Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 1:44am On Mar 04, 2016 |
EgunMogaji:
But you do care about my ex marriages. You know why? Because you keep bringing them up like a moth to a flame.
Trust me, any man reading this chat will see your thinly veiled infatuation for me. I've destabilized and shaken you to your very core. You just can't find a place to fit me into. You are totally confused now and I bet you're all sweaty with your hand shaking on the keyboard.
I don't know you from Adam so I don't know or care if you're pro whatever. However I am deeply elated to see that I've wounded you somewhere before and hence why you are lashing out wildly on this thread. I mean you admitted to following me on the threads.
I'm used to it though but sorry I'm taken an I don't do waspish chicks ![wink](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/wink.png)
You haven't used bankruptcy in a few posts please use it more. I brought them up to show you what you really are. You sounded pained when you described your experience in the family court. You wish I am infatuated by you. I don't do baggages and losers. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 1:46am On Mar 04, 2016 |
EgunMogaji:
I have never made any marriage mistake. My marriage lasted as long as they needed to. You don't get it do you? I am not your typical Nigerian Man, Missy. Yah yah yah yah Stop trying to hard |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 1:48am On Mar 04, 2016 |
EgunMogaji:
Please try to be verbatim, or you are too excited to write long parables at this point?
So what are you wearing? Are you lonely? Something tells me that your bed is really cold. ![sad](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/sad.png) Try being a better man, maybe...just maybe you will find a good woman! Goodnight! |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Nobody: 1:57am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Sixix:
Are you lonely?
Something tells me that your bed is really cold. ![sad](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/sad.png)
Try being a better man, maybe...just maybe you will find a good woman!
Goodnight! They haven't created the loneliness yet that will have you fill that gap, nice try though. Someone as awesome as me can never be lonely Missy, never. I am the best man that you'll ever find but your insecurity and emotional baggage will not allow you to come out of that wall that you've built around yourself. I'm going down to diner at the Ritz Carlton in Bulkhead, Atlanta, I would ask you to join me but I am an evil evil unclean heathen man with fangs ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Have a nice sleep and I'm sure I'll be firmly in your dreams because I'm simply awesome like that. EgunMogaji, okunrin meta, agun gende bi eni gungi. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 4:35am On Mar 04, 2016 |
amokeme: wow! Wow! Wow! you got to be kidding me! what did I just read?? Oh my goodness, ma( that is if you are a woman which I strongly doubt), you must have been through alot . May God liberate you in Jesus name! Things are happening g in this life...
@ Kondomatic I think this is your kind of woman. lmao. She has taken everything to a whole new level. My dear, I think you misunderstand me, my point is, women who clamor for equal right should first of all tell their parents to stop selling them out. You can't claim equal rights with someone who paid money on your head to have you. He's your master. Eerrrm, I think I agree with her that every problem in a marriage is the woman's fault. Ehen nah! It is either the wife caused it or it happened because the mother didn't her child(the husband) the good way. #Lwkmd4h |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 4:40am On Mar 04, 2016 |
MarieSucre: Who does the cooking? You don't expect a bread winner to still come home and be the bread toaster MarieSucre: Who washes all the clothes? The maid or washing machine MarieSucre: Who tidies the house? Whoever appreciates a clean environment bears the burden. MarieSucre: Who looks after the children? Both parents but whoever have bigger breasts among them should look after them more MarieSucre: Wakes up at night once the little one starts crying? Wife and sometimes the husband, it depends on whom the kid is closer to. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 4:42am On Mar 04, 2016 |
amokeme: power you mean? ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) I know what both words mean ma! Abeg no force any into my mouth. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by HaneefahRN(f): 5:53am On Mar 04, 2016 |
MarieSucre: I swear to God, I am a woman. Why can't you believe that there are women who believe in maintaining the status quo. There are some Nigerians who believed that Nigeria should still be under Britain. The British might have been racist, imperialist, it was really and unequal dynamic, but Britain was clothed us with an air of power. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by HaneefahRN(f): 5:57am On Mar 04, 2016 |
MarieSucre: I swear to God, I am a woman. Why can't you believe that there are women who believe in maintaining the status quo. There are some Nigerians who believed that Nigeria should still be under Britain. The British might have been racist, imperialist, it was really and unequal dynamic, but Britain was clothed us with an air of power. If you are a woman which is unlikely then I can't ur mentality, it gave me the shivers really. I'm also a believer in the head-neck marriage relationship with the man as the head, but what you wrote up there isn't about submission that's slavery. Only someone with gross low self esteem wld think like that or a selfish pathetic man. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Adaeze003(f): 6:19am On Mar 04, 2016 |
MarieSucre: Adaeze003
My dear, as a woman you must submit to your husband, in all things. I tell you from experience. You see even if you had a twin brother, by virtue of him being male, he will grow to be more sensible than you are. It does not matter whether he has made grievous mistakes in the past or he has indulged in rash decisions. once he gets married and he assumes that title "Head of the House" or "Husband", he automatically gets magically imbued common sense. Now you must understand that your husband is the God you see, throw away all talk of partnership, is there any partnership between God and Man. NO!! God is forever above man, as your husband is forever above you. You must grovel at his feet, contort yourself to the point of elasticity and numb your emotions, because the only feelings that should be your primary concern in that union should be his. You must do everything for him short of worshipping him. You are lucky to be married. Some women are still single and anytime they pass a bustop or junction, people spit at them and throw rotten tomatoes at them. Do you want to be one of those bitter single women?
