AfroKnight:
[size=13pt]What really annoys me right now is the OP calling her faithful. For crying out loud, she was still in a relationship with you when she clearly told you she had found someone else.

Did the new guy just appear from heaven like that? No!

She was playing you for like 2 months or more. You are here calling her faithful. Rubbish. Keep deceiving yourself.

You'd better realize how lucky you are to lose a fairweather girlfriend. Many men made (and still make) this painful discovery after marriage. Thank your creator and move on.[/size]

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.

Analysiscorner:
On another note, Bro, give not your strength to woman! When you are through with this episode, remember that.

ecosanders:
this bitches aint loyal at all, am currently in d same mess, though mine was just a year old before she start misbehaving, am seriously hurt right now, but i have to move on, i cant just imagine what i have not done for dis bitch, school fees, accommodation, laptops, phones family expenses etc..

its now she know her boyfriend in abroad have return.

dont kill urself o, she is not worth it.

2sex:
thanks bro. Well said. It's just pathetic how ungrateful these women are.

When I was growing up the news in town around Lawason. Zamba street was that a certain Ndubisi sponsored a girl from secondary to university level.

After graduating, she came with another guy to introduce to him as her husband to be.

What pain can be measured to that bro. A man toiled day and night to see this girl become better person so his family can have a better future as he didn't go to school. His shop was at the popular mbuka area of Lawanson and he was a family friend.

Women are devils. Quote me anywhere.

Decker:
Look bro, first things first. I'll advise that you don't relent in your hard work and search for a job, but you shouldn't make the mistake of doing all this with the mindset of winning your girl back.
To be honest with you, the girl made her decision and she chose someone else, someone more financially capable over you, despite the long way you the both of you had come. It's kind of sad, I know, but it's her choice and she has her reasons. She has told you she has moved on and I think you should too. Things like this happen at some point in our lives and when this kind of things happen, the best thing to do is to just wipe the dust of pain and regret off of you and move on with your life. That girl betrayed your love and friendship, all on the altar of having a better life. That tells a lot about her character and what exactly it is she wants from life. Even if you do win her back, which is highly improbable, what's your guarantee that she won't leave you for someone else in future when the going beings to get tough?

The thing about love is that it makes you think that person you are in love with is the best person out there, but that's not true.
You might think that no one can be as pretty and fun and smart and all those good qualities you admire in her, all in one, but there are actually other girls like that out there, better girls. And out of them, there is one for you. But in other for you to see them, you first have to remove the scales of supposed love from your eyes.
So, stop crying like a baby and get this girl off your mind, free yourself from all the negativity and keep looking for a job and I know you will find one. And when you do find one, work hard to be established in it, and along the line, you will find the right girl who really deserves you.

cruzita:
this is very serious,bro even as a woman I won't tell u to go back to her or beg her ,listen bro,its time to forget everything and move on ,she didn't see any future with you but another girl will,she feels insecure because of your job,but there is another girl who will accept u the way u are ,so wipe those years,cancel those suicidal thoughts in your mind,man up and take life easy and with time you will be your old self and nature might smile on you .SEE YA

cruzita:
this is very serious,bro even as a woman I won't tell u to go back to her or beg her ,listen bro,its time to forget everything and move on ,she didn't see any future with you but another girl will,she feels insecure because of your job,but there is another girl who will accept u the way u are ,so wipe those years,cancel those suicidal thoughts in your mind,man up and take life easy and with time you will be your old self and nature might smile on you .SEE YA

ogawisdom:


U ve a job of 40k n she calls u jobless, meanwhile u got her 80k job. By d way hw come u got her a good paying job n can't get one for urself

Advice: move on n sort ur end first b4 talking abt marriage. D girl is not really as good as u painted her, its jst dt u r blinded by love. She thinks a combined income of 120k can't start a family

She is ahead of u in d dating game n has moved on, learn ur lessons n move on too. If I hear suicide again d kind slap way I go give u will surely reboot ur brains

Bamz:
Decker,

I felt sad for the OP, but your post lifted my spirit. Great comment mate.

I'm not one for long dates, the longest date I'd have will be the one that leads to marriage.

Shoutout to all those who aren't letting love distract them from their dreams. There is time for everything.

Justdulla:
Forget crocodile tears and winning her back jare, your matter done dey vex me, are you God? Did you create your condition intentionally? Sha had the audacity to move on without giving a damn simply because Your Alert never soar and your talking of true love my foot, even 2 face when sing true love sef no true.... Dont be blindfolded by emotions and tears wake up man, I bet you in a week or 2 now those tears would stop she go come change hand for you, move on with your lifeshe couldnt stand the heat so she left the kitchen...... If I see you lamenting again, I go flog you koboko

veraiyke:
Go on and keep approaching her and on val day wich is morrow propose to her like you planned. If she refuses talk to her soul and remind her how far you guys ve come. If she insists tell her u'll never stop loving her n dat she is always welcomed. Also tell her her action may mar ur life n den kiss her n walk away. Just don't think of killing ursef. Just go on struggling for a better job. In fact look for it like neva before n wen u land it pay her a visit and tell her u wanted to know how she's doing. Kaskia. Hard but try

Naughtysite:


Who told you N40,000 cannot manage a home ? btw, how much do you earn ? Hahaha. Stop all this online forming. It is not the amount that matters but how you spend it.

I still live within N50,000 as personal expenses some months and i have 2 cars to maintain.

So tell me, wont his wife contribute her quota to the family upkeep ? Abi N80,000 cannot maintain a family too ?

swiffy:
Similar 2 Mine,same 7yrs.can't believe I can still Move On with life without him but tank goodness 4 everything though still finding it difficult 2 Love again. My advice is try not 2 be idle always keep ur self busy either by spending ur free time with good friends or reading ur bible, will prefer reading ur bible most especially before bed time I believe with dat,U wnt find it difficult 2 sleep at night n will also help U 2 tinkless at night. I knw its a very difficult task cus I can still remember d hell I went tru den,if not 4 God n my Loved Ones. I wuld av been history by now. so just try n 4get about her she does not deserve ur tears. A well deserved person will come ur way God's willing just b strong n wait 4 God's plan 4 U 2 manifest. take care

2sex:
yeah... it happens but the ratio is less when compared to what guys experience. don't dare refute it.

hurting:


Thanks bro! I fear she will get over me if I stay clear. I know her very well. And she is also heartbroken, she cries when I call her, as for d dressing, I have a very good dress sense, I kit well n dats one of d reason she loves me.

Justdulla:
Forget crocodile tears and winning her back jare, your matter done dey vex me, are you God? Did you create your condition intentionally? Sha had the audacity to move on without giving a damn simply because Your Alert never soar and your talking of true love my foot, even 2 face when sing true love sef no true.... Dont be blindfolded by emotions and tears wake up man, I bet you in a week or 2 now those tears would stop she go come change hand for you, move on with your lifeshe couldnt stand the heat so she left the kitchen...... If I see you lamenting again, I go flog you koboko