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What Happens To The First Love by healthyarena(f): 8:02pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
Most times when I come across couples who have spent few or those who have spent several years together, I begin to wonder what really went wrong, especially when one or both partners decide to have extra-marital affairs. Did the love grow cold, did the sex become detestable, did the cooking become tiresome? What exactly went wrong and what should the younger generation expect? I love LOVE! Am usually excited when I see two people in love whether old or young! But what exactly happens in some relationships/marriages that makes the love fade? Matured opinions please... |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by charlemon: 8:05pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
The love faded.......That's what happened. It wasn't genuine love from both or one of them. People rush into things without taking the time to learn. They leap before looking |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by firstking01(m): 8:07pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
Op, too much of over farmiliarity begets contempt ![]() 1 Like |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by healthyarena(f): 8:15pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
firstking01:Does this mean lovers shouldn't get too familiar with each other? |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by healthyarena(f): 8:16pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
charlemon:NOT GENUINE! am taking note of this point! |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by charlemon: 8:22pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
healthyarena: Another is maturity. When there are fights in a relationship, both parties or most of the time the man decides to give the woman the "silent treatment". It really hurts her and the man expects the lady to beg which she does most of the time even when she isn't the wrong one ...;but there is an elastic limit. There is a point when the woman will decide to stand her ground and it is up to the man to be sensible and leave his ego and pride and work things. However, most men never do and instead call the woman a proud or disrespectful woman. This destroys everything. Couples should learn to talk *im not perfect. In fact I'm giving the silent treatment to someone now. It is a form of emotional blackmail. When the person can't take it anymore the person will get to a point of no return. It is a foolish and childish act. 1 Like |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by firstking01(m): 8:23pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
healthyarena:another reason is...never do the mistake of marrying because you love the fellow, cos love on it's own fades with time ![]() 1 Like |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by charlemon: 8:25pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
firstking01: Sorry to dispute but genuine unconditional love doesn't fade |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by Cholls(m): 8:33pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
My sister it's simply because men are losing their Masculinity to women in the society. Sure, women want sex, but they want to fall in love more. Unfortunately for them, they rarely find their the man of their dreams, so they just settle with whoever they get and grow dependent on him whilst hoping he'll change. 1 Like |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by cruzita(f): 8:33pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
well maybe because their love was built on material things or physical appearance not from the inside. 1 Like |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by firstking01(m): 9:39pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
charlemon:but it will not be hot like the onset |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by charlemon: 10:14pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
firstking01: True. They can rekindle the fire with some activities |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by refiner(f): 10:32pm On Feb 02, 2016 |
I fink its becos most marriages nw are based on appearance,u will see guys saying dey will only get married wif big booty ladies.... and gals Falls in love wif material find instead of d man! |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by healthyarena(f): 7:31am On Feb 03, 2016 |
refiner:Very good points you have here! Many forget that those things won't remain forever but something must remain to keep rekindling that love! |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by ennysuccess(m): 8:23am On Feb 03, 2016 |
The fact is most Gals aren't Loyal Most Guys has been seriously heartbroken in d past so they find it difficult to love just one person so when d disappointment comes he can turn to d other The love of money has really spoiled our Gals so much that d word love doesn't exist again I'm once a victim I thought love is all about been cute caring and loving but I learned in a bita way ![]() |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by NemzySeries(m): 9:16am On Feb 03, 2016 |
Weda u marry frm d inside or frm d fence it doesn't change anytin....pple she shd device new ideas wit deir partners....alotta tinz counts in keeping or sustaining a relationship ranging frm d way dey joke abt tinz, tinz dey discuss abt, secrets dey hide & tell each orda, d character dey xhibit & aw it changes ova time, d mind set of both parties ova each orda.....4 example ma parents av bin married 4 abt 26yrs + but I learnt dat wen eva derz a quarell or slight misunderstanding ma dad is always no ready to drag issues wit mumcy which kills d misunderstanding immediately, he also Told mumcy b4 marriage dat on no account no mata d d dispute dey engage in d deir marriage she dares not sleep outside deir matrimonial bed & he told her neva to open her mouth to insult him & same applies to him...he also doesn't fails in hiz homely responsibilities both on her & kids, u can imagine dat even up till dis day wen he comes frm work even b4 he come dwn 4rm hiz car d 1st tin he says is "werz ma wife/ gal"?......so staying 2geda as a couple is determined by so many un seen factors & av vowed to honour whoeva I settle dwn wit in d future wit dat as well |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by healthyarena(f): 10:44am On Feb 03, 2016 |
ennysuccess:I hope your past experience will not in any way affect your marriage which is the real deal! |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by healthyarena(f): 10:45am On Feb 03, 2016 |
NemzySeries:Wow! I love your parent's kinda relationship! That's the blissful marriage they always talk about 1 Like |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by ennysuccess(m): 12:05pm On Feb 03, 2016 |
healthyarena: Not at all dear I realized all Gals aren't the same there are still well behaved gals who are certainly good for marriage which is d real deal ![]() |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by NemzySeries(m): 12:09pm On Feb 03, 2016 |
healthyarena:Fankz dear...I bliv av learnt a lot & I'm ready 4 marriage weneva d appointed time cums......wishing u same 1 Like |
Re: What Happens To The First Love by Nobody: 2:29pm On Feb 03, 2016 |
The lack of understanding can be a serious situation because human need stories to construct their indentities and their worldview. if buth understand their self, there won't be many P 1 Like |
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