Listen, any thing that is wrong with any relationship is the woman's fault. She needs to check herself to make sure she does not lose him like a toy to some other woman. Is he cheating on you? Then you must either be dressing like an old woman or not giving him enough blowjobb. Is he beating you? Then you must either be a nag or a stupid housewife who brings no monetary value to the union except maybe do all the housework and take care of both your children. Check yourself. Men are too rational unlike emotional and confused women. Check yourself Nigerian Woman. Finally. concerning this topic, here are some definitions of what submissive means.
adjective -Being subjected to an action without producing a reaction.Taking no action. He remained passive during the protest.(grammar) -Being in the passive voice.(psychology) -Being inactive andsubmissive in a relationship, especially in a sexual one. (finance) Not participating in management. (aviation) Without motive power.
Here is another definition-- Submissive
One who gives over their rights, their desires, and themselves to another. As a gift. Of the two, Jane was the most submissive. by. Anonymous November 02, 2003
submission /səbˈmɪʃ(ə)n/ noun 1. the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.
Some men here will want to wrongly deceive you that there is power in submission. That is a bloody lie. There is no requirement for how he is to reciprocate. Even if the Bible tells you that Husbands should love wives as themselves, you know some women, they will try to take advantage of such love. Don't let her cross boundaries. Plus we as women, what do we even need the power for sef? We are helpers. If He need sex we give it. Why do we need to stay on top? What else. We start asking our husbands to give us mouth job, cunninlingus? Start demanding that we also have orgasms? That is un-african. There is no power in being submissive. You are a woman. You do not need to have any. Thank God you have a man.
So this is not a case of him getting your opinion, he doesn't bloody need your input. Did David need his previous wife opinion before marrying a new wife? NO! If he wants to bring in the whole village into his house, then he bloody well can. He is the head of the family. Its his house, he paid a lot of money on you, you're his property. You will host his guest, cook and clean after them. If you cannot do that, then he gets another girl to do it simple. /
SirJeffry Estharfabian misreal Strahovski1 kilokeys viktor01 efficiencie Kazrem Irore mamaafrik tietie85 ghostwritter linusbnn tonero4urch HIGHESTPOPORI AfroKnight Achilles2 engrshakespeare NemzySeries saxomo6 paschu pbs4real osenidvdg pinkpebbles Sixix bukatyne EgunMogaji EgunMogaji aumeehn ghostwritter ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) I literally laughed till I had tears in my eyes... Nice... 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Adaeze003(f): 6:45am On Mar 04, 2016 |
kilokeys:
It's more of a marriage than a patnership
So there has to be a leader somehow.
Even most partnership ain't equal.
