Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by misreal(m): 12:25pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
Creamish:
Ul end up marrying a man... datz no woman there..
ahaahahahahahah, |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by CNN80: 12:52pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
[/color][color=#000000]Men, your sarcasm is great. I almost believed you were serious \ MarieSucre: Adaeze003
My dear, as a woman you must submit to your husband, in all things. I tell you from experience. You see even if you had a twin brother, by virtue of him being male, he will grow to be more sensible than you are. It does not matter whether he has made grievous mistakes in the past or he has indulged in rash decisions. once he gets married and he assumes that title "Head of the House" or "Husband", he automatically gets magically imbued common sense. Now you must understand that your husband is the God you see, throw away all talk of partnership, is there any partnership between God and Man. NO!! God is forever above man, as your husband is forever above you. You must grovel at his feet, contort yourself to the point of elasticity and numb your emotions, because the only feelings that should be your primary concern in that union should be his. You must do everything for him short of worshipping him. You are lucky to be married. Some women are still single and anytime they pass a bustop or junction, people spit at them and throw rotten tomatoes at them. Do you want to be one of those bitter single women?
Listen, any thing that is wrong with any relationship is the woman's fault. She needs to check herself to make sure she does not lose him like a toy to some other woman. Is he cheating on you? Then you must either be dressing like an old woman or not giving him enough blowjobb. Is he beating you? Then you must either be a nag or a stupid housewife who brings no monetary value to the union except maybe do all the housework and take care of both your children. Check yourself. Men are too rational unlike emotional and confused women. Check yourself Nigerian Woman. Finally. concerning this topic, here are some definitions of what submissive means.
adjective -Being subjected to an action without producing a reaction.Taking no action. He remained passive during the protest.(grammar) -Being in the passive voice.(psychology) -Being inactive andsubmissive in a relationship, especially in a sexual one. (finance) Not participating in management. (aviation) Without motive power.
Here is another definition-- Submissive
One who gives over their rights, their desires, and themselves to another. As a gift. Of the two, Jane was the most submissive. by. Anonymous November 02, 2003
submission /səbˈmɪʃ(ə)n/ noun 1. the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.
Some men here will want to wrongly deceive you that there is power in submission. That is a bloody lie. There is no requirement for how he is to reciprocate. Even if the Bible tells you that Husbands should love wives as themselves, you know some women, they will try to take advantage of such love. Don't let her cross boundaries. Plus we as women, what do we even need the power for sef? We are helpers. If He need sex we give it. Why do we need to stay on top? What else. We start asking our husbands to give us mouth job, cunninlingus? Start demanding that we also have orgasms? That is un-african. There is no power in being submissive. You are a woman. You do not need to have any. Thank God you have a man.
So this is not a case of him getting your opinion, he doesn't bloody need your input. Did David need his previous wife opinion before marrying a new wife? NO! If he wants to bring in the whole village into his house, then he bloody well can. He is the head of the family. Its his house, he paid a lot of money on you, you're his property. You will host his guest, cook and clean after them. If you cannot do that, then he gets another girl to do it simple. /
SirJeffry Estharfabian misreal Strahovski1 kilokeys viktor01 efficiencie Kazrem Irore mamaafrik tietie85 ghostwritter linusbnn tonero4urch HIGHESTPOPORI AfroKnight Achilles2 engrshakespeare NemzySeries saxomo6 paschu pbs4real osenidvdg pinkpebbles Sixix bukatyne EgunMogaji EgunMogaji aumeehn ghostwritter 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Creamish(f): 2:13pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by vague: 2:16pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
igivefuck4free:
And if she refused? Don't shout when you catch your friend on top of your wife! Simple! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Nobody: 3:05pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
Creamish:
