I got married on Saturday 20th of February 2016. We were in an hotel till Monday, wanted us to stay longer but she refused saying she wants to go home ( that used to be my house).

Ever since we got home yesterday ( Monday), she has been crying. Called her mom, she prayed for her, my mom called her too and prayed for her.

She stopped crying for a while, we woke up with another round of crying this morning.

This is breaking my heart. I hate to cry as it often leads me to depression now I am close to tears myself.

I don't know if I have done something wrong or what to do. It is hurting as she cries.

When we were dating, she finds it difficult without her family for long " oh, I am already missing my dad, I am already missing my siblings" could this be the reason?

One day she came to mine from home as we have Dr appointment early and she lives in another state, she got to mine and 1 hour later she wanted to go home. "I am missing my dad sha" which got me annoyed then.

Could it be that the crying now is linked? She is 25 and I am 30 and we spent quite some time together before marriage. The fact we used to be together for so long makes it more confusing. This is a house she has always been in why the crying now?

It is hurting me. Badly and I am confused.

What do I do?

Give her some time. She will get use to living with you soon. Its normal for ladies to act that way. Three years ago when my younger sister got married she was always running back to our family home almost on a daily basis until my parents talked to her. Just exercise patience and she will be alright.

erm..did you pratice no sex before marriage?

It might be because of what she saw on her wedding night that is making her cry

Especially the fact that she has to live with it like that for the rest of her life

this is 1 is strong oh!

Shrugs
Hian

MizMyColi:
I think it's pretty normal for someone who has forged very strong familial bonds with their relation.

This might sound harsh
But you need to go tough in love.

While scolding her might sound like an option, it might turn out to be counter productive.

First, stop indulging and petting her.
I'm sure you've told her by now that she is now married to you, and that both of you need to be strong both mentally and

At first I felt it was trust issues. Maybe she doesn't trust that she will be fine with me. I assured her. This feeling I have due to what her dad kept saying "omo oo, omo oo" my daughter this, my daughter that"

I tried to assure her even though having been together for 2 years, I know she is assured enough. She wanted the marriage as much as I did. I see no reason for fear. She knows me well, I have operated an open book with her.

I just discovered something, she and her dad were chatting till 10pm sending wedding pictures and the dad forming pastor.

Could the man be making things worst. I am close to him in fact as close as the daughter to him and I can tell him to give it a while before they start their usual whatsapp chats and prayer sections if it is the problem.

It is annoying me now.

Ask them ooo

lonngmann:
erm..did you pratice no sex before marriage?

It might be because of what she saw on her wedding night that is making her cry

Especially the fact that she has to live with it like that for the rest of her life

lonngmann:
erm..did you pratice no sex before marriage?

It might be because of what she saw on her wedding night that is making her cry

Especially the fact that she has to live with it like that for the rest of her life

me no sex? For where? She is pregnant sef.

Bro Give Her Time She Would Get Over It....Same Goes To My Elder Sis Before She Get Marrige She No Let Us Hear Word....The She Got Marrige... They Were About To Go When Star Crying Na So She No Grre Go Her Husband House Because Say Nah She Be The Only Girl...My Mom Have To Relase One Of My Younger Bro To Go With Her And Stayed For Like Two Month Before She Agree To Stay

GIVE HER TIME AND PUT A CHILD IN HER BELLY TO KEEP HER BUSY then tell your father in law to back off that he is putting asunder.
The feeling will go with time cos I have been there and NOW I just want me and my husband./children.

Take her somewhere nice for the weekend and spoil her a little so as to free her mind!

yommys01:
me no sex? For where? She is pregnant sef.

baddolee!!!
*chop knuclle

She is ur wife..get her to open to you, try and surprise her with stuffs, like pounded yam as breakfast in bed..things that will make her frget or replace her great memories with her family with super great memories you are creating.

Samsung galaxy S7 has been announced..and i hear its fine o..you can get her one when its out..

Happy married life!

lonngmann:


baddolee!!!
*chop knuclle

She is ur wife..get her to open to you, try and surprise her with stuffs, like pounded yam as breakfast in bed..things that will make her frget or replace her great memories with her family with super great memories you are creating.

