Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

Women sha, dem go sha find way defend. SMH

Thanks for the words of wisdom/advice to our arrogant ladies.

I hear u.

OP is so on point.

Husband love your wife, wife submit to your husband. Gods formula for making marriage work.
But A girl that wont submit during dating and courship, would she submit during marriage? I am not sure she would.

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

Being submissive does not mean that the husband is always right or that whatever he says happens

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

OK, submission doesn't imply slavery. U can voice out ur opinion without necessarily injuring ur man's ego. Every sensible man will respect their wife's opinion.


The bottom line is, marry a sensible man

Waiting for all these silly feminists. Though your choice of word "submit" sounds somehow, but when a wife understands that she has to respect the husband, to me, that is all that matters.

my dear ur so on point

INDEED,THIS IS A GUD WRITE UP. MAY D SPIRIT OF HUMBLENESS/SUBMISSIVENESS VISIT OUR YOUNG GIRLS!!!

I totally agree.. If marrying is a woman is because of sex, then there is no need to marry at all, just keep sleeping around. Its even better this way.

How do I reward this writer? How?

defendedvictim:
OK, submission doesn't imply slavery. U can voice out ur opinion without necessarily injuring ur man's ego. Every sensible man will respect their wife's opinion.


The bottom line is, marry a sensible man

Simple....

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

Whoever said submit yourself mindlessly to every decision

Submit to your husband, period!! If he loves you, he will always consider you too before making any decision.

skywalker240:



The WISEST BABE IN NIARALAND so far


But sometimes that thing is our number 1 food sha ooo

Queen Solomon! Babe correct die. As a married man, I buy every single bit of her message. I watched my mom and dad growing up, mom played that role to perfection.

She never argued or disagreed with popsie in the presence of a third party. Even her own children. I saw popsie bend and break for her. Note: popsie was a hardman's hardman.

Unfortunately, women don't come that way anymore. So guys, quit dreaming. They don't born them loyal anymore. The onus is on guys to adjust. Times have changed. Women changed with time, but brothers still wanna marry women who act like this is the 50s.

If guys don't change and adjust, very soon na guys and babes go dey cry. As a matter of fact, for every single girl, there's a single guy. Two sides of the same coin. Adjusting to the times is key to a successful marriage. Not history. Not even culture or religion.

OP.You are sharing secrets that serious men use to get good wives

What the op said is true.A man that marries a humble woman is already blessed.He will live long.Such women are not many.Pray to God to give you a humble woman.

And all those men with low self esteem and tiny dïcks will come here and be shouting "Yes! Submit! Submit!"
Kmt!

Gbam!!!...no matter how pretty & nice a lady is, i can't wife her if she ain't submissive! A cute n submisive chic is my weakness anyday.

Blackberrybabes:
Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognized. This shows how important sex is in marriage.


When you look at how aggressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX."

Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.

There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex is all that matters to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyond imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.

The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.

What does the Holy Bible say, "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.

Sadly, many youngs ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.
When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely.

There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the African queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also.

I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May God bless you with good marriage, my dear sister.

Written by B.I.C. Abeiku Okai.

http://www.blackberrybabes.com/2016/01/what-husband-needs-from-wife-is-never.html

Very very well written and true.

defendedvictim:
OK, submission doesn't imply slavery. U can voice out ur opinion without necessarily injuring ur man's ego. Every sensible man will respect their wife's opinion.


The bottom line is, marry a sensible man

What then is the meaning of submission?

You people just shout submission. You don't know the meaning and how it applies to marriage yet you want me to submit.

If I say I don't want to be submit, na wahala

If I say I do, I don't even know the meaning in the context of marriage sef

Op you really tried but you did not hit it right. In my opinion, submission and sex go hand in hand. Every sane man want both to complement each other.

CaroLyner:
I agree,but a relationship,marriage or dating is at its healthiest and happiest when both
partners view each other as equals in respect and importance. When both the man and the woman come together to lean upon one another in equality, a relationship is given the opportunity to flourish and grow in the most ideal of situations.

@bolded,

How possible can that be when culture & tradition dictates whom the head of the family is. Even the scriptures, be it xtian/islam have their way of spelling out what position belongs to whom. You see, there is a conflict of ideologies in the modern world right now & it's not helping matters @all.

Feminism is an ideology which is now being digested wrongly by our ladies while women empowerment means different things to different people. For some, Women Empowerment means economic empowerment while some take it to be liberation from men's control.

Love, understanding & respect for each other would go a long way in keeping body, soul & spirit together.

May God help us.

chigoizie7:
Waiting for all these silly feminists. Though your choice of word "submit" sounds somehow, but when a wife understands that she has to respect the husband, to me, that is all that matters.

When you say a woman has to respect her husband, are you suggesting taht she should disrespects everyone except her husband or is it that the burden of respect lies on her not on her husband

Dem be schooling women every fvcking day

I set my wife ablaze with love when she submits. The gates of love are indeed flung open.

Another powerful mystery is; when a woman is pregnant in wedlock and somehow she humbly greets her husband on her knees most mornings; then the child she's carrying can never be bewitched.

Who told me? I overheard my mother-in-law telling my wife.

Humility extends to every facet of spirituality; for Our Lord and Savior Jesus exhibited humility first before he was elevated.

Love dis op, u are on d track

shaddoww:
Hmmm, but what does a wife really need from her husband?

Me-thinks all a Woman need from her hubby is ''Attention''.. Its Priceless to em..

shaddoww:
Hmmm, but what does a wife really need from her husband?

LOVE, RESPECT and CARE.

daretodiffer:


What then is the meaning of submission?

You people just shout submission. You don't know the meaning and how it applies to marriage yet you want me to submit.

If I say I don't want to be submit, na wahala

If I say I do, I don't even know the meaning in the context of marriage sef

it means giving ur husband his place as d head of the house. Get his approval on major decisions u want to take. I knw submission is difficult wen d man is a 'd*ck'; buh d instruction to wives to 'submit' to their husbands follows the instruction to men, to 'love' their wives. That's how I see it...if men should love their wives properly, submission would be easier

You couldnt have said it better OP. True word.