The feelings of love may be the same for both sexes but the stages of love are an entirely unique experience. Understand how men think and how men fall in love.

When women fall in love, it’s filled with bursts of happiness and miss-you texts.

When men fall in love, well, it’s just different. So how do men fall in love and what really goes on in a man’s mind?

For men, falling in love is a happy experience, but love doesn’t really kick in for a while.

While women may experience an intense surge of affections as soon as they meet a guy they like, the mind of men doesn’t really work that way.

How men fall in love – The seven stages of love

Stage 1 – Appreciation

This is all about physical appearance and instant attraction. Now this should clear the doubts out for women though. Men are rather shallow when it comes to getting attracted at first sight.

While women may fall in love in the first conversation, men are attracted to a woman only for her physical aspects, and nothing else.

Physical appearance is paramount for men, but it may not necessarily be the entire package. Each guy has his own preferences in what he likes about a woman, be it her face, her legs, her smile or even the way she runs her hands through her hair.

A guy may not even know what it is about a girl that he likes, but if he finds something attractive in her, he may experience the appreciation stage.

Stage 2 – Infatuation

Men appreciate a lot of women on a daily basis. They try to steal second glances or get a girl’s attention all the time. But it’s not always a success, either because he’s not trying hard enough or because the woman’s just not interested in him. The infatuation stage of how men fall in love is also the wooing stage of love for men in the dating game.

A man may appreciate a lot of women, but he doesn’t really get infatuated by all of them. If he appreciates a woman, and is interested in wooing her or pursuing her, he enters into the infatuation phase.

A man may pursue a woman in various ways, but if she doesn’t accept his advances he usually forgets the girl as just another attractive girl he wanted to go out with. It’s easier for a man to like a girl one day and forget he ever liked her the next because he has so many stages to deal with before he even makes up his mind on falling in love

Stage 3 – Attraction

If an attractive girl reciprocates to a guy’s advances, he enters into the attraction stage of love. Until this stage, a guy can walk away from a girl without any pain or heartbreak even if the girl rejects him. He’s not really trying too hard, and he’s not really fallen in love to care about a rejection when he’s just trying to get lucky.

But if a girl does show the slightest sign of reciprocation or interest in the guy, or even if he assumes she’s into him, the guy digs deep into this stage, the attraction stage. In this stage, he decides to pursue the girl and make her like him

Stage 4 – Impression

Understanding how men fall in love is complicated stuff, but quite frankly, he’s nowhere close to falling in love right now even in this stage. All he wants to do is make the girl like him. He shows off his mating potential to her. He plans dates and splurges on gifts to please the girl. He’s definitely not in love, but he does want something good to come out of this stage of impressions.

Stage 5 – Conviction

If a guy’s successfully breezing through the different stages of love, he’d start to wonder if there’s something more in the air. But instead of falling in love with the girl, all he’s worried about is how to convince the girl to fall in love with him.

He would really like the girl in this stage and would definitely want to go out with her, but the uncertainty would still confuse him and he would not be at ease until he’s certain the girl likes him.

This stage is especially prominent when a guy falls in love with a friend. He can’t really try to impress her by buying gifts or taking her out on dates, but yet, he wouldn’t be able to stop pondering over how to convince the girl to go out with him. In this stage, all a guy cares about is how to get the girl to like him.

Stage 6 – Reaffirmation

If he’s able to convince the girl and make her fall in love with him, he’s a happy man. He likes where the dating game is heading.

But until now, in his pursuit of getting the girl to like him, he’s not asked himself if he really likes the girl and whether he actually wants to go out with her. Until this stage of love, getting the girl to like him was a goal he’s been focused on. Once the girl is in love with him, only then does a man seriously start to consider if he wants to have a relationship with the girl who now loves him.

It’s a selfish move, but it’s something evolution has taught all male species. “Don’t waste time thinking. Spend your time searching for more places to bust a nut.”

Now that the girl is in love with him, he takes a couple of days to sit back and weigh the pros and the cons of being in a relationship with that girl. Does he really love the girl too? Will he be happy with her? Is she the woman he wants and needs?

Stage 7 – He’s ready to love

If a man’s convinced that he truly likes the girl and wants to be with her, he enters this final stage of love where he’s ready to fall in love with the girl. On the other hand, if he’s not really convinced that the girl is the right mate for him, he may start avoiding her or losing interest in pleasing her because of his confusion.

