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Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by sofadj(m): 11:50pm On Feb 13, 2016 |
1. All those saying "move on"... do they know the meaning of 7 years ![]() 7 years is huge and trust me having been with someone for that long, it can never be easy to move in without them. But hey, she's gone so you are left with no other choice than to move on. However to make it easy... - Talk to a friend or group of frineds - they will help you get over it. You need people t be there for you - Try never to be alone for now - Get rid of things that will remind you of her ... pictures, gifts, delete her pics, unfollow on social sites, stop communicating with her totally. - Try never to be idle- always keep yourself busy - Focus on your job 2. For all those saying "She will regret it" blah blah, UNFORTUNATELY, THIS ISNT A MOVIE OR A FAIRYTALE - SHE MAY NOT RGRET IT As a matter of fact, she may end up living happily ever after with her new found "rich" boo. but hey, that's life - not always fair atleast from the human perspective. But you can't beat yourself up about that. Forget trying to get rich inorder to impress or show her. LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOU. GET RICH FOR THE SOLE PURPOSE OF HELPING YOUR FAMILY & RELATIVES AND HUMANITY IN SHORT FORGET SHE EXISTS AND MOVE ON BRO. 7 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by hurting: 12:35am On Feb 14, 2016 |
airmirthd1:Chai! I don enta! ![]() Thanks dear 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by drsibz66(m): 12:50am On Feb 14, 2016 |
Young man your dad will be very ashamed of you if he knows you have being crying because a woman left you becos u not earning enough. Something has to change for changes to happen. That's reality. Your seven yrs babe is gone hope you ready for the new phase of your life. Its either going to be better or worse ... You decide. I think God has finally looked into your matter. Its not easy to be a man.. Sometimes pains can just be the catalyst we need. You were loving recklessly na u don bash your heart. If I were you tomoro I go suit up go church and church .. Drink wella. Then monday visit all the companies for my city looking for that job. U must get job. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by ifeomaekol(f): 4:22am On Feb 14, 2016 |
Decker:hope he gets to read this. Enuf advice, enuf written. Pray God sees him through. Wuldnt evn advice him to win dt lady bck, dias no guarantee dt she's a keeper. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Icemany: 8:04am On Feb 14, 2016 |
I will tell you the bitter truth,not because of your present circumstance but for the future and also for the MEN in this forum. There is no such thing as 50-50 love. Someone is always investing more emotionally.In this case I can safely say it was you.Never love someone more than she loves you or you are setting yourself up for a huge disaster. Take this time out to apologise to someone.YOU! Start treating yourself better and love yourself more. And remember whenever you find yourself in a relationship always make sure your partner makes more sacrifices and loves you more.Even at that, still expect disappointments from her. Cheers Bro! |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 3:40pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
Why will a high paying job be a criteria for marriage?. So funny she is just looking for excuses to leave you but life goes on. Move on, work hard and make ur money you will see love again. If she comes back when you condition has changed, don't hesitate to put her in the trash. She is not faithful but a gold digger. 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 3:46pm On Feb 14, 2016 |
sofadj:is the guy I pity because to the lady 7yrs was nothing. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by ariyike23(f): 3:59pm On Feb 15, 2016 |
scantee: lol,ao was ur vals day? hope yu didnt miss her den?pele dear |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by scantee(m): 11:27pm On Feb 15, 2016 |
ariyike23:lol miss ke! Not @all..besides i am still on vocation, how are u ur lordship? |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by ariyike23(f): 12:14pm On Feb 16, 2016 |
scantee: Am quite good,do av fun... Nd be safe |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by zoomman(m): 1:05pm On Feb 16, 2016 |
Candybob:Gbam u nail it bro especially the aspect that u mentioned bottle of orijin and pepper soup...yay 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by scantee(m): 2:24pm On Feb 17, 2016 |
ariyike23:yes ur lordship |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 1:41pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
scantee: U moved on from your fiancee? Wow! I really need to be Strong and move on from my ex..The wounds are still fresh, I wake up in the mornings feeling weak and sad! God help me! |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by scantee(m): 3:59pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
Jadeite:my dear is really not easy @ll, the breakup makes me drink a lot just to be happy and forget her...though she is now begging me to take her back, but i have seen her through colour, as she breakup close to our traditional marriage it has to stand that way no going back |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 4:07pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
scantee: Awwwww na.. .Plesse do not drink..Please,don't do DAT...You will only hurt yourself more..You are supposed to be a testimony to the broken hearts in the city..Be of good cheer, the pain will fade..God bless. 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by scantee(m): 4:38pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
Jadeite:ya i dnt drink much...though, i am ok now only thinks about her whenever i visits the some area we normaly visited together, being an outing & frexing type is really hard to cope especially seeing other guys there with their love ones.. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Michelle55: 4:49pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
really short of words though.. but GOd will see those of you experiencing heartbreaks through and help you to move on.. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by yinkeys(m): 6:20pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
scantee:Bros you need to spend some nights with a classy but pretty bad biatch I swear. Emotions cloud our logical reasoning sometimes. The funny thing is I don't know why a lot of guys are blind to certain things. A lot of guys can't tell the difference between a good girl from a bad one. My question today is this, can you tell the difference between a good one/wife material from a bad one/lifetime mistake? I just want to be real online, I hope some nairalanders won't come bashing me for being judgemental. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by scantee(m): 8:04pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
yinkeys:bro i am not the OP oh, though i am in the same shoe with, for ur question surely i can differentiate. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by smartigo: 9:38pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
hurting: You r so naive abt women! |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 6:33am On Feb 19, 2016 |
scantee: Nothing wrong with drinking but careful it doesn't become blown to alcohol dependence I for one can't easily forget issues without alcohol. But it helps to be sober at times sha avoid beer too much sugar. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Am1na(f): 11:57am On Feb 19, 2016 |
