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Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Nobody: 7:18pm On Feb 21, 2016
Adonis3:



omo


Guy na u bad pass oooshocked



Sotey u dey cram name



Tiri gbosa for u!!!grin



#Adonis3HasSopken

Lol bro no be like dat oo
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Tsam96(m): 7:24pm On Feb 21, 2016
coolsix:
Did anybody else notice that his username is the name of a sex movie?

It is well with you sir

and u noticed it...choi....u have the same problem with the op.....God bless ur soul
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Nobody: 7:33pm On Feb 21, 2016
Tsam96:

and u noticed it...choi....u have the same problem with the op.....God bless ur soul

i only remember seeing the movie advert once online a long time ago.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Marlvin(m): 7:38pm On Feb 21, 2016
Really I don't know what to say, you're lost man. you're more of a fūcker than I'm.




make out time n go for a med test, for STD's or HIV.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Burnnotice(m): 7:39pm On Feb 21, 2016
I don't wanna hurt you but you live for the pain' I'm not trying to say it but its what you became' you want me to fix you but its not never enough that's why you always call me cos you scared!!!
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by ThundrCork(m): 7:59pm On Feb 21, 2016
OP your condition has no cure. go into porn business, do not let your talent go to waste cheesy

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Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by klassic(m): 8:06pm On Feb 21, 2016
After reading your story, I feel for you bro. But I am so so ashamed of the comments herein.
Now back to the topic. Only you can stop this. It's not gonna be easy, but you will get thru if you have the will power. Follow these easy steps and remember to stick to it. You will fail and fall at times, but yes you will gradually work it out.
Step 1. If you have just one bank acct, open another were 75%of your salary goes to, you won't have online baking or atm card on this acct, you can only make over the counter withdrawals.
You are not allowed to touch it except it's an emergency which your sponsor(confidant must verify) if you don't have excess cash on you, you won't club or visit brothel no matter the urge.

Step 2: Deactivate online accounts if any. You can't subscribe if you don't have money in them.
You can have another bank acct with atm card from were you make your daily expenses. And if you have other source(s) of income apart from your salary, 75% of same goes to your aforesaid account after titling, while the balance 25% goes to your expenditure acct.

Step3: If you are a Christian, get a Christian brother or any other matured disciplined brother(somebody you respect, fear, love and lookup to) who is more of a mentor, and confide in him. Just ask him to help you thru your plans by keeping an eye on you. Calls you Friday evenings , Saturdays and Sundays at any hour to be sure you are home. And any time you are having the urge or desire to do sometime stupid call him for help before he finishes with you on the phone, the desire will be dead even if you had a Beatiful naked lady standing in front of you and seducing you. Remember you must keeping your phones switched on and no excuses . if no light find a means of charging them get a power bank or so.
This might be difficult, but you can do it. I mean you can approach him/her and share your problem with him. Just do a background check to be sure he is not a parrot or a judge. I asked you to conduct a background check, cos there are some brethren, that can't keep their mouth shut or hide secret. If they know their wife will know, her best friend and soon enough the entire community will know your problem. If you can't get any, get a shrink. But you might have to pay him to help u thru it.

Step 4: Create a 3 days no self-service, no porn, no club and no brothel plan on a check list. Once its 72hrs , get your check list, consider areas you failed and make cogent plans to strengthen it. Roll over for another 72hrs and just continue in that routine.
If you smoke and drink, reduce em too. Rather visit a cinema, attend a church program on weekends and don't be idle. Don't create room for idleness. Addiction trives when you are idle.

Step5: Print or write your to do list and paste them around your home, office and everywhere. What you see around you and read every time has a way of conditioning your brain waves and this in turn affect how you think, what you think and plan to do, desire or crave.
Remove any thing porn or anything the reminds you of it. Delete absolutely. Write it, type it and print out the steps we have listed above and paste em all over as a reminder you are on a mission.

Step6: If you have your set of hang out friends or friends that lead you or encourage you in this way of life/bad habits, delete em from your contact list. Cut them off totally. Let them know you no longer do shit.

Step7: Get some Christian tapes your play in your fone, your car, your office, laptop, home, etc. Anytime you feel like watching porn, watch that video or play the Xtain tape instead, the urge will leave. It might not be easy, continue in it even if you fail at the beginning, you will certainly make a turn around if you are determined.

Lastly, go out, get a matured and understanding lady you love, she will work you through it. Don't hide it from her, tell her and if she loves you, she will help you get through it and later on in life you guys can reminisce and make jokes about it.

Hope this helps, you can pm me or check my handle on how to reach me.

Congratulations. Asking for help is the biggest step to getting your problem solved.

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Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by UyiIredia(m): 8:29pm On Feb 21, 2016
coolsix:
Did anybody else notice that his username is the name of a sex movie?