A man is behind that handle. It's waayyy too obvious. Either that or she has been irredeemably brainwashed. hahahaha. That post if Bleep***g hilarious, worship kwa? Im be idol? 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 7:12pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
Creamish:
A man is behind that handle. It's waayyy too obvious. Either that or she has been irredeemably brainwashed. Goan sleep |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 7:14pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
mamawin: don't be deceived, d wives called d shots nowadays, they jointly build d house, buy d cars, pay sch fees, etc. so which one is ' his house'? although Im of d opinion that wives shud submit, it even makes it easy for her wishes to be done without d husb knowing. Most guys build house before marrying a wife so I don't know the house you're talking about |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Creamish(f): 7:16pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 8:57pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
Creamish:
Goan unban yasef! Lmao. It won't last forever |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by mamawin(f): 9:25pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
Kondomatic: Most guys build house before marrying a wife so I don't know the house you're talking about most guys? I don't believe that. nowadays, couples join hands tgther to do most things. that's all I know |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 9:55pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
mamawin: most guys? I don't believe that. nowadays, couples join hands tgther to do most things. that's all I know ok |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by ashjay001(m): 7:25am On Mar 05, 2016 |
MarieSucre: Adaeze003
My dear, as a woman you must submit to your husband, in all things. I tell you from experience. You see even if you had a twin brother, by virtue of him being male, he will grow to be more sensible than you are. It does not matter whether he has made grievous mistakes in the past or he has indulged in rash decisions. once he gets married and he assumes that title "Head of the House" or "Husband", he automatically gets magically imbued common sense. Now you must understand that your husband is the God you see, throw away all talk of partnership, is there any partnership between God and Man. NO!! God is forever above man, as your husband is forever above you. You must grovel at his feet, contort yourself to the point of elasticity and numb your emotions, because the only feelings that should be your primary concern in that union should be his. You must do everything for him short of worshipping him. You are lucky to be married. Some women are still single and anytime they pass a bustop or junction, people spit at them and throw rotten tomatoes at them. Do you want to be one of those bitter single women?
Listen, any thing that is wrong with any relationship is the woman's fault. She needs to check herself to make sure she does not lose him like a toy to some other woman. Is he cheating on you? Then you must either be dressing like an old woman or not giving him enough blowjobb. Is he beating you? Then you must either be a nag or a stupid housewife who brings no monetary value to the union except maybe do all the housework and take care of both your children. Check yourself. Men are too rational unlike emotional and confused women. Check yourself Nigerian Woman. Finally. concerning this topic, here are some definitions of what submissive means.
adjective -Being subjected to an action without producing a reaction.Taking no action. He remained passive during the protest.(grammar) -Being in the passive voice.(psychology) -Being inactive andsubmissive in a relationship, especially in a sexual one. (finance) Not participating in management. (aviation) Without motive power.
Here is another definition-- Submissive
One who gives over their rights, their desires, and themselves to another. As a gift. Of the two, Jane was the most submissive. by. Anonymous November 02, 2003
submission /səbˈmɪʃ(ə)n/ noun 1. the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.
Some men here will want to wrongly deceive you that there is power in submission. That is a bloody lie. There is no requirement for how he is to reciprocate. Even if the Bible tells you that Husbands should love wives as themselves, you know some women, they will try to take advantage of such love. Don't let her cross boundaries. Plus we as women, what do we even need the power for sef? We are helpers. If He need sex we give it. Why do we need to stay on top? What else. We start asking our husbands to give us mouth job, cunninlingus? Start demanding that we also have orgasms? That is un-african. There is no power in being submissive. You are a woman. You do not need to have any. Thank God you have a man.