Samsung galaxy S7 has been announced..and i hear its fine o..you can get her one when its out..

Happy married life!

Her mom will come over for a 2-3 days. She is not the gift type. What makes her happy is family and family. Her father operates almost a compound family.

TheArchangel:
GIVE HER TIME AND PUT A CHILD IN HER BELLY TO KEEP HER BUSY then tell your father in law to back off that he is putting asunder.
The feeling will go with time cos I have been there and NOW I just want me and my husband./children.

Done and dusted. In fact it was the reason why we didn't wait till August for the wedding proper. I planned August this year initially.

My shoulder is 6ft higher than normal.

You are married to daddy's pet,just take it easy with her. Happy married life.

yommys01:
Her mom will come over for a 2-3 days. She is not the gift type. What makes her happy is family and family. Her father operates almost a compound family.

Okay o..that should work too.

yommys01:
Done and dusted. In fact it was the reason why we didn't wait till August for the wedding proper. I planned August this year initially.

My shoulder is 6ft higher than normal.

Her hormones are now running haywire coupled with the familial attachments. Dude, youve got your hand so full.

Just IGNORE THE DAMN CRYING.

Daddy's pet.Give her time.Just ignore her cries,she needs tough love.
Pregnancy hormones could be affecting her too.

This reminds me of a wedding i attended,the bride sobbed so loud and long after church that it almost disrupted the reception.The Rev. Fr had to come back and ask her whether she no want the marriage again so that he will announce the annulment right there.

Pregnancy hormones bro
Yes she misses her ppl.buh dose hormones will not allow her reason wtout exaggerating her emotions
Be gentle wt her oh
Since belle dey,bros na u go calm down and speak ur mind wtout jabbs firmly but softly
The way u treat her next few months will determine if ur marriage wl last biko

*clears throat* **ahem**
Welcome to marriage

blessedtwins:
Pregnancy hormones bro
Yes she misses her ppl.buh dose hormones will not allow her reason wtout exaggerating her emotions
Be gentle wt her oh
Since belle dey,bros na u go calm down and speak ur mind wtout jabbs firmly but softly
The way u treat her next few months will determine if ur marriage wl last biko

*clears throat* **ahem**
Welcome to marriage

I am gentle with her. She is calmer now but the dad constant calling doesn't help.

May have to tell him soon.

Give her time it also happened to me weeks to my wedding I was so excited about leaving my home and state for a new adventure in another state but on the day of the wedding immediately the reception came to an end I started crying that people wondered if I was forced to marry my husband, a deacon in my Church had to take me aside to talk to me but to no avail. More than five people talked to me but I was inconsolable many people were irritated. I cried all the way from PH to Warri
and cried all through the night. I kept calling home so much so that my husband allowed. me to go back home to PH the next week after I gave birth to our first child at my request my hubby allowed me to go to PH for the omugwo for a month. On my way to PH I started crying again and my mum just laughed cos few months back I cried while leaving them now its the other way round. Its been five years now just had my second child but this time I refused to go with my mum so she had to stay. You know what she said? You have grown up. so don't worry your wife will grow up. Give her time. All the best

With time she will get used to being your wife and not daddy's girl I think she will feel a lot better after delivery. BTW Happy married life

She is obviously a daddy pet but I think it's normal in female children especially when she is close to her family.
Give her time to adjust.

Happy married life

Rubbish. Simply cry when shes crying. Lets see who will cry pass

Pregnancy can cause some funny behaviours among women. Just be strong and do not pet her too much, but you should know when she needs you.

You should also try to make sure that no one is trying to blackmail her and her marriage. It happens! I do not want to talk more about this to avoid causing problem. I don't know how matured you are

This is hat happens when you marry a baby in an adult body. Anyway women are called babies and babies do cry. So my man bear with your crying baby!!

u think say marriage na okpa

This is strong/strange!!
Its obvious you got married to a 25years old baby!! Give her time to grow up!

Hmmm

She has a strong family bond, and she can't imagine being away from her family.

She should get over it in time. She isn't a baby.