If she says no.. Why should the man accept her "no".. Wouldn't that make it still one-sided? Actually one sensible mention from a guy/man, no insulting word or comment... me likey. Actually, marriage is a union. I mean, even the whites, as rational as they are know this, why do you think every asset is split down the middle in divorce? Now, you must understand that no one is sharing "head of house" with man. Also, I don't subscribe to african type marriages where I'll live my whole life stroking a man's ego. Well if you subscribe to it then ignore the rest of the post. But if you're talking Christian type marriage go on... Now, on the submission issue, you have to agree that men are also to love their wives like their own body/self? And even unto dying for her ![](/faces/huh.png) Do you think it's that feeling of the heart pumping faster when you see her? Do you really think women have the hardest part? Love is synonymous to selflessness and putting her/her needs/wants before yours , overlooking her flaws(even if one of those flaws is not being submissive ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) ), I can go on but I think you get the picture after all bible says "like Christ himself loves the world"! But hey! What the average Nigerian man wants is slavery, the right to never be questioned by their wives even when they poke other holes, ultimately, they want to be gods of their wives. It might work, but only for sometime even for the insecure women then, there's friction(fact!). This is the reason marriages are in trouble, men have decided to not see their own part and they hold on to the submission part and carry it on their heads like agege bread. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Complete the equation or let it go completely, if you want submission, love like you're supposed to. That's it! If not, you're in for a whirlwind of a marriage. Oya where are all them mentioners, read and digest... Cc EgunMogaji ghostwritter gumeehn linusbnn agu87 SirJeffry engrshakespeare krismart mamaafrik kondomatic... 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by silverr(f): 7:04am On Mar 04, 2016 |
tosyne2much: You will definitely tell him someone else got under ur skirt? Loool. I misunderstood ur last quote. Y will I cheat in d first place? But even if somehow it happened, I'll have to talk. Its better it comes from me. Nothing can be hidden under d sun. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by tosyne2much(m): 7:10am On Mar 04, 2016 |
paschu: There's nothing wrong in using wisdom and getting a hotel room for the guest.
But what exactky are we saying?
What is the message are we trying to pass across?
The reality is that a married couple WILL NOT ALWAYS be in agreement. So the question is who exactly is RESPONSIBLE for making final decisions in the family? Whose DUTY is it? You cannot tell me it's both the husband and wife. No sane person puts two captains in one ship, and martiage relation-ship is not an exception. God is not an author of confusion. And if He is the author of marriage, we had better stopped adding that silly "but" in our futile attempt to explain away who God says the head is. Wooooow !!! Bro abeg wetin u dey drink? ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png) |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by silverr(f): 7:10am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Sixix:
Ode!
E no go for better for whoever did this to you![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) Lol, it may not be her fault sha |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by tosyne2much(m): 7:26am On Mar 04, 2016 |
silverr:
Loool. I misunderstood ur last quote. Y will I cheat in d first place? But even if somehow it happened, I'll have to talk. Its better it comes from me. Nothing can be hidden under d sun. Clap 4 urself |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by silverr(f): 7:28am On Mar 04, 2016 |
MarieSucre: I swear to God, I am a woman. Why can't you believe that there are women who believe in maintaining the status quo. There are some Nigerians who believed that Nigeria should still be under Britain. The British might have been racist, imperialist, it was really and unequal dynamic, but Britain was clothed us with an air of power. Just stop embarrassing yourself by exhibiting this slavery mentality. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by silverr(f): 7:30am On Mar 04, 2016 |
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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by misreal(m): 7:30am On Mar 04, 2016 |
MarieSucre: Adaeze003
My dear, as a woman you must submit to your husband, in all things. I tell you from experience. You see even if you had a twin brother, by virtue of him being male, he will grow to be more sensible than you are. It does not matter whether he has made grievous mistakes in the past or he has indulged in rash decisions. once he gets married and he assumes that title "Head of the House" or "Husband", he automatically gets magically imbued common sense. Now you must understand that your husband is the God you see, throw away all talk of partnership, is there any partnership between God and Man. NO!! God is forever above man, as your husband is forever above you. You must grovel at his feet, contort yourself to the point of elasticity and numb your emotions, because the only feelings that should be your primary concern in that union should be his. You must do everything for him short of worshipping him. You are lucky to be married. Some women are still single and anytime they pass a bustop or junction, people spit at them and throw rotten tomatoes at them. Do you want to be one of those bitter single women?
