It's hard-wired into our psyche that only well to do guys are highly attractive and therefore, have the courage and what it takes to actually approach/woo a lady but the truth of the matter is that if you are wooing a lady with genuine intention, even the most articulate and confident guy can be rendered into anxiety and panic for possible outcome rejection and embarrassment.

The ones who really have no romantic commitment and are only in for sexual intentions are never nervous wooing a lady even though they might not admit it. They subconsciously act like badoo and see any interaction as a route to sex with that lady.

However, when guys decide whether to approach a lady, they normally calculate their chances of rejection correctly/incorrectly, thus overestimating their chances of rejection especially when a beautiful and sophisticated woman is involved

Enough of my lamentation; now I shall discuss the kinds of guys that find it difficult to approach/woo a lady

1. Virgin Guys

Some of us are not very confident and are usually very timid when it comes to expressing our love for a lady we deeply love. Though some of us may form badoo on social media but other there, when locked up inside the room with a lady, all we discuss is Olajumoke, the bread seller, and Saraki, who declared fake assests.. Often times, when I see a lady I deeply love, the thought of approaching her troubles me that I will have to hide somewhere and will beg my friends to woo her on my behalf

2. Scholars

Believe it or not, most scholars tend to have boring social life. This is because they focus on their books more than anything else. Though ladies flirt with them for academic prevalence. After graduation, some of them may not even be able to approach a lady. Na their mumsy dey woo on their behalf. The worst scenario is that some of them will bag first class and may not be able to locate where the kitty cat is, at the age of 35 .

3. Short Guys

Don't get this twisted cos it's not a maximum generalization that all short guys are unable to approach/woo a lady. All I'm trying to say is that, research have it that short guys are usually very confident when approaching a lady, just that they are likely to find it difficult to approach a lady who is much more taller than they are. Let's assume a guy is 5ft 10inch, approaching a lady of 6ft 2in won't be easy. Vizkiz can testify to this

4. Introverts

Introverts are as shy as virgin guys and are usually timid and nervous when it comes to approaching/wooing a lady. Even when some of them come across a lady they have serious crush on, for them to open their mouth in sealing the deal is a thug war of contest. Some of them cannot even decode greenlight or utilize opportunities. Some of them are usually in a boring relationship


5. Stingy Guys

The notion that Nigerian ladies are usually at the receiving end often makes me refrain myself from wooing ladies. Stingy guys are not very good in showing love because we know that no lady in her right sense of reasoning picks handsomeness over wealth. As a result of this, they employ lie to gain the love of a lady. Often times, if I have the intention of wooing a lady and she asks me for recharge card, I go just pick my slippers begin grab race.

6. Pastors (SU)

Though, I take exception to some pastors who are veteran wooers and can woo anything woo-able. Some of them no dey gawk themselves that they can even snatch the girlfriend/fiance of a brother in the church. When they spot a member they have interest in, they will go straight her telling her how God revealed to them she will be their wives. On the contrary, most of the pastors in Deeper life, MFM, Jehova witness are likely to be poor at approaching/ wooing ladies.

8. Grammatically Deficient Guys

Someone like me who can't construct proper English often cram and rehearse what to say before approaching a lady. Take for example, let's assume a chronic Ekiti guy like me wants to woo a Lagos babe, it's usually a thug war of contest because I will be very mindful of my grammar; I will try to fake confidence and will eventually mess up at the end of the day. Our inability to speak fluently in English often makes say ru.bbish when approaching/wooing a lady

9. Mummy's Boy

They won't say a thing while chyking a girl without mentioning their mum's name. Everything is all about their mother promised to take them to Dubai provided they score 160 in JAMB. Such ideology will make a lady have negative impression that her boyfriend is nothing but an immature boy.

10. Low Self Esteemed Guys

Guys with low self esteem don't have what it takes to show their worth to a lady, therefore, they see money as the only tool or escape route to get the lady they desire. These kinds of guys are likely to find it difficult to approach/woo a lady cos their philosophy is that, money is all they need before they can ask a lady for a relationship


I drop my pen at this point


Enjoy the fun


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Original Writer: Tosyne2much

Source: http://tosyne2much..com/2016/03/its-hard-wired-into-our-psyche-that.html

11. Broke guys

With the current economic hardship that makes it difficult for some guys to eat once in a day, they may not have the swags to woo ladies because all they will be thinking about is, they don't have the money to call let alone buy gift for a lady.

