Faith111:
Please! Please!! Please!!!
I am a graduate today because of my Hubby....
He trained me from purchasing my jamb form to my final year project WITHOUT EVER HAVING SEX WITH ME talk less of pregnanting me...
Today I'm pillar in his house and that singular act makes my home a heaven...We've been married for 4yrs nd very soon we'll be counting 3kids..but it all looks like we got married yesteday..Since we got married, things have turned around for both of us...I am now that classical wife even young boys trip 4..I work and earn very well...He earns very well too. Today, I'm proud of him. together we can acquire assets, pay bills and plan as 1...
My hubby gave me the rent his bros gave him so he could hussle for job for my year1 fees n slept in an uncompleted apartment, his salary was 40k and he gladly sends me 25k having nothing but Tfare and a little to eat from the bukka..He would never buy clothes nor shoes for my sake..But today we can give 40k to a needy without itch..
Op please Love believes all things...
My hubby's friends and family envy him and wish they had me 4 a wife without knowing what sacrifice he made in the past...
Follow ur HEART

Madam, 3 out of 10 women will reason & hold on to their men lyk u did. It's a big risk dat require great caution.

I am happy 4 u & ur family. I wish I get a woman lyk U cos swimming in d ocean wit Vampires pretending 2 b Agenls is scary.

Bitches Ain't Loyal!!!!

Investment in a woman that is not yet pregnant for you is like trying to sandfill the ocean.
You want to marry out of pity abi..... Continu
People always find there way out. With or without you in her life, if she is determined, she will pull through school.
Don't you have a brother to invest in?

@ Cammo, here's a suggestion:

Advice her to start a small business (with high profit margin) on campus. For example: she can start selling puff puff, buns, or akara at a location with heavy foot traffic. I have observed that if you give someone money, they may or may not appreciate it or know the value. Instead if you help them in starting a business, they will be independent for life.

If she's not receptive to the above suggestion (or similar convo), be very wary as she might be open to the highest bidder.

A Lady posted this today:

Simplest*ne:
Please my fellow Nairalanders,Am very depressed,I have a man who I have known for 8years,we were friends and started dating 4years ago,although the relationship was a distance one,cause I school in Ogun state,while He reside in delta state,He practically does everything for me including paying my school fees,He is a very caring man,we have agreed to get married this year 2016,Although I don't love him,but I never wanted to be an ingrate to him,and I believe since we are friends that the love will eventually come.
Last year June I had a dream,and I saw a woman and a child crying in front of him, while He kept on pushing them away,I was worried so I asked him if there is any secret He is hiding from me,that I already know, but I wanted to hear from Him,that was when He told me that He got a woman pregnant by mistake in 2013 ,that He does not love the girl,and He has even refuse to see her since she gave birth.
I was depressed and I felt betrayed I stopped picking his calls for Two weeks,and the next thing He did was to rush down to my elder sister and told her everything we have shared in the relationship,and even threatened to deal with me if I don't marry Him,He boasted about all He has done for me,including paying my school fees and all that.

I am truly confused,I need serious advise, please no insults. Thanks.

https://www.nairaland.com/2903083/fiance-cheated-child-what

Acidosis:
A Lady posted this today:



https://www.nairaland.com/2903083/fiance-cheated-child-what

LMAO! she started dreaming after all the expenses made on her

FTBOY:
LMAO! she started dreaming after all the expenses made on her

LOL!

Is she of benefits to you ? like as in you gain something from her ? i mean something useful to your well being ? and are you sure she loves you ? was she with you when you are a nobody ? if you are benefitting from her fine then you can sponsor her at least if she walks away you gained something but you are not benefitting anything from her , she was not there when you are a nobody then it will be very painful if she walks away if she can compensate you right now in some ways well you can sponsor her so that you gain and also she gain in the relationship

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

This is the latest scam ! Most girls use men to further their cause. Why can't you get a working class lady or a graduate for a wife? why do you want to torture your self unnecessarily? A friend of mine fell victim, do not make the same mistake. And here is the kicker, if she really loved you, you can marry her now before you start training her so that you lay claims.

