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Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by postmann: 8:07pm On Feb 27, 2016 |
A school teacher loses his fear factor before a young class of teenagers, a council of elders in a remote countryside is being sacked by a discontented band of unruly youth. A young daughter defiles her mother's domestic orders, and a young son slams the door shut as he disappears into the night in a clenched fist, holding desperately to a wrapped pack of marijuana. Welcome to the age of rebellion and cultural decay, where taboos and moral values are being buried alive by the monstrous wave of ungodly freedom --a new religion with many devout followers --perverting the inhibitions and moral code that once held the human society to sound discipline. The 21st century woman -- of whom this article is centred on -- isn't left out in this destructive tide, sweeping all of humanity to a hopeless uncertainty. Drunk in her ungodly freedom and cheered on and applauded by a global audience. "What is good for the goose is good for the gander ", she retorted in a daring arrogance. It's a man's world just as much as it is hers! Or, is it? Is she built that tough? Does nature, nurture, or the unknown phenomenal disposition of cosmic ordination equipped her to ride in the bravery and foolishness of men with minimum casualties as with her male counterparts? Or does she get carried off in a wave of her head-strong recalcitrancy and hard-crash on a merciless pebbled shore, greeted by the sad reality of life? Let's see why a woman is worse off than a man in infidelity and sexual rascality. But first, let me point out; cheating is cheating irrespective of gender. It's an act of cowardice, betrayal and disloyalty. It is pure wickedness. A cheat is not worthy of trust and commitment. And this is certainly not a call or support for male sexual rascality or promiscuity. Real men don't cheat! But then, there are consequential repercussions to cheating, and it is gender sensitive. Call it a world of hypocrisy or double-standardness , but women have a lot to lose than their male counterparts when it comes to infidelity and sexual rascality. REASONS ARE: MEN'S PERCEPTION : When it comes to which woman makes it to the altar, men can be picky! They consider many qualities and a lady's sexual history is of a paramount interest. Like a car, he's interested in the body and engine. How long it's been driven and by how many drivers is a serious part of the bargain. Her chastity is one of his biggest bragging right! Simply put: he wants someone with a decent sexual past. Once married, if his wife should engage In an adulterous affair, he most likely will consider her as damaged goods. SOCIETAL STANDARD : The fruits of sexual rascality or promiscuity can manifest in the shame of an unwanted pregnancy. Men don't get to carry that shame. For some women an unwanted pregnancy could mean an end/suspension in education or carrier. Or worse, Single unmarried baby mamas are seen as second grade most times by the society. And a woman viewed by society as promiscuous has a hard time getting married. If she's married and caught, or even rumoured to have committed adultery, the stamp of shame is forever! Her daughters may have a lifetime struggle, trying to prove that the apple sometimes falls far from the tree. EMOTIONAL INVOLVEMENT : This is where the male-female divide gets even wider. A man's primary motive for sexual unfaithfulness is sex! He most times leaves his emotions behind. Like a ruthless Kalahari lion, he takes his victim down with no mercy. Until he hits goal, his conscience is numb! He walks away when he's done. But for women who cheat, they involve their emotions in their affairs. Unlike her male counterpart, she's just not looking for sex, she's looking to fill an emotional void. She's dangerous!!! And self-destructive! She misjudges her male lover, thinking they are on the same page. She can do almost anything for him. Putting him above her children and miserable husband. She can murder, hypnotise or wreck her husband for her loverboy's sake. But alas! He is just probably in for the sexual thrills. His emotions are somewhere else. Perhaps with a younger, unmarried girl. The adulteress will be burnt badly as she slowly comes to terms with reality. SEXUAL DISEASES (STDs): Sex for women is like an interavanious injection. It goes straight to the blood stream. A squirt of hot fluid (_semen) jetting its way into her very core! Bacteria and viral infections can penetrate the thin lining of the vagina more easily than a penis. This puts her at a higher risk than her lover boy. For women, common STDs like chlamydia and gonorrhoea have disappearing symptoms or no symptoms. Genital lesions caused by herps or syphilis can occur inside the vagina and go unnoticed. While the infections remain inside causing havoc and destroying reproductive organs. While men are unlikely to have to experience long-term complication from STDs, hidden infections in women can cause serious health complications and infertility. Women can also infect their babies with STDs during pregnancy and child birth which can result in stillbirth, blindness, deafness, brain damage and low birth weight. And what about the the mother of all and most common STD, the cervical cancer? Men are natural, silent carrier of this human papilloma virus (HPV) which is the leading cause of cervical cancer in women. So just before that ignoble rhetoric of "what's good for the goose is also good for the gander" brohaha, as a woman, you may want to consider the pitfalls. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by Last2comment(m): 8:09pm On Feb 27, 2016 |
