Am in my early 30s ..things just started falling well for me. As a business minded person I dont so much have time for women..though has some gals but cant call any my gf ..so i dont have one am currently dating now.. not in any tight relationship.. My parents has been on my neck for marriage..asking if they can help me find one from their location.. although I decided to find my wife myself and not too comfortable with their suggestion. Although can't found any woman around me for marriage. but want to be responsible for finding my own wife.. But now am starting to reason my parents suggestion. Please I want to know if I should allow my parents find a wife for me? Thanks in advance for ur advice.

Yes..

my brother Yes!

you be indian? what are you looking for in a wife that you think your parents can find? what is wrong with the women around you that you cant call your GF?

Just find one by yah self cuz dere aint no wife materials nowdays,just a shared hoes

they can suggest one and u build a relationship with her for at least 8 months

25omega:
you be indian? what are you looking for in a wife that you think your parents can find? what is wrong with the women around you that you cant call your GF?

India nke! My brother I be tipical Naija guy..born and brought up here. To answer ur question..anyway am looking for a good and understanding and God fearing woman i can build family with. Havent find any yet..And the fact is that am not in a serious relationship with any for now..and all I just need is a good wife. so am asking if it will make sense to let my parents find one for me? I know most of people has this experience and can advice me on wat to do. I
Thanks

Yea.
Allow them

goodmorning40:
they can suggest one and u build a relationship with her for at least 8 months

Thanks much bro..I grab your point there.

Will that guarantee your happiness in life? Look,
one really needs to be extra cautious when making a selection of your soul mate, whom you will spend the rest of your life with. It's about you making a decision, not your parents. Old cultures and silly beliefs aren't helping us in any way.

Though I don't want it look as if they are the ones thats making choice for me..choosing a wife for me...I want to responsible for everything in my life...wife inclusive.
Because i dont want any third party in my family including my parents.. i want build my family myself..dont want any intermediary..

but havnt find myself..and my clock is runing faster i guess.

But just like I said before..just need a good wife no matter where it comes from.

You're the one who's going to have to live with this partner for the rest of your adult life. Not your parents. So you should take this responsibility upon yourself it doesn't make sense for your parents to have anything to do with it.

Where is sickstars?? Husband don show oo, oya come n advertise yourself

MrsPhyno:
You're the one who's going to have to live with this partner for the rest of your adult life. Not your parents. So you should take this responsibility upon yourself it doesn't make sense for your parents to have anything to do with it.

Great one there my sister. I want to and will be much glad if I find exactly wat I want myself.

The question now how and where do I start this search myself!?.....? At church, workplace, house? ...These Lagos gals am seeing everywhere here no get joy...honest ly not type I need for this lifetime marriage.

No pls...

Hell no! Dude really, how old art thou

whiteandblack:


Great one there my sister. I want to and will be much glad if I find exactly wat I want myself.

The question now how and where do I start this search myself!?.....? At church, workplace, house? ...These Lagos gals am seeing everywhere here no get joy...honest ly not type I need for this lifetime marriage.

Oh this is about Lagos girls lol. I can't help you there

your parents can bring someone with all the qualities in a woman but you might end up not liking her because she may not be ur type.SO GET ONE YOURSELF

why not choose one of those your girls"you have and start getting to know the person very well.#guys sef #

any guy that his parents chooses whom to marry is a weakling to me

I wouldn't even mind to ask some married men here who has been enjoying their marriage..How they find their lovely wives?? so i can learn from their experience too. Plz share with me if you don't mind.

Op just work for God and familiarise yourself with a good man of God,,God will settle u soon..

TrapLORD:
Where is sickstars?? Husband don show oo, oya come n advertise yourself

Did i tell u m finding husband?