A few things you must know so that you don't get disappointed:-
1. She is not indebted to marry you just because you trained her through school... Just in case she changes her mind at the end of the day... Keep this in mind
2. Doing this will not make her marry you, just in case you are doing it to impress her and win her over
3. A young girl at 100level is still in her adventurous stage, I hope you know her well enough to make such a big investment and I just hope she is not using you, do your research properly.
Good luck!

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

The only risk is, she dumps you after graduation. Whatever you spend, spend it in good faith not expecting marriage, if marriage happens, nah u carry the prize.
Don't cry when it is over, but be pleased at the time you spent. Every relationship is a gamble!!!

Lalasticlala

cooker:
Is she of benefits to you ? like as in you gain something from her ? i mean something useful to your well being ? and are you sure she loves you ? was she with you when you are a nobody ? if you are benefitting from her fine then you can sponsor her at least if she walks away you gained something but you are not benefitting anything from her , she was not there when you are a nobody then it will be very painful if she walks away if she can compensate you right now in some ways well you can sponsor her so that you gain and also she gain in the relationship

I think she's the only girl in this world who understands me perfectly. She doesn't visit regularly, though, coz her mom is always watching her movement. She's the 4th child and only daughter among 5 children. Her father died last year.

Op is ur girl not normally entitled to monthly allowance and basic upkeep? If yes simply increase her alawee to like 30 or 40k and let her do with watevr she wishes with it...I'm sure she'll naturally sort out herself this way and still have a raised shoulder and high self esteem be4 evry1.. The Word TRAIN can be out of ur HEAD since she will necessarily not come to you asking for fee or dues....
If she decides to sacrifice Brazilian for Books with d alawee good for her..

On the other hand knowing her background is what makes u think you gonna train her...If she pretends to be 1 big babe and at the end of the Month calls you for 50k to buy clothes and other stuff, I know you will naturally make immediate transfer to her and tell her to manage it..while the babe will just use the cash to sort her sch Bill..
The problem is Guys don't value Real girls..They prefer Pretenders..

Don't even dare! Use that money to take care of ur parents and siblings and find a career woman to marry. That girl would definitely dump and deny your ass!

Faith111:
Op is ur girl not normally entitled to monthly allowance and basic upkeep? If yes simply increase her alawee to like 30 or 40k and let her do with watevr she wishes with it...I'm sure she'll naturally sort out herself this way and still have a raised shoulder and high self esteem be4 evry1.. The Word TRAIN can be out of ur HEAD since she will necessarily not come to you asking for fee or dues....
If she decides to sacrifice Brazilian for Books with d alawee good for her..

On the other hand knowing her background is what makes u think you gonna train her...If she pretends to be 1 big babe and at the end of the Month calls you for 50k to buy clothes and other stuff, I know you will naturally make immediate transfer to her and tell her to manage it..while the babe will just use the cash to sort her sch Bill..
The problem is Guys don't value Real girls..They prefer Pretenders..

See your mouth like simply increase her alawee to like 30 or 40k. How many Nigerians earn up to that as monthly salary?

I've been seeing this thread for a while but I seriously hate coming across it. I just wish nobody advises the Op to back off. Let him take a heartbreaking nosedive into a baseless relationship. You wan pay school fees for toto. Mumu

DeMekus:

See your mouth like simply increase her alawee to like 30 or 40k. How many Nigerians earn up to that as monthly salary?

Did you read the Op's initial post
He said he works and has the ability to train her...

Back to your question, lot of guys earn far more than that...Infact some earn that daily..
If he doesn't have the resource, he won't think of training her..