So you know it'd a long eye opener. |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by Young03(m): 8:18pm On Feb 27, 2016 |
If only i have tyme to read this... 4 Likes |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by Nobody: 8:44pm On Feb 27, 2016 |
can anybody translate this to me , please? 1 Like |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by anwe: 9:08pm On Feb 27, 2016 |
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Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by byvan03: 9:43pm On Feb 27, 2016 |
Couldn't read same ol. 1 Like |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by kurupt1: 11:37pm On Feb 27, 2016 |
Tell em! *in biggie`s voice* 1 Like |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by kurupt1: 11:40pm On Feb 27, 2016 |
Abuja girls don't date to fill any emotional void oo,they are soulless already.........they sleep around for the green 1 Like |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by lesbiangirl(f): 12:40pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
postmann: Don't know why this is related to the topic but okay 21st century woman -- of whom this article is centred on -- isn't left out in this destructive tide, sweeping all of humanity to a hopeless uncertainty. So the emancipation of a woman is ungodly abi...until they are counted as property the way the old testament used to do before everything can be alright with the world abi issorai Is she built that tough? Does nature, nurture, or the unknown phenomenal disposition of cosmic ordination equipped her to ride in the bravery and foolishness of men with minimum casualties as with her male counterparts? Uhmmm Why all this grammar ehn? Cudnt get the gist of this paragraph...hian! O ga o sofry on d ingrish biko! Let's see why a woman is worse off than a man in infidelity and sexual rascally. U want to divulge into why a woman's cheating is worse off but yua tryna play safe by saying cheating is bad when you've automatically put dt men's cheating is better in the first line...okay!i just dey look u then, there are consequential repercussions to cheating, and it's gender sensitive. Call it a world of hypocrisy or double-standardness , but women have a lot to lose than their male counterparts when it comes to infidelity and sexual rascality. Cheating has never and will never be gender sensitive. Coz d guys don't sleep with demselves neither do the ladies sleep with demselves unless dey r gay dou. Both genders have everything to lose. The woman may lose her home (not every cheating woman is chased out!mind u) and self respect while also being a failure to her children..the man might think he has nothing to lose when infact he has been losing since d onset of his randy ways; he'll lose d respect of his wife, d respect of children(just coz ur kids fear u doesn't mean dey respect u), he might not go far in his life unless he wants to cut corners (time and money spent on bettering his career or business is being wasted on women and his other illicit affairs-same goes for the woman) REASONS ARE: And yet tonto dikeh,kim Kardashian, dabota, Caroline danjuma, Ini edo, and co. All got married...while some got divorced for reasons best known to dem but we can all admit dey weren't virgins but they got married. Any man dt is thinking abt a woman's body count is either a big tym hypocrite or a virgin or has mental problem. Coz it's really absurd dt u can have sex with numerous person before getting hitched but ur wifey can't have dsame. Please who made "men" d owner of "sex" SOCIETAL STANDARD : The fruits of sexual rascality or promiscuity can manifest in the shame of an unwanted pregnancy. Men don't get to carry that shame. Single mothers also get married...u shud go out and interract more op! If she's married and caught or even rumoured to have committed adultery, the stamp of shame is forever! Hehehehehehehe...unless it's in d village. Who still cares abt wht ur parents did with their private parts in d past. If kids frm broken homes can get married trust me dose daughters have no problem...op e b like say cupid never shoot hin arrow for ur yansh coz if he did...u won't be searching for a million reasons not to be with ur lady love but a billion reasons to stay with her. EMOTIONAL INVOLVEMENT : This is where the male-female divide gets even wider. A man's primary motive for sexual unfaithfulness is sex! He most times leaves his emotions behind. Like a ruthless Kalahari lion, he takes his victim down with no mercy. Until he hits goal, his conscience is numb! He walks away when he's done. That's where you are wrong again! Men get emotionally involved too. Everything boils down to why one is cheating. If you're looking to fill an emotional void. U will most definitely get involved with with ur side boo so abeg leave matter. There are women who don't get attached and dem no send