naijaboiy:

In my opinion,those type of guys are the ones who have low self esteem.

If you have turned a guy down and he refuses to leave,instead he hangs around hoping one day you may reason with him then such guys deserve to be thoroughly locked in the friend zone cage and the key thrown into the Nile.

But from what I know majority of guys,myself included will never hang around a girl who has turned me down. I'll move ahead cos I know what I wanted. I was not looking a friend so I'm definitely not settling for that.

The problem here is that some guys turn it into a personal beef of some sort and they have resentment towards the girl. That's when maturity needs to come into place.

ronald4lif:
Lol. If one makes themselves a willing tool why won't they be manipulated and friend-zoned? But as per number 2, I thought when a lady friend zone a guy she'd want to dress seductively and attractive so as to keep the 'friend zoning' bond alive.

Let's look at it this way, the act of friend zoning is seen as a devious and heartless intent to torture a guy. So for her not to look attractive when she's expecting the fool at home, he might start finding her unattractive and gradually emancipate himself from the shackles of imbecility.

For her to maintain her grip on her 'victim' she would not only need to look attractive but frequently flaunt her cleavage, backside and other asset and be giving the mumu hope that one day he might have a feel of her. Not sure if I'm correct but just thinking aloud.

Diddyydiva:
At least you agreed that some guys deserves to be friend zoned.

My point was never to dispute friend zoning. I was only high lighting points to note when a guy is in that zone.

Anybody can be friend zoned. Even you girls. Although you won't admit it because some of you have ego and you think the sole right and power to friend zone someone is in a lady's hands.

nevi12:



Lol dnt be naughty as for wat u jst said dats jst a babe testin out her woman power on u

And when a guy leads you on what is he testing?

Stop sounding ridiculous.

Laveda:
Some guys are just funny some wouldn't let go..they'll still wanna give it a trial to see if the girl can rethink...some guys are the major causes why we have high rate of friendzone..
They can't just move on.

naijaboiy:

And when a guy leads you on what is he testing?

Stop sounding ridiculous.

naijaboiy:

My point was never to dispute friend zoning. I was only high lighting points to note when a guy is in that zone.

Anybody can be friend zoned. Even you girls. Although you won't admit it because some of you have ego and you think the sole right and power to friend zone someone is in a lady's hands.

nevi12:



I still wanna believe d guy isnt dumb.i lose frends cos of dis,wen u want jst anormal frendship nd u guys jst talk nd become close it isnt d babe's fault u fell inlove she values ur frendship dats y she wld tell u it wnt work out romantically if u want to keep spendin ur money after uve been told off.......mhen dats u being a dunkponyan

nevi12:


Testing his limits
Am not soundin ridiculous jst tellin u wah i tink frendzone to me is an unconscious mutual agreement,wen one isn't comfortable in it anymore he/she turns back nd feels cheated

naijaboiy:

Thank you very much for explaining things clearly.

I actually didn't open this thread as a friend zone complaint thread. But from the way some of the girls are talking I think it's good we bring some things to their notice.

Some girls actually lead a guy on and make him think they are into him and then when he pops the question they turn him down. That,to me,is a wicked act and if a guy laments about that,then there is no problem about that for me.

Nevi12 hope you gerrit now?

ronald4lif:


Thought as much. I said to myself after reading the comment that this must be an 'inside' job.

Estharfabian:
Really?? You know where to go??

LoL! Yes, I'm not A guy but I do know that if I actually liked someone that I couldn't be with(Romantically?)...I'd sure as hell settle for friendship! and I wouldn't come lamenting daily on Nairaland!!

LoL! fyi...Guys don't frienzone girls! they can't afford to..

PS--if it's really more HEARTBREAKING/PAINFUL to girls..how many posts on NL have You seen about females complaining bout being friend-zoned? how many? what's that? NONE!!!!!!

Diddyydiva:
Yeah that true, you are right on point about the signs





Ladies are rarely friend zoned because

1)we don't do the asking out

2) Once turned down, we leave

3) We are too emotional to cope with denial

That number one is actually the main reason why girls rarely get friend zoned.

But you don't always have to ask someone out before you know you have been friend zoned. How about when you like a guy and you keep showing signs that you like him but yet he doesn't ask you out and he shows you signs that he's not interested in a relationship with you but just in being friends.

That's still friend zoning and many girls still remain friends till probably when the feelings die out.

As for number two,not all girls leave because in the first place the courage they took to ask a guy out was not easy to get,so leaving immediately after they drop the bomb shell is hard. That's why you see those type trying everything they can to get the guy. Even going as far as trying to seduce him.

