choco212:
Laveda dat was y I said is for adults! If u don't ve any advice Pls don't comment

ronald4lif:
What's the nature of his job in the government agency? Is it a stable job with a reasonable income or just some contract/temporal employment?

If the above questions are in the affirmative then I don't see what the problem is. Some people aren't formally educated but still learned, street-wise and can brainstorm on topical issues.

I think education goes beyond university and what we should normally seek for its for sensible people not educated people. Besides, he can still enrol into some adult course in the future if necessary.

So, if he treats you right, you love him and picture an evermore future with him then go for it.

fulfillbill:


She say the guy still dey school.

ronald4lif:


Oh okay. Then what's her problem. He's still in school and working then what's the problem?

She should just come clean and tell us that she's under self-imposed and societal pressure to get married and can't wait till the guy graduates than make it seem as if it's coz of him being undergraduate. Women and marriage sha.

ronald4lif:


Oh okay. Then what's her problem. He's still in school and working then what's the problem?

She should just come clean and tell us that she's under self-imposed and societal pressure to get married and can't wait till the guy graduates than make it seem as if it's coz of him being undergraduate. Women and marriage sha.

choco212:
Pls I need some advice, I met dis guy while I was still a corper, we became gud frnds n started dating, I luv him, our r ship was so pure n real no sex! He told me he was working with a govt agency only for me 2 find out after 2yrs of dating dat he is still an undergraduate, I feel betrayed n sad cuz he lied n deceived me, I confronted him n admitted it but kip saying if I cnt date him anymore cuz of dat reason I can move on since am done serving and now working, Pls what should I do?, matured minds pls.

Richiy:

And do you think it is easy to be under such intense pressure and who you want is still in the University? It is not easy bro. I actually feel very sorry for her.

fulfillbill:



Not sure the guy is working...

I don't think she can date the guy considering the marriage pressure thingy...

ronald4lif:


Hmmm not easy but I was thinking since he's also employed and if his job is rewarding then they can still get married even while he's in school. But that would depend on him though, if he's receptive to getting married while studying. Or can't school and marriage coincide?

Richiy:


He has no job. He was just lying to keep her.

akinsmyk:
You confronted him with your findings about his educational status and he confessed, that's a good one. Maybe he had to lie coz he doesn't want to loose you based on you looking for a graduate and working class guy.

You need to talk to him again, tell him your fears, feelings and plans. Let him tell you his views too.

Telling you to move on if you can't wait might be harmless in contrast to what someone said. He might be trying not to be selfish. He might be testing if u would really move on of a truth.

Be sure he loves you, if you do too, its worth d wait. You can marry a working class today and he lose his job tomorrow and stayed jobless for the next five years.

Its a good thing, but graduate or working class should not be ur basis for lov and marriage.

Youse yhour heahd!

ronald4lif:


Well said but the emboldened has become a cliche that's baseless and isn't in consonance with verisimilitudinous bearing. Often times we hear people say why settle for a working class or the affluent when they can become broke or lose their job tomorrow. This is a sophistry argument with no iota of rationality behind it.

It's foolish for someone to dwell on hope when they can reap the positives and for anyone to infer that one shouldn't settle for something they can feel or gained over what it's under probability makes no sense. If a working class or rich can become broke tomorrow then the unemployed too can remain unemployed for life. And chances of a rich fellow getting broke its too vestigial compared to a broke dude becoming rich. Enough of this phantasmagoria and let's be real.

akinsmyk:


You raised a very good point too. In this case, I don't think the guy in question is broke or staying idle. Its not like she had someone else too. If she had options already and in a junction of making choices then your rationality can't be overlooked.

What worked with Mr A might be catastrophic for Mr. B.

I'm not in a position to decide for the OP, if she moves on with another guy and all went well, she has nothing to regret but if it went sour...hmm. It is well.

When there is love, this isn't an issue. Not like the guy here is a drop out, illiterate, irresponsible or whatever. Seems he has direction. The time is really the problem of the OP, that was what led to the statement you emboldened.

We shouldn't run too much of our destiny. Would have suggested she moves on if she was not comfortable with him, cheating on her or that he had no focus and direction for his life.

I wish you understand the thought behind that statement. What if she gets a working class today and the new guy isn't ready or iinterested yet in marriage, would you advice she keeps jumping from trees to trees