crackhaus:

Unconditional love is love that transcends all negative outcomes and is independent of how the recipient(s) reflects it...all within the confines of common sense though

Siena:
Yes. My children, they are my life, my world. Nothing, and no one comes close.

strenghtofawoman:
I loved my hubby unconditionally , but my love was taken for granted, I loved too much, cared too much, forgave too easily..I made him a priority in my life, but after going through pregnancy and child bearing , I have to take back my love. His attitude towards me only shows he doesn't need it. I v learnt my lesson, I don't think I will ever love him again unconditionally....

EnlightenedSoul:


You're right, except for that last bit there. Unconditional love isn't subject to the confines of common sense at all, in fact, it characteristically defies it.

@ Topic: User raumdeuter and I are of the same opinion on this one.

EnlightenedSoul:


You're right, except for that last bit there. Unconditional love isn't subject to the confines of common sense at all, in fact, it characteristically defies it.

Mindfulness:


I do not think that you have ever loved him unconditionally in the first place else you would not feel that you need to take your love back because he takes it for granted or because you feel that he doesn't need it.

strenghtofawoman:


Never judge a situation you have not been in, he who wears the shoes knows where it pinches most...

The worst feeling is to love and not be loved back, people don't just wake u and stop loving, they get tired of waiting, assuming, hoping, crying and an un-nutured loves dies away

peterjero:

Daddy Siena your wife should come close, she was there before they came and would be there when they live to form their own homes. Wife is supreme you know even when we don't take note. #derailerspotted

Siena:


I will respectfully repeat, my kids are my life, my world. No one comes close. They are part of me, and will always be, even after they've married and got families of their own.

My kids will never stop being my babies.

Mindfulness:

Why does unconditional love defy common sense?

Mindfulness:


I am not judging you or your situation. The thread is about unconditional love and I was only concluding from your post that your love was not unconditional. You need him to love you back (=condition).

Like Crackhaus has beautifully said: "Unconditional love is love that transcends all negative outcomes and is independent of how the recipient(s) reflects it."

@bold

Needing someone to love you back is a condition.

EnlightenedSoul:


I think you're being a tad insensitive. But this post, in a way, at least partially demonstrates the answer to the question you posed. Where is the common sense in expecting someone to love unconditionally another who does not perhaps him/herself remotely love or care for the person? The lack of any tangible conditions underwhich the love can thrive and flourish, and consequently, the utter lack of reason or driving force for the existence of said "love" is precisely what knocks it squarely out of the realm of common sense.

To be honest, I have a hard time believing the concept truly and actually exists. We're human. We all have our limits. We all have a breaking point. Surely, it's more a case of being blissfully unaware of the condition(s) that could ultimately ruin the state, or a case of having completey lacked the set of specific conditions necessary for the individual at hand, thereby allowing him/her to carry on so-called "unconditionally", rather than the idea that the individual has absolutely no condition(s) at all, whatsoever.

Mindfulness:
EnlightenedSoul, nice to see you here.



First of all, nobody is expecting anything here.
Secondly, what does common sense mean in this context? I can only love you if your behavior pleases me? Is it common sense or rather nonsense?
If your love depends on the behavior of a particular person, what is it that you love, the behavior that pleases you or the person? Rhetorical question.



My love for some people has no limits.

Just curious to know if you dont mind, what faith or religious inclinations do you subscribe to?. Are you Budhist, Hindu, Christian , Muslim or a Non- Believer, you can ignore the question if you are not comfortable with it, thanks..

4nobody4every1:
....Just curious to know if you dont mind, what faith or religious inclinations do you subscribe to?. Are you Budhist, Hindu, Christian , Muslim or a Non- Believer, you can ignore the question if you are not comfortable with it, thanks..

Mindfulness:


No problem.

I know that[b] God exists[/b]. I do not belong to any religion though.

Ok...

Mindfulness:


No problem.

I know that God exists. I do not belong to any religion though.

Why do you ask?

4nobody4every1:
.....Because l have read some of your post and l kind of think you are either Buddhist or Hindu, not sure though but l am cool with your answer all the same.

