elantraceey:



What do you intend to gain from using cuss words on a fellow woman like you? Please don't judge her at least not yet.



@Op I took the time to read all you posted and I can't help but notice how the guy is so immature and your wife too. Please first let go of any thought of divorce in your head as what you have now are just assumptions.


She's your wife and you've been with her for 10years so you should know how to get the truth from her and I'll say you should use love not anger. Ask her questions like if she isn't satisfied with you or where you've missed it or something,.make it seem like the fault is coming from you even though its not and she'll most likely be comfortable and she'll begin to open up. Be ready to forgive no matter how bitter it turns out at least for the sake of your children.


Make sure she deletes and block those guys and try to resolve whatsoever reason she'll give.


#Myhumbleopinion



Lalasticlala help this guy get good advice.

Bird of a feather...

elantraceey:



I'm sorry ok , I just want us to try to see things from others perspective and not just be overly judgemental 'cause we all ain't perfect and everyone have a reason,we should find out first even though some might be unreasonable.

call a spade a spade dis gal. U DISGUST me

Ginaz:
Women sha ( some) they are never satisfy and never will be. Sir, you need solid facts not all this to catch her red handed. She can deny this cos its not convincing enough. Catch her like the way a rat is caught in a trap and boot her cheating ass out of your home. Cos she will kill you one day if not now. Some WOmen are just too evil, can you imagine?

You are a cheater, which fact again with this prostitute...errh. Fire the idiiat immidiately, well this also show how some of our countrymen has become so low because of woman... if any girl in Nigeria try this shiit with me, I will just kill her ..simple as ABC, I have no sentiment for a biitch.

Bros u dull no be small. ur wife is flirting and saying sorry.

Funny sha! una no date b4 marry. Surely she would have exhibited such character. Settle ur matter withing your marriage man.

divorse her. go buy play station 3. buy lots of red wine and put inside your freezer. buy weed and rizla. download lucky dube and busy signal songs and enjoy your life......

na one life man get oh

daretodiffer:


You are not man enough

Not just yet!

Like the reprobate cough of a cancerous lung, you tetter at your dim-wit and force your rotten imaginations to concort what happiness it will bring to have me wrestle with a pig.

Why bear on your blasted bossoms another man's wife's moral ineptitude, except of course, you are the object of the OP's many woes? Or somehow, you see a mirror in the OP's wife. Live it, doom it, it's your darn life after all.

I shall indulge your rabid dreams no more; for '...when I 'speak', they are for war'.

Who told u those r ur kids...Shine ur eye o

BTT:


Like the reprobate cough of a cancerous lung, you tetter at your dim-wit and force your rotten imaginations to concort what happiness it will bring to have me wrestle with a pig.

Why bear on your blasted bossoms another man's wife's moral ineptitude, except of course, you are the object of the OP's many woes? Or somehow, you see a mirror in the OP's wife. Live it, doom it, it's your darn life after all.

I shall indulge your rabid dreams no more; for '...when I 'speak', they are for war'.

Kikikikiki

You are going to have heart attack

Easy, man bro

kick her out of your house before she kill you. Bush animal.

NgwaManNaija4LF:


You are a cheater, which fact again with this prostitute...errh. Fire the idiiat immidiately, well this also show how some of our countrymen has become so low because of woman... if any girl in Nigeria try this shiit with me, I will just kill her ..simple as ABC, I have no sentiment for a biitch.

Ode!

You are going to kill her if she is a low lifer like yourself or if she comes from n insecure family

Pick your choice







Your mama na the biitch

daretodiffer:


Ode!

You are going to kill her if she is a low lifer like yourself or if she comes from n insecure family

Pick your choice







Your mama na the biitch

Even if from Buhari family, I don't care, even if you and your entire family, Biitch. Do you think that i'm the type of men you mess with..Arrogant prostitute. You and your mama na the true biiitch.

Infidelity in marriage comes frm love buit based on lust or some cheap qualities or som'in. Sorry bro, read all d advises n decide to urself d next action

Bro u u dn enter 1 chance o o . . . An olosho will always be an olosho.... . just invite God into it...

Its a mans world! If we cheat we come back to. Our women and take care of our family! If a woman cheats she can kill u for her lover. Cos u are stopping her from real love according to her! This is bullshit! I don't need any family member to decide I move out give her and the kids a good life and look for a woman that is faithful. In my place u wil be dead! Cos. Our spirit wil kill u! Haba its not something to think about! Kai!

