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I Had An Abortion by Divepen1(m): 1:39pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
I actually married as a virgin o, thanks to having a strict mum who would not endorse me having boyfriends until after university, being a born-again Christian, praise and worship leader, hearing the word of God daily aided me (I had my fair share of temptations too, so l am no saint here). I had two kids less than 1 year and l found out l was pregnant again. Oh my God, my husband and l were not ready for this. We then came to a decision to terminate it. I secretly wanted my husband to say no but…. I prayed earnestly for a miscarriage but, nothing happened. I went to the hospital but the doctor touched my tummy and said it was hard, that l was too far gone. ‘Go and do a scan’, he said. I went for the scan hoping the doctor will say he would not carry it out but my scan showed 6 weeks, EDD to be October 2009 and the hardness was as a result of fibroid. He scheduled the next day which happened to be our wedding anniversary. I was hoping something will happen to prevent the procedure but alas the day came. I went in and l was disgusted at the site of the ‘area’, which was a far- cry from the hospital where l delivered (it was a popular hospital o but with old and archaic equipment). My legs were spread apart and he put the ‘thing’ inside of me and drilling things out. I moaned with pain. My body quivered in unimaginable soreness when the action was taking place. The painful part for me was that, my hubby was not there with me. I went in alone. I cried out of the theatre, out of the hospital, in the taxi cab, till l got home, cried and cried asking God for forgiveness. When l got home and the realities set in, ‘what have l done?’ l asked myself. Abortion! Yeepppa… I cried and cried. I do not know of others who have experienced it but l did not heal of it for years. I could not receive God’s forgiveness. I healed physically after two weeks as l was given antibiotics and painkillers but the next months and years were bad as it was full of emotional soreness and guilt. I went back to the hospital to have family planning in place to avoid any more mistakes. The site of the hospital building reminded me of those horrors. Two years later, the craving for another child won’t leave me. I decided l was ready and l removed family planning but pregnancy won’t come. The next following years were filled of self-guilt. Every menses was a constant reminder of my sin. People’s display of new-born ‘dp’ put prick in my heart as a sinner. I was jealous of people pregnant and celebration of babies. Although l had two other children but l wanted a child like a woman who never had one. I prayed and prayed, l would not let go. Finally; l got pregnant. Oh my God! It was like a dream. This pregnancy for me was a sign that God had forgiven me and given me a clean slate. You know what, not only did l fall pregnant again, l found out on our wedding anniversary and guess what EDD was October (again). Do l need any more sign of God faithfulness and forgiveness. I am not writing this to celebrate abortion. I never in a million year thought l would be part of it, l was disappointed in myself but that experience made me to realize that ‘he that thinks he stand take heed lest he fall’. Abortion shouldn’t be the last option, it is horrible, and it’s like acting in a horror movie. Unfortunately people don’t talk about it especially in this part of the world. Many times we hear that “Don’t have sex before marriage so that you won’t have to abort and if you get pregnant, birth the child”. But there is another part which is for married women who have unwanted pregnancies, don’t abort! Get family planning in place before sex resumes after childbirth. Also stop this rubbish of what people will say, for example, people will say “na every year you dey born ni” (Do you give birth yearly?)?, “are you a baby factory?” etc. These people you are mindful of wont be there where you are reaping the harvest of your guilt but will surely shut up their mouths when you are reaping the harvest of a God-sent child. Also you yourself should stop making fun of people, trust me a silly comment is the last thing a pregnant woman wants to hear. Abortion, D & C is horrible except if your heart is made of stone. Many of us have heard stories of a child that a woman wanted to abort but turned out to be the most celebrated. Some may never have a second chance like me but in all, do know that God is a loving father and not a taskmaster waiting for your mistake. In your mistake, do rise above it and don’t go back to the sin. Contact Aya Keni on: toesetoese@gmail.com By. Aya Keni. www.litehelp. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: I Had An Abortion by emeraldknytt(m): 1:45pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
and how much is gold circle? Some poeple sef 2 Likes |
Re: I Had An Abortion by Nobody: 1:45pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
If God has forgiven u let no man hurt u biko Even a woman without a womb is a mother of 4 Biko Move closer to God nd live life 1 Like |
Re: I Had An Abortion by iceberylin(m): 1:53pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
WTF happened to summary |
Re: I Had An Abortion by cruzita(f): 2:11pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