So this is not a case of him getting your opinion, he doesn't bloody need your input. Did David need his previous wife opinion before marrying a new wife? NO! If he wants to bring in the whole village into his house, then he bloody well can. He is the head of the family. Its his house, he paid a lot of money on you, you're his property. You will host his guest, cook and clean after them. If you cannot do that, then he gets another girl to do it simple. /
SirJeffry Estharfabian misreal Strahovski1 kilokeys viktor01 efficiencie Kazrem Irore mamaafrik tietie85 ghostwritter linusbnn tonero4urch HIGHESTPOPORI AfroKnight Achilles2 engrshakespeare NemzySeries saxomo6 paschu pbs4real osenidvdg pinkpebbles Sixix bukatyne EgunMogaji EgunMogaji aumeehn ghostwritter I don't believe what u said can work in this age n time. Ladies have earning power and can actually call men's bluff. And, really, a lot of men don't deserve anything submissive. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by vague: 7:33am On Mar 05, 2016 |
Kondomatic: Most guys build house before marrying a wife so I don't know the house you're talking about So why are 99.2% of most newly weds renting other people's houses in 2016? |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 8:45am On Mar 05, 2016 |
vague: So why are 99.2% of most newly weds renting other people's houses in 2016? 99.2% of most? Doesn't sound right to me. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by urchbarbie(f): 12:29pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
Kondomatic: I hate what I am about to type but I kinda agree with the person you quoted and technically speaking, wives in down here are being bought which places them well below their husbands.
To begin with, a man owns the house, I mean the building they live in, most girls cannot marry a guy who doesn't own a house. The man most times pays the rent if they're staying in a rented apartment which makes it his house not their house so he can bring in whoever he wants to so far the person is not a crook.
Finally, consider what the men pass through, when you see a woman you want to marry, her family will tax you mightily and when you pay everything they asked for and pay a certain amount of bride price, they will hand the girl over to you.(isn't that business?) keep love aside please, this is pure business arrangement, you pay for their daughter before she becomes you wife.
So she was bought and cannot be equal with you.
A lot of things need to change for our women to enjoy certain privileges in their marriage.
There's this outdated mentality of some ladies that "her money is her money but her husbands money is their money" meaning that the pays almost all the bills and yet they clamour for equal rights.
It smells like nonsense. what r u saying Mr Have u not seen women wth houses and re willing to 'help' the man pay her dowry The thing with some men is that they av taken this head of the house thing to far and it clouds their thinking. a marriage is a union of 2 individuals, yes, one is D husband(head) while d oda is d subordinate. The issue is, can one work without the other? not at all. This is a union where one person checks the excesses of the oda and vice versa. there cant be success whr one party exerts his authority at all times. Learn to see women/wives as ur partner in biz and not the office assistant. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by linusbnn(m): 12:36pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
Adaeze003:
Actually one sensible mention from a guy/man, no insulting word or comment... me likey.
Actually, marriage is a union. I mean, even the whites, as rational as they are know this, why do you think every asset is split down the middle in divorce?
Now, you must understand that no one is sharing "head of house" with man. Also, I don't subscribe to african type marriages where I'll live my whole life stroking a man's ego. Well if you subscribe to it then ignore the rest of the post. But if you're talking Christian type marriage go on...
Now, on the submission issue, you have to agree that men are also to love their wives like their own body/self? And even unto dying for her Do you think it's that feeling of the heart pumping faster when you see her? Do you really think women have the hardest part? Love is synonymous to selflessness and putting her/her needs/wants before yours , overlooking her flaws(even if one of those flaws is not being submissive ), I can go on but I think you get the picture after all bible says "like Christ himself loves the world"!
But hey! What the average Nigerian man wants is slavery, the right to never be questioned by their wives even when they poke other holes, ultimately, they want to be gods of their wives. It might work, but only for sometime even for the insecure women then, there's friction(fact!).
This is the reason marriages are in trouble, men have decided to not see their own part and they hold on to the submission part and carry it on their heads like agege bread.
Complete the equation or let it go completely, if you want submission, love like you're supposed to. That's it! If not, you're in for a whirlwind of a marriage.
Oya where are all them mentioners, read and digest... Cc EgunMogaji ghostwritter gumeehn linusbnn agu87 SirJeffry engrshakespeare krismart mamaafrik kondomatic...
