My best friend who i have been asking out for over eight months finaly told me "NO" on the 31st of December 2015. She made me promised her that no matter what anwser she gives to my request, she will stil be my best friend. But it has not been easy to keep to that promise, although i stil love her and she claims to love me too but can't date me due to reasons she has not clearly stated. A part of me is even glad she did not accept me because she has an 'unforgiving spirit' . My problem now is that i cant stop loving her and if i keep away from her i will be breaking a promise. How do i move on without putting her away? She once said that all the guys she has turned down are now her enemies and wont want me to join that crew. Pls what do i do? Thanks in advance

Then keep her as a friend that she is, go out there and look for your love somewhere else. OP abi u no sabi toast woman

there are many fishes in the river. why nt go and catch a new one,

Friend zone again? For fvck sakes, how many people get friend-zoned in a day??

Ok...

The issue of urs need to be treated from bottom but u ar doing it from d top.

According to u she has 'unforgiving spirit'

Don't bother her about dating u again.

Focus on how to help her get over Dat habit.

If u can accomplish Dat, she will b d one asking u out, dat is if she's interested in getin rid of d habit.

Lastly I won't advice u to date or marry someone with such habit for d safety of ur life and family.

It won't b easy 4 u to still b close 2 her BC ur luv 4 her is more Dan just being a friend. U will end up dieing in silence. Just give her a break,keep a distant friendship not intimate with her,find s/o DAT u love and will luv u in return.with time u will get over it,such is life.

Dabigbroda:
Then keep her as a friend that she is, go out there and look for your love somewhere else. OP abi u no sabi toast woman

To tell u d truth broda i hav neva woo any girl before in my entire life

Topestbilly:
Ok...

The issue of urs need to be treated from bottom but u ar doing it from d top.

According to u she has 'unforgiving spirit'

Don't bother her about dating u again.

Focus on how to help her get over Dat habit.

If u can accomplish Dat, she will b d one asking u out, dat is if she's interested in getin rid of d habit.

Lastly I won't advice u to date or marry someone with such habit for d safety of ur life and family.

tanx man. But how do i pull dis off? Any ideas?

njiasi30:
It won't b easy 4 u to still b close 2 her BC ur luv 4 her is more Dan just being a friend. U will end up dieing in silence. Just give her a break,keep a distant friendship not intimate with her,find s/o DAT u love and will luv u in return.with time u will get over it,such is life.

hmmmm tanx. Dats wat i had in mind but wanted to seek otha persons advice about the issue

Bro, take a bow and join the enemies crew jare... No allow conji kill you oooo

123kidda:
hmmmm tanx. Dats wat i had in mind but wanted to seek otha persons advice about the issue

U are welcome

123kidda:
tanx man. But how do i pull dis off? Any ideas?

Sit her down, tell her what u noticed about her, tell her d consequences of the habit she possessed, sure u hv references to back it up, ur environment n holy books can help.

But d first n most important is for u to know if she really knows she got dis habit n she's willing to let go of it.

D steps above is nothing but useless if she's not ready to change.

If she's ur best friend, then its easy. Its u dats trying to formalize d issue. Just dey totori her as ur best friend, dey tease her dey go. Small time e go be bed matter without even going out or asking out or whatever. After u don get her thru dat means, then u can now officially show zealous care. Dats d best way. Wisen up

Simple...put her for friendzone, buh never allow her to put u in the friendzone cos it's worse wen a gal be the one to friendzone u...i mean friends with no benefits, if she ask for recharge card, tell her capital NO...look for a gal and date, flirt wit ur gf in her presence...make her to be jealous in all ramifications, so that they will learn not to take nice guys like us for granted, rubbish

Topestbilly:


Sit her down, tell her what u noticed about her, tell her d consequences of the habit she possessed, sure u hv references to back it up, ur environment n holy books can help.

But d first n most important is for u to know if she really knows she got dis habit n she's willing to let go of it.

D steps above is nothing but useless if she's not ready to change.

tanx man. I will give it a try

RadicallyBlunt:
If she's ur best friend, then its easy. Its u dats trying to formalize d issue. Just dey totori her as ur best friend, dey tease her dey go. Small time e go be bed matter without even going out or asking out or whatever. After u don get her thru dat means, then u can now officially show zealous care. Dats d best way. Wisen up

tanx bro but i don't taking advantage of her is a gud idea. Remember what goes around... U know the rest

firstking01:
Simple...put her for friendzone, buh never allow her to put u in the friendzone cos it's worse wen a gal be the one to friendzone u...i mean friends with no benefits, if she ask for recharge card, tell her capital NO...look for a gal and date, flirt wit ur gf in her presence...make her to be jealous in all ramifications, so that they will learn not to take nice guys like us for granted, rubbish

tanx man. Not a bad idea. U made mention of "nicceguys like us for granted" , any similar xperience?

123kidda:
tanx man. Not a bad idea. U made mention of "nicceguys like us for granted" , any similar xperience?

before nko, it's the order of the day nw, as far as nigerian gals are consign...especially if u bring out ur heart to show dem uncompromising love, instead of dem to reciprocate the love, she will rather put u in the friendzone and date d bad guys who will shatter her heart...speaking as a victim.

This ur own kind of friendzoning, na only better prayer n deliverance dem fit use bring u out....

123kidda:
tanx bro but i don't taking advantage of her is a gud idea. Remember what goes around... U know the rest

Na on top this one u still dey

firstking01:
before nko, it's the order of the day nw, as far as nigerian gals are consign...especially if u bring out ur heart to show dem uncompromising love, instead of dem to reciprocate the love, she will rather put u in the friendzone and date d bad guys who will shatter her heart...speaking as a victim.

I feel u boss. Tanx 4 d contribution

123kidda:
I feel u boss. Tanx 4 d contribution

u welcm tho