It is well with you sir

How you take know say na sex movie if u sef no watch.

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Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Nobody: 8:45pm On Feb 21, 2016
YourMain:
Get busy. Get a hobby. Slowly wean yourself off your addiction.

This makes absolute sense!!!!!
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by temi4fash(m): 8:49pm On Feb 21, 2016
NineSongs:
Good evening to everybody. Yes i had to create a new account as this is not something anybody will be proud of. I need advice. Matured audience please.

For the past decade, my life has been controlled by sex and porn. It all started when i was in my teenage age. I had this desire to see what happens when humans mate. Thats how it started until i fell in love with seeing under the shirts and skirts of women. I got so addicted that even in school (Secondary school then) i used to sneak into the female toilet to see females pee. I fell so much in love with porn since then. Years passed and i continued. My Phone, My computer, my web archives and drives all filled with Porn. As i write this, i am currently subscribed to over 15 porn sites in which i pay monthly to an average tune of $120/month.

It got to a point that i got tired of watching porn then i decided to have real sex. I went from brothel to brothel, had so many friends with benefits. I had so much sex over the years that in Lagos where i live and work, to the best of my memory, i have met with about 50 women or so in total including Friends, Girlfriends, Prostitutes and so on. I did not stop there. Even when i went to Ibadan for a training, i met with about 8 women in just 3 weeks of my stay in Ibadan. Even in Niger state where i did my youth service, i slept with about 5 female corps members and about 12 sex workers in a span of 9 months.

Please i need help in getting out of this. I cannot control my perversion. When i see women i imagine them unclad. 45% of my salary goes to prostitutes in clubs and brothels. I have no wife yet. I cannot marry in such a mess. I am thinking of settling down with a wife but how would i do that with this addiction of mine? And its so bad that my street where i live, there are about 3 brothels and 2 clubs so it was just overwhelming and i could not control my urges. At the slightest pinch i cross the road to the nearest one just beside my house. Day after day, week after week and counting. Even my office is no exception as just last Friday, i had sex with my secretary. How long would i continue to live like this?

Please what can i do to end this so i can settle down?

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Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by adahgold(m): 8:52pm On Feb 21, 2016
Is not easy to stop all this but u can stop it,delete all that porn from your phone and any other place you have them,try and pack out from that area then use your case as your personal prayer point or is advisable to share it with someone you know is called by God. When they urge start make your self busy like doing a particular sport you like,my 2 cent.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Nobody: 9:29pm On Feb 21, 2016
UyiIredia:


How you take know say na sex movie if u sef no watch.

Dont change the topic. Face the op not me. I only made a comment
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by peacengine(m): 9:58pm On Feb 21, 2016
Dude, you need to give your life to Christ, when you do this learn to fast and pray. Your flesh is stronger than your spirit, you need to strengthen your spirit that is the only solution.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by HemmanuelRichy(m): 10:58pm On Feb 21, 2016
WELL SAID KLASSIC
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Daintelectual(m): 11:06pm On Feb 21, 2016
Ninesongs you seriously need to undergo deliverance and counseling! It's not just about yourself again, you are putting every lady you sleep with at risk spiritually and physically. I pray you find God soon.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Nobody: 11:24pm On Feb 21, 2016
chrisifeanyi:
you have a very wicked evil spirit piloting your life and such stubborn spirit can only be chased out by serious fasting and prayer. Go to Synagogue church of all nation and see TB Joshua.
NB,, your friends will tell you not to go but bro, ignore them. What is happening to you is not being controlled by you. You need deliverance.
Best advice!
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by seankay(m): 11:36pm On Feb 21, 2016
Oga go carry sacrifice for village to appease "THEM"

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Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by omirb: 12:04am On Feb 22, 2016
Oga I will recomend a week long deliverance for u at the mountain of Fire and miracle ministries

Precisely at d prayer city locater along lagos Ibadan express way, ibafo Lagos.
Your case is critical and that d the best option I can offer u. U dont need a therapist to come out of this problen but a great deliverer which is Jesus Christ. It is more of spiritual than physical my broda. Your village people are already at work. But if God can settle my own case at MFM prayer city, God can do yours too
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Strahovski1(m): 12:56am On Feb 22, 2016
Why is everyone saying he should go to church. All he needs is counselling from a professional therapist in that line of work. Not some spiritual stuff. undecided

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Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Tsam96(m): 1:40am On Feb 22, 2016
coolsix:


i only remember seeing the movie advert once online a long time ago.
hmmm....u can lie.....
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by shollyboy2: 1:55am On Feb 22, 2016
just go and join buhari's government so you can be traveling up and down so you won't get time to womanise when you're mostly airborne.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Mcbussy(m): 2:30am On Feb 22, 2016
Strahovski1:
hmmm. You are already lost man.

shocked

Even in my years as a therapist, i've not seen this as this is strong shocked

Ur definitely not a therapist or ur a very bad one....Therapists don't use speech that increase hopeless feelings in individuals, even when they are not in a position to help.