The gospel truth is that what I say STANDS. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by linusbnn(m): 12:41pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
urchbarbie: what r u saying Mr Have u not seen women wth houses and re willing to 'help' the man pay her dowry The thing with some men is that they av taken this head of the house thing to far and it clouds their thinking. a marriage is a union of 2 individuals, yes, one is D husband(head) while d oda is d subordinate. The issue is, can one work without the other? not at all. This is a union where one person checks the excesses of the oda and vice versa. there cant be success whr one party exerts his authority at all times. Learn to see women/wives as ur partner in biz and not the office assistant. Woman who is well to do without a husband is an unfulfilled woman. My wife can only give me reasons not to do what I intend doing,but if I chose otherwise,she has no say. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by linusbnn(m): 12:45pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
ashjay001:
I don't believe what u said can work in this age n time. Ladies have earning power and can actually call men's bluff. And, really, a lot of men don't deserve anything submissive. A woman can only bluff a gold digger man or the lazy type. A man who knws how to hustle hard will never tolerate a dominance woman |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 1:49pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
Adaeze003:
Actually one sensible mention from a guy/man, no insulting word or comment... me likey.
Actually, marriage is a union. I mean, even the whites, as rational as they are know this, why do you think every asset is split down the middle in divorce?
Now, you must understand that no one is sharing "head of house" with man. Also, I don't subscribe to african type marriages where I'll live my whole life stroking a man's ego. Well if you subscribe to it then ignore the rest of the post. But if you're talking Christian type marriage go on...
Now, on the submission issue, you have to agree that men are also to love their wives like their own body/self? And even unto dying for her Do you think it's that feeling of the heart pumping faster when you see her? Do you really think women have the hardest part? Love is synonymous to selflessness and putting her/her needs/wants before yours , overlooking her flaws(even if one of those flaws is not being submissive ), I can go on but I think you get the picture after all bible says "like Christ himself loves the world"!
But hey! What the average Nigerian man wants is slavery, the right to never be questioned by their wives even when they poke other holes, ultimately, they want to be gods of their wives. It might work, but only for sometime even for the insecure women then, there's friction(fact!).
This is the reason marriages are in trouble, men have decided to not see their own part and they hold on to the submission part and carry it on their heads like agege bread.
Complete the equation or let it go completely, if you want submission, love like you're supposed to. That's it! If not, you're in for a whirlwind of a marriage.
Oya where are all them mentioners, read and digest... Cc EgunMogaji ghostwritter gumeehn linusbnn agu87 SirJeffry engrshakespeare krismart mamaafrik kondomatic...
@Emboldened is wrong. That may be what you think but it is not the truth. Most men from my tribe want a strong wife who can stand up for her rights. Nobody wants a slave. Your moniker implies that you are Igbo, right? If true then I believe you know about our traditions and values. An adage that says "agbara nwanyi n'akwu Di ya n'ihu. I hope you know what that means?. Now let me tell you where the problem starts. I will start with you. This mentality of yours that what an average nigerian man wants is slavery is a dangerous one. How? When you marry a Nigerian man tomorrow and he tries to have a final say on an issue, the defense mechanism created by this your mentality will alert you that he's trying to enslave you, and then advice you to say NO. Before you know it, you guys will start fighting over something that doesn't make sense. Secondly, most nigerian girls are of the opinion that men should work hard to earn the submission, this is dangerous too. Because a man who comes to your father's house to pay your bride price loves you already. Now when you fold hand and wait for him to do some unrealistic things before you can submit to him, you become impossible to love. I am not denying the fact that we have many demons out there oo. Finally, when you discuss marriages in Nigeria, pls always remember this! The way Igbo men treat wives if different from the way yoruba men treat their own and both of them are different from that of hausa people so you can't say an average Nigeria when the three major tribes in Nigeria treat women differently. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by urchbarbie(f): 2:15pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
linusbnn:
Woman who is well to do without a husband is an unfulfilled woman. My wife can only give me reasons not to do what I intend doing,but if I chose otherwise,she has no say. I wish u d best in marital life. Amen |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by MarieSucre(f): 4:07pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
