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Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by dupsil(f): 2:02am On Jan 08, 2016 |
Ohk guys, i would try to make this short and simple. Forgive any grammatical blunder i might make though. thanks So this is my story, am studying a 5yrs course in the Uni and am in my finals,throughout the previous years i wasnt in a relationship, i was so engrossed with school works so i could graduate with with a good G.P, I pratically didnt have time for myself. it got to a stage that my friends started pressuring me to get a boyfriend, not like i didnt have people who wanted to date me, i just wasnt ready nor interested. After 400l, during the session break, i was on IT and met this guy where i was working,he was working at the company too as a permanent staff though. he was so nice to me and made me feel special and loved, we saw virtually every day, sometimes after work he would drop me at home and even became friends with my siblings. he asked me out and i agreed to date him, things was going smoothly bt then i had to go back to school. After about a week in school, his attitude changed, he stopped calling, messaging or even chatting me up, i was the one calling, messaging and chatting him up, anytime i complain about his change of attitude he would say he was just busy with work and apologise bt didnt change. when i saw that he didnt change, i decided not to call him, chat him or even message and see how long it was going to last. for a whole week he didnt call and i had to call him wen i cud no longer take it. he wasnt even remorseful, just said he's bin busy and am wondering how could you be so busy and nt check on someone u claim you really care about, i asked him if he wanted a breakup bt he said no dat he cared abt me and wud change but he still hasnt. am going through so much emotional stress and i dont no what else to do. have never asked for money from him and he's never given me anytin so i kip wondering wat i did wrong, we never had sex too. please i need romancelanders help on this issue,should i just go ahead and break up with him? am in love with him and the thoughts of breaking up hurts badly. To think that my first relationship after so long didnt even last 4month 42 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by TheGeneral1(m): 2:06am On Jan 08, 2016 |
When people love you when they don't get any immediate benefits.....that's true love 77 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by drmikeadams(m): 2:08am On Jan 08, 2016 |
dupsil:?.chai..leave him ASAP...pm make we go flex tomao jor..Not::if u keep holding on to him,u would let ur mr right pass u by....no man is worth dying for ..Walai ![]() 46 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by likila: 2:08am On Jan 08, 2016 |
ha ha ha idiot, small girl dey worry you. face your book jare make people wey know road face the real thing. 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Ginaz(f): 2:17am On Jan 08, 2016 |
As in eh, I just tire for relationship. Na only advise dem dey advise ![]() 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by BuddhaPalm(m): 2:19am On Jan 08, 2016 |
dupsil: He's no longer interested. And try to take your ego out of it, this dating/attraction stuff is fickle territory. It's likely not even due to a shortcoming of yours. Welcome to the game. 84 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by jemype(m): 2:38am On Jan 08, 2016 |
drmikeadams:u look like Mr right now. 5 Likes |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Mjshexy(f): 3:08am On Jan 08, 2016 |
Eyaah i'm kindaf sad 4u dear, you sound so sincere & innocent garnished with true love. Sweethrt ur man no longer has interest in u, u were just feeling the blank space for the while. Truth be told u should calm down & draw back or end it totally, don't be desperate ok. If he truly loves u let him be d one on d driver's seat begging 4 ur time. ![]() 127 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by gunpoint(m): 3:27am On Jan 08, 2016 |
dupsil:When i asked you out, did you gree? Ntoor ![]() 83 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by jopretty(f): 3:50am On Jan 08, 2016 |
My dearie, the guy wasn't in love with you in the first place. Maybe he was after something he couldn't get or people are beginning to whisper some funny stuffs into his ears. I know it hurts but face your books and graduate with a good result Mr. Right/Perfect will come and he'll be head over heels in love with you and treat you like the queen you are. 54 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Supremor(m): 4:19am On Jan 08, 2016 |
get off it as soon as you can, the truth is, the guy is no longer interested in you that is if he even actually love you in the first place. From your story you haven't done anything to suggest he's been offended with your attitude or something, if he keeps saying he'll change and has refused to I beg of you stop making him feel like a hero by calling him or doing what he should be the one championing; I know it's hard to deal with but the earlier the better just have it at the back of your mind that he isn't the right man for you and that the right guy will surely come 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Nobody: 4:33am On Jan 08, 2016 |
s#!+ is real bae,u gotta face it.he's on2 d next n so shd u |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Nobody: 4:59am On Jan 08, 2016 |
This is my problem with most girls. Dat guy in your school begging for your love u ignored him to date someone u just know he works in a company u did your i. T. Thats all you know about him, well he has been using you to fill an empty space I think the main chic is back now. Take hearth 75 Likes |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Adonis3: 5:02am On Jan 08, 2016 |
