Nowadays many people will come out shouting that 'my marriage is this my marriage is that' shortly after their marriage and you keep wondering what happened. I think I have some of the reasons.

Handsomeness or Beauty
This is the problem of some Nigeria girls but the guys are not also exempted. They are like, 'if I want to get marry, I will a tall guy, slim, fresh guy, dark, light, eloquent english, pink lips, big breast ( for guys),. Its good to have the image of want you for your life but I must tell you, few years after wedding, all this beauty will fade away. Its not as if the partner will loose the beauty or handsomeness but then, you will focus your mind on important issues like feeding, taking care of children and so on than facial look.

Faulty Courting
Courting should be like a training ground or should I say where what you really want for your family life is decided before marriage but unfortunately Nigerians see it as merry time. Moving from Kfc to Shoprite. If you see something wrong in your spouse to be, correct him or her then if he/she refuses, cancel the relationship so as to avoid 'you know me like this ooo before we get marry issue'

Two parallel lines
I know of some families where the husband will be a gentle going man while the wife is really tough then you keep wondering how it happened. Issues like this also break marriages. If you are the kind of guy that does not like trouble, please don't date a troublesome lady and thinking that you can bear it now. What you can bear now my not be so years later after marriage. Love may be blind but marriage is the tool that will open it. Choose carefully my brothers and sisters.

Respect
Respect is equivalent to love. You can't tell me you love a guy you want to get married to and you can't give him the respect he deserves even if you are age mates. This is where most Nigerians ladies are missing it. Some ladies don't want to marry men older than them by few years because they don't want to be controlled by any man. A lady who does not respect you as her boyfriend will surely not respect your family and that's it.

Don't let your parent or church choose your future husband for you
I have heard of some cases where some churches will tell you to marry your church member. For what reason my fellow nairalanders? Don't ever do that because when you finally face challenges in that marriage, all they can do is advise both of you. Finally, don't let your parent dictate the tribe to marry to you. You owe your life and not your parent's life

#still your boy CUTEBOBO

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This land ain't for sale?

Nice one op

Thing about marriage is that one MUST vehemently pray before you go into it..what the Op adumbrated are just some,out of copious reasons why marriages break down irretrievably.

Remember: when a man/woman is married,trouble begins,simply because WE are MEN and THEY are WOMEN.

Mutuwa:
Thing about marriage is that one MUST vehemently pray before you go into it..what the Op adumbrated are just some,out of copious reasons why marriages break down irretrievably.

Remember: when a man/woman is married,trouble begins,simply because WE are MEN and THEY are WOMEN.

You are right about the prayer aspect but how many of us can bodly say I am are highly spiritual. So its better talking from moral aspects too.

Oh my God! My topic on the front page again the third time.

What is the role of the church/parent?

Acidosis:
What is the role of the church/parent?

To guide in choosing the right person and not choosing or dictating who to marry to you.

cutebobo:

To guide in choosing the right person and not choosing or dictating who to marry to you.

okay, thanks

Truth is that 90% of people who venture into marriage know those things OP mentioned even more, but trust some human beings, they just want to do things ''In their own way,'' (mostly negative) forgetting that what is wrong can never be right and will never be...

cutebobo:


You are right about the prayer aspect but how many of us can bodly say I am are highly spiritual. So its better talking from moral aspects too.

Any person who says he is spiritually high is a fake.
The real ones only need acknowledgment from the Almighty,than telling the world how closer to him they are.

Moral aspect to is indispensable.But what is morality in itself? What is the moral standard required towards the fortification of a successful marriage?

Hmmm


Nice post Op

Hmmm

Sinaj, take note.

OK..rhetoric

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Hmmmmmm

Wetin to do self naim be my problem


I neva get tym for Love.

qqq

Mutuwa:
Thing about marriage is that one MUST vehemently pray before you go into it..what the Op adumbrated are just some,out of copious reasons why marriages break down irretrievably.

Remember: when a man/woman is married,trouble begins,simply because WE are MEN and THEY are WOMEN.

Stop with this religious bruhaha...

Marriage is about understanding and mutual respect garnished with undiluted love and trust. Are you trying to say Pastor Chris Oyakhilome and Chris Okojie and not prayer commando's?

Your assertion of prayer is inconsequential in building a loving home.

btw

I don't agree with No 5

marriage cannot be predicted, it is individualistic

Nice one @ OP

respect

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cutebobo:
Nowadays many people will come out shouting that 'my marriage is this my marriage is that' shortly after their marriage and you keep wondering what happened. I think I have some of the reasons.

Handsomeness or Beauty
This is the problem of some Nigeria girls but the guys are not also exempted. They are like, 'if I want to get marry, I will a tall guy, slim, fresh guy, dark, light, eloquent english, pink lips, big breast ( for guys),. Its good to have the image of want you for your life but I must tell you, few years after wedding, all this beauty will fade away. Its not as if the partner will loose the beauty or handsomeness but then, you will focus your mind on important issues like feeding, taking care of children and so on than facial look.

Faulty Courting
Courting should be like a training ground or should I say where what you really want for your family life is decided before marriage but unfortunately Nigerians see it as merry time. Moving from Kfc to Shoprite. If you see something wrong in your spouse to be, correct him or her then if he/she refuses, cancel the relationship so as to avoid 'you know me like this ooo before we get marry issue'

Two parallel lines
I know of some families where the husband will be a gentle going man while the wife is really tough then you keep wondering how it happened. Issues like this also break marriages. If you are the kind of guy that does not like trouble, please don't date a troublesome lady and thinking that you can bear it now. What you can bear now my not be so years later after marriage. Love may be blind but marriage is the tool that will open it. Choose carefully my brothers and sisters.

Respect
Respect is equivalent to love. You can't tell me you love a guy you want to get married to and you can't give him the respect he deserves even if you are age mates. This is where most Nigerians ladies are missing it. Some ladies don't want to marry men older than them by few years because they don't want to be controlled by any man. A lady who does not respect you as her boyfriend will surely not respect your family and that's it.

Don't let your parent or church choose your future husband for you
I have heard of some cases where some churches will tell you to marry your church member. For what reason my fellow nairalanders? Don't ever do that because when you finally face challenges in that marriage, all they can do is advise both of you. Finally, don't let your parent dictate the tribe to marry to you. You owe your life and not your parent's life

#still your boy CUTEBOBO

as much as I admire your write up ...I think it all base on your own personal intuition ...everyone has their own personal views towards marriage


your last point though, the place of parent in choosing life partner cant be relegated either ..they can advice and tell from experience but a child may be blinded by the afore mentioned points but may need help of the parent as eye opener...but although not all parents are mothers and real dad if u know what I mean.. put God first though

for me, The heart gets to me first


Ion think I've ever dated any girl coz of beauty


Though good but it isn't a determinant


Women age faster than men



So when she begins to age



Her character is what's left!



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