They just feel their efforts cannot be in vain. So they put in more effort.

nevi12:
Hehe now dey want to chop me

Nobody is chopping you.

You simply don't have a defense.

Deejavuu:


At the highlighted, really? ? What kinda guys you been with to know this. My dear don't say what you don't know. Girls get friend-zoned too.

You last paragraph, guys are more expressive than girls they pour iut thier hearts more than guys wuthout fear of condemnation unlike girls that are always bothered about what people are going to think about her.

That one is just a confused teenager that always types before she thinks.

She rather attracts attention by her silly posts than make common sense.

naijaboiy:

That number one is actually the main reason why girls rarely get friend zoned.

But you don't always have to ask someone out before you know you have been friend zoned. How about when you like a guy and you keep showing signs that you like him but yet he doesn't ask you out and he shows you signs that he's not interested in a relationship with you but just in being friends.

That's still friend zoning and many girls still remain friends till probably when the feelings die out.

As for number two,not all girls leave because in the first place the courage they took to ask a guy out was not easy to get,so leaving immediately after they drop the bomb shell is hard. That's why you see those type trying everything they can to get the guy. Even going as far as trying to seduce him.

They just feel their efforts cannot be in vain. So they put in more effort.

naijaboiy:

Nobody is chopping you.

You simply don't have a defense.

ronald4lif:


They have the freewill to lead a guy on and gives him false hope but don't think in the spirit of fairness that guys should lament. That's like beating a child and tell him not to weep.

nevi12:


No dey find my mouth oo am jst lettin u guys be cos my fingers r hurtin nd i cant type much if it were to be oral uld be forcin me to shut up by now cos ive got alot to say on dis matter

Then type it or forever remain silent.

Na una carry the argument come. This thread was never meant for that purpose.

Diddyydiva:
Arguing with you is like taking water from ocean with a spoon


The fact still remain ladies are hardly friend zoned


Take it or leave it

Diddyydiva:
Arguing with you is like taking water from ocean with a spoon


The fact still remain ladies are hardly friend zoned


Take it or leave it

Ladies are not hardly friend zoned. In fact ladies are friend zoned every day.

They just don't talk about it because they are too ashamed of the fact that a guy doesn't find them good or attractive enough to date. It eats up their ego. They can't even tell their friends. Instead they'll twist it and say they don't like the guy.

So when something is not talked about,it seems as if it doesn't happen but actually it does a lot.

nevi12:


Sweetie let dem argue all dey want buh we both knw being frend zoned is totally d gurls decision

Because God put the power in your hands na?

See what I'm saying?

They will never admit.

naijaboiy:

That one is just a confused teenager that always types before she thinks.

She rather attracts attention by her silly posts than make common sense.

Estharfabian:
Really?? You know where to go??

LoL! Yes, I'm not A guy but I do know that if I actually liked someone that I couldn't be with(Romantically?)...I'd sure as hell settle for friendship! and I wouldn't come lamenting daily on Nairaland!!

LoL! fyi...Guys don't frienzone girls! they can't afford to..

PS--if it's really more HEARTBREAKING/PAINFUL to girls..how many posts on NL have You seen about females complaining bout being friend-zoned? how many? what's that? NONE!!!!!!

nevi12:


Sweetie let dem argue all dey want buh we both knw being frend zoned is totally d gurls decision

Deejavuu:


True that, she's clearly still not experienced with the real world.

See fine babes getting thrown in the zone everyday

naijaboiy:

Ladies are not hardly friend zoned. In fact ladies are friend zoned every day.

They just don't talk about it because they are too ashamed of the fact that a guy doesn't find them good or attractive enough to date. It eats up their ego. They can't even tell their friends. Instead they'll twist it and say they don't like the guy.

So when something is not talked about,it seems as if it doesn't happen but actually it does a lot.

Deejavuu:


True that, she's clearly still not experienced with the real world.

See fine babes getting thrown in the zone everyday

You sef know na.

Girls dey wey boys don friend zone steady and e still dey happen sef.

What are these girls talking about the power of friend zone being in their hands.

So what will they call the ones the guys friend zoned?

Diddyydiva:
. Oya I hear you

Well I believe I stated my points clearly.

naijaboiy:

Ladies are not hardly friend zoned. In fact ladies are friend zoned every day.

They just don't talk about it because they are too ashamed of the fact that a guy doesn't find them good or attractive enough to date. It eats up their ego. They can't even tell their friends. Instead they'll twist it and say they don't like the guy.

So when something is not talked about,it seems as if it doesn't happen but actually it does a lot.

naijaboiy:

Well I believe I stated my points clearly.