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Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by mumtobe: 1:33pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
DrPurposeful: You are not serious. So it's only ladies that make marriage not to last up to 10 years. Did you consider infidelity on the man side. What of physical assault and total control on a wife. I will take you serious when you include causes from the male side. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by ogaprime(m): 1:34pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
Something is wrong here... prettythicksme:Let me fix it... prettythicksme:Correct!!! 1 Like |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Nobody: 1:34pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
talktonase:LoL I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. really. I just stated it was sad that he Ain't Nigerian.? It would've been Nice knowing someone here atleast Shares his views? I wasn't stereotyping... Only Praising. Anyways..I stand corrected. I see You agree with him? |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Strahovski1(m): 1:34pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
deeptesting: You guessed wrong. I am married with 3 Kids 2 Likes |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Strahovski1(m): 1:36pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
shalomm: I have a wife already 4 Likes |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Strahovski1(m): 1:36pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
KruggerINC: Do i look like someone who is christian? Look at me 2 Likes |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Nobody: 1:39pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
xynerise:Oh u guys dont believe me?good for u i wont tell u my age! |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Nobody: 1:40pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
happney65:Dat's not my name |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Nobody: 1:41pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
ogaprime:Hehehehehehe dey there dey fix,no go marry! |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by gaffig: 1:42pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
cruzita:It is right, It's His right, But a God fearing man won't do that without reason... . |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by deeptesting(m): 1:42pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
Strahovski1: Then you are not been sincere or you are 1 out off 1000 with a partner who is willing to subject herself to the leadership of the home as clearly stated in the Bible & African Culture. |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by nenergy(m): 1:44pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
Strahovski1: Ask mature couples and they'll disagree. There are many things that keeps a marriage and love is NOT #1 or #2. What happen when love "finishes"? Yes, love is not everlasting. Just like a battery cell, it dies, but can be recharged...rekindled. There comes a time in many marriages where just being responsible, having the fear of God and having the will not to quit makes the marriage last. Make God just dey help us! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by amusadele: 1:47pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
Strahovski1:dust 1 Like |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by xynerise: 1:47pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
prettythicksme:I believe your joke |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by ogaprime(m): 1:47pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
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Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by dabimzy(f): 1:48pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
Avoid intruders most especially inlaws.the fear of some MILs is the begining of wisdom. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Strahovski1(m): 1:49pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
deeptesting: I do not follow the Bible.. I am Hindu. I am not African. I am Asian(Indian) Again, my wife is not subjecting herself to me. She is my friend, my partner and my soul mate. Not my subject I dont know about you 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Nobody: 1:50pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
xynerise:lol,u guys dont take me serious bet y? |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Nobody: 1:51pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
ogaprime:hehehehehe dat's good tho |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by greatpearly: 1:54pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
[quote author=MrsChima post=42368473]There are many different reasons why many marriages do not exceed 10 years. Some people gets married for the wrong reasons; green cards, to escape poverty, family pressure, desperation, deception, and many more. However, couples that are married or have been married in good faith will still have struggles in their marriages. Cheating, addiction of some sorts, death, abuse, disconnection from the Higher Power, and many more can break a marriage. Marriage is not easy and it is not for the faint hearts it requires work and dedication. It is about teamwork and supporting each other. Some couples needs to be honest about marriage and encourage professional counseling or seek advice of a TRUSTED NEUTRAL person that won't takes sides. Sometimes a fresh pair of eyes may be what your marriage needs and not everyone wants to see Couples unhappy and miserable. Respect and effective communication is imperative to a longer and happy marriages . Some couples are so caught up with trying to outdo other family members that are married many decades and NOT FOCUSED on the health of their marriage. It is not about how long you have been married, but it is about how to have a happy and healthy marriage until it is time to part ways (hopefully it is death). To control your house (men) doesn't mean you have to treat your wife like one of the children. Even if you have a submissive wife to no fault, she will eventually rebel. You will get more out of her if she feels loved and cherished and you are making good decisions that ensures her stability. Women likes to feel secured and safe. Two heads are better than one when it comes to decisions and planning. Asking your wife for her opinions and thoughts doesn't make you less of a man but more importantly, well-informed decision maker. If there is no love and intimacy in the marriage, it won't last beyond a few years regardless. Women choose men based on sustenance attributes and not superficial matters. A man that truly loves his mother will truly love you. Look at how he treats his mother and the female relatives. It is a true indication of how he will treat you! I understand that you do not want a man that has nothing, but instead of looking at what he has material wisely, pay attention how he manage his upkeep and business. If he is not effective, the car and nice house won't be accessible for long! Pay attention to how he is with money and what he does when he is not around his business. You will then see his priority and if he is money obsessive. Choose compatible spouses and focus on the 80% of the person. A woman of 80% guarantee is better than a woman of 20% guarantee. Get married because you are ready and understand what work is required to maintain it. If you are married and truly gave it your all to make your marriage stronger and you are still not happy. Walk away. Maybe separation is necessary to see the bigger picture and discover other possible solutions. Do not stay in a toxic marriage for the sake of your children. You are reaching your children it is okay to settle and accept this type of treatment from your relationship. They will choose based on their experience they have learned from their parents and continue the vicious cycle that will pass down generations. I am sure that is not THE LEGACY you want to leave behind! Thanks Mrs Chima |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by talktonase(m): 1:56pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
Estharfabian:Not absolutely but to a reasonable extent that bothers on love. |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by canDy4eva(f): 1:58pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
prettythicksme:...lyk serioxly |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by gaffig: 1:58pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
banmee:I doubt u are married, or even mature enough to do so.. .. |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Nobody: 1:59pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
Nice one.. |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by xynerise: 1:59pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
prettythicksme:Well..............maybe because you are not serious |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Nobody: 2:00pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
xynerise: |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by Nobody: 2:00pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
canDy4eva:Yes babe |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by SamOgasco(m): 2:02pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
Hmmmmm, you lied. My marriage is now 88 years.... So say something else. |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by ogaprime(m): 2:03pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
prettythicksme:Loool....yels, it is good. In 3yrs to come shaa |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by tivta(m): 2:10pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
It is part of civilization, I will never marry a woman who is single and has a PhD, as far as I am concerned she needs no man, even those with masters are a handful, why don't girls of today get their masters and PhD after marriage? My mum did it so what is the fuss? I pity this generation... 3 Likes |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by KruggerINC(m): 2:18pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
Strahovski1: You have the right to be Whatever you wanna be,pagan,agnostic or bhuddist .How ever you don't have the right to disrespect other people's beliefs nor deities. How would you feel if I disprespected your mum either because I don't know her or just because I can disrespect her freely?i doubt you'd feel good.....Tolerance is key . 1 Like |
Re: Why Most Marriages Never Exceed 10years by banmee(m): 2:18pm On Jan 27, 2016 |
gaffig: 15 years bro and still going strong. Why? Because I understand what leadership is. Been a leader all my life. Nigerians generally lack the understanding which is why they fail in almost everything. Most of them equate a good leader with having money or in this case how masculine you are. Bro's the size of your prick no mean say you be man oooo. 2 Likes |
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