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Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by simtosul: 7:00am On Jan 09, 2016
The bride price is the sum of money or quantity of goods given to the bride’s family by that of the groom in the Nigerian culture. Whereas some brides’ families demand for only money, some
demand for only goods, while some demand for
both. Some people believe the bride price shouldn’t cost a groom an arm and a leg, So is it right for a man to leave his fiancee because of hefty bride price?
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Carowline(f): 7:02am On Jan 09, 2016
Noooooo
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Nobody: 7:06am On Jan 09, 2016
I ve heard it happens
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Chillext(m): 7:06am On Jan 09, 2016
If market too cost, na to leave am check the other shop, no time for nonsense.

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Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Blizzyblinkzy(f): 7:09am On Jan 09, 2016
BRB
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by jopretty(f): 7:16am On Jan 09, 2016
Maybe
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by KELVINXY: 7:25am On Jan 09, 2016
Yes & why not?!

if her family decides to sale her off like a piece of item in Amazon grin,
let them not be surprise (if eventually u paid for the goods) when u treat her like a modern day slave. undecided

ps:I rather walk away than to treat her like an excess baggage,
or if I truly luv her that much and eventually married her,
her family shouldn't expect anything rather than "ah my inlaw how are u doing?" grin
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Nobody: 7:27am On Jan 09, 2016
First of all, if you love a woman and you have already made the decision to marry her, I don't think you would let anything serve as a hindrance to your marrying her.

But then again, some families ask for really outrageously high bride prices and you begin to wonder if they are actually considerate. Most Nigerian cultures who demand bride price from the groom, actually use it as a yardstick to test and measure his financial capability. It's understandable. But when they ask for too much, that's when it becomes wrong and only spells greed

Now, it's expected that before any man thinks of getting married, he should have a steady source of income. He should be financially stable enough to take care of himself and his family.

If it's in the case of the average bride prices, like those around or less that 100,000, I don't see why someone should rethink marrying his wife just for that. If a man can't pay such bride price for his wife, then I wonder how he would be able to provide for and cater for the needs of his family.
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Nobody: 7:40am On Jan 09, 2016
No, they should elope... Bleep parents' blessings...
God's blessing is the ultimate target cheesy
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by iceberylin(m): 7:40am On Jan 09, 2016
Marriage isn't just about marrying...you have kids and more responsibilities ahead...if ya inlaws don't understand...Find Another..
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Nobody: 7:49am On Jan 09, 2016
Decker:
First of all, if you love a woman and you have already made the decision to marry her, I don't think you would let anything serve as a hindrance to your marrying her.

Now, it's expected that before any man thinks of getting married, he should have a steady source of income. He should be financially stable enough to take care of himself and his family.

If bride price can make a man think twice about his decision to marry a woman, then he isn't even financially ready for marriage. Most Nigerian cultures who demand bride price from the groom, actually use it as a yardstick to test and measure his financial capability.

So if you can't pay the bride price of your wife, then I wonder how you will be able to provide for and cater for the needs of your family.
seriously serious you are not serious.

So because I wan marry one lady wey her pvnny don already loose market value, I go borrow money or hustle to have billions in account before meeting her hungry parents??

You want to tell me now that if dangote wants to marry a lady, the lady's parents will charge dangote billions of naira just because he's worth it and can provide it?
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by ideology(m): 7:56am On Jan 09, 2016
Decker:
First of all, if you love a woman and you have already made the decision to marry her, I don't think you would let anything serve as a hindrance to your marrying her.

Now, it's expected that before any man thinks of getting married, he should have a steady source of income. He should be financially stable enough to take care of himself and his family.

If bride price can make a man think twice about his decision to marry a woman, then he isn't even financially ready for marriage. Most Nigerian cultures who demand bride price from the groom, actually use it as a yardstick to test and measure his financial capability.

So if you can't pay the bride price of your wife, then I wonder how you will be able to provide for and cater for the needs of your family.
you think this will make you sound like a good guy hahaha


Bride price and taking care of the family are 2 different phenomenon
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Justiyke4u: 8:00am On Jan 09, 2016
Op no now just play it smart. Borrow money from the bride's parents and then pay it back on that day as the bride price is that not simple? Why would you run away now? Are you not the man?
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Nobody: 8:03am On Jan 09, 2016
Shd he go stealing to pay bride price? If he can't afford it, he shd leave in peace.

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Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Nobody: 8:10am On Jan 09, 2016
simtosul:
The bride price is the sum of money or quantity of goods given to the bride’s family by that of the groom in the Nigerian culture. Whereas some brides’ families demand for only money, some
demand for only goods, while some demand for
both. Some people believe the bride price shouldn’t cost a groom an arm and a leg, So is it right for a man to leave his fiancee because of hefty bride price?
shouldnt a lady drop her man for not bn capable of paying her bride price? cus he is dfinately ganna be 'aka gum' or a 'broke nigga' grin my opinion
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Cybertext(m): 8:18am On Jan 09, 2016
This to me is a no-brainer, you can't give what you don't have. Any dude that borrows money to fund a wedding is already digging an early grave.
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by IamLEGEND1: 8:19am On Jan 09, 2016
Na on to the next wife material be that

Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Nobody: 9:03am On Jan 09, 2016


bride price disguist me

Like u buyin me or wat

Marriage is nt a business enterprise biko

Its a union

I wish i was indian jare i wud pay him to marry me nd deir wud b equality nd i wud b submissive
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by missKiffy(f): 9:10am On Jan 09, 2016
I don't think he should dump her, there should be a compromise
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Nobody: 9:16am On Jan 09, 2016
NO.. if the guy truly love the girl, He should negotiate, discuss and pressurize the girls family/village elders for them to reduce the bride price if it is too costly 4 him.
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 10:41am On Jan 09, 2016
Adaure4ever:
NO.. if the guy truly love the girl, He should negotiate, discuss and pressurize the girls family/village elders for them to reduce the bride price if it is too costly 4 him.
Even if ur brideprice is 5M,I would double it!
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by Nobody: 10:43am On Jan 09, 2016
HIGHESTPOPORI:
Even if ur brideprice is 5M,I would double it!
hahahahahaha. Mr Popori. money is talking.
Re: Should A Man Dump His Fiancee Because Of Hefty Bride Price? by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 10:47am On Jan 09, 2016
Adaure4ever:
hahahahahaha. Mr Popori. money is talking.
Am not a Mr yet,waiting for You to make me one!

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