I have this friend of mine, 3 years older than me in her late twenties. I called her friend initially but she wants more than that like getting in a serious affair. I am not the type that want any attachment. She once called it quit with me after I told her I want an end to our friendship. She said she need to move on and stop chasing shadows. I was happy with her decision only for her to send a message after two days telling me she's sorry,that she did not know what came over her. That I should accept her back. I have made it clear to her that we are only FWB she said is okay with her, as long as I don't end it all. We do all sorts of things which she always confess that she hasn't been handled like that in her past relationship. She visit,spend weeks and all we do is get down, talk about life but I don't see her been part of me. I am not yet ready to settle down, I have told her that too. She is a good girl but she deserves more. She is working as well so she is not in any way a liability. She recently told me she turned down a guy who offered to get serious with her after he kept going in the coitu:s angle. But when it comes to me she gives it freely. I promised her I won't turn her love and caring down again in order for her to be happy. From the look of things time is going and I keep wishing she will get married someday. I wanna stop getting down with her but it is not easy, she said I made her feel like a complete lady and she can't let all that be lost. Just need a way to make her see the real things and let go.
Don't want someone coming to say that I used her and using tears to make me accept what I don't wish for. Help please.

Here we go again

OP I need clarifications pls
How did u become friends
2.did u ever woo her
3.did u tell her sweet nothing bfr having sex wt u?
4.did she force herself on u

I don tire for una matter. You don't want to get married to her yet you still keep sleeping with her? Are you not your own problem?

bardella1:
OP I need clarifications pls
How did u become friends
2.did u ever woo her
3.did u tell her sweet nothing bfr having sex wt u?
4.did she force herself on u

We met in a social gathering, just normal hi and hello things, we talked well that day, exchanged contacts and we have been in touch since. I did not ask her out. I asked her to tell me more about herself which led to her narrating about her past relationship,what went wrong in it. Quoting her, she said her ex forced it on her which made her to quit. After calling it off with her ex she developed this negative phobia about coit-us.

Doxie69:
We met in a social gathering, just normal hi and hello things, we talked well that day, exchanged contacts and we have been in touch since. I did not ask her out. I asked her to tell me more about herself which led to her narrating about her past relationship,what went wrong in it. Quoting her, she said her ex forced it on her which made her to quit. After calling it off with her ex she developed this negative phobia about coit-us.

ehn how did u guys start avin sex..did u sugar coat her into it

bardella1:
ehn how did u guys start avin sex..did u sugar coat her into it

Well I told her is not that bad as she sees it based on her past. She was still adamant with her decision. I told her there's more to that if done well and not rushed, stuffs like that, the convincing and all. She agreed to it and since then is been happening.

bardella1:
ehn how did u guys start avin sex..did u sugar coat her into it

Well I told her is not that bad as she sees it based on her past. She was still adamant with her decision. I told her there's more to that if done well and not rushed, stuffs like that, the convincing and all. She agreed to it ,she experienced it and then voiced out herself that it was nice. Since then we have been getting down and she doesn't look like letting go any time soon.

Doxie69:
Well I told her is not that bad as she sees it based on her past. She was still adamant with her decision. I told her there's more to that if done well and not rushed, stuffs like that, the convincing and all. She agreed to it ,she experienced it and then voiced out herself that it was nice. Since then we have been getting down and she doesn't look like letting go any time soon.

I hope u were nt dfirst guy to av sexwt ha o cos girls find it hard toleave suchguys
Did u ever tell her u lovedher
Since shez good enof toav sexwt..y can't u av arelationship wt her
If ur answer to the above is no..- I guess she might be mixing sex wtlove
Abstain from her
Don't av sex wther again
In her mind shez tinkin u'll love her ifshegives u more sX
Shez inlove wt u and since u don't feel the same,u need to stop giving her attention
Stop d fwb tin
Later in life she will c it as u usin her
Stop now!!!

Give m her digits if she dey lagos...


Then I will come back and reply you...

u better cut it off now b4 u no she will get pregnant for u; u will now b officially married

OMG, come on. sometimes when I see men do certain sshit to ladies I get pissed off. here is a lady who cares deeply for u and u are hurting her. even just by posting this u are hurting her. there is no dilemma here, its simple if u love her or want to give it a try just tell her Nd if not tell her so that she won't keep wasting time. I tell u if u don't straighten sshit out with her she will look back at her life and blame u horrendously. so just man up and do sshit the way they suppose to be.