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Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 9:56am On Jan 20, 2016
I'll go straight to the point. My boyfriend is a science major in the uni while I'm an arts major. I'm the writer in the relationship mostly because that's what I love doing and I'm beginning to receive recognition by way of prizes and all.

Recently he began to develop an interest in writing (because of me to a huge extent) and has started writiing some stories which he wants to submit for a competition coming up that I'm also competing in.

Please is this development good or bad for our relationship?

Only useful and valid contribution allowed please, thanks.

Cc
Decker
TrapLord
Emusmith
Mrsphyno
Oliviaarims
Estharfabian etc

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Re: Should I Be Jealous? by SINNZ(m): 10:03am On Jan 20, 2016
What has writing got to do with your fuckship??

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Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:20am On Jan 20, 2016
SINNZ:
What has writing got to do with your fuckship??


Really
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by valdes00(m): 10:22am On Jan 20, 2016
SINNZ:
What has writing got to do with your fuckship??
Better question.... I swear u deserve 5k airtime for this question... jus chill mak I collect my contribution Dis month end

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Re: Should I Be Jealous? by falconey(m): 10:22am On Jan 20, 2016
undecided
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Strahovski1(m): 10:24am On Jan 20, 2016
Next!!!!
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:29am On Jan 20, 2016
SINNZ:
What has writing got to do with your fuckship??

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she actually sounded like some teenager.

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Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:33am On Jan 20, 2016
PrimeMinisterr:

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she actually sounded like some teenager.


You've been seen, bye
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:34am On Jan 20, 2016
Suigeneris93:


You've be seen, bye
. . . . seriously an adult wouldn't ask this question.
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:36am On Jan 20, 2016
PrimeMinisterr:

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seriously an adult wouldn't ask this question.



Sorry Mr adult if you don't have any 'adulty' contributions to make just read and pass. Thanks
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:41am On Jan 20, 2016
*in sarkodie's voice*


Enemy of progress.. Na you dy there!!

Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Monalisa185(f): 10:43am On Jan 20, 2016
these hommies up there ain't gat no chill mehnnn...
Buh sinnz, wetin concern FUCKSHIP with her writeup?
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Monalisa185(f): 10:43am On Jan 20, 2016
these hommies up there ain't gat no chill mehnnn...
Buh sinnz, wetin concern FUCKSHIP with her writeup?
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by SINNZ(m): 10:53am On Jan 20, 2016
Suigeneris93:



Really

Yes really! There's no issue in this. Competing with someone you're in a relationship with isn't much of a competition either cos you're already a team and whoever wins brings home the trophy.

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Re: Should I Be Jealous? by SINNZ(m): 10:56am On Jan 20, 2016
Monalisa185:
these hommies up there ain't gat no chill mehnnn...

Buh sin.nz, wetin concern FUCKSHIP with her writeup?


Yes, I hate to use the word "dating" with nigerians cos most nigerians don't date!
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:58am On Jan 20, 2016
SINNZ:


Yes really! There's no issue in this. Competing with someone you're in a relationship with isn't much of a competition either cos you're already a team and whoever wins brings home the trophy.


Thanks, this is what you should have said. I'm just feeling threatened cos its my area. He has his I can't go there and try to compete with him
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by SINNZ(m): 11:01am On Jan 20, 2016
Suigeneris93:



Thanks, this is what you should have said. I'm just feeling threatened cos its my area. He has his I can't go there and try to compete with him

Yea, you both are Major's in the Army cool
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 11:04am On Jan 20, 2016
SINNZ:


Yea, you both are Major's in the Army cool

*rme

Whatever tongue
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 11:13am On Jan 20, 2016
It's normal for you to get jealous. Your writing was one thing you felt you were better than him at, it's what gave you the upper hand and made your feel special about yourself, and now it feels like he wants to take the shine away from you.

A dating/romantic relationship is just like your everyday friendship relationship, and those things that are applicable in a platonic friendship relationship, is also applicable in when dating.

It's just like you have a very close bestie who you both do everything together. And all through the years of your being together, you had big boobs while she had this small little onions. Then all of a sudden, her hormones kick in and she starts developing melons even bigger than yours. When this kind of thing happens, you are bound to get jealous, because although you love and care about her, the one thing that made you feel special about yourself is being slowly taken away from you.

