HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!

. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.

Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home.
Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future.

What am I really trying to say? Ladies created what they now see as "Husband Scarcity" for themselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.

Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small.

The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity.

The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage.

Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity".

PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.

WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.

NOTE: Don't forget to put God first.

This is an old story...

*yawns*

some ladies are the cause. when they decide to give out this thing free of charge or at small cost then guys themselves won't think of marriage.


everywhere you go, olosho and strippers don take over. giving u all the styles back to back. how can guys think of settling down with one woman.


some ladies need brain reset.

sinaj:
*yawns*

Madam cover your mouth.




See as her teeth big.

jhydebaba:
some ladies are the cause. when they decide to give out this thing free of charge or at small cost then guys themselves won't think of marriage.


everywhere you go, olosho and strippers don take over. giving u all the styles back to back. how can guys think of settling down with one woman.


some ladies need brain reset.

Ladies are not the cause. I blame poverty and Our traditions. So guys are too poor to go into marriage while some really want to marry but cannot afford it.


I personally don't think there's husband scarcity.

You sharp!

Ladies are the cause of it. Most of them want a ready made man.

Kondomatic:
Ladies are not the cause. I blame poverty and Our traditions. So guys are too poor to go into marriage while some really want to marry but cannot afford it.


I personally don't think there's husband scarcity.

well, both guys and ladies are the cause. the society too is not helping matters.

what I said was based on the article.

... and who says guys are too poor to go into marriage? that's not true. na by force to marry from one tribe?

if u are ready, u go see ur type.

That's why baby mamas are increasing everyday

So true and on point

Kondomatic:
Madam cover your mouth.





See as her teeth big.

e big pass Ronaldinho own!

jhydebaba:


well, both guys and ladies are the cause. the society too is not helping matters.

what I said was based on the article.

... and who says guys are too poor to go into marriage? that's not true. na by force to marry from one tribe?

if u are ready, u go see ur type.

Brokeness is the reason some guys are single.


Trust me here bro.

sinaj:
e big pass Ronaldinho own!

scary

THIS MIGHT SOUND FUNNY BUH TRUE..

THE CAUSE OF HUSBAND SCARCITY CAN BE RELATES TO MEN IN PRISON CUSTODY..

LOTS OF MEN WERE IN PRISON.

Husband are scare coz women are looking for the perfect busband

.. That does not mean that a girl should just accept anyone as a husband. Some men are not husband material.

Adaure4ever:
.. That does not mean that a girl should just accept anyone as a husband.
Some men are not husband material.

If you say some men are not husband material, what do you mean? Every man was meant to marry a woman, except for gays. So if a woman fall into this category, ha she as her self to bkame

NO HUSBAND MATERIAL

A guy will want a girl to b is choice but he will never want to train himself to b d ladies choice.

ShutdownBrown24:
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!

. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.

Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home.
Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future.

What am I really trying to say? Ladies created what they now see as "Husband Scarcity" for themselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.

Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small.

The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity.

The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage.

Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity".

PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.

WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.

NOTE: Don't forget to put God first.

you are forgetting something "wife scarcity". not all guys are husband material vice versa. so d quest is for both party

sinaj:
*yawns*

Sinaj you fall my hand o! Shey na only yawn you go take respond to this topic? I was expecting you to make a firm rebuke from the feminist angle

TruthHurts1:


Sinaj you fall my hand o! Shey na only yawn you go take respond to this topic? I was expecting you to make a firm rebuke from the feminist angle

Lol Shebi I b minister for women affair?

sinaj:


Lol Shebi I b minister for women affair?

Yes na

Na you carry licence plate and portfolio as Minister of Women's Affairs.

see all d girls dem, una don start to wan tok rubbish, no husband material, its the man fault...rubbish

Old thread oo new thread ooo, na still lecture he dey lecture una to enlighten una gold digg*ng, tall ,dark,handsome and rich mentality to do the right thing.

This stupid mindset na im make una dey old 4 una papa house so.

The op is right you will know how bad this thing is by the way baby mamas pop up everywhere this days. They all want to be pregnant for the ideal guy, yet the ideal guy probably want one woman. In most cases the lucky girl is not even pregnant for him yet .

maryrosz:
you are forgetting something "wife scarcity". not all guys are husband material vice versa. so d quest is for both party

chizzozzzz!!!!! babe!!!!

Qualer:

chizzozzzz!!!!! babe!!!!

wetin happen?

maryrosz:
wetin happen?

you on your profile got me twisted!!! you fine babe!! are you single??

I believe dia is also scarcity of wife bt plenty of women.

Qualer:


you on your profile got me twisted!!! you fine babe!! are you single??

lol m not married

maryrosz:
lol m not married

For real? ok then, i'm about to change that positively! PM..

Qualer:

For real? ok then, i'm about to change that positively! PM..

smh