Why do people get married? Is it not for better or worse? At every stage the man keeps trying to elevate his family, he does not want to end up like so many people abroad working till the age of 60 with no savings whatsoever! Instead of the wife to be threatening divorce she should learn to communicate with the husband and actually try to educate herself more so she can also pursue good paying jobs, both the husband and her should have a 5 to 7 year plan to work towards stability and ultimately towards retirement, everything is not gra gra jaare!

He wife like taste abacha all those one na story

Madam u for complain when you dey naija na, if your hubby was a pastor u for complain Stop dancing to the drumbeat in the bush

The man can leave d wife and children where ever they want to live nd move to where his new job is. Like that he gets to pursue his dreams and also give the family a permanent abode then he comes to the family when he's free like every weekend or somefyn. He can't put his wife life on hold cos of his own ambition.

igbobuigbo:
A friend is in the situation described below:

Lived in Lagos until 2006
Got married in 2005 in Owerri.
Moved wife from Owerri (she was working there) to Lagos in 2005.
Moved wife from Lagos to Holland (2006-2008). He was studying for MSc; she could not work
Moved wife from Holland to UK (2008 - 2012). Obtained his PhD while wife did some okay paying, although not so great jobs.
Moved wife from UK to Minnesota, USA (he got a job with a sponsored H1 Visa) in 2012; but wife could not work with her H4 visa
Became a Green Card holder with wife in 2014. Wife started working and settling down in Minnesota.
Then he goes for a bigger job in Pennsylvania; moves wife along to Pittsburgh in 2015. Wife took several months to get a job because she is not as educationally advanced as hubby.
Now he wants to move to Washington, DC, for even a much bigger job. Wife says ''no way. This is becoming crazy. I have a life too''. I'd rather divorce than move this time''.

What do you think he should do?

OP Don't do anything rash. Your wife is not luggage and she is not cattle; she is a human being with ambitions which she has been sacrificing for you for years. It is now your turn to listen to her or else you will regret it. Not until when you find you don't have her anymore will you relise how much you need her. Let her stay where she is; if you like go to Washington and come and visit them when you are able. Both of you probably need the distance to be able to appreciate one another better.

Duru1:



Please wife should move to Washington, DC because there are many Nigerians in the metropolis. Do not divorce him at the last leg of your journey.

Who tell you say na him last leg be that?
Give the woman some space and let her live her life too.
Must everything be about money?

The wife should endure the relocation for the last time. Wish them well.

omostar:
Why can't the wife simply stay in one place for a while and the husband comes vising regularly

My advice too in as much as I appreciate the guys willingness to be close to his family at all time.

See free tourism oooo, all expense paid trip. Madam u would have complained earlier in 2005 na. No wonder dog says " those that have ass don't know how to sit down,if he had he would have showed them how to sit"

Okijajuju1:


Chai!


Meanwhile some Girls for Naija go love this guy die..


Their Instagram page no go rest at all..

Not when they have a young family. I guess many people think money is everything. The kids needs stability Abeg....such restlessness...

I must say d guy is selfish nd only thinks of himself nt mindin his wife @ all!!.....#bad

she don get green card her mouth don wide.
This is something they should av discussed from the beginning.

I am an ambitious woman and the cost of ambition is huge. Many men can't stand people like me.

Ask Dangote why he no get wife.

abbey621:
Why do people get married? Is it not for better or worse? At every stage the man keeps trying to elevate his family, he does not want to end up like so many people abroad working till the age of 60 with no savings whatsoever! Instead of the wife to be threatening divorce she should learn to communicate with the husband and actually try to educate herself more so she can also pursue good paying jobs, both the husband and her should have a 5 to 7 year plan to work towards stability and ultimately towards retirement, everything is not gra gra jaare!

Exactly d reason she needs some stability... You advised she gets more education right? How will she do that with all d moving about ish.

When alot of people want to advance in life, the good thing is that the man is progressing, the wife should relax and move with her hubby.

Obviously there could be other reason for the divorce.

Life is about risk, many who stay put on a job or location in the long run regretted not taking the opportunity to move when it came, how many percentage of Nigerians are doing well staying behind on a particular spot?


She should just stay and enjoy herself.

Who can satisfieth a woman? Job no dey, na lazy man. The man dey move up, na relocation man. You have your papers now and well grounded in the US, you can make mouth na. Seems u had this planned a long time ago. Let her make her choice. Her reason is not due to the relocation IMO. Just an excuse. I smeel a rat.

The problem with 'suffering' with a man is that he may even be cheating on her. and when she has helped him achieve his dreams to the fullest, he might look down on her, divorce her(if in Nigeria) and go for better advanced women.


It's good they ar in America where his achievement can easily be shared by both of them if either files for divorce. so let her make a final and warning move.

All the best to her o

duduade:
Abeg I have a sister I can hook that your friend up with...

smh!

She should divorce, dump the green card and return to Nigeria to live in Mowe Ibafo.

The man is changing those jobs to better the lives of the family.

She's got the standard education, let her do the little she can and ultimately take care of the children and support the husband.

What does it profit a woman to get all the qualifications and lose her family

The children will adjust. If they are happy in their new environment.

Ppl move houses every year in Lagos; Lekki children leave home for school at 5am to return home at 8pm. That one is good for d children abi?

Many women have for these kind of reasons advised their spouses to shun relocation and big job offers. They are still struggling together and will end up blaming the hubby for not earning as much as his 'mates'

She should sit with the man and they shd weigh the options together.

America has taught her that she can be self dependent too. The thoughts she never had back in Nigeria.

Iranu.

duduade:
Abeg I have a sister I can hook that your friend up with...

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hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

There is more to life than money, the man should be considerate, if he drops dead all this world's earning will mean nothing

if the man dey too familiar with the babes around area he go relocate.

duduade:
Abeg I have a sister I can hook that your friend up with...

Lwkmd

must men marry?

Did she not see the signal at the beginning? God help their union.

mission08:


Exactly d reason she needs some stability... You advised she gets more education right? How will she do that with all d moving about ish.

Yea she needs stability but not at the risk of losing her marriage. Online education is always an option, with just a laptop and internet connection she can complete her degree with much needed flexibility.

duduade:
Abeg I have a sister I can hook that your friend up with...

abi na

I don't think she has tasted poverty before.... That man probably has. He's hustling for the future.

If she can't cope, God is interested in their seperation.

Your husband is your second god... Where ever he goes, you follow.

I doubt this story but if it's real then I luv this guy , he inspires me.

He should go and die

foliks:
The man can leave d wife and children where ever they want to live nd move to where his new job is. Like that he gets to pursue his dreams and also give the family a permanent abode then he comes to the family when he's free like every weekend or somefyn. He can't put his wife life on hold cos of his own ambition.

Best coment so far from a lady. Others are shouting selfish, selfish instaed of offering solution.
Kudos to you dear.

Probably the woman has gotten a boyfriend at the neighbourhood that she can't afford leaving behind, she want to start new life with the new guy with the cash from the money she will get from the husband.
Mtchew. No one should quote me oo.
Make she come live for naija naa.

I don't think that's a good idea ( to separate from the hubby), on the other hand the frequent moving about should be reduced to a minimum. Marriage is, well, should be about sacrifices and compromise, haven said that I strongly believe both parties should be sacrificing and compromising for another equally.