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Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 9:56am On Jan 20, 2016 |
I'll go straight to the point. My boyfriend is a science major in the uni while I'm an arts major. I'm the writer in the relationship mostly because that's what I love doing and I'm beginning to receive recognition by way of prizes and all. Recently he began to develop an interest in writing (because of me to a huge extent) and has started writiing some stories which he wants to submit for a competition coming up that I'm also competing in. Please is this development good or bad for our relationship? Only useful and valid contribution allowed please, thanks. Cc Decker TrapLord Emusmith Mrsphyno Oliviaarims Estharfabian etc 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by SINNZ(m): 10:03am On Jan 20, 2016 |
What has writing got to do with your fuckship?? 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:20am On Jan 20, 2016 |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by valdes00(m): 10:22am On Jan 20, 2016 |
SINNZ:Better question.... I swear u deserve 5k airtime for this question... jus chill mak I collect my contribution Dis month end 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by falconey(m): 10:22am On Jan 20, 2016 |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Strahovski1(m): 10:24am On Jan 20, 2016 |
Next!!!! |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:29am On Jan 20, 2016 |
1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:33am On Jan 20, 2016 |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:34am On Jan 20, 2016 |
Suigeneris93:. . . . seriously an adult wouldn't ask this question. |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:36am On Jan 20, 2016 |
PrimeMinisterr: Sorry Mr adult if you don't have any 'adulty' contributions to make just read and pass. Thanks |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:41am On Jan 20, 2016 |
*in sarkodie's voice* Enemy of progress.. Na you dy there!!
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Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Monalisa185(f): 10:43am On Jan 20, 2016 |
these hommies up there ain't gat no chill mehnnn... Buh sinnz, wetin concern FUCKSHIP with her writeup? |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Monalisa185(f): 10:43am On Jan 20, 2016 |
these hommies up there ain't gat no chill mehnnn... Buh sinnz, wetin concern FUCKSHIP with her writeup? |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by SINNZ(m): 10:53am On Jan 20, 2016 |
Suigeneris93: Yes really! There's no issue in this. Competing with someone you're in a relationship with isn't much of a competition either cos you're already a team and whoever wins brings home the trophy. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by SINNZ(m): 10:56am On Jan 20, 2016 |
Monalisa185: Yes, I hate to use the word "dating" with nigerians cos most nigerians don't date! |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 10:58am On Jan 20, 2016 |
SINNZ: Thanks, this is what you should have said. I'm just feeling threatened cos its my area. He has his I can't go there and try to compete with him |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by SINNZ(m): 11:01am On Jan 20, 2016 |
Suigeneris93: Yea, you both are Major's in the Army |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 11:04am On Jan 20, 2016 |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 11:13am On Jan 20, 2016 |
It's normal for you to get jealous. Your writing was one thing you felt you were better than him at, it's what gave you the upper hand and made your feel special about yourself, and now it feels like he wants to take the shine away from you. A dating/romantic relationship is just like your everyday friendship relationship, and those things that are applicable in a platonic friendship relationship, is also applicable in when dating. It's just like you have a very close bestie who you both do everything together. And all through the years of your being together, you had big boobs while she had this small little onions. Then all of a sudden, her hormones kick in and she starts developing melons even bigger than yours. When this kind of thing happens, you are bound to get jealous, because although you love and care about her, the one thing that made you feel special about yourself is being slowly taken away from you. Suigeneris93, like I said before, it's okay to feel jealous, but what you shouldn't do is breed this jealously. It's not healthy for you and for your relationship. When you make your mind a breeding ground for jealousy, you start developing hate and resentment. One of the essential things a relationship needs for it's growth is support. You should learn to support your partner irrespective of whether he might turn out to be better than you or not in whatever field it is. Encourage him and take joy in the fact that you both now have something new in common. Something you can talk about and do together. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Monalisa185(f): 11:15am On Jan 20, 2016 |
SINNZ: ohhhhh...I get... |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 11:47am On Jan 20, 2016 |
Decker: thanks a lot, i really appreciate your contribution |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
A healthy competition ain't bad... Both of u should simply develop a positive attitude towards it and continue to be as u've always been. I don't see why it should cause rivalry, except u fan the flames .. U do ur thing, and he does his. But,do u perhaps think u'll feel bad should he win? Cc. Suigeneris93. |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:40pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
I don't see why You should be jealous....really. Deckèr n Olivia gave You the best advice.. Just do You! And please make sure he doesn't beat You to it! Win at all cost... 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:40pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
Oliviaarims: No I won't but my fear is if he starts applying for all the other competitions I'm applying for in future. I don't want to create that sense of competition in the relationship. I'm happy doing my thing away from him...we have other mutual interests, I don't feel comfortable with it being writing especially for contests and competitions. |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:41pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
Estharfabian: I'll try my best |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:43pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
Suigeneris93:I know You would.... I've seen Your "Works".... |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
Pls don't win at all cost,just tell him to buy you something really expensive if he wins and you'll feel better.This should work 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by davide470(m): 12:50pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
Yes o, be jealous and break up!. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 1:08pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 1:08pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by Nobody: 3:04pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
Suigeneris93:You are welcome. |
Re: Should I Be Jealous? by AlexCk: 3:09pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
no need to get jealous, u guys are a team. it takes 2 to whisper quietly. just try to whop his ass in the competition shaaa. hehehehe. |
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