Ever dated a really great guy who started behaving like a jerk a couple of weeks into love? Well, you know what happened now, don’t you?

How men fall in love with a woman is annoying. And it’s more annoying to know that men have to actually make women fall in love with them before they even think about going out with you, but that’s the way men fall in love and they really have no choice about it.


culled from LOVEPANKY

Bone that thing joh! Love nur dey Paramount to them men for now, na hustling dey their mind.
60% of NL guys will convince you that love doesn't exist. Lol.

Nice write-up anyways.

Lol nice one



Lol



Abeg where ma E.boo @

Come tell which stage ur love @

sinaj:
Lol nice one



Lol



Abeg where ma E.boo @

Come tell which stage ur love @

Im at stage one

lanicky:
Bone that thing joh! Love nur dey Paramount to them men for now, na hustling dey their mind.
60% of NL guys will convince you that love doesn't exist. Lol.

Nice write-up anyways.

After the hustle and bustle, to the few that still plan on settling down, this still applies.

sinaj:
Lol nice one



Lol



Abeg where ma E.boo @

Come tell which stage ur love @

1 and 3 but I guess its just mere dreams and fantasy , some dreams just never come true

so true,couldn't agree more.

hertz9te:
so true,couldn't agree more.

So are you in any stage right now with any potential lady at the moment?

sickstars:


Im at stage one

stage one since how many months now

timidapsin:

1 and 3 but I guess its just mere dreams and fantasy , some dreams just never come true

never say never

sinaj:
stage one since how many months now

since 2 decades nd a leap year

Pls, summary

Oma307:
Pls, summary

Don't be lazy. Read.

sinaj:
never say never

okay.... well how are you doing?

mayonnaise:


So are you in any stage right now with any potential lady at the moment?

123....on 3 different ones..it's crazy

hertz9te:
123....on 3 different ones..it's crazy

Normal bro. You're just not into her I guess

Good.
At least someone gets it that there is nothing like ' love at first sight' .


Its always Attraction. It takes time to build love


Nice write up op .

This one get time oh...

STAGE 8
He wants to fvck her b4 he's been regarded as a mugu, cos naija gals are full of comedy!

sinaj:
Lol nice one



Lol



Abeg where ma E.boo @

Come tell which stage ur love @

you know I love you immediately I saw your pix...

Where you see all these likes? You cheating right?

Diddyydiva:
Good.

At least someone gets it that there is nothing like ' love at first sight' .



Its always Attraction. It takes time to build love



Nice write up op .

my ijebu gf

Diddyydiva:
Good.

At least someone gets it that there is nothing like ' love at first sight' .



Its always Attraction. It takes time to build love



Nice write up op .

Thanks. Attraction is all there is. That's what it's all about at the end. Being attracted to someone and staying attracted to that person.


The love part is just the caring part(which is overrated)

lockup tinz na im sure pass

jonaifame22:
STAGE 8
He wants to fvck her b4 he's been regarded as a mugu, cos naija gals are full of comedy!

Naija girls? Hmmm stereotypes. If you were white, I believe you would be racist.

mayonnaise:



Normal bro. You're just not into her I guess

I guess so..still willing to try though,wanna see what will come out of it..but it beats me how this love thing works,,I doubt it's existence sometimes

ipledge10:
my ijebu gf

Hi.


I hope you reply me this time tho. Cos every time you quote me, you dont reply me again

alkines:
lockup tinz na im sure pass

Abi. U sound like Warri person. So which stage u dey with that potential girl?

hertz9te:

I guess so..still willing to try though,wanna see what will come out of it..but it beats me how this love thing works,,I doubt it's existence sometimes

Love is just care bro. Don't read too much into it.



Attraction is what matters.

mayonnaise:



Love is just care bro. Don't read too much into it.


Attraction is what matters.

I believe you

Diddyydiva, what stage do you think your significant half would be in atm?

mayonnaise:



Thanks. Attraction is all there is. That's what it's all about at the end. Being attracted to someone and staying attracted to that person.


The love part is just the caring part(which is overrated)

I think attraction is what brings you together, Love is what keeps you together

Love is Misused jare

It now like national anthem , the song we sing without meaning it