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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by silverr(f): 10:26pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
tosyne2much: Lol, a taste of his own poison |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Nobody: 10:30pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
jashar: Please what extra load? Cooking? Is she cooking for a whole community or just one person who would probably eat what we eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner? Most wives these days have maids. Besides have u thought of the financial burden on the man? Will the wife bear that too? Learn to see things from different perspective. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 10:31pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
amokeme:I am not talking about what a man may decide to spend on his wife. It gives us joy to spend on our women when we have. My problem is the money we pay to marry a wife. Some states in Nigeria will give a list of items that is worth almost a million naira when you want to marry their daughter, now tell me. How can you claim equal with someone who paid all that to have you? It is impossible amokeme:Like I said earlier, it gives us joy to spend on our women. Being able to take care of your wife and kids is an achievement on it is own. I personally don't understand why a woman would reject financial help or gifts from her husband if there's no problem between them. That one pass me. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by habsydiamond(m): 10:38pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
I think we all did social studies in J.S.S. classes. When u are asked, who is the head of the family, u reply father. This means that the man of the home is the protector and the defender while the wife is an adviser of the home, so when it comes to issues the husband can't seek for permission, he only deliberate with the wife. If she has a strong point, the husband may decide to stop the person from coming. But for UK the wife is the head of the family so the husband must seek permission b4 anything over there. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by MarieSucre(f): 10:38pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
Adaeze003 My dear, as a woman you must submit to your husband, in all things. I tell you from experience. You see even if you had a twin brother, by virtue of him being male, he will grow to be more sensible than you are. It does not matter whether he has made grievous mistakes in the past or he has indulged in rash decisions. once he gets married and he assumes that title "Head of the House" or "Husband", he automatically gets magically imbued common sense. Now you must understand that your husband is the God you see, throw away all talk of partnership, is there any partnership between God and Man. NO!! God is forever above man, as your husband is forever above you. You must grovel at his feet, contort yourself to the point of elasticity and numb your emotions, because the only feelings that should be your primary concern in that union should be his. You must do everything for him short of worshipping him. You are lucky to be married. Some women are still single and anytime they pass a bustop or junction, people spit at them and throw rotten tomatoes at them. Do you want to be one of those bitter single women? Listen, any thing that is wrong with any relationship is the woman's fault. She needs to check herself to make sure she does not lose him like a toy to some other woman. Is he cheating on you? Then you must either be dressing like an old woman or not giving him enough blowjobb. Is he beating you? Then you must either be a nag or a stupid housewife who brings no monetary value to the union except maybe do all the housework and take care of both your children. Check yourself. Men are too rational unlike emotional and confused women. Check yourself Nigerian Woman. Finally. concerning this topic, here are some definitions of what submissive means. adjective -Being subjected to an action without producing a reaction.Taking no action. He remained passive during the protest.(grammar) -Being in the passive voice.(psychology) -Being inactive andsubmissive in a relationship, especially in a sexual one. (finance) Not participating in management. (aviation) Without motive power. Here is another definition-- Submissive One who gives over their rights, their desires, and themselves to another. As a gift. Of the two, Jane was the most submissive. by. Anonymous November 02, 2003 submission /səbˈmɪʃ(ə)n/ noun 1. the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. Some men here will want to wrongly deceive you that there is power in submission. That is a bloody lie. There is no requirement for how he is to reciprocate. Even if the Bible tells you that Husbands should love wives as themselves, you know some women, they will try to take advantage of such love. Don't let her cross boundaries. Plus we as women, what do we even need the power for sef? We are helpers. If He need sex we give it. Why do we need to stay on top? What else. We start asking our husbands to give us mouth job, cunninlingus? Start demanding that we also have orgasms? That is un-african. There is no power in being submissive. You are a woman. You do not need to have any. Thank God you have a man. So this is not a case of him getting your opinion, he doesn't bloody need your input. Did David need his previous wife opinion before marrying a new wife? NO! If he wants to bring in the whole village into his house, then he bloody well can. He is the head of the family. Its his house, he paid a lot of money on you, you're his property. You will host his guest, cook and clean after them. If you cannot do that, then he gets another girl to do it simple. / FOR ALL Y'ALL LIKING MY POST AND SHARING, I WAS TROLLING. AS IN FOR REAL JUST TAKE THE FIRST EXAMPLE NAH. NO SCIENCE WILL SUPPORT SUCH A POSTULATION. PLEASE TAKE NOTE; IT IS SIMPLY SARCASM. I DONT SUBSCRIBE TO ANY FORM OF INTERNALIZED MISOGYNY. PEACE OUT! SirJeffry Estharfabian misreal Strahovski1 kilokeys viktor01 efficiencie Kazrem Irore mamaafrik tietie85 ghostwritter linusbnn tonero4urch HIGHESTPOPORI AfroKnight Achilles2 engrshakespeare NemzySeries saxomo6 paschu pbs4real osenidvdg pinkpebbles Sixix bukatyne EgunMogaji EgunMogaji aumeehn ghostwritter 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by amokeme(f): 10:50pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
Kondomatic:power you mean? ![]() |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by silverr(f): 10:54pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