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Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Strahovski1(m): 2:53am On Feb 22, 2016
Mcbussy:


Ur definitely not a therapist or ur a very bad one....Therapists don't use speech that increase hopeless feelings in individuals, even when they are not in a position to help.

Your comment does not take away my qualification as a therapist you know? smiley

I repeat again, he is lost.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by theunnamed: 3:23am On Feb 22, 2016
Dude
Pm me I have something private to ask
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Nobody: 4:38am On Feb 22, 2016
@ op..... pls msg me on what's app. I have something that will help. Trust me... it's a book of few pages.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Nobody: 4:48am On Feb 22, 2016
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Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by obiak4(m): 7:44am On Feb 22, 2016
Bro u r ok u have not even sleep with as much women as i have done,so it nornal but u just have to get over yourself selfcontrol is the watchword nobody can advice you about that.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Sveen: 8:55am On Feb 22, 2016
ronald4lif:
Omo this one strong o. shocked
Boss.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by ronald4lif(m): 11:35am On Feb 22, 2016
Sveen:
Boss.

Wow. Look who we have here. Longest time bro, what's up with ya?
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by Creamish(f): 11:43am On Feb 22, 2016
coolsix:
Did anybody else notice that his username is the name of a sex movie?

It is well with you sir

Lolz...dint notice.. how come U noticed? grin
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by bestower: 12:00pm On Feb 22, 2016
Guy relax ur mind,take off all ur electronics gadgets full of porn destroy them,get a lady into ur house,dont drink too much of energy drinks,let ur brain work on sumtin positive wen seen a woman...finally,go to church and fast inside church for 21 days....ur life will neva b d same...hallelujah..shalom.
Re: I Am A Pervert. I Need Help With My Sex And Porn Addiction. by hglmkope(f): 12:16pm On Feb 22, 2016
The first stage to being delivered is your dissatisfaction with your present situation or condition. I am glad that you truly desire to drop this habit. Tell yourself everyday that I am going to stop this and gather the little self control you have within you (I am sure you still have it in you) to resist any temptation that may arise.
Like someone said earlier, it is a gradual process. I do not expect that you will stop having sex and be celibate at once. However, make efforts to stop. You can start by unsubscribing yourself from those porn site. Join a staff cooperative society, if you have one at your place of work, so that a significant amount of your salary will be diverted there and you will have only what you need. If you don't have any staff cooperative, you can open another account that you wont have any access to the ATM as someone suggested or better still, fix your money in the bank.

Most importantly, you need God. You probably may not know the power of a Short, Simple and Sincere prayer until you say it. You could just say, Dear God, if truly you are God and a help in time of need, please help me with this addiction. I am trying to make effort but I know I can't do it alone. Please help me to stop.

You may also want to dissociate yourself from friends with benefits that may want to lure you into sex.
I pray that God will help you to stop as you truly wish.

NineSongs:
Good evening to everybody. Yes i had to create a new account as this is not something anybody will be proud of. I need advice. Matured audience please.

For the past decade, my life has been controlled by sex and porn. It all started when i was in my teenage age. I had this desire to see what happens when humans mate. Thats how it started until i fell in love with seeing under the shirts and skirts of women. I got so addicted that even in school (Secondary school then) i used to sneak into the female toilet to see females pee. I fell so much in love with porn since then. Years passed and i continued. My Phone, My computer, my web archives and drives all filled with Porn. As i write this, i am currently subscribed to over 15 porn sites in which i pay monthly to an average tune of $120/month.

It got to a point that i got tired of watching porn then i decided to have real sex. I went from brothel to brothel, had so many friends with benefits. I had so much sex over the years that in Lagos where i live and work, to the best of my memory, i have met with about 50 women or so in total including Friends, Girlfriends, Prostitutes and so on. I did not stop there. Even when i went to Ibadan for a training, i met with about 8 women in just 3 weeks of my stay in Ibadan. Even in Niger state where i did my youth service, i slept with about 5 female corps members and about 12 sex workers in a span of 9 months.

Please i need help in getting out of this. I cannot control my perversion. When i see women i imagine them unclad. 45% of my salary goes to prostitutes in clubs and brothels. I have no wife yet. I cannot marry in such a mess. I am thinking of settling down with a wife but how would i do that with this addiction of mine? And its so bad that my street where i live, there are about 3 brothels and 2 clubs so it was just overwhelming and i could not control my urges. At the slightest pinch i cross the road to the nearest one just beside my house. Day after day, week after week and counting. Even my office is no exception as just last Friday, i had sex with my secretary. How long would i continue to live like this?

Please what can i do to end this so i can settle down?

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