Michellla:
am trying to get your point,but i dont.

I was trying to eunderstand build on what you said about submission.

Nairadays:


So should a man because he cares about his family should also not necessarily "love" his wife mindlessly? When he does, you'll come out screaming that he doesn't love you.

If he needs your impetus to any decision he'll let you know; and you can contribute without dropping your pillar and garment of submission.

For you to liken a woman's submission to bondage is both faulty and wrong in its entirety.

The 2 pillars that both parties in a marriage must hold is:

1. Submission - Wife
2. Love - Husband

Now this 2 i found from the Bible and i know it applies across board.

We must understand that submission is not easy, it takes the Grace of God to master it; and so we expect many ladies to raise a dart against the OP and his post.

you misjudged my comment,but i see where you're coming from.

daretodiffer:


What I do not understand is why anyone would assume that I wouldn't care about my marriage. If you care about something, you go extra miles to make it work. I don't need to ‘submit'.(whatever that means)

okay now i get you.
part of what i was trying to explain up there.

Guy u try

Blackberrybabes:
Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognized. This shows how important sex is in marriage.


When you look at how aggressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX."

Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.

There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex is all that matters to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyond imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.

The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.

What does the Holy Bible say, "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.

Sadly, many youngs ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.
When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely.

There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the African queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also.

I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May God bless you with good marriage, my dear sister.

Written by B.I.C. Abeiku Okai.

http://www.blackberrybabes.com/2016/01/what-husband-needs-from-wife-is-never.html

And here comes the post of the day! I totally agree with OP.

Is it not to scream on nl again?

Let me join sef...

Submit! Submit!! Submit!!!

When you wake from the nl slumber, you face the real world...

seggzz:

Women believe sex is the ultimate goal of men but it's not true as OP has said. Beauty is to the eyes of the beholder, to me beauty is good character.



Miss Nigeria!!! Are you here again? Just sight you. Speak on this jare..... I want to hear your point of view.

I don't want anybody to bash me this evening so I will keep my opinion to myself.

Concur

In proverbs 18:22; bible says: he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing but the same proverbs put a clause in the next chapter........................
****************************************Proverbs 19:14 says BUT a PRUDENT wife or SENBSIBLE wife(in some versions) COMES FROM THE LORD.
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So my fellow guys, as a man no be all women you take as wife go dey sensible oo, pray make God present them, make them cross your path, so u go fit choose them! Coz bible says WATCH & PRAY. So no be just 1man effort, God gats dey inside for the search

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

must you point out submission in its negative sense. Have you appreciated or supported the positive submission required of wives. Don't let your life and thoughts be full of negativity.

@Op, I concur to your submission

Strahovski1:
Why do I feel like countering this thread and disagreeing with everything?

Oh.... I see it was written by a man. A woman should write her own version first

it's was uploaded by a female bro

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

buh this is abt no submission at all on her part

It may be difficult for the wife to submit when the husband does not have what it takes to be the head of the family.

Women like to be pampered. They can do anything to please their men when there is more than enough to pamper them.

However, some old women still submit despite the unpleasant condition in the family.

dtrend:

it's was uploaded by a female bro

Yea but she's not the original writer....

My sister humility and submission without good sex will still crash ur marriage o, all three must be present and operate concurrently..... just speaking my mind

dtrend:

it's was uploaded by a female bro

A female looking to promote her blog... will post anything. Besides what's the proof it's a female behind the moniker?

Marriage

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

And them feminist will start raising their ugly head now!!!! Arrrgggghhh!

Am I the only person who couldn't finish reading the write up?

Wow! What a wise woman...indeed it's submissiveness that wins a man's heart

modestdude:
must you point out submission in its negative sense. Have you appreciated or supported the positive submission required of wives. Don't let your life and thoughts be full of negativity.

no.i just had to clear the air.

Vivipop:
I don't agree with the word "Submission". To say "wives submit to your husbands" is like saying "we want Peace rather than Justice." This is my opinion.

Every husband NEEDS a good sex, that's not negotiable.

Ooshey

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

If she has always been the submissive type the man will understand............

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

That's why you should marry a man worthy of your submission.

shaddoww:
Hmmm, but what does a wife really need from her husband?

love and i'm not taking about feelings here.

Michellla:
a woman who genuinely cares about her marriage,her family,her life,does not necessarily "submit" mindlessly to every decision her husband makes.
theres alws a time to speak up.
Its marriage,not bondage.

A wife's submission to her husband does not take away her rights or opinion, they are different things entirely. Don't mix it pls.

Vivipop:
I don't agree with the word "Submission". To say "wives submit to your husbands" is like saying "we want Peace rather than Justice." This is my opinion.

Every husband NEEDS a good sex, that's not negotiable.

Do you want to question the bible? A good Sex, yes, but it does not keep a man.

MzNelly:
And all those men with low self esteem and tiny dïcks will come here and be shouting "Yes! Submit! Submit!"
Kmt!

jehovah witness! Kai

dejisakin:


A wife's submission to her husband does not take away her rights or opinion, they are different things entirely. Don't mix it pls.

this post up here made it seem like she has no say though.
why i made that comment

Sex appears 36times in this write up! Nice one tho!