@mariesucre Ur mentality is bad I tell you. Pls pls don't spread it. @adaeze003, pls don't be infected with that mentality. Stand tall, wait for the man that will treat you like the queen you are. No one is saying wives shouldn't submit. God commands it but you are idolizing the man and belittling yourself. For crying out loud, how can all you exist for be his desire? How can you always be the source of whatever issues there are in the marriage. There's a line between submission and low self esteem/insecurity and you have crossed it. You are worried if you don't be the best rag in the world, he'll get a new one and you can't exist without a man or so? Even after all that, man wey wan waka go waka. Ure free to do as u please but pls, keep it to yourself. I'm not irrational. I have accomplished things that will put so called men to shame. I'm blessed with abundant wisdom from God. My fiancé calls me his gift from God. I know my place as a wife but above that, I know that I have to be a strong mother and role model for my kids. How else can I teach my daughter to be a woman of virtue ? How can I show her the difference between love and crazy dominating obsession? |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by MarieSucre(f): 10:57pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
Kondomatic:Who does the cooking? Who washes all the clothes? Who tidies the house? Who looks after the children? Wakes up at night once the little one starts crying? |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by tosyne2much(m): 10:59pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
silverr:What if you were the one who cheated? ![]() |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by silverr(f): 11:04pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
tosyne2much: I will definitely tell hubby nau after all I'm d wife |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by amokeme(f): 11:09pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
MarieSucre:wow! Wow! Wow! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Things are happening g in this life... @ Kondomatic I think this is your kind of woman. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by NemzySeries(m): 11:11pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
halfricanadian:well, all I can say is dat w'll all understand aw to cross such confronting issues wen we all get married sum day.....I deliberately dunt wanna go 4da dan dis bkos experience wud b a beta lesson to us all dan assumptions....do av a nice day |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by ghostwritter(m): 11:20pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
Sixix:even at that, ur so-called 'shrink' won't stop me from stating the fact. some ladies are just so arrogant for my liking.....all trying to claim equal right with their husbands. Even Karishika no fit try dat one with me. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 11:22pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
ghostwritter: I am ARROGANT and I love me I can't even stand aoemone like you Go and meet your submissive women |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by iamdapsyj(m): 11:27pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
igivefuck4free: This your moniker is really odd. To the topic, I think the husband should inform the wife before that time so as to get her own input to it and if she responds in the negative, the husband had better use wisdom by getting an hotel booked for the guest. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by tosyne2much(m): 11:38pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
silverr:You will definitely tell him someone else got under ur skirt? ![]() |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 11:40pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
MarieSucre: More sensible than you are You are insecure. Whoever did this to you hasn't done well at all. What happened to you? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 11:44pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by ghostwritter(m): 11:44pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
Sixix:Lol, very funny. Yes u can never stand an 'aoemone' like me 'coz I'm not going to play the fool for your amusement. Babe abeg try get my point, I am EGOLISTIC by nature as a Man which makes me the Head of my family. I'm bound to respect and provide for my wife ONLY if she respect me. Will you Marry Me? |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 11:46pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
ghostwritter: You are a joke, a pathetic loser! I will rather see you dead than sit next to you ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by tosyne2much(m): 11:52pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
Sixix:na real sarcasm oooo baba ![]() |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 11:54pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
Mariesucre, you are a loser. Stop posting as a female, we both know that you are a man. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by ghostwritter(m): 11:56pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
Sixix:Lol, for ur information, I died about 2 years ago.... |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by paschu: 11:56pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
MarieSucre: Sounds way too good to be true. ![]() ![]() |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 12:02am On Mar 04, 2016 |
MarieSucre: Are you mad? Do I sound like my parents deprived me of love and care? Do I sound stupid like you do? You need to know your class. We are not on the same level. This is what you get when a coward f..ool keeps pretending like a woman ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by MarieSucre(f): 12:06am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Sixix: My dear, I am a woman. I am not lying. I swear on all that is good and just that I am indeed female. You probably misinterpreted my post. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by MarieSucre(f): 12:08am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Sixix:My dear, I am a woman. Post history dear. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 12:08am On Mar 04, 2016 |
MarieSucre: You are confused transgender I didn't misinterpret it ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 12:10am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by amokeme(f): 12:10am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Sixix: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() It takes a psychologically imbalanced person to come up with what she typed. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by paschu: 12:14am On Mar 04, 2016 |
There's nothing wrong in using wisdom and getting a hotel room for the guest. But what exactky are we saying? What is the message are we trying to pass across? The reality is that a married couple WILL NOT ALWAYS be in agreement. So the question is who exactly is RESPONSIBLE for making final decisions in the family? Whose DUTY is it? You cannot tell me it's both the husband and wife. No sane person puts two captains in one ship, and martiage relation-ship is not an exception. God is not an author of confusion. And if He is the author of marriage, we had better stopped adding that silly "but" in our futile attempt to explain away who God says the head is. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by MarieSucre(f): 12:14am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Sixix:I swear to God, I am a woman. Why can't you believe that there are women who believe in maintaining the status quo. There are some Nigerians who believed that Nigeria should still be under Britain. The British might have been racist, imperialist, it was really and unequal dynamic, but Britain was clothed us with an air of power. |
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