12. Nairaland moderators

As funny as it may sounds, nairaland moderators find it difficult to woo ladies. Take for example, people like lalasticlala and mynd44 may be scared that if they PM a lady and they get bashed or been called a pervert, such scenario may kill their esteem hence start banning people unnecessarily and move irrelevant topics to FP.

I just hope Mr lalas and uncle mynd don't ban me 4 this coment sha

Awon boys don suffer

I disagree with the Introvert part.. I'm dating an introverted guy.. Apart from the fact that introverts can be extreme loners, practical people with inability to express theirselves and they get the phobia of kissing and hugging or even holding hands in public, here are some reasons to be with an introvert guy.. they're amazing!!

Great listeners. My boyfriend helps me a lot by just listening to me. You know when you want some one to just hear you out and only advice when asked for, Introverts are ever ready for that.
Very Intelligent. Very clichéd sentence but trust me they are intelligent. My Man solves the rubiks cube in under 2 mins. That's crazy.

No nonsense. They are the ones you can have the most meaningful conversations with, not garbage talks.
They guide you very well. Some how they see you just the way you are, and yet love you because it's beyond looks for them. They don't get blinded by love, and yet For them love means everything and they give it their all.

Not Fake. They do not pretend to like you. They either just like you or don't and will tell you straight

Love Ain't A Game . They don't fall in love easily, but They fall hard. For them love isn't a game, their Hearts are at Stake. If they tell you they love you, you better not break their heart.

Calm by nature. Would women want to be with a man who gets violent, abuses, puts her down, yells at her or with A Man who treats her like a princess, will be faithful and treat her with respect all her life. I'm sure you will choose the latter i.e The Introverted man. They can never get violent it's just not in their nature to fight, and usually are respectful towards everyone in general.

Give you space. Space is must in a relationship and introverts know how to give you that.

Hot in Bed. They are good love makers (I can only speak on the behalf of my bf). Boy they are passionate!!

Stand by you. Is anything in this world worth more than some one actually standing by you through the toughest times? Introverts who are in love with you, won't back down when your in trouble, or back off because some one else says so. They fight hard to protect their loved ones.

Won't “use" you. Introverted men never woo women as a game. They are genuinely attracted to her and want to get to know her on deeper level. Yes sex is on their mind too but they will never cross their boundaries with you. Introverted men find it hard to fall for some one and when they do it's usually for life.

Honesty. Yes they are brutally honest, they will criticize you, not to hurt you but, because they really care about you . Yet they will be the first ones to come Cheer you up, Motivate you when you feel down and like a total failure.

Best friends. They are the bestest friends you can ever find. Trust me.

Loyalty. Being faithful comes to them naturally. Since they are introverted, they do not have many friends or easily make new connections. This means they do not find it hard to stay loyal and committed when in a serious relationship.

Some introverts i know here on NL: Teempakguy

BROKE GUYS

Really Cute guys: girls will think you are a flirt and will be scared to lose you,so they settle with an average looking guy so as to have the confidence of another girl not checking up on their man,I'm a victim some how

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U again?

FUCKLY GUYS most of them will conclude that the girl will insult them without even trying. That is how one ugly guy went to toast a pretty but rude girl that even my handsome self usually avoid and i heard the girl saying ''sorry i don't roll with monkeys''

Oga Tosyne don come again. I'm always anticipating these your hilarious posts

Believe it or not, but there are some guys who are virgins, highly academically intelligent, really short, extremely introverted, so tight handed, repulsive religious extremists who lack the ability to express themselves in public, chronic mummy's boys and highly introverted, all in one.

tosyne2much:
Oga Decker spotted viewing, abi no use your comment collect all my likes ooooo

And this brilliant young man is here with his posts again. Tosyne tell me it's a joke that you are a virgin

This tosyne2much sef

I beg tosney2much, why is it that all ur post is always 10 . Mr ten things

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Wen i see 10 things, i always knw its oga tosyn2much. Btw, endtime guys sef dey toast

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eyaah feel for the guys..it'd not easy especially when insulted in the process..these for the sincere ones not the woman wrappers.

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I beg tosney2much, why is it that all ur post is always 10 . Mr ten things

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