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Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by dacovajnr: 11:51am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Do we Nairalanders a favour by dropping her digit here trust us she go hear wien! By d tym we take insult adjust her destiny ...that one Is possessed 5 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by joanana(f): 11:51am On Feb 18, 2016 |
@OP you are in my prayers!!!!! To avoid problems in your home , stop telling her of plans that concerns your brother and his family. Do not stop whatever you are doing for your brothers family; in giving we receive. Most people don't know that to receive , you will have to give. God will continue to bless the work of your hands and i pray that God will change the perception of your wife. No one knows tomorrow!!!!!! For peace to rain in your home whenever she ask about your brother, tell her they are fine.shekina! 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by stonemasonn: 11:51am On Feb 18, 2016 |
4C2215131:OK, as an advice to the OP in this situation where should he (the OP) work on his self? |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Nobody: 11:53am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Mindfulness: this is nobody's is perfect thing....she is plain wicked. ur family is ur family no matter what....and it's ur family dat will bury u,not ur wife. 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by whobemumu(m): 11:55am On Feb 18, 2016 |
What u need is water cane ! Just wait the next time she misbehaves beat the shit out of her . She will advice herself. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by therapistmrs: 11:55am On Feb 18, 2016 |
You need not get too angry with her cos some women are like that.nobody is perfect so consider this has your wife's but.as long as you remember family first and another thing you can do is help others without tellingbher if she keeps getting angry all the time. Do not forget to plan and save for the future because life is funny,thats if you understand what I mean. All the best therapistmrs..com |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Funkybabee(f): 11:55am On Feb 18, 2016 |
at Op u done enter one chance ooo that's wat I usually tell a man that he should not overlook his fiance behavior when they are in courtship, that behavior of ur wife is surely bad because she also have her also brother and care for them.my advice for u is that don't let her control u in giving things to ur brother because u don't know wat future we say,and what u did today we matter wat u will get in future there are a lot of the same issue like that in today's family just use ur brain in any thing u are doing and not to destroy ur new marriage Its well with u. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by ifeomaekol(f): 11:56am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Op yes u married d wrong woman simple. Our wealth shuld be used to help humanity, and if she cnt understand dt u hv to help ur brother, then she's bad. This is wat to do---- do nt tell her wen u wnt to give any of ur family member anything, jux do it on ur own. Rem dt dia is a blessing attached to those who give, my brother u dnt kw tomrw, so make sure u give as long as u hv it to give. And be careful wt her, d truth is dt u r yet to see oda characters of hers dt she hid during courtship, bt bck urself up wt prayer, d lord ll see u through. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by sunnyt1(m): 11:56am On Feb 18, 2016 |
There is no such thing as a wrong person, she only has a wrong mentality about relationships and interdependability. This is the reason why i take everything a partner tells me seriously, every trait is prerequisie to something serious. When she told u she left her ex because of the number of dependants attached to him what were you thinking sir? It means if this issue with your bro had come up before she married you she would have looked for a BETTER person, and i must tell you, thats what she is thinking right now. Its a reflection of her (and many people) outlook to life and people, she believes everyone should cater for his/herself but life is not that way, one might be on the other end of the table in 5 years. You only need to talk to her gradually and in love, it will shock you to know that women like this will stick with you even if you have nothing, they just dont want anything to interfere with their comfort. Like i said, talk to her so she can understand that there is no greater investment than helping others, not your family members alone. Gradually, she will come to your page 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by freecocoa(f): 11:58am On Feb 18, 2016 |
4C2215131:Oh! Well, sounded a lot like we were having a conversation, not restricting whoever cares to join in, of course I understand that you weren't trying to preach to me per se, my reply was just saying I share the same belief. Don't get it twisted, like they would say, we cool bro. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by mondaypaul77(m): 12:00pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
My eldest brother's wife is a good case study. She even tried disrespecting my mum in her presence by asking my immediate elder brother to leave the house. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Acidosis(m): 12:01pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
Princewell2012: 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Nobody: 12:01pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
freecocoa: This! The audacity is beyond me. A younger brother's wife calling her older brother Inlaw to bring back things her husband gave! Chai. May we not see affliction that will warrant such insults. The wife needs serious mature handling. And it is the husband's job to do that. No beating and cruelty. But firm talk and action. 5 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by mondaypaul77(m): 12:02pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
I will ask her to go if she is not comfortable with it.