d guy. E b like u never jam dem Jebel-likes! SEXUAL DISEASES (STDs): Hehehehehe... i laugh! All dese STds mentioned guys also get it and while u say some Stds might affect a woman's fertility wht abt dose "abokoku" women dt stay with their randy-ass horseband in d hope dt he'll change his lifestyle once he sees dem fasting and praying and tryna break walls with their desperation filled prayers ehn mister...these men infect dem and dey might not be able to have more children, or wht abt women who remained virgins before being a Mrs and dey r still infertile ehn... So just before that ignoble rhetoric of what's good for the goose is also good for the gander brohaha, as a woman, you may have to consider the pitfalls. Abeg op kindly take several seats...all ur reasons r baseless and dey don't in any way justify dt a woman's cheating is worse. Don't be myopic! Don't cheat and expect a woman to be faithful to you. Don't give someone else food u can't even stomach yourself! Cheating is a million shades of WRONG! It not only hinders one's potential greatness or progress, it also cuts one's life's span short. For a few minutes of pleasure you'll break ur home and ur children's heart. Noone has special vagina or dick, y'all are eventually gonna cum at d end of it all...then all to what purpose?ehn So u can brag abt how yua a man and u can't be tied to a woman for life or how yua a woman and u want to be equal with these low-iq dudes? I don't just quite get it?? Why can't u brag abt careers,business milestones,how u can change d world or ur country? Something tangible and substantial oda dan sex. Women! why strife to be equal when you can be BETTER! 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by postmann: 1:25pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
I knew my thread was a bait to your likes. And I perceive you're a feminist. There are endless replies to your quotes and assertions. But then again, a look at your handle (lesbiangirl) makes you unworthy of my reply. lesbiangirl: 2 Likes |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by lesbiangirl(f): 1:54pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
postmann: Please reply o...forget my monicker darl! Truth is an extremely bitter pill! Kindly choke on it 12 Likes |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by Cece20: 2:36pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
babe I dey feel ur arguments die. Some men are just so full of themselves. 9 Likes |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by kurupt1: 2:36pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
lesbiangirl:. Rude girls everywhere under the guise of equal rights.na ur type husband dey beat to pulp cos ur razor sharp tongue 1 Like |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by kurupt1: 2:36pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
lesbiangirl:. Rude girls everywhere under the guise of equal rights.na ur type husband dey beat to pulp cos of ur razor sharp tongue 1 Like |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by GodnGold: 2:40pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
Postman,I like your write up...well done! But pardon me brother if I say you are generalising in these points; 50%of women who cheat are not looking to fill any emotional void,I say this because I handle such issues,so I have first hand information not based on here say. Again,if you mention the issue of STDS,would it please you brother to know that "condom" is a noun?...It exists. Brother correct me if am wrong but the only reason why a woman should not cheat is to avert the wrath of her creator. If you ask me a 21st century woman,I won't say "what is good for the geese... I would rather say..."Much ado about nothing" If you preach from today till tomorrow about infidelity on these points,brother you will get 1 out of 10 grades because it is a cycle. The only reason is Morality,women should have high moral values like in the days of old. There are women who can damn all these and still do the deed. All the same,correct me if am wrong. 1 Like |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by lesbiangirl(f): 2:48pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
kurupt1: You shall know wife-beaters by the way they talk..na ur type i dey arrange street BOIZ to treat ur f*ck-up.they'll beat you so bad you won't wanna exist in the next life 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by lesbiangirl(f): 3:07pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
Cece20: Don't mind these thirsty niggas feeling like they are best that has ever happened to women forgetting the feeling is meant to be mutual 8 Likes |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by postmann: 3:34pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
lesbiangirl: I'll give you two conditions for my reply: get another handle or send down any of your hen-lovers with a decent handle for my reply. Truth, as you know it, is an hallucinatory pool where fools get drawn in their mental retardation. |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by postmann: 3:48pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
