery: IM deleting it immediately 25/12/2015, 11:11 am - sy: Where is the one you have 25/12/2015, 11:11 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme snap 25/12/2015, 11:11 am - sy: Ok 25/12/2015, 11:14 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0006.jpg (file attached) 25/12/2015, 11:15 am - Jimmyeatery: Pls delete it quickly 25/12/2015, 11:15 am - sy: Nice 25/12/2015, 11:15 am - sy: Why should I delete it 25/12/2015, 11:15 am - Jimmyeatery: Tnx 25/12/2015, 11:16 am - Jimmyeatery: Someone can misplaced phone 25/12/2015, 11:16 am - sy: That's true 25/12/2015, 11:16 am - Jimmyeatery: I dont want yur man to one across it as well 25/12/2015, 11:17 am - Jimmyeatery: To be on safe side 25/12/2015, 11:17 am - sy: Ok 25/12/2015, 11:17 am - Jimmyeatery: I wanna see u babe 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: You have my pix already now 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme see yur Sexy body babe 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Nope 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Very not seen it 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: Is it even new to you 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - syt: OK o 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - sy: Till we see again 25/12/2015, 11:18 am - Jimmyeatery: Ive not 25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: Plsssssss 25/12/2015, 11:19 am - sy: Why are you in a hurry 25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: Dont be shy dear 25/12/2015, 11:19 am - Jimmyeatery: IM just lonely here 25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: Soo lonely 25/12/2015, 11:20 am - syt: What about your wife 25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: In London 25/12/2015, 11:20 am - Jimmyeatery: In London with my kids 25/12/2015, 11:21 am - sy: Good 25/12/2015, 11:21 am - Jimmyeatery: I av 1% left 25/12/2015, 11:21 am - sy: What? 25/12/2015, 11:21 am - Jimmyeatery: Snap lemme see you 25/12/2015, 11:22 am - syt: You will see me when I change my dp 25/12/2015, 11:23 am - syt: You there? 25/12/2015, 11:43 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0009.jpg (file attached) 25/12/2015, 11:45 am - Jimmyeatery: IMG-20151225-WA0008.jpg (file attached) 25/12/2015, 11:44 am - Jimmyeatery: My ba3 low N phone went off 25/12/2015, 11:44 am - Jimmyeatery: Im using my laptop to charge now 25/12/2015, 11:46 am - syt: OK Sir 25/12/2015, 11:47 am - sy: Was wondering why you kept quiet 25/12/2015, 11:51 am - sy: Can't talk please 25/12/2015, 11:51 am - Jimmyeatery: Ok 25/12/2015, 11:51 am - Jimmyeatery: I tot u said youre alone before 25/12/2015, 11:52 am - sy: My kids are here now 25/12/2015, 11:52 am - Jimmyeatery: Lemme know wen youre free to talk 25/12/2015, 11:52 am - Jimmyeatery: Oook 25/12/2015, 11:52 am - sy: Let's chat, say whatever you wanna say here 25/12/2015, 11:52 am - syt: My hubby is out 25/12/2015, 11:53 am - Jimmyeatery: Are u Sure? 25/12/2015, 11:53 am - syt: 😃 25/12/2015, 11:53 am - syt: Yeah 25/12/2015, 11:53 am - Jimmyeatery: Snap lemme be sure if youre d right person IM chatting with................
Please advise me in how to handle all these.......
Thank you.
Bros, you are married to your enemy. I once listened to a mentally retarded man who told me: "the life of a married man is in the palm of his wife. If she wants you dead, she would just squeeze the palm." U condoned enough to kill you. But it is not too late. The decision is yours. I won't tell you what to do because "advice is general, decision is personal." 3 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by So4baba(m): 4:35pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
elantraceey:
I'm sorry ok , I just want us to try to see things from others perspective and not just be overly judgemental 'cause we all ain't perfect and everyone have a reason,we should find out first even though some might be unreasonable. I have a feeling you the OPs wife,,, or you knw the family in person,, if not, ur idea is just annoying... This is evil 2 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Mom007(f): 4:36pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
That your wife no dey hear word so there is nothing to advice. Nothing more to do as all this didn't start yesterday. pls divorce her before she gives you an sti or a public disgrace or worse, passes another man's child as urs. |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by kingshrd: 4:36pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
If i was u i first withdraw from the woman run a DNA test on my kids after then i take my actions |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by ronald4lif(m): 4:36pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
elantraceey:
What do you intend to gain from using cuss words on a fellow woman like you? Please don't judge her at least not yet.
@Op I took the time to read all you posted and I can't help but notice how the guy is so immature and your wife too. Please first let go of any thought of divorce in your head as what you have now are just assumptions.
She's your wife and you've been with her for 10years so you should know how to get the truth from her and I'll say you should use love not anger. Ask her questions like if she isn't satisfied with you or where you've missed it or something,.make it seem like the fault is coming from you even though its not and she'll most likely be comfortable and she'll begin to open up. Be ready to forgive no matter how bitter it turns out at least for the sake of your children.
Make sure she deletes and block those guys and try to resolve whatsoever reason she'll give.