Suigeneris93, like I said before, it's okay to feel jealous, but what you shouldn't do is breed this jealously. It's not healthy for you and for your relationship. When you make your mind a breeding ground for jealousy, you start developing hate and resentment.
One of the essential things a relationship needs for it's growth is support. You should learn to support your partner irrespective of whether he might turn out to be better than you or not in whatever field it is. Encourage him and take joy in the fact that you both now have something new in common. Something you can talk about and do together.

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Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Monalisa185(f): 11:15am On Jan 20, 2016
SINNZ:


Yes, I hate to use the word "dating" with nigerians cos most nigerians don't date!

ohhhhh...I get...
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 11:47am On Jan 20, 2016
Decker:
It's normal for you to get jealous. Your writing was one thing you felt you were better than him at, it's what gave you the upper hand and made your feel special about yourself, and now it feels like he wants to take the shine away from you.

A dating/romantic relationship is just like your everyday friendship relationship, and those things that are applicable in a platonic friendship relationship, is also applicable in when dating.

It's just like you have a very close bestie who you both do everything together. And all through the years of your being together, you had big boobs while she had this small little onions. Then all of a sudden, her hormones kick in and she starts developing melons even bigger than yours. When this kind of thing happens, you are bound to get jealous, because although you love and care about her, the one thing that made you feel special about yourself is being slowly taken away from you.

Suigeneris93, like I said before, it's okay to feel jealous, but what you shouldn't do is breed this jealously. It's not healthy for you and for your relationship. When you make your mind a breeding ground for jealousy, you start developing hate and resentment.
One of the essential things a relationship needs for it's growth is support. You should learn to support your partner irrespective of whether he might turn out to be better than you or not in whatever field it is. Encourage him and take joy in the fact that you both now have something new in common. Something you can talk about and do together.


thanks a lot, i really appreciate your contribution
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jan 20, 2016
A healthy competition ain't bad... Both of u should simply develop a positive attitude towards it and continue to be as u've always been.

I don't see why it should cause rivalry, except u fan the flames .. U do ur thing, and he does his. But,do u perhaps think u'll feel bad should he win?

Cc. Suigeneris93.
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:40pm On Jan 20, 2016
I don't see why You should be jealous....really.

Deckèr n Olivia gave You the best advice.. Just do You!smiley
And please make sure he doesn't beat You to it!wink Win at all cost...tongue

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Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:40pm On Jan 20, 2016
Oliviaarims:
A healthy competition ain't bad... Both of u should simply develop a positive attitude towards it and continue to be as u've always been.

I don't see why it should cause rivalry, except u fan the flames .. U do ur thing, and he does his. But,do u perhaps think u'll feel bad should he win?

Cc. Suigeneris93.



No I won't but my fear is if he starts applying for all the other competitions I'm applying for in future. I don't want to create that sense of competition in the relationship. I'm happy doing my thing away from him...we have other mutual interests, I don't feel comfortable with it being writing especially for contests and competitions.
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:41pm On Jan 20, 2016
Estharfabian:
I don't see why You should be jealous....really.


Deckèr n Olivia gave You the best advice..
Just do You!smiley

And please make sure he doesn't beat You to it!wink Win at all cost...tongue




cheesy cheesy cheesy
I'll try my best
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:43pm On Jan 20, 2016
Suigeneris93:


cheesy cheesy cheesy I'll try my best
I know You would....wink

I've seen Your "Works"....cheesy

Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jan 20, 2016
Pls don't win at all cost,just tell him to buy you something really expensive if he wins and you'll feel better.This should work coolgrin grin

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Re: Should I Be Jealous? by davide470(m): 12:50pm On Jan 20, 2016
Yes o, be jealous and break up!.

grin

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Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 1:08pm On Jan 20, 2016
Estharfabian:
I know You would....wink


I've seen Your "Works"....cheesy





grin grin grin
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 1:08pm On Jan 20, 2016
davide470:
Yes o, be jealous and break up!.

grin



angry angry
bad belle tongue
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 3:04pm On Jan 20, 2016
Suigeneris93:


thanks a lot, i really appreciate your contribution
You are welcome.
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by AlexCk: 3:09pm On Jan 20, 2016
no need to get jealous, u guys are a team. it takes 2 to whisper quietly. just try to whop his ass in the competition shaaa. hehehehe.

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