Op, I'm glad u're even contemplating helping her. But pls, don't do it with d objective of marrying her, do it with d objective dat God will reward u in return. D truth is if u don't help her, God will raise sumone who will&u will in turn loose out of d blessings. In dis life, its not always abt us, we shud also help ppl around us if we have d means. A giver's hand is always on top.
I had a personal experience. I was dating a guy den, he works with an oil coy, but I come 4rm a poor home & just finished uni. I have 3 siblings&dey were all still @ skool, so a lot of responsibilities. But cos of d difficulty in gettin a job on time, d guy left me&things were so tough. But I thank God he provided a job 4 me & used me 2 liberate my family. No outsider can come & say but 4 me u ppl wud have suffered bla bla bla. D only person dat takes such glory is God. I must confess it was tough, I made a lot of sacrifices&I'm still making dem, but I tell u it was worth it. Since I started it, I have not lacked anything good, God has been blessing me & I owe my existence&survival 2 him&him alone. I'm not doing it with d obj dat my siblings will be worshiping me or I expect dem 2 be giving me money wen dey start working. I did it, cos I know God will bless me, I saw it as an opportunity 2 be blessed. Don't 4get I'm also not obligated to help dem, I can choose not 2 cos dey are not my responsibilty, dey're my parents'&dey're still alive. I've heard of ppl in my shoes dat chose demselves over deir siblings. All d same, I thank God.
All d best Op!

hmmmm, on your own....that school wey she dey?



abeg check my SIGNATURE

I will not say anything.

FTBOY:
do it and you're dead! she would not only dump you but deny ever knowing you! but if you still feel like helping out, fvck and impregnate her now to scare the boys away..........i've seen pregnant students, nothing new about it

blood of God, u wicked o.

ami ke, 4 were, lady now re dey, dey re jst like ?

emerged01:
Help her if you have the resources but don't be hopeful you will marry her. Don't do it for her,do it for God. Just don't expect anything good from her in return to prevent heart attack.

I allign mysef wit dis person.

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

help her in such a way that will not affect you. theres no guarantee that both of you will becum husband & wife

emerged01:
Help her if you have the resources but don't be hopeful you will marry her. Don't do it for her,do it for God. Just don't expect anything good from her in return to prevent heart attack.

This is the best advice. I am a victim of this right now. She and her mum even said we didn't discuss the issue of marriage when I started helping her. I have decided to move on.

FTBOY:
do it and you're dead! she would not only dump you but deny ever knowing you! but if you still feel like helping out, fvck and impregnate her now to scare the boys away..........i've seen pregnant students, nothing new about it

Point

I get wan smallie for 100L sef but I dont contribute 1 naira to her schooling even though I can afford to.
She don complain tire, said she loves me regardless bla bla... I believe her and Love her too but not one naira is going to come out of me
Trust me, You are about to make one of the biggest mistake of your life bro... lol
Experience is the best teacher... so go ahead, you will be able to advise others later

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

Help her without expecting her to marry you after school but if you think your aim of helping is to marry her then you have shot yourself in your fat balls. On campus and in NYSC camps, married women rods like there is no tomorrow. You can do it for humanity but I guess you will be like "Alhaji Bring Bring" aka BIG MUGU

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

bros if u won help her do it but no tink say u go marry her. Na we we gals she go jst turn u to mugu over nite money bank.

Cammo:
I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. She's a 100 Level student in UNILAG but is having difficulties paying her up school fees. Her mom, a widow, is doing her best but it's not enough. Since I'm a graduate and now working, I feel like helping out. It's an obligation I earnestly wish to take but my friends keep telling me that she would eventually dump my sorry ass for another guy before graduation, and there's nothing I can do. Very confused. I love her and I know she loves me too.
Please advice.

Y not marry her now! And save urself a monumental heart break. When I was in 100 level, we had 3 young married ladies as course mates.

FTBOY:
do it and you're dead! she would not only dump you but deny ever knowing you! but if you still feel like helping out, fvck and impregnate her now to scare the boys away..........i've seen pregnant students, nothing new about it

Jesus!!!

Impregnant her because he want to pay her school fees,so he can't help her without expecting anything in return.

Even the bible says"love your neighbour as you love yourself".