Your manner of approach says a lot about you. You're very reasonable and gentlemanly even when you hold a contrary view. Actually, few women far less than 50% cheat out of sexual thrills. I'm not talking about prostitutes. I'm talking about the average woman. A vast majority of the average woman needs an emotional reason to cheat. Hehehehe! Condom indeed! You should have done a simple rerearch on labs and know how many are infected daily by STDs. Even when an affair starts with condom, over time, condoms are set aside. And condoms do burst, and in such case the woman gets the leaking fluid in if the guy happens to expel at that point. Averting the wrath of the CREATOR, yes but I deliberately left out scriptural reference from this post. Letting women know that they have more to lose even on the physical, psychological and health angles are other reasons why the humble ones will think again. GodnGold: |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by lezz(m): 4:02pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
lesbiangirl:I actually fail to see why a gay should bother about the intricacies of heterosexual conduct!!! Maybe the path to the left is proving lonesome 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by jashar(f): 5:57pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
OP, you say? Your topic put me off, so I didn't read it. All i'll say is wrong is wrong no matter the colour. Comprendez... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by rosiebishh(f): 6:26pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
sexuality |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by lesbiangirl(f): 6:51pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
postmann: Ooh honey no need to deviate or hide under d curtain of "you ain't worthy of my reply" or "ur two unnecessary condition" you know deep down within you that am right...why else will you put up a defensive front and talk abt my monicker all day long. It's NL dummy ppl pick catchy usernames so either talk or not mention me again or u know better still wallow in your hallucinatory pool and mental retardation. All these vocabs and you still aint smart tsk! tsk! tsk! such a pity 10 Likes |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by postmann: 8:18pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
You have no moral right to be on my thread. It's for heterosexuals. You're here on a free ticket. By no means have you earned the right to make any inputs. Your literal comprehension was found wanting by your earliest submission. That alone puts you up as a handicap in need of intellectual aid/support. You're not literate enough to comprehend my lexical dexterity. Then again, you are a divergent being, who has been carried off by an evil wind to a land of identity disorder. For pride's sake, Postman can never be seen or heard arguing over societal issues with you; A societal virulent disease is best left sequestered. Now since you can't meet my conditions, take the humble walk down the part where the moral degenerates go. You're boring!!! lesbiangirl: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by Nobody: 8:35pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
postmann:hahaha |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by postmann: 8:40pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
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Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by K9blunt(f): 8:44pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
These kinds of posts have made me believe that Nigerian boys still need brain rehabilitation. What a pity! 5 Likes |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by K9blunt(f): 8:44pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
These kinds of posts have made me believe that some Nigerian boys still need brain rehabilitation. What a pity! 2 Likes |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by postmann: 8:46pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
firstEVA: Wooah! That's my white flame! The rays on my armour that blind my adversaries. What do I offer your grace? Shall be proceed up the tree, high above the noises of some lovelorn, angry women? |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by Nobody: 8:47pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
Nicely articulated points, the woman has always been at a disadvantage on issues of infidelity, a woman who is interested in keeping her home/marriage must avoid it at all cost. But I see a gradual change in this orientation, even though the points listed are valid, they may no longer matter in the nearest future. Our men will begin to adjust to the change, those who refuse to adjust would be divorcees, baby daddies and unmarried men in their 50s. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by postmann: 8:50pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
K9blunt: The post by its design and intent was created to help you upgrade from the errors in the "girl" in you. |
Re: Why A Woman's Infidelity Is Worse Than A Man's by Nobody: 8:53pm On Feb 28, 2016 |
Things are already changing in Yourba land, their women are the most promiscuous in the nation, I have lived amongst them so I know. Married women have boyfriends and flaunt it, when the husband finds out, they fight, finish!! 1 Like |
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