Timileyin:
I have a son that i and just 2 friends know about, i really dont see it as a big deal cause its a part of my life i dont explore or talk about. I once asked my fiance early in our relationship what she feels about a guy that as a son out of wed lock but she said she will end the relation instantly. I really Love her, going to the alter with her in 3 weeks, want to marry her and i know we will always be fine so far i keep my little secrete as secrete. a friend as been advising me to tell her, do you think i should or not?

u better tell her. except if u dnt want to enjoy peace of mind with her bc definitely she will still find out from others

i guess i will get drunk this evening, take her on a date and do the needful

esosa993:





lol are u taking words from guys here seriously most of them are just bitter people who have been treated badly



as for u. @op lemme ask u a question would u accept a woman who already had a baby before .....am sure the answer is NO


if I were in her shoes ooo I don't think I will marry u even tho u told me earlier because I'll keep wondering why u broke up with the gal that had your child, I'll feel u might not really love me either and might dump me after marriage for another fresh woman .. ... and is there any assurance for her when u fight u won't go knocking your ex's door for comfort .



hmmm may God help us

Dear so many things make one not to marry some1 whom he or she has a child with outside wedlock,i said he or she cos some ladies also refuse to marry whom they are pregnant or av a child with. I av seen it happen. The lady was brot home in town n to d village,was introduced to us as d wife to be. My mum even gave her expos as to d family's expections n how her ppl wr seen in our side. After all d love she still faltered. My dear she didnt even hide herself a bit. Buh showed wat she is though u knw dat wasnt her full xter. So my dear bro had to change his mind. A woman dat was been attended to right from 1st month of her pregnancy,monthly allowance given,love,care. So my dear wat u dont knw is bigger dan u

enkayhope:
Dear so many things make one not to marry some1 whom he or she has a child with outside wedlock,i said he or she cos some ladies also refuse to marry whom they are pregnant or av a child with. I av seen it happen. The lady was brot home in town n to d village,was introduced to us as d wife to be. My mum even gave her expos as to d family's expections n how her ppl wr seen in our side. After all d love she still faltered. My dear she didnt even hide herself a bit. Buh showed wat she is though u knw dat wasnt her full xter. So my dear bro had to change his mind. A woman dat was been attended to right from 1st month of her pregnancy,monthly allowance given,love,care. So my dear wat u dont knw is bigger dan u

hmmm,well everyone is different tho.....but I don't think I can go through such marriage, my life is too precious and perhaps I can't hurt another woman because of my happiness , what if the gal had loved him and he just dumped her, what if he does the same to me ........


people are different but my question to such a man would be "would you marry me if I already have a child" let's be sincere most men won't marry a gal who already has a child because most would claim they " can't settle for less" so why should?

enkayhope:
Dear so many things make one not to marry some1 whom he or she has a child with outside wedlock,i said he or she cos some ladies also refuse to marry whom they are pregnant or av a child with. I av seen it happen. The lady was brot home in town n to d village,was introduced to us as d wife to be. My mum even gave her expos as to d family's expections n how her ppl wr seen in our side. After all d love she still faltered. My dear she didnt even hide herself a bit. Buh showed wat she is though u knw dat wasnt her full xter. So my dear bro had to change his mind. A woman dat was been attended to right from 1st month of her pregnancy,monthly allowance given,love,care. So my dear wat u dont knw is bigger dan u

hmmm,well everyone is different tho.....but I don't think I can go through such marriage, my life is too precious and perhaps I can't hurt another woman because of my happiness , what if the gal had loved him and he just dumped her, what if he does the same to me ........


people are different but my question to such a man would be "would you marry me if I already have a child" let's be sincere most men won't marry a gal who already has a child because most would claim they " can't settle for less" so why should I?

Timileyin:
i guess i will get drunk this evening, take her on a date and do the needful

dont get yourself drunk,,kilode naaa,the earlier you tell her the better for uuu..

Timileyin:
Its not that easy, i cant afford to break the Poor Brides heart! she will kill me and trust me she will tell some one else and i may have to answer some questions. I have a good reputation in her family right now and i cant afford to mess it up. why cant a secret remain a secret for life?

R u Sure u r the one marrying her or the other way round?

She is from a well to do family Huh? Yea, gossip fly like hell in Sure family.

Here is the gist....... I think she wud break it off and call off the wedding.

If she did, I would thank God for delivering u, If she doesn't she might just make life a living hell for u or she might help u keep ur lil secret If she really loves u. U on a time bomb gee.

And for u to want to drink b4 telling her, says all also.
May wisdom lead u

esosa993:




hmmm,well everyone is different tho.....but I don't think I can go through such marriage, my life is too precious and perhaps I can't hurt another woman because of my happiness , what if the gal had loved him and he just dumped her, what if he does the same to me ........


people are different but my question to such a man would be "would you marry me if I already have a child" let's be sincere most men won't marry a gal who already has a child because most would claim they " can't settle for less" so why should?

U ave a point there though