#Myhumbleopinion
Lalasticlala help this guy get good advice. Really @ the bold? Is it when until he catch the both of them having sex that he can conclude she's cheating? ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) 1 Like |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Wolfbrother(m): 4:37pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Miami11: Pray and fast for your wife Talk to her calmly about the issue Divorce is a sin Knee down and ask for forgiveness Treat her right Talk to your pastor Take her for deliverance Knee down and ask for forgiveness? ![](https://www.kanyetothe.com/forum/Smileys/default/tqHARym.png) My brother an eye for an eye , you sef start your own , you are a man not a puppy , when shes ready to leave she will leave 1 Like |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Nobody: 4:37pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
THIS IS SERIOUS, A VERY TRYING TIME FOR YOU MAN..BUT YOU MUST BE CAREFUL HANDLING THIS SITUATION.10 YRS AINT 10 MONTHS.THE TRUTH IS THAT SOCIAL NETWORKS OF ALL SORTS HAVE VIRTUALLY TURNED MARRIAGES UP SIDE DOWN. DIRTY SECRETS EVEN AMONGS PASTORS,SOCIAL NETWORK HAS TAKEN THE PLACE OF THE PARTNET. LET ME TAKE THIS PERSONAL; FOR ME,I'LL 1. STOP THE MONITORING...TRY TALKING TO HER PEACEFULLY ABOUT IT. 2. GO BEFORE GOD IN PRAYERS; SHE SURELY DOES NOT KNOW WHAT SHE'S CURRENTLY DOING. 3. SEEK COUNSEL FROM A TRUSTED RELATIONSHIP EXPERT 3. PAY MORE ATTENTION TO HER AS A WIFE AND THE KIDS, TRY RE-KINDLING THE FIRE WHERE NECESSARY 4. TRY GETTING HER OFF ANY FORM OF SOCIAL NETWORK...ATLEAST UNTIL SHE'S ABLE TO HANDLE IT. |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by jmaxjohn(m): 4:38pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
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Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by chyka33(m): 4:39pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
This is realy shocking bro.My advice is seize
her phones,get her a nokia torch and a new
sim.Please be strong...... |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by iPopAlomo(m): 4:40pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
elantraceey:
I'm sorry ok , I just want us to try to see things from others perspective and not just be overly judgemental 'cause we all ain't perfect and everyone have a reason,we should find out first even though some might be unreasonable. You sef dey play away match... surely... You be confirm hoe low show... 6 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by Wolfbrother(m): 4:40pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
AstuteJ:
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Do you even need to ask ![](https://www.kanyetothe.com/forum/Smileys/default/LB7E6uu.png) 4 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by simplifyone(m): 4:40pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
JESUS CHRIST
SOME GIRLS ENNNNNN I JUST TAYA
I READ COMMENT AND SEE THAT ALMOST ALL GIRLS COMMENT ARE BACKING UP THE WIFE
YOU CATCH YOUR WIFE CHATTING WITH A GUY ON HER PHONE SENDING DICK AND LAPS TO EACH OTHER GOING OUT TO SEE HIM WITHOUT HER NOT TELLING YOU
BRO I AM TELLING YOU THIS ,ALL THIS NAIRALAND GIRLS TELLING YOU NOT TO DIVORCE YOUR WIFE ARE ALSO A PROSTITUTE LIKE YOUR WIFE AND CHEAP GIRLS LIKE YOUR WIFE
WHY WILL A SANE MARRIED WOMAN STILL BE CHATTING WITH HER EX BOYFRIEND AND SENDING DICK AND LAPS TO EACH OTHER DO YOU GIRLS THINK AT ALL BEFORE YOU TYPE 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by sydneyobioha(m): 4:40pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
elantraceey:
What do you intend to gain from using cuss words on a fellow woman like you? Please don't judge her at least not yet.
@Op I took the time to read all you posted and I can't help but notice how the guy is so immature and your wife too. Please first let go of any thought of divorce in your head as what you have now are just assumptions.
She's your wife and you've been with her for 10years so you should know how to get the truth from her and I'll say you should use love not anger. Ask her questions like if she isn't satisfied with you or where you've missed it or something,.make it seem like the fault is coming from you even though its not and she'll most likely be comfortable and she'll begin to open up. Be ready to forgive no matter how bitter it turns out at least for the sake of your children.
Make sure she deletes and block those guys and try to resolve whatsoever reason she'll give.
#Myhumbleopinion
Lalasticlala help this guy get good advice. Ok, u r advising him to make it look as if its his fault so that d wife can deny all d allegations abi?? I dont think u r better that d OP's wife 4 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by serendipityF: 4:41pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Hmmmmn...lol...there's no justification to cheat but hope u aint lagging behind in your duties as husband? |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by streetzdreamz(m): 4:41pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
elantraceey:
Are you kidding me? So you're perfect ? You've never done something you were not proud of? Can you imagine? Concluding on someone you know nothing about. I'm not saying cheating is excusable but what's written up there is not the story so cut the woman some slag and don't just judge her like that. no one is talking about perfection here,read the ops write up,coupled with the chats,even a blind bat will know the man is married to a wh*re,an insatiable one for that matter!!!this stuffs have been happening repeatedly and I think the op has been lenient and loving enough,its even turned into foolishness and stupidity!!!once beaten twice shy they say,infidelity shouldn't be justified on the guise of perfection or imperfections, if you can't stay committed to your marital vows,why exchange the vows in the first place!!!!!!!!!!!and seven hells,the guy that mentioned you was right,you gat synonymous traits with ops wife. 6 Likes |
Re: Wife's Infidelity; Please Advise. by escobar07(m): 4:42pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Stories like this only lend credence to the pitty statement by jay-z that "once a good girl's gone bad, she's gone forever". Once an olosho, always one. 4 Likes |