Mindfulness:


I have discovered meditation through Buddhism and I have discovered how powerful it is but I am not a Buddhist. Buddhists strive to become free of desire and I love to fulfill my desires. I have very limited knowledge of Hinduism and I am not particularly interested in knowing more about it.

What about you?

A believer in the birth, death and Resurrection of Jesus Christ the Son of the Living God..

4nobody4every1:
.. A believer in the birth, death and Resurrection of Jesus Christ the Son of the Living God..

Mindfulness:


Ok.

4nobody4every1:
...U are welcome

Ewuro4:
I do... My Parents and my kids. I'll never desert them 'No matter what'.

Every other Love is Conditional IMO. Most working relationships entail/require some sort of effort from each partner. Otherwise, boredom knocking. Who wants that?

l like the bold , why didnt you add the Oga @ the top ?.....Hubby, no offence / disrespect intended though but l respect your sequence of choice..

FlawlessRebirth2:
I DONT EVEN LOVE


TALK ABOUT UNCONDITIONALLY

4nobody4every1:
l like the bold , why didnt you add the Oga @ the top ?.....Hubby, no offence / disrespect intended though but l respect your sequence of choice..

Ewuro4:


I'll be deceiving readers if I wrote that, so none taken.

A loving or may I call it 'Fair' marriage requires many many Mandatory tasks and roles that comes with accountability. unconditional love will forfeit these roles/tasks.

Even oga at the Top dittoed my sentiments.

Brilliant

Ewuro4:


I'll be deceiving readers if I wrote that, so none taken.

A loving or may I call it 'Fair' marriage requires many many Mandatory tasks and roles that comes with accountability. unconditional love will forfeit these roles/tasks.

Even oga at the Top dittoed my sentiments.

Mindfulness:
EnlightenedSoul, nice to see you here.
First of all, nobody is expecting anything here.
Secondly, what does common sense mean in this context? I can only love you if your behavior pleases me? Is it common sense or rather nonsense?
If your love depends on the behavior of a particular person, what is it that you love, the behavior that pleases you or the person? Rhetorical question.

My love for some people has no limits.

EnlightenedSoul:


Hey, it's nice to see you, too.

I saw this just a few days ago and have given it some consideration. Common sense here = within reason. I would argue that it's a package deal, and would go so far as to say that people are their behavior to certain extent. Has your regard for an individual, or the way you view them as a person never changed due to a sudden or prolonged shift in their attitude towards you, through new ill gotten habits, an unsettling demeanor, disposition, and even, an all out personality change?

Are these individuals family members by any chance? If not, why do you feel there are no limits to your love in regards to them? You don't have to answer these questions if you don't feel comfortable, of course. I'm only curious.

Mindfulness:




@bold
Is it reasonable to let the behavior of others determine how you feel?

Well, I have come to learn that the way I view people very much depends on me and not their behavior.
I can choose to understand a person and I can choose to condemn a person. The choice will determine how I feel about them.

Some of them are my family members and others are not.
There is no limit to my love because love is not a limited resource.

And is it not interesting that many people can love their family members un-conditionally but believe that they can love nobody else un-conditionally?
If you can love your child, mother, sibling un-conditionally, if you can understand and forgive anything that they do, why can't you do the same for some who is not related to you?

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If not for their actions, characteristics and behaviors, how do you judge them worthy of your time, effort, love? What then distinguishes the one deserving of the so-called unconditional love from the next person?

People aren't static and unchanging. Isn't it possible to understand someone today and condemn them tomorrow? Or are you constantly "re-understanding" them? And, if so, why on earth and to what end?

The thing is, I don't believe love for family to be unconditional in nature, either. When and if you've lost love and favor for a member of your family by their own undoing there still remains, for some, a modicum of familial duty that remains their right as blood, a miniscule last ditch effort of sorts other folks simply aren't afforded. It is but a small mercy I would not term love. And oftentimes, they may not even be given this special consideration attained simply through the merit of kinship by all or most of their kin, and sometimes, by none at all.