Dear OP, you did not tell us your tribe, but I guess you would be a Yoruba man . Yoruba men tend to frown less at infidelity.

carlcar2012:
Sit her down and talk to her

how many times? Some girls tho.

This is disgusting...

I am a woman but women who cheat disgust me. Imagine! A wife and a mother!

She has little or no respect for u. She probably married u not for love but to answer Mrs.

I have no advice to give u. It's obvious what u have to do.

It's pretty obvious she has been cheating on you. And not even with one person. And her mom and aunt are very much aware. You need to confront her in the presence of her mom and aunt. If she is not ready to retrace her steps, then you have to do the needful (divorce).
She comes across as a loose lady. I personally cannot tolerate her type; no way.

DuchessLily:
Eyaahh... If all u posted is real, then Sorry bro, u married an Olosho


Well this is what u should do - ... fast and pray for God to change her.. ( as that is d advice given to women when her hubby is doing this kind of rubbish) and again "'stop touching her fone; yes ke! leave her fone alone, so u don't give urself high bp" (advice given to women). no be only women go dey endure this kind rubbish.

You are really funny. But you are right, though.

Miami11:
You have to think about 10 years of marriage and kids Kids come first my dear The husband should forgive and forget

Point of correction, his life comes first not kids.

poseidon12:

You are really funny. But you are right, though.

DuchessLily:
Eyaahh... If all u posted is real, then Sorry bro, u married an Olosho


Well this is what u should do - ... fast and pray for God to change her.. ( as that is d advice given to women when her hubby is doing this kind of rubbish) and again "'stop touching her fone; yes ke! leave her fone alone, so u don't give urself high bp" (advice given to women). no be only women go dey endure this kind rubbish.

I'm not surprised at dis kind of advice. Is it not obvious dat u are birds of a feather. LET ME EDUCATE A LITTLE. IN THIS PART OF THE WORLD(AFRICA & BY EXTENSION, NIGERIA), THERE ARE CERTAIN PRIVILEGES THAT DON'T GO THE WAY OF WOMANHOOD...he should pray&fast, while other men keep mounting his wife like Jicheng. He should stop touching her phone or confronting her while other men out there ride her CPU like Micra, abi
Pls get some sense!!!!

Ligxy:

Point of correction, his life comes first not kids.

Absolutely..........

daretodiffer:


I like you

Why wouldn't you like her? Like attracts likes. May God deliver bachelors from the ever-ravaging spirit of 'alabosa'

Many times, when I'm in the midst of my siblings ( brothers), I find myself shaking my head unconsciously when I remember that girls of nowadays are so loose. I would be like- how can I explain to these brothers that dating is quite a different thing from marriage?

How can I explain to them that most married women/men at one time in their lives must cheat on their partners and Vice versa? (This is very difficult to accept but it's true)

I feel for the OP but won't advocate divorce at this stage but a separation is long over-due.

Frankness may be a virtue, but it is not a virtue that brings its own reward!

Ngokafor:



..Sorry op but whatever the case may be..endure and pray hard for your wife to change because DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION.

...think of your children and how a broken home will affect them.,besides how are you so sure that the next woman will be different?...you just never know.

..Pray,pray and pray harder for the success of your marriage because with God all things are possible.

Put yourself in op's shoes. Will you really follow your own advice if your wife is sleeping around like a LovePeddler?
What makes you think divorce is not an option?

I feel for this brother. I have been through almost the same circumstance. It sounded just like my story. It hurts more than anyone can imagine especially with kids involved and a mother-in-law that supports her daughter no matter what. It's sad.

AyoolaIgwe:


I'm not surprised at dis kind of advice. Is it not obvious dat u are birds of a feather. LET ME EDUCATE A LITTLE. IN THIS PART OF THE WORLD(AFRICA & BY EXTENSION, NIGERIA), THERE ARE CERTAIN PRIVILEGES THAT DON'T GO THE WAY OF WOMANHOOD...he should pray&fast, while other men keep mounting his wife like Jicheng. He should stop touching her phone or confronting her while other men out there ride her CPU like Micra, abi
Pls get some sense!!!!

Calm down, @DuchessLily is just being sarcastic.

savanto:



Why wouldn't you like her? Like attracts likes. May God deliver bachelors from the ever-ravaging spirit of 'alabosa'

Many times, when I'm in the midst of my siblings ( brothers), I find myself shaking my head unconsciously when I remember that girls of nowadays are so loose. I would be like- how can I explain to these brothers that dating is quite a different thing from marriage?