I have read previous comments and I can tell you everyone has provided the best advice they can. OP, it's sad that you were treated this way but I am going to give my comments from a lady's perspective. My comments are going to be harsh, but I will do so with all honesty. 1. "I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy." Unfortunately, she doesn’t love you as much as you do her. 2. "We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school." LOL, you are still living in Disney world 3."Now this lady has been supportive all d way" Lies!!! She has been with as a backup until she gets someone better, she only stayed by your side until she gets her type. painful, but the truth. 4. "after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have" You made a mistake, you shouldn’t have lived with her in the first place, I’m not trying to judge you but that’s the truth. 5. "she earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there" She now finds herself on another level, sadly, you hastened this process. 6. "She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job" She gave you hints on the type of person she is, but since you have been blindfolded by love, you couldn’t read between the lines. Don’t be surprised if she already found someone when she started giving those excuses. 7. "but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status." Now you have been given a forced ride to reality 8. "I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before" Please stop doing that and stop embarrassing yourself. Her level don change and its left for you to move on 9. "She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind" Yes, nau, her man don come. She was holding on to you until she gets her man, man of her standard with a well-paying job, big car, bigger than the car she has now. What do you expect 10. "She still loves me" Lies! A woman who truly loves her man, would do anything to defend her man, with or without a job. So she spent seven years with a man she loves and can still imagine having a future without him, you should redefine what you mean by love because it seems you are confused 11. "Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days" No body will stop you from doing that, but, remember whether you commit suicide or not, she will get married to the highest bidder that comes her way, have kids with him and forget you ever existed. Be smart. Don’t waste your life because of a woman. 12. "I try to let go but cant" Why do you have such low esteem, if someone you ve been with for 7 years tells you she has found someone else. Don't you think you don’t deserve someone else or even better? You better wake up. 13. "am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back" That will be your biggest mistake if you do that. So you want to get a job so that you win someone who dumped you over your employment status, nawa for your kind person. You better look for a job to advance yourself and your career and forget about ever winning her back even if she comes begging. She is not your wife and will not stand by you through thick and thin and sees no future in you. OP to be honest, you have been living in Disney land for 7 years. The love you described here only exists in your head and it means absolutely nothing to her. You have devoted your time and invested your emotions trying to please someone when you should have invested on your career. 14. "She is not after riches just d basics" You are only deceiving yourself, what would you call 35 to 40 000? She is after the riches and you don’t have it now, so she moved on , why be with someone like that? The way forward (my opinion): 1. You should be grateful to God for removing such a woman from your life 2. Commit your life into God's hands 2. Remove this lady from your head, there are many women who will be willing to accept you despite your predicament, I’m sure they exist, but your love for this lady has blinded you. NB: Not all women are like your girl 3. Concentrate on looking for a job 4. Once you get that high paying job and she realises you are doing better than the guy she's with, (even if she is married she may try to contact you), don’t listen to her and move on A word is enough for the wise. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 11:33am On Apr 20, 2018 |
hurting: How did this end? You moved on to someone else or married her? |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 11:59am On Apr 20, 2018 |
oodua1stson: Hahaha this your story typifies the norm with ladies. Karma's a b*tch |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 12:20pm On Apr 20, 2018 |
Rejoice5000: Another confused specie spotted. You knew what you wanted in a husband but stuck in a relationship for 9 years with a guy you knew you would never marry. Who did who? Confused entities. What's the point of being in a relationship when you can't marry the individual |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 12:26pm On Apr 20, 2018 |
AreaFada2: Is this for real ? |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by AreaFada2: 3:33pm On Apr 20, 2018 |
rikemsmedia: As real as day & night. Two of her daughters that followed her (their father gave them the choice to stay or move with their mum, the girls went & the boys decided to stay with their dad) today have broken marriages too. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 4:15pm On Apr 20, 2018 |
AreaFada2: You have a cache of bad gists buddie. I have come to notice when ladies from broken homes stay under their mother, their marriages end up broken too, the trail of bad luck continues. The woman should go beg the man for prayer. Obviously, it has become a cycle. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 4:16pm On Apr 20, 2018 |
AreaFada2: You have a cache of bad gists buddie. I have come to notice when ladies from broken homes stay under their mother, their marriages end up broken too, the trail of bad luck continues. The woman should go beg the man for prayer. Obviously, it has become a cycle. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by AreaFada2: 4:24pm On Apr 20, 2018 |
rikemsmedia:It comes with life experience and being observant & aware of your environment. The matter is women often manage to brainwash their daughters and cast the hubby as a villain, even in cases where the hubby isn't. That is why many guilty women try to avoid their daughters seeing their dad. So that they never hear the truth. In a few cases the daughters have turned to be the exact opposite. They made a determined effort not to have a broken home. Such girls are usually single-minded and able to figure things out for themselves. Therefore hard to brainwash. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 4:52pm On Apr 20, 2018 |
AreaFada2: But this creates more problem " In a few cases the daughters have turned to be the exact opposite. They made a determined effort not to have a broken home. Such girls are usually single-minded and able to figure things out for themselves. Therefore hard to brainwash." Ladies from broken homes can be problematic, especially when they don't have a male figure over them. It leads to a lot of problems down the line. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Rejoice5000(f): 9:12am On Apr 22, 2018 |
rikemsmedia:yes 9yrs because am not ready to settle down then,apart from it i knew wat i wanted in a man,dat was yrs back am married now wit kids. |
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