obidevine:
Men,you say you want a strong, intelligent, truly
independent woman who wants you rather than needs you,
who inspires you, who pushes you towards being yourself,
who can stick by you through the hardest times, and who
can be your rock through life's obstacles.
But you need to know that a truly strong, independent
woman does not walk through life with her heart wide open.
She has had to put up walls to block toxicity to obtain her
strength. She is skeptical and always on alert from a lifetime
of defense against predators. She is going to be a bit jaded,
a little cynical, and a little scary because those qualities
come with the struggle of obtaining that strength that
gravitates you. She is going to doubt and question your good
intentions because it has become her adaptability instincts
that have allowed her to thrive.
She is not a ball of sunshine. She has flaws. She has a past.
She has her demons. She knows better than to just let down
her barriers for you simply because you voice a desire to
enter. You have to prove your right of entrance. She will
assume the worst of you because the worst has happened. If
you want her to see otherwise, prove her wrong.

Cc: lalasticlala

Mhizkel:
If she is skeptical and question their intentions, they tag her as the ''playing hard to get'' type.
If she doesn't, exhibit the above acts, they tag her as ''too cheap''.

Mhizkel:
If she is skeptical and question their intentions, they tag her as the ''playing hard to get'' type.
If she doesn't, exhibit the above acts, they tag her as ''too cheap''.

Suigeneris93:
This is sounding like something TD Jakes would say. Nice one op

usermane:
As a dude who has given up on dating, I must point that a strong, intelligent and independent woman is not all I sought. I wanted someone with a good heart too. I have met a few strong, intelligent and independent women in my life, but nothing killed my attraction for them than their heart.

obidevine:
Men,you say you want a strong, intelligent, truly
independent woman who wants you rather than needs you,
who inspires you, who pushes you towards being yourself,
who can stick by you through the hardest times, and who
can be your rock through life's obstacles.
But you need to know that a truly strong, independent
woman does not walk through life with her heart wide open.
She has had to put up walls to block toxicity to obtain her
strength. She is skeptical and always on alert from a lifetime
of defense against predators. She is going to be a bit jaded,
a little cynical, and a little scary because those qualities
come with the struggle of obtaining that strength that
gravitates you. She is going to doubt and question your good
intentions because it has become her adaptability instincts
that have allowed her to thrive.
She is not a ball of sunshine. She has flaws. She has a past.
She has her demons. She knows better than to just let down
her barriers for you simply because you voice a desire to
enter. You have to prove your right of entrance. She will
assume the worst of you because the worst has happened. If
you want her to see otherwise, prove her wrong.

Cc: lalasticlala

Monalisa185:
Lol...see them ladies thanking the op...please... that's not enough reason or an excuse for any of you not to become independent and strong oo...guys, this is not enough reason to run away from strong, intelligent and independent women....independent women especially rock!!!

op, nice points though

cruzita:
WITH ALL SINCERITY U ARE RIGHT OP (I'M AN EXAMPLE)

Mhizkel:
If she is skeptical and question their intentions, they tag her as the ''playing hard to get'' type.
If she doesn't, exhibit the above acts, they tag her as ''too cheap''.

Speechless3:
I would never choose to be the "strong independent woman" except i have given up on men.

pinceprinz:




You still have a long way to go to understand this topic.

Speechless3:
Funny right? I dont know how many "men loving" women like me love to be manly or tagged being virile when we know no other faster means to drive them away than being "strong and independent"

For what do i need a man for if i am "independent"?
Even men cant afford to be "independent" if they are seeking out relationship with the opp sex.

Speechless3:
I would never choose to be the "strong independent woman" except i have given up on men.

pinceprinz:


You're simply not catching the drift yet. Are you a Student or working class?

pinceprinz:

To start with, how do u know this?

Mhizkel:

I've seen alot to to talk about.

pinceprinz:
What you see is not always what it is Ya Know

Mhizkel:
It is what it is.

Mhizkel:
It is what it is.