My husband to be told his mother to help him get a good wife and I was opportune to be the wife. It started like this, my cousin sister invited me to her husband's village not knowing she have a good plan for me, I went there on 4th January 2016 , one handsome guy came out, hold me and said I love and I want to marry you, I was like who be this man not knowing that the guy and his mother have told my sister that he need wife. Immediately his mother saw me, she said, I like her too, I was speechless, the guy told his mother that he will come to my village the following day being 5th January, he came to my village the following day and travelled back to Lagos that day. Since that we started communicating only on phone, my love started growing. Am happy to announce that my introduction is next month. The guy is such a caring man and a young guyy. Yesterday he told me that he can't recognize me if he see me. Remember, I don't have someone to call my boyfriend before I met him, my Ex boyfriend got married to another girl last year Cos we have the same Genotype (AS). God used the guy to clear my tears. So is Possible.

whiteandblack:


India nke! My brother I be tipical Naija guy..born and brought up here. To answer ur question..anyway am looking for a good and understanding and God fearing woman i can build family with. Havent find any yet..And the fact is that am not in a serious relationship with any for now..and all I just need is a good wife. so am asking if it will make sense to let my parents find one for me? I know most of people has this experience and can advice me on wat to do. I
Thanks

who exactly are you asking?

I don't go to Church much but I know a verse in the Good Book that says "He that finds a wife... a good thing". The "he" there means you... Not me... Nor your parents.

Even if you a prince, it's time you act like a 30 plus years old black negro. Hunt for your own wife, bro.

Like seriously? In this century? This kain thing still dey happen Grow/man up Dude!

Seriously? Do u even understand what marriage is all about? No offence sis but u sound desperate! I pray it works for u because peeps who dated for years before getting married self are dealing with a lot and you wanna get married to somebody u met within a month? Do you even know people pretends a lot? I will suggest you get to know him more to avoid 'stories that touches the heart' after the wedding. Don't take it personal biko

Chibaby87:
My husband to be told his mother to help him get a good wife and I was opportune to be the wife. It started like this, my cousin sister invited me to her husband's village not knowing she have a good plan for me, I went there on 4th January 2016 , one handsome guy came out, hold me and said I love and I want to marry you, I was like who be this man not knowing that the guy and his mother have told my sister that he need wife. Immediately his mother saw me, she said, I like her too, I was speechless, the guy told his mother that he will come to my village the following day being 5th January, he came to my village the following day and travelled back to Lagos that day. Since that we started communicating only on phone, my love started growing. Am happy to announce that my introduction is next month. The guy is such a caring man and a young guyy. Yesterday he told me that he can't recognize me if he see me. Remember, I don't have someone to call my boyfriend before I met him, my Ex boyfriend got married to another girl last year Cos we have the same Genotype (AS). God used the guy to clear my tears. So is Possible.

iyke926:
I don't go to Church much but I know a verse in the Good Book that says "He that finds a wife... a good thing". The "he" there means you... Not me... Nor your parents.

Even if you a prince, it's time you act like a 30 plus years old black negro. Hunt for your own wife, bro.

Nice oone nigga

Ofcourse yes my good brother, afterall, you are still JUST in your 30s.




Ehmm before I forget, tell them to also draw a love-making timetable for you and her. It will be confusing too for you at this your YOUNG age

SirJeffry:
Ofcourse yes my good brother, afterall, you are still JUST in your 30s.




Ehmm before I forget, tell them to also draw a love-making timetable for you and her. It will be confusing too for you at this your YOUNG age

kikikiki
Nd how to put it in

whiteandblack:


India nke! My brother I be tipical Naija guy..born and brought up here. To answer ur question..anyway am looking for a good and understanding and God fearing woman i can build family with. Havent find any yet..And the fact is that am not in a serious relationship with any for now..and all I just need is a good wife. so am asking if it will make sense to let my parents find one for me? I know most of people has this experience and can advice me on wat to do. I
Thanks

Don't mind them

There is nothing wrong with it. It has been happening for ages and I don't see how it is different from datiing sites, wooing etc and so far it has not been proven to have negative impact on marital success. If you like her, get to know and if you don't, let them look for someone else. At the end of day it is up to you two to make things work not your parents.

I say go for it