fogechi:
I know people will bash me but its allowed.

I hve said my own

halfricanadian:


But wen d other party finds out about the truth it becomes a problem

Marriage means both of you are now one

marriage has failed it cause in d world now

When u guys are one body one soul u keep secrets?

Wen d oda party finds out gets hurts they divorce?

Smh for u i hope u not married please if not im sure d marriage is noy up to 10years cos i kno u will lie to me only liars keep secrets

halfricanadian:


But wen d other party finds out about the truth it becomes a problem

Marriage means both of you are now one

marriage has failed it cause in d world now

When u guys are one body one soul u keep secrets?

Wen d oda party finds out gets hurts they divorce?

Smh for u i hope u not married please if not im sure d marriage is noy up to 10years cos i kno u will lie to me only liars keep secrets

fogechi:


my dear which truth when there is no secret. Problem arise when the other partner discover the other has been keeping secrets.

my question is why the secret in d first place.

emerged01:


Yes! Not everything you tell your wife.

Micah 7:5 Trust ye not in a friend, put ye not confidence in a guide: keep the doors of thy mouth from her that lieth in thy bosom.

emerged01:


Yes! Not everything you tell your wife.

Micah 7:5 Trust ye not in a friend, put ye not confidence in a guide: keep the doors of thy mouth from her that lieth in thy bosom.

halfricanadian:


It says friend not wife bible acknowledge a man can be a friend to a woman even jesus made mary magdalene his friend and lazarus sister

We are talking about wife here

Even adam and eve did nt hide anything from one another eve gave adam d apple all im trying to say it no matter d consequences secrets damage alot even if its for a good cause it wud damage a lot

fogechi:


pls tell me the things a man shouldnt tell his wife

emerged01:


Oh! You are a lady. I know it will be difficult for you to believe. "Keep the door of thy mouth from her that lieth in thy bossom". Only one's wife not female friend can lie in one's bossom.

PresVA:
It all depends on the couple involved. . Whatever makes them happy ....

However, nothing like 'privacy' in my own marriage.. I have access to everything concerning my husband including all bank details and investment details. ..

Then, people shouldn't let the media corrupt their marriage.. Don't practise everything you read online.. Learn to do what's best for you and your spouse alone and not what people think or say!

halfricanadian:


God meant from bashing her with hurtful words geez

u guys mis interprete d bible alot

Please i tink adam nd eve illustration is enof

God cud av made it in such a way only eve wud av eaten d apple nd dats final

But she gave it to adam u kno adam wud av warned her severly bou d forbidden fruit.

Shr didnt tink of d fact adam criosly warned her she knew d implication bt yet still told adam d truth dont u get it

Its an illustration dat thou shall b open to thy partner atall times

From adam to abraham to all d mighty men of God how many hid d truth from their wives?

Even wen dey all wanted to take in new wives sleep with their wives servants they were open they told their wives before dey did so ok??

emerged01:


It seems you find it difficult to understand king James version. Let me help you with this:

New Living Translation
Don't trust anyone--not your best friend or even your wife!

I'm out!

halfricanadian:


WORD!!!! PREACH SISTER HELP ME PREACH O

PresVA:
Lol.. When I read comments like: why did you invade his privacy by using his laptop or phone. .. I will just laugh because I'm probably using my husband's phone/laptop at that moment. .
Some comments are meant to be ignored..

Besides, many people echoing privacy ettcc will still go behind to check their spouse's phone/laptop; Humans are naturally curious...

Siena:
A married couple ARE allowed to have secrets - within reason. Any issues that are LIKELY to affect you, your spouse or your relationship may be exceptions. Being married does NOT automatically mean you must share everything. Sometimes, certain confidences you have been entrusted with are NOT yours to disclose.

An example - a female friend of you wife is cheating on her husband, your wife is not aware, neither is the woman's husband. It is NOT your place to expose this woman to your wife, far from it.

Another example - a family friend is terminally ill, and you are aware of this, though no one else is privy to the patient's condition. The friend confides in you, and pleads with you not to reveal his condition to anyone, including your spouse. Again, it is NOT your place to reveal this to your spouse. Boundaries need to be respected.

Supposing you were in a position of trust - you're a paralegal, doctor, attorney, PA etc. Does being married mean any confidences you are privy to MUST be shared with your spouse?

fogechi:


i disagree with u, secrets are not allowed. That secret you are keeping from hurting your partner will turn out to have a damaging effect in future. So its better to discuss the issue than keeping the secret.

xendra:
this secrete thing, people take it too far and hurt themselves. I read a post by a man(a hopeless romantic) complaining that he just learnt about his wife's past and how she was deflowered, now he cant sleep because she gave her self away too cheaply and the guy was a jackass he knew years back. I just wonder why people don't understand that it is not everything you need to know about. Now he is having problems with his marriage of over a year and his wife doesn't even know it yet. stay away from unnecessary questions please and save your spouse from themselves by nicely not telling them when they ask questions they don't need answers to.

fogechi:
I read on nairaland where a guy lambasted another guy for going through the wifes phone. For goodness sake what is wrong with that.