How can I explain to them that most married women/men at one time in their lives must cheat on their partners and Vice versa? (This is very difficult to accept but it's true)

I feel for the OP but won't advocate divorce at this stage but a separation is long over-due.

Frankness may be a virtue, but it is not a virtue that brings its own reward!

Bla bla bla bla

I will give you your due tomorrow.

@Op; sorry about your predicament. For the record, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in checking your spouse’s phone which acts in itself as a check-mate; but when that occurs, trust has just gone down the drain. To state clearly, there’re no 2 ways to this, your wife is certainly cheating on you. It’s not only when you catch someone red-handed before you term it cheating. Emotionally, she certainly is cheating on you and what she’s doing is disgusting to say the least especially since you've been married for a few years with kids. The question is what again does your wife want? Is she bored/tired of you? Does she now resent you that much? You need to find out the answers to these questions. On the other hand, if she's tired of the marriage, she might as well let you know; at least then you know where you stand; rather than her mis-behaving this way.

Although it would have been balanced if your wife tells her side of the story to either agree or disagree with some of the things you've asserted to here. Having said that, things like what you have narrated happens when a woman has no respect for her man/husband. If a man/woman has utmost respect for themselves, then he/she has no business being in close contact with his/he EX; let alone bringing him/her into the marital home. In your case, you even left the house annoyed and she still saw nothing wrong in that (you’re a bit too soft; no offence and hope non taken); be a man and wake up and smell the coffee to the advertised drama that your wife is performing and PUT AN END TO IT.

It’s obvious; you’re not in control of your home otherwise your wife wouldn’t have the audacity or even the liver to carry out all what you have narrated above. I am not saying that you should be a tyrant/bully neither should you be a walk-over/weakling. Rather, YOU NEED TO BE FIRM WHEN YOU SAY CERTAIN THINGS ABOUT WHAT YOU WOULD NOT TOLERATE IN YOUR HOUSE SUCH AS YOUR WIFE KEEPING CLOSE LINKS WITH HER EXs/OTHER MEN AND THE SAME RULE SHOULD APPLY TO YOU AS WELL REGARDING YOUR EXs/OTHER WOMEN. THE MARITAL HOME SHOULD BE WITHOUT DEFILMENT.

You have to sit-up and tackle this head-on and if she wants to stay with you, then you give her the option to cut off all ties with her EXs/other male friends’ she’s emotionally attached to which makes her chats forever with them on her phone. If she’s not willing to do that, then you simply tell her THE CONSEQUENCES OF WHAT HER REFUSAL WOULD LEAD TO. The choice is hers; and BE FIRM when you tell her that. From your write-up, I presume that you have spoken to her severally times without any change; hence, you’ve now been boxed into a corner and you now need to address this problem as a matter of urgency.

Let me digress a bit and ask if the case was the reverse (I hope you ain’t involved in this) i.e you were the one keeping in contact with your EXs/other female friends' and also doing what she is doing with them; I can guarantee that she would raise the house down; fight with you, quarrel with you, nag you as well etc. The saying; DO ON TO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT DONE TO YOU comes to mind.

Unfortunately, your wife has lost all form of self-respect for herself as a MARRIED WOMAN WHO HAS NO SHAME IN CARRYING ON HER EMOTIONAL EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS. This maybe due to your neglecting her; maybe/may be not who knows? Dude, wake up to the reality that HIV and AIDS ain’t written on anyone’s forehead and it only takes a single encounter to become infected. Be warned and be wise.

ONE MORE THING, I NOTE THAT SOME POSTERS HAVE MENTIONED THAT YOU SHOULD GET A DNA TEST DONE ON YOUR KIDS AND I’LL STRONGLY ADVISE YOU TO DO SO TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH/HURT.


I rest my case

DuchessLily:
Eyaahh... If all u posted is real, then Sorry bro, u married an Olosho


Well this is what u should do - ... fast and pray for God to change her.. ( as that is d advice given to women when her hubby is doing this kind of rubbish) and again "'stop touching her fone; yes ke! leave her fone alone, so u don't give urself high bp" (advice given to women). no be only women go dey endure this kind rubbish.

u like fasting and prayer abi? Wat fastin again na? Kick her ass out boss.

Wait still you see her moaning over the phone and saying "pls f"uck me harder than my hubby...Ewo nonsense