daretodiffer:


What then is the meaning of submission?

You people just shout submission. You don't know the meaning and how it applies to marriage yet you want me to submit.

If I say I don't want to be submit, na wahala

If I say I do, I don't even know the meaning in the context of marriage sef

sharap! stop arguing senselessly
am a yoruba woman and we are thought that submission is not slavery...stop been clever by half....in your fake wisdom u are displaying stupidity

kaziblake:
Hmmm

Women believe sex is the ultimate goal of men but it's not true as OP has said. Beauty is to the eyes of the beholder, to me beauty is good character.



Miss Nigeria!!! Are you here again? Just sight you. Speak on this jare..... I want to hear your point of view.

daretodiffer:


What then is the meaning of submission?

You people just shout submission. You don't know the meaning and how it applies to marriage yet you want me to submit.

If I say I don't want to be submit, na wahala

If I say I do, I don't even know the meaning in the context of marriage sef

May God help you, meanwhile I will remember you in my prayers.

defendedvictim:
it means giving ur husband his place as d head of the house. Get his approval on major decisions u want to take. I knw submission is difficult wen d man is a 'd*ck'; buh d instruction to wives to 'submit' to their husbands follows the instruction to men, to 'love' their wives. That's how I see it...if men should love their wives properly, submission would be easier

It is common sense that you cannot take major decisions without deliberating, same goes to the husband. Y

What love? In this 21st century? The last time I checked it is now a subjective word.

Personally I think submission is not the right term. I prefer agreeablity and flexibility etc

omooba969:


May God help you, meanwhile I will remember you in my prayers.

May God help you too.

Nah, save it for your family and the Syrians

Angelberry:

You always misyarn take a chill pill dear

Menh, that girl enh...she dey try

daretodiffer:


It is common sense that you cannot take major decisions without deliberating, same goes to the husband. Y

What love? In this 21st century? The last time I checked it is now a subjective word.

Personally I think submission is not the right term. I prefer agreeablity and flexibility etc

now dats weird. I'm human n I still have some space to love som1; so I really don't think love is now a subjective word.

And, putting all those words together sums up to 'submission'. #mythoughtsthough

omooba969:


@bolded,

How possible can that be when culture & tradition dictates whom the head of the family is. Even the scriptures, be it xtian/islam have their way of spelling out what position belongs to whom. You see, there is a conflict of ideologies in the modern world right now & it's not helping matters @all.

Feminism is an ideology which is now being digested wrongly by our ladies while women empowerment means different things to different people. For some, Women Empowerment means economic empowerment while some take it to be liberation from men's control.

Love, understanding & respect for each other would go a long way in keeping body, soul & spirit together.

May God help us.

okay i have modified.check.

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

What I do not understand is why anyone would assume that I wouldn't care about my marriage. If you care about something, you go extra miles to make it work. I don't need to ‘submit'.(whatever that means)

defendedvictim:
now dats weird. I'm human n I still have some space to love som1; so I really don't think love is now a subjective word.

And, putting all those words together sums up to 'submission'. #mythoughtsthough

A man who cheats on his wife....still loves his wife


A man who beats his wife....beats her out of love

Best thread I've read all week. Truth!

true talk op

daretodiffer:


May God help you too.

Nah, save it for your family and the Syrians

Hahahaha omo aiye finally , eleyi ti SIGN OUT patapata o!

Your intending mother-in-law wey go match ur craze still dey do press up for her yard like Emmanuel Adebayo.

Well done girl.

Sex is Indispensable, it's a major bedrock upon which marriage is erected. A real man wants fidelity and respect from his woman. Humility is also welcomed.

Adebowaletunji:

sharap! stop arguing senselessly
am a yoruba woman and we are thought that submission is not slavery...stop been clever by half....in your fake wisdom u are displaying stupidity

You are the dumbass here..
She asked questions, in your almighty wisdom, you should give her the answers if you deem it fit..and not come here to spew trash..
You were taught submission is not slavery in yorubaland,okk..be good enough to share your knowledge with someone who asked..

omooba969:


Hahahaha omo aiye finally , eleyi ti SIGN patapata o!

Your intending mother-in-law wey go match ur craze still dey do press up for her yard like Emmanuel Adebayo.

Well done girl.

My mother in law is going love me like mad

I can be very charming

And if she doesn't like me, I will make her see reasons that would make her pretend to like me

MzNelly:
And all those men with low self esteem and tiny dïcks will come here and be shouting "Yes! Submit! Submit!"
Kmt!

. This really got me laughing.

daretodiffer:


When you say a woman has to respect her husband, are you suggesting taht she should disrespects everyone except her husband or is it that the burden of respect lies on her not on her husband

Dem be schooling women every fvcking day

It all boils down to marriage, we are talking about women in marriage,(man and woman). If ur own marriage comprises of entire Najia (society) den do the needful and respect them all, shikina

Spot on blackberrybabes

candid opinion.bravo!

daretodiffer:


A man who cheats on his wife....still loves his wife


A man who beats his wife....beats her out of love

will I ever be able to take ur mind out of such negativities about love?

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

Don't misjudge the OP's article. She clearly stated that ladies need to tread carefully with recalcitrant guys because they mount pressure and seize that opportunity to control a humble lady.

Submission/humility is not stupidity dear

How do you mean Submit?Both of Una are Partners in Progress naa..I can't marry a wife that fears me ohh..Na respect we wld have for each other not fear nor submission...Okay?

defendedvictim:
will I ever be able to take ur mind out of such negativities about love?

You don't have to

Love exists but it is subjective

MzNelly:
And all those men with low self esteem and tiny dïcks will come here and be shouting "Yes! Submit! Submit!"
Kmt!

So u love it big?

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

ask an elderly woman in your area, I think you won't get much different answer from the Op.

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

So should a man because he cares about his family should also not necessarily "love" his wife mindlessly? When he does, you'll come out screaming that he doesn't love you.

If he needs your impetus to any decision he'll let you know; and you can contribute without dropping your pillar and garment of submission.

For you to liken a woman's submission to bondage is both faulty and wrong in its entirety.

The 2 pillars that both parties in a marriage must hold is:

1. Submission - Wife
2. Love - Husband

Now this 2 i found from the Bible and i know it applies across board.

We must understand that submission is not easy, it takes the Grace of God to master it; and so we expect many ladies to raise a dart against the OP and his post.

When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely

Nice.

daretodiffer:


What I do not understand is why anyone would assume that I wouldn't care about my marriage. If you care about something, you go extra miles to make it work. I don't need to ‘submit'.(whatever that means)

am trying to get your point,but i dont.

wristbangle:


Don't misjudge the OP's article. She clearly stated that ladies need to tread carefully with recalcitrant guys because they mount pressure and seize that opportunity to control a humble lady.

Submission/humility is not stupidity dear

at bolded.
exactly what i was trying to pinpoint.

wristbangle:




So u love it big?