Why the heck do people have to quote the whole story to reply ![]() To those of you saying she should forget the guy, I guess you haven't been in love before. If one is in love, even when it seems the other aint in it as you, it'll still be difficult to let go, OP I truly understand ur situation, esp since it's been a while u had a romantic relationship. Well, what I suggest is you make out time to see and discuss things, not just on phone. You could even go to his office, at least to see what's always keeping him busy, that didn't keep you busy when you were still an intern there. DON'T have sex with him yet!! 24 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Nobody: 5:19am On Jan 08, 2016 |
Adonis3:u must b a girl, sex is not that valuable or as u gals hype it, its not crude oil joor. Op was there any wrong u did to him? Check wella 9 Likes |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by agohmamuda(m): 5:58am On Jan 08, 2016 |
OP wat were you thinking?? You tot u would be the last and only babe that will do I.T in the guys coy?? 27 Likes |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Nobody: 6:04am On Jan 08, 2016 |
He's not into the distance relationship stuff 43 Likes |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by boboLIL(m): 6:09am On Jan 08, 2016 |
u both have nothing to lose so ride on... 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by boxer022(m): 6:10am On Jan 08, 2016 |
I believe that no amount of busyness will deprive a guy from asking of the well being of the girl he claims that he loves. You on your part tried your best in maintaining communication but he is not showing any sign of appreciation by returning those calls. I want you to call him or look for a way to let him know that his lack of communication is really affecting your relationship with him as it looks as if he does not care about you. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by IamLEGEND1: 6:17am On Jan 08, 2016 |
Why can't some people reason well? just because his interest is wavering doesn't mean it's because she did something wrong or he's seeing someone else. The problem has always been girls- They have this innate ability to bore guys to death. Some guys are just better at putting up with that noñsense. but this guy sounds exactly like me. when the sad realization of the pettiness of the things we always discuss dawns on me, I cut back on the phone calls drastically. If the only thing you can talk about is what happened during the day or ask each other how u're doing plus all the other usual questions......... that shít gets old pretty fast. Besides, you're no longer close....wic means you're virtually useless to me until you get back from school. I like to deal in person. 93 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by lilien001(f): 6:29am On Jan 08, 2016 |
My dear I understand how you feel. If you ask me, i think he sees the relationship as just a fling while you are seeing it as the main deal. To think that this is your first love makes it worse but not to worry, It doesn't always work out the first time. I think you should stop reaching out to him and if he doesn't reach out, you just allow the relationship to die a natural death. Don't keep holding on to him and deny yourself the chance of meeting someone else 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by ogawisdom(m): 7:41am On Jan 08, 2016 |
dupsil: U r jst an option to him stop taking it too serious until u kw u r exclusive. It's not easy for polygamous men ![]() Op u b learner sha, u do nt woo a man stop calling, texting or chatting him b d lady n allow him initiate it. U r wooing him n d more u do dt D more desperate n worthless u present urself. If he doesn't initiate any communication with u in a whole week then get ready to break up n move on 5 Likes |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by SexyCeline(f): 8:00am On Jan 08, 2016 |
O.p have you hrd of the phrase 'Nearest is dearest'. Probably he is soo engrossed with work and the thought of you hardly cross his mind or he is definitely seeing someone else and you have been relegated to being a side chick. Concentrate on your studies and let men be for now. They aint worth our worries. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by LadyJul(f): 8:23am On Jan 08, 2016 |
Sorry dear... U're just his side chick.. .. I guess he asked you for sex and u refused... . he is already tired of you because sex is the only thing he came for.... Just let go of him if he doesn't change... It gonna be painful but it will be worth it.. . 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Lovexme(m): 8:45am On Jan 08, 2016 |
He never loved you. You were just the new chic in the office, and he got your attention where other guys failed. Concentrate on your studies for now as you're in your finals already. The right one will come in due course. 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Sexytemi(f): 8:46am On Jan 08, 2016 |
@ op, i feel your pain cox have been there before...just let him go....i can bet my last kobo he's dating some other girl, if he truly loved he should have called you when u didn't for close to a week.... abeg just leave him trash for lawma o..... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by MilesLamar(m): 9:04am On Jan 08, 2016 |
Ginaz: See my booboo ![]() ![]() @opp let him go. No love |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Nobody: 9:05am On Jan 08, 2016 |
Dis ur case is a serious mata but u knw what? 4 Likes
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Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by lasisi69(f): 9:05am On Jan 08, 2016 |
I blame myself for booking this space 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by abumeinben(m): 9:05am On Jan 08, 2016 |
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Re: Am I Wasting My Time With This Guy? Pls Help!!!!!! by Ovabrid: 9:05am On Jan 08, 2016 |
Yes please 1 Like 1 Share |
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