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When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 3:47pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
If you do not love a man enough to marry him, can you go ahead and marry him hoping you would love him later or u shud call it quits? |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by donbenedict(m): 3:51pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Well I wouldn't say u should call it quits cuz love is like a seed that germinates and grows into smth big with time... At Dat stage u dnt need to rush into marriage with him yet, I believ he should do more in making u see reasons why u should love him more instead of askin u to marry him... den when the love has blossomed, u can go ahead and marry him... 31 Likes |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Smellymouth: 3:53pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
I think love is overrated ![]() A great woman makes a great partner. I dont know how many times I have seen men put up with CRAP simply because, "I love her." "What do you love about him?" "I dont know, I just love him." Love is not needed for marriage. But respect is. Also I recommend men marry women on their intellectual and motherly level. 92 Likes 3 Shares
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Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by VickyRotex(f): 3:53pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
I'm a Nigerian. So I'm answering your question with a question. How do you know the quantity of love "enough" to marry a Man? PS: I learnt it takes morethan loving a Spouse to say "I do" 11 Likes |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 4:00pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Thnk you for your very meaningful response. I would take it into advisement donbenedict: 2 Likes |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by LuveU2(f): 4:02pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
I can manage him if he is cute 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 4:02pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Hmmm, wat if there is no passion. You knw that kind of fire burning passion. Doest it count? Can one stil go ahead wt d marriage? Smellymouth: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Ray360: 4:06pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
You are either in love with someone or not in love with him/her. True love grows everyday. As days thicken to months and years egg months, you discover new lovable qualities in him or her. It's not spontaneous! There is no quantifiable measure of love sufficient for matrimonial Harmony or marital Union. when two people in love go through challenges and trials of life and remain unbruised and unseparated, the love grows! You tend to see glaring reasons why you should stick with him, as such, the love heightens. even some old couples still continue to love each other. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 4:17pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Hes not cute. Buh he is nice LuveU2: 3 Likes |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Ray360: 4:20pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
pinkpebbles:Why not give it time and allow this love bloom. True love survives even in the toughest of times. Just give it time. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Smellymouth: 4:21pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
pinkpebbles: The very thing that ignites passion is friction and instability. Once again, look at your past. Passion is usually brief, intense and rocky. Comfort, on the other hand, tends to be softer and more nurturing. Comfort, therefore, is not nearly as exciting, but it tends to last longer. Studies say that passion usually dissipates in 18-24 months. Which is why people who expect their passion to last for 40 years, in essence, are trying to defy the laws of nature. In marriage, you’re not making a decision for the next six months. You’re making a decision that’ll last the next 30 years. And just like one might choose different career paths for passion or comfort, people choose partners for similar reasons. 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by LuveU2(f): 4:24pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
pinkpebbles:What is character without beauty ![]() |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Ray360: 4:30pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Smellymouth:Bro, Do you know that passion-seasoned love is actually the rationale behind some people sticking with a partner despite the partner's many shortcomings? When you love someone passionately, infinitesimal wrongs and even mammoth wrongs are played down and overlooked. Not because the person is too fragile to walk away, but because there is a deeper part of that person that is rooted in the other party. the passion you described that fades in month is mere infatuation. when it comes to true and refined love, The passion burns like an inferno which cannot be tamed easily. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 4:31pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
You have made me see reasons. Thank you Smellymouth: 1 Like |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by firstking01(m): 4:31pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
donbenedict:that your firs line says it all, no need for me to post...love grows with time. |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 4:33pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Again, I see ur reasons. And as a young lady that wants to get into marriage, you guys are ar confusin me. ![]() Ray360: |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 4:37pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
The quantity? You know all doz kinda love dt makes u quiver wen wen u think abt d person. I think that is enof for me if u ask me VickyRotex: |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Ray360: 4:42pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
pinkpebbles:Don't be confused, dear. the bottom line is, Give it time! that's the summary. certain things fall into place as time wheels events. You seem like a lady that's not so sure of what she feels. only time can reveal certain things. cheers. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 4:46pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Yeaa, I would giv it time. Buh If I dont feel dt fire, shud I leave? Ray360: |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 4:48pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Hmmm, abi ![]() LuveU2: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by VickyRotex(f): 5:17pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
pinkpebbles: Ray360 has said it all. You're either inlove or you're not. There's no quantifiable amount of love enough to sustain a marriage. I wish you all the best in whatever you decision you make. ![]() PS: Just be sure it's love and not infatuation. At times it's not love that makes one quiver when you think about a person, it's Infatuation/Lust. 7 Likes |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by donbenedict(m): 5:26pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
pinkpebbles:yes of course u should... u dnt want to meet ur soulmate just after u got married to d wrong guy 3 Likes |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 5:36pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
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Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by databoy247(m): 5:39pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
OP, the truth is that I think you may have already made up your mind to leave him and you are just looking for a reason to justify it. You dont want to be consumed with self loath for breaking the heart of an innocent man who cares deeply for you. But before you leave him, search and downlaod "The myth of singleness"- by Dr Myles Munroe (RIP). You will understand why they say its not love that actually makes a marriage work. Am just trying to make common sense ![]() 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by donbenedict(m): 5:45pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
pinkpebbles:hehe. Funny as it seems buh it happens.. ![]() So just take ur time pebbles... |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 5:46pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Ok, I wil download it. Thanks databoy247: |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 5:52pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
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Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Synzu(m): 6:22pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
pinkpebbles: Marry me then ![]() I'm nice and I'm cute too ![]() |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 6:46pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Hehehe,. Thanks, I would pass on the offer ![]() Synzu: |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by dejt4u(m): 8:27pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
What happened to parrothouz.com?? pinkpebbles: |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by pinkpebbles(f): 8:43pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
My job took over my little spare time. Been so busy havnt written anything. Thank u for askin ![]() dejt4u: |
Re: When You Do Not Love Him Enough by Rukkydelta(f): 9:10pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Smellymouth: Seconded ....love is just a fallacy 2 Likes |
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