Listen, any thing that is wrong with any relationship is the woman's fault. She needs to check herself to make sure she does not lose him like a toy to some other woman. Is he cheating on you? Then you must either be dressing like an old woman or not giving him enough blowjobb. Is he beating you? Then you must either be a nag or a stupid housewife who brings no monetary value to the union except maybe do all the housework and take care of both your children. Check yourself. Men are too rational unlike emotional and confused women. Check yourself Nigerian Woman. Finally. concerning this topic, here are some definitions of what submissive means.
adjective -Being subjected to an action without producing a reaction.Taking no action. He remained passive during the protest.(grammar) -Being in the passive voice.(psychology) -Being inactive andsubmissive in a relationship, especially in a sexual one. (finance) Not participating in management. (aviation) Without motive power.
Here is another definition-- Submissive
One who gives over their rights, their desires, and themselves to another. As a gift. Of the two, Jane was the most submissive. by. Anonymous November 02, 2003
submission /səbˈmɪʃ(ə)n/ noun 1. the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.
Some men here will want to wrongly deceive you that there is power in submission. That is a bloody lie. There is no requirement for how he is to reciprocate. Even if the Bible tells you that Husbands should love wives as themselves, you know some women, they will try to take advantage of such love. Don't let her cross boundaries. Plus we as women, what do we even need the power for sef? We are helpers. If He need sex we give it. Why do we need to stay on top? What else. We start asking our husbands to give us mouth job, cunninlingus? Start demanding that we also have orgasms? That is un-african. There is no power in being submissive. You are a woman. You do not need to have any. Thank God you have a man.
So this is not a case of him getting your opinion, he doesn't bloody need your input. Did David need his previous wife opinion before marrying a new wife? NO! If he wants to bring in the whole village into his house, then he bloody well can. He is the head of the family. Its his house, he paid a lot of money on you, you're his property. You will host his guest, cook and clean after them. If you cannot do that, then he gets another girl to do it simple. /
SirJeffry Estharfabian misreal Strahovski1 kilokeys viktor01 efficiencie Kazrem Irore mamaafrik tietie85 ghostwritter linusbnn tonero4urch HIGHESTPOPORI AfroKnight Achilles2 engrshakespeare NemzySeries saxomo6 paschu pbs4real osenidvdg pinkpebbles Sixix bukatyne EgunMogaji EgunMogaji aumeehn ghostwritter oh lawd,somebody get me a diamond ring and a diamond suv,i have seen my wife..runs away from thread to tell my mama.. pls marriage is not slavery madam.and not everything is the woman's fault. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by SirDorianGray(m): 7:46am On Mar 04, 2016 |
The husband mUST seek the approval of his wife and PERSUADE her before bringing someone over. However, the wife should also be reasonable and not abuse the privilege she has. To the question of if she says "No" to the request, I think it depends on the scenario and her reasons. I believe a reasonable wife should be cajoled to be more diplomatic by her husband if there's mutual love and respect in the marriage. Its a case by case basis. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by misreal(m): 7:47am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Adaeze003:
Actually one sensible mention from a guy/man, no insulting word or comment... me likey.
Actually, marriage is a union. I mean, even the whites, as rational as they are know this, why do you think every asset is split down the middle in divorce?
Now, you must understand that no one is sharing "head of house" with man. Also, I don't subscribe to african type marriages where I'll live my whole life stroking a man's ego. Well if you subscribe to it then ignore the rest of the post. But if you're talking Christian type marriage go on...
Now, on the submission issue, you have to agree that men are also to love their wives like their own body/self? And even unto dying for her Do you think it's that feeling of the heart pumping faster when you see her? Do you really think women have the hardest part? Love is synonymous to selflessness and putting her/her needs/wants before yours , overlooking her flaws(even if one of those flaws is not being submissive ), I can go on but I think you get the picture after all bible says "like Christ himself loves the world"!
But hey! What the average Nigerian man wants is slavery, the right to never be questioned by their wives even when they poke other holes, ultimately, they want to be gods of their wives. It might work, but only for sometime even for the insecure women then, there's friction(fact!).
This is the reason marriages are in trouble, men have decided to not see their own part and they hold on to the submission part and carry it on their heads like agege bread. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
Complete the equation or let it go completely, if you want submission, love like you're supposed to. That's it! If not, you're in for a whirlwind of a marriage.