abortion shouldn't be an option at all.I can't even live with the thought of killing an enemy let alone my innocent child .GOD FORBID 4 Likes |
Re: I Had An Abortion by Divepen1(m): 2:44pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
lalasticlala |
Re: I Had An Abortion by Nobody: 2:50pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
Ask for forgiveness,, buh dsts bad u kill an innocent child. Pray for forgiveness. Buh dsts bad you kill an innocent child. |
Re: I Had An Abortion by Nobody: 2:58pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
^^ how do u want us to read dis long stuff na. Even nairaland rules no long reach lik dis. Nawaoooh |
Re: I Had An Abortion by IamLEGEND1: 3:04pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
WTF is this lengthy nonsense? ain't nobody got time to read that shít! |
Re: I Had An Abortion by ebeneade(m): 3:15pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
so if u never had another child, u ll always believe God never forgave u hon, this is one of the reasons we Christians miss it, besides abortion seems like the best decision in ur case, but the main issue is we are Nigerians nd our backward way of thinking will always be that ABORTION IS A SIN!!!!! 1 Like |
Re: I Had An Abortion by IamLucy(f): 3:21pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
In your mistake, do rise above it
and
don’t go back to the sin |
Re: I Had An Abortion by CaroLyner(f): 3:24pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
ebeneade:its not a backward way of thinking.abortion is MURDER. |
Re: I Had An Abortion by ebeneade(m): 3:29pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
CaroLyner: don't get me wrong here, I don't support abortion but if it's for the greater good, why shouldn't it be encouraged? nd hope u remember that God forgives murder too? but some Nigerians ll b like ahhhh abortion is against my religion blah blah blah!!!! |
Re: I Had An Abortion by CaroLyner(f): 3:34pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
ebeneade:i get your point.yes he forgives dont mean you wont get punished for that wrong doing. what you sow you shall reap. |
Re: I Had An Abortion by ebeneade(m): 3:40pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
CaroLyner: Really!!!!! does God punish a sin he has forgiven? then what is the essence of forgiveness? he shoulda jez spare me the joke called forgiveness nd proceed to the punishment, nd for the record what do u reap for abortion? u reap having not to worry about another child who you can't cater for. we always scream bout our religious beliefs yet we only seem to understand so little bout our religion, God ll jez be shaking his head at us. |
Re: I Had An Abortion by CaroLyner(f): 3:46pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
ebeneade:chill..am not being cynical here yea i know nigerians take religion to the extreme sometimes. |
Re: I Had An Abortion by ebeneade(m): 3:54pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
CaroLyner:but? |
Re: I Had An Abortion by CaroLyner(f): 3:58pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
ebeneade:let me give you an instance...david killed uriah in the bible and took his wife.God forgave him but said all his first born sons would die.for what he did.he was forgiven,but not left unpunished. |
Re: I Had An Abortion by ebeneade(m): 4:06pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
CaroLyner: you are bringing the Bible into this argument o, but let me ask you, had Jesus died when David committed that sin? nope he hadn't, that's the difference, since Jesus died God had stopped punishing believers for their sins because he already punished Jesus |
Re: I Had An Abortion by CaroLyner(f): 4:09pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
ebeneade:oh never knew that.thanks for clearing that up. |
Re: I Had An Abortion by ebeneade(m): 4:17pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
CaroLyner:so u get my point now hon? we shouldn't be hypocritical about abortion by always crying out that our religion forbids it. if it's for the greater good, why shouldn't we allow it nd besides when we argue dat it's a sin nd we most time forget that the act that caused it too was a sin.......... I respect u ma'am cos u hold an open mind |
Re: I Had An Abortion by octopusfreaky(f): 5:05pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
ebeneade:so many consequences of abortion..guilt for life,,dat memory can never ever be forgotten and for the side effects...ori yato sori,,hope y yoruba is correct |
Re: I Had An Abortion by ebeneade(m): 5:19pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
octopusfreaky:your yoruba is correct, are there actions that doesn't have consequences? I never said there are no consequences for abortion |
Re: I Had An Abortion by pretydiva(f): 5:35pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
Dis op can lie 4 africa ehnn,two kids within d space of 1 year ..when it takes 9 months 4 an embryo 2 fully develop. Remove 9 from 12 n u will be left with 3 So d second child was only 3 months in d womb,b4 being giving birth to ..wat a myopic write up. Btw I understand d message ur trying 2 pass tho#teamsaynotoabortion# |
Re: I Had An Abortion by SuperSuave(m): 5:47pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
Re: I Had An Abortion by CaroLyner(f): 7:16pm On Jan 08, 2016 |
ebeneade:yea i get you..... |
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