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Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by zemellive: 5:50pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
He was having lunch when she walked into the restaurant dressed in a red T-shirt and a pair of blue jeans trouser. She was tall, curvaceous too, with long curly hairs resting graciously on her shoulders. But what really held him spellbound was not the whiff of her fragrance as she walked past him; it was the dreamy eyes and a very pretty face. Stealing a glance at her made his heart skip a beat, then started racing as his palms grew clammy. After a long gaze, he worked up a different kind of appetite—an unusual urge to walk up to her just to transmit his feelings—an urge that he was to find irresistible. In the heat of the moment, he made what he thought was a crazy decision; but as it turns out, it was his lucky day. Now when you feel an instant, extreme, and ultimately long-lasting romantic attraction for a stranger on the first sight of them, you are experiencing what is referred to as love at first sight. The fact that you may not have experienced it does not mean that love at first sight does not exist. The Wall Street Journal, for instance, published a 2014 survey where 41% of men and 29% of women who participated in the study say they have experienced it. Love at first sight is the only thing that could make anyone walk up to a total stranger, and like Leigh Fallon, say “I know this is going to sound crazy, but... from the moment I first set eyes on you I haven't been able to stop thinking about you.” They just cannot hold back their feelings. But how do we differentiate love at first sight from lust at first sight? The answer to this question comes from a study called “Love is in the Gaze” conducted in one of the countries of the world that has the highest population of happy people—Switzerland. A study conducted in the University of Geneva, Switzerland “states that when we fall in love we tend to focus on the face of the other person, rather than the body.” This means that when people fall in lust, the vital statistics of the other person—for instance, in the case of a man in lust with a woman, the curvaceousness or how well rounded the derriere is would be critical in making decisions. However, do not forget that exceptions exist to every rule; some folks are good in the art of make belief so there is need for some other forms of checks before you could draw conclusions. On the other hand, experts say "Love at first sight" is, however, not the only mode of entering into passionate relationships; at times the passion could occur after the initial meeting or could precede the first glimpse. But here is what I find most interesting in the scientific study of love at first sight. In fact, studies show that there are two bases for love at first sight. Wikipedia documents the first basis: “the attractiveness of a person can be very quickly determined, with the average time in one study being 0.13 seconds.” A related study conducted by Dr. Stephanie Ortigue, a Syracuse University professor says that “feelings of love can occur as early as 0.2 seconds after first establishing visual contact with someone”. The second basis underscores the fact that the first few minutes—not the first moment, of a relationship have shown to be predictive of the relationship's future success, more so than what two people have in common or whether they like each other, according to Health & Science Publication 2009: “Love at first Sight may not be as implausible as it seems.” Before we take a look at the role of the brain in the release of love-related chemicals, how about finding out whether “infatuation” would give love or lust at first sight a new meaning? The good news is that infatuation (synonymous with the word “crush”)—an intense but short-lived and irrational passion for somebody, stands alone and not to be confused with love at first sight. Hillman and Phillips described it as “a desire to express the libidinal attraction of addictive love inspired with an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone.” The key word here is “libidinal” which owes its origin to the word “libido”—a big word for sex drive. This is another way of saying that infatuation has a sexual undertone. You might want to be cautious the next time someone tells you he’s got a crush on you. You might want to see the full text on: http://zemellive.com/love-at-first-sight-myth-or-reality/
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Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by Nobody: 5:50pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
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Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by Elosky20: 5:53pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
all i see is lust at 1st sight |
Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by may01(f): 5:54pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
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Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by RoyalBlak007: 5:55pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
reality |
Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by 1stluv(f): 5:58pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
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Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by JeffreyJamez(m): 6:00pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
Attraction: based on what you see Infatuation: based on what you feel Love: based on what you know Judging by this, it's safe to say......it's a myth! |
Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by Sunnypar(m): 6:03pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
Reality would set in once you are married. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by eaglejay13(m): 6:34pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
You're simply confusing love with attraction. Attraction can happen at first sight, but love develops with time. |
Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by Iamlordgee(m): 6:57pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
Nothing like that e.. |
Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by Medunah: 8:04pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
Its a Myth.... Love at first sight doesn't happen except ofcourse it's a mother who is sighting her newly born baby for the first time in d labour room |
Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by Nobody: 9:04pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
Medunah:She must have loved the child even before birth. 1 Like |
Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by Nobody: 9:05pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
Sunnypar:LoL |
Re: Love At First Sight:myth Or Reality? by myfantasies(f): 9:22pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
Love at first sight is nothing but a myth |
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