Oya where are all them mentioners, read and digest... Cc EgunMogaji ghostwritter gumeehn linusbnn agu87 SirJeffry engrshakespeare krismart mamaafrik kondomatic...
true....a man who cant love his wife unconditionally should not demand submission.i also agree that sometimes,men misunderstand submission,thinking its slavery.take note,unconditional love never makes a man equal to a woman in marrige. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kingsleyclever: 7:57am On Mar 04, 2016 |
WIFE'S PERMISSION IS HIGHLY NEEDED. I QUOTE ABRAHAM AND SERRA OF THE BIBLE. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by igivefuck4free(m): 8:20am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Seventeen: These kind of threads always intrests me. I shake my head and smile when i read certain comments cos i know dat most of the nairaland guyz who form hard men with their comments, are d very ones women control. Well nothing wrong in dat sha, we all can play make believe on nairaland, its allowed, but those who are actually married know its no longer as simple as ABC like in our forefathers dayz. In a good marriage where there is love and respect on both sides a man would respect his wife's opinion and wishes and vice versa. Only in a marriage that already has k-leg will a man b willing to quarell with his beloved wife over a friend comin into town for just two days. I have had to deny my sister from coming for hols one certain time my hubby wasnt in a gd mood and dint approve of her coming. I culd hv insisted and had a huge fight that wouldn't hv bn worth it, plus my sis wouldn't hv enjoyed her stay. My husband at certain points in our marriage has also had to gv up certain ideas and requests i dint approve of. Couples should just learn to love and respect each other thats all. More so, saying 'NO' by either party could also b a saving grace, not all 'NO' is said to be sturborn or to control. Some 'NO's have actually saved many families from trouble. Thats not to say that there should be no compromises either. God bless you ![kiss](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/kiss.gif) 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by unikbabe: 8:23am On Mar 04, 2016 |
igivefuck4free: We all know a wife can't just bring a family, not even a friend, to stay over for few days without consulting the husband first.... Now base on the society we are, as an African, wives are generally submissive to their husbands. So is it appropriate for an husband to bring a friend from another city (or friends from anywhere) who called that he's coming to stay two days in their house to execute a project in their city without first seeking approval from the wife? And if he seeks her approval and the wife says no or not this time, what should he do? He doesn't need his wife's approval but the best thing to do is inform her of the friend's visit.They are one so the matters needs to to discussed. Per adventure the even if the wife has a different view to the visit of the friend's visit,the husband has the final say. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by MarieSucre(f): 8:53am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Kondomatic: You don't expect a bread winner to still come home and be the bread toasterThe maid or washing machineWhoever appreciates a clean environment bears the burden.Both parents but whoever have bigger breasts among them should look after them moreWife and sometimes the husband, it depends on whom the kid is closer to. I come from a family where my mother worked too. She paid our school for one full year when my pops lost his job. She sends me pocket money and buys me clothes. Most importantly She comes back from work just as late and as tired as my dad but she is still required to enter the kitchen immediately and put some steaming food down. A lot of men do not want maids, a maid means extra mouth to feed an cater for and also the risk of someone promiscous impregnating her. The washing machine does not wash the cloth by itself. I dedicate atleast 2 hours 30 minutes on saturday morning to sort the clothes, feed them into the machine, spin them and dry them. Of course I'd rather be watching my favourite telenovela or maybe supersport. All the while juggling the breakfast. Appreciating a clean environment might fall on the man? What then? A child only needs to breastfed not more than 1 year 6 months. After then a woman starts rubbing bitter leaf on her nipples. If not a teething child begins to bite down on it instead suckle it. Beyond this point breast is not needed, but care and attention. You don't need breast to do that do you? A kid will be closer to the parent who gives it attention. Probably the parent who scolds it less. Speaking from experience. What if that person is you, the dad? |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Creamish(f): 9:59am On Mar 04, 2016 |
tietie85: If u are expecting a visitor no matter the person,u must first discuss it with ur wife, as a good wife she must not say no, though she might not like it but she doesn't have a choice than to accept I beg to differ a bit here.. If this friend has been a guest before and he made a pass at her, as a good wife she must not say no?? Are you kidding me? U need to think holistically about something before offering a solution. Everything depends on the situation. A good man should be able to trust the instincts of the wife if she is a good woman. Seeking her opinion is advisable..but if for some reason, she objects, It's better U listen objectively to her reason. I don't think any reasonable woman will want to be unnecessarily stubborn about this. A husband and a wife are best friends and paddies. A good friend of the husband is a friend of the family. I doubt the hubby would be inviting a shady character to the house... if that happens and the wife objects...listen. She is not rubbing shoulders with the man...her instincts (which so many women are blessed with) are almost always right. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Nobody: 11:10am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Sixix:
I brought them up to show you what you really are. You sounded pained when you described your experience in the family court.