CNN80: [/color][color=#000000]Men, your sarcasm is great. I almost believed you were serious
\ misreal silverr Adaeze003 HaneefahRN EgunMogaji Sixix paschu amokeme Creamish This is first guy to realise my post is trolling of the highest order. For the women insulting. My post is a prime example of SARCASM. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
MarieSucre: misreal silverr Adaeze003 HaneefahRN EgunMogaji Sixix paschu amokeme
This is first guy to realise my post is trolling of the highest order. For the women insulting. My post is a prime example of SARCASM. Shyte ain't that serious baby. #NotAContest |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 6:12pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
MarieSucre: misreal silverr Adaeze003 HaneefahRN EgunMogaji Sixix paschu amokeme
This is first guy to realise my post is trolling of the highest order. For the women insulting. My post is a prime example of SARCASM. Really? |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 6:46pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by silverr(f): 7:34pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
MarieSucre: misreal silverr Adaeze003 HaneefahRN EgunMogaji Sixix paschu amokeme
This is first guy to realise my post is trolling of the highest order. For the women insulting. My post is a prime example of SARCASM. My bad. I thought so too but you kinda defended that post despite the lashing. Oya sorry. Hope I'm forgiven 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by ashjay001(m): 7:36pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
linusbnn:
A woman can only bluff a gold digger man or the lazy type. A man who knws how to hustle hard will never tolerate a dominance woman Women have been second class citizens, since time immemorial. Until recently, before women became emancipated, d majority of men- d gold digger, d lazy type n d hustler- treated women as properties to be acquired. Very few dominant women ever had their way- Amina, Cleopatra- until d past century when they found their voice and as such, if u call their bluff, they pack out, drive u out or sue ur ass for all u're worth, unlike what was obtainable in d past whereby she will apologize even when she's d wronged party. That's why d divorce rate is astronomical! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by MarieSucre(f): 8:46pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
silverr:
My bad. I thought so too but you kinda defended that post despite the lashing.
Oya sorry. Hope I'm forgiven Creamish Sixix I am sorry both. I apologize for the deception. If you had only gone through my post history you would have immediately known that I am not only female but also speak out for women. I was trolling with heavy layers of sarcasm. Ndo, ejo, I am sorry. Hope it has started raining in your side o. This heat no be here. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by silverr(f): 9:00pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
MarieSucre:
Creamish Sixix
I am sorry both. I apologize for the deception. If you had only gone through my post history you would have immediately known that I am not only female but also speak out for women. I was trolling with heavy layers of sarcasm. Ndo, ejo, I am sorry. Hope it has started raining in your side o. This heat no be here. Understood. The rain has started o, I slept for the first time for hours in the afternoon today. Thank God for remembering us. My regards to your family's |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by silverr(f): 9:02pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
MarieSucre:
Creamish Sixix
I am sorry both. I apologize for the deception. If you had only gone through my post history you would have immediately known that I am not only female but also speak out for women. I was trolling with heavy layers of sarcasm. Ndo, ejo, I am sorry. Hope it has started raining in your side o. This heat no be here. Understood. The rain has started o, I slept for the first time for hours in the afternoon today. Thank God for remembering us. My regards to your family. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Creamish(f): 9:09pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
MarieSucre:
Creamish Sixix
I am sorry both. I apologize for the deception. If you had only gone through my post history you would have immediately known that I am not only female but also speak out for women. I was trolling with heavy layers of sarcasm. Ndo, ejo, I am sorry. Hope it has started raining in your side o. This heat no be here. No ish babe.. D yeye rain only fell once..yday night.praying for a repeat. |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Joy1706(f): 10:11pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
linusbnn:
Woman who is well to do without a husband is an unfulfilled woman. My wife can only give me reasons not to do what I intend doing,but if I chose otherwise,she has no say. Are u a woman? NO. Let the women speak 4 themselves. Better look 4 a quiet village girl to marry cos if u marry a girl like me and u think I'd have no say in my own home.......? Hehehehehehe 1 Like |
Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Adaeze003(f): 11:04pm On Mar 05, 2016 |
MarieSucre: Adaeze003
This is first guy to realise my post is trolling of the highest order. For the women insulting. My post is a prime example of SARCASM. I actually knew.... laughed all through while reading... |