Nonsenseopportunist 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Odunharry(m): 12:02pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
Acidosis:Acid God bless you for this observation 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 4C2215131: 12:03pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
stonemasonn: In all honesty, I can't actually comment on that given the limited case file ( he spoke about his spouse mostly). I do not know him entirely and it'd be unfair to attempt to make an in-depth profile of his person. The conclusions I drew about him in my post were derived ones. I made calculated guesses with regard to his person judging by the way he went about the whole issue. But if I am to hazard a recommendation, it'd be what folks have been harping on; he should toe a firmer stance with regards to his significant other. 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by dederocs(m): 12:06pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
oga u be mugu,women full everywhere,abi dem tie u rope with her? marriage no be do or die,if its not working kick her out-she is a wicked soul. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 4C2215131: 12:06pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
freecocoa: Would have couched my post in the appropriate terms to denote I was addressing anyone who cared to read but I guess I was just being lazy. Will do that henceforth even if it is in a reply to your post just so we don't get it "twisted" eh? But this one is for you o! |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Odunharry(m): 12:07pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
cococandy:right thinking person... 1000 likes 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by EmmyUrch: 12:07pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
yemi16: |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by freecocoa(f): 12:12pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
4C2215131:You still don't get it, there is nothing wrong with your post, I guess you have a problem with the phrase 'preaching to the choir ", you don't have to, not in this case as it's only me agreeing with you. Also seems you don't remember quoting me with the said comment. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 100Cents: 12:14pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
yemi16: How much is this your wife earning per month ? Check ! Now tell me, if you leave your office to do a deposit or ATM transfer to your brother's account even if weekly, how will your wife know ? Is it after broadcasting it to her, you come here to rant. Brother, learn wisdom.. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 100Cents: 12:15pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
afilaka: Is that what the bible says ? |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 100Cents: 12:16pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
yemi16: Funny dude.. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Jay5000(m): 12:16pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
OP; Two things... First, You sound like a sissy. Secondly, the fact that her reason for breaking up with her ex didn't raise a red flag speaks volumes of the way you think, and so it is not a surprise that you ended up with a woman like that. You need to take control of your life. Call her to order. If she cannot submit, send her packing. God will understand. After all, He permitted divorce in the days of Moses and our days are no less evil. Or are you seriously planning to put up with this woman for the rest of your long life? If so, good luck. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Nobody: 12:18pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
yemi16: ifeomaekol: yemi16:op you are a good Man. Don't stop helping not only your people but outsiders if need be. Always remember the world is a round table. like IFEOMA said, put your wife into prayers. God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 4C2215131: 12:20pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
freecocoa: I get it perfectly. Was just explaining to you why it may have sounded like I was addressing you given that I quoted you and made use of personal pronouns ( would have fared better using collective ones). Was just trying to make light of the whole thang. I know we're in sync (at least with regards to this palaver). Maybe I don't know how to tell a joke. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by freecocoa(f): 12:25pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
4C2215131:Hahaha, okay then. Seriously though, I just feel like confronting the OP's wife. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 4C2215131: 12:30pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
freecocoa: Will take the bold step some day and time dem knots but in the meantime, really doing some real research, troubleshooting and whatnot. Don't want to end up with a lemon or knucklehead for a spouse. I'm sure given the comments, the OP sure has an idea on what to do by now. If he doesn't, its signed sealed and delivered to the cleaners for him. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by nezer83: 12:35pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
Mindfulness:I don't agree with you sir, his wife attitude towards his siblings is just disgusting and unwarranted. That he married her does not stop him from helping his siblings and this how some wife sow bad seed between brothers. @OP you ignored the signs and signed the contract, well its a cross you have to carry. All you need is wisdom so that your home and relationship with your siblings is not destroyed. God help you. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by freecocoa(f): 12:37pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
4C2215131:I'm telling you o, that's one of the worst things that can happen to a person, marrying a knucklehead that is, the troubleshooting and whatnot is really important. I fear that the OP's wife will not be easy to live with, especially if he's going to keep helping people, I mean this chick left a man for helping his folks, I just hope she adjusts sha but people like her, hardly ever change in the real sense of the word, I wish him all the luck he can get. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by sunsewa: 12:39pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
she showed u the sign before u married her,u made a mistake by marrying her after what she told abt her last af fair, though might not be the real issues that ended the affair,my advice,don't apologize, confront her headlong on the issue and don't soft pedal,is a Battle u must fight for her to be submissive,her type needs it especially considering she has the mind to call ur brother to bring back those stuff,too early for her to have such mind,moreover who knows tomorrow, that ur brother might be of help in one thing or the other,am 10years in marriage now with 4kids,at least I have encountered so many of that,but I have to keep love one side to tackle the issue. |
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