You wish I am infatuated by you. I don't do baggages and losers. No I wouldn't wish you on my worst enemy, the therapist that'll cure you hasn't been born yet. You lack any redeeming trait I'll consider suitable. I don't do emotionally inept social rejects ![wink](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/wink.png) |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by abdoolorunwa(m): 11:11am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Sixix:
Very genuine reason? I hope you will accord her the same respect when she has guests?![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) WELL, YOU KNOW THESE THINGS ACTUALLY DEPENDS ON FORMAL ARRANGEMENTS BETWEEN COUPLES. SUFFICE TO SAY THAT I TRUST MY WIFE 100% |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Nobody: 11:13am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Sixix:
I brought them up to show you what you really are. You sounded pained when you described your experience in the family court.
You wish I am infatuated by you. I don't do baggages and losers. That's your interpretation but show me any man that left divorce court without being pained ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) You have no material left and you're just clawing desperately to get attention and make sense. Stalker ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Olivialight(f): 11:52am On Mar 04, 2016 |
sometimes when I read people opinion about some family matters I convince myself that it is just an online thing. really how can an adult disrespect a grown adult too and they are supposed to be couples. God help women really. I am currently in my brothers house and not too long ago a distant relation called asking he accommodates his fiancee for a while because she got a job in town, my brother told him that I am the person occupying the room he would have giving her that except when he talks to me and I accept then no problem, This is my brother ooo and this is his house but he was able to recognize that my consent needed to be sought, and you people are arguing if someone's husband should notify or seek opinion of the wife over such matters when she will basically take care of the supposed visitor and all. Ekenekwa mu unu. when you tell or show people how less you think of your wife I just wonder what will be of such home. God help every good woman out there, God won't let such people see you at all. chai 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Creamish(f): 11:54am On Mar 04, 2016 |
misreal: oh lawd,somebody get me a diamond ring and a diamond suv,i have seen my wife..runs away from thread to tell my mama..
pls marriage is not slavery madam.and not everything is the woman's fault. Ul end up marrying a man... datz no woman there.. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Olivialight(f): 11:57am On Mar 04, 2016 |
Sometimes when I read people opinion about some family matters I convince myself that it is just an online thing. Really how can an adult disrespect a grown adult too and they are supposed to be couples. God help women really.
I am currently in my brothers house and not too long ago a distant relation called asking he accommodates his fiancee for a while because she got a job in town, my brother told him that I am the person occupying the room he would have giving her that except when he talks to me and I accept then no problem, This is my brother ooo and this is his house but he was able to recognize that my consent needed to be sought, and you people are arguing if someone's husband should notify or seek opinion of the wife over such matters when she will basically take care of the supposed visitor and all. Ekenekwaa mu unu. when you tell or show people how less you think of your wife I just wonder what will be of such home. God help every good woman out there, God won't let such people see you at all. chai 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by mamawin(f): 12:15pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
Kondomatic: I hate what I am about to type but I kinda agree with the person you quoted and technically speaking, wives in down here are being bought which places them well below their husbands.
To begin with, a man owns the house, I mean the building they live in, most girls cannot marry a guy who doesn't own a house. The man most times pays the rent if they're staying in a rented apartment which makes it his house not their house so he can bring in whoever he wants to so far the person is not a crook.
Finally, consider what the men pass through, when you see a woman you want to marry, her family will tax you mightily and when you pay everything they asked for and pay a certain amount of bride price, they will hand the girl over to you.(isn't that business?) keep love aside please, this is pure business arrangement, you pay for their daughter before she becomes you wife.
So she was bought and cannot be equal with you.
A lot of things need to change for our women to enjoy certain privileges in their marriage.
There's this outdated mentality of some ladies that "her money is her money but her husbands money is their money" meaning that the pays almost all the bills and yet they clamour for equal rights.
It smells like nonsense. don't be deceived, d wives called d shots nowadays, they jointly build d house, buy d cars, pay sch fees, etc. so which one is ' his house'? although Im of d opinion that wives shud submit, it even makes it easy for her wishes to be done without d husb knowing. |