PresVA:
Hmmmmm.. this tori shaaaa

skarlett:
You've finally lost it

keepingmum:
sorry to say but you have a mental illness and you need to seek medical attention for it. You are suspicious to the point of making public accusations without evidence.
If your neighbors look at you strangely and assume you injested foreign body liquids its because, according to you, you challenged your step mum publicly.

From your history i deduce you are at least 30yrs, i would assume your step mum is probably in her 50's or worst case scenario, buhari style, late 40's, is there anything stopping you from dishing your own food if you have little faith in her?

If she has looked after you over 14 years as a helpless child, is it now that you are a 30 year old grown up, with no business or career or assets to your name that she will consider you a threat?

please, there are lots of issues affecting nigerians but i dont think this should be one. You should focus on putting yourself out there seeking gainful employment or creating one for yourself.

If you are female, please enrol in beadmaking, MUA, tailoring or even hair dressing and if you are male, please try hair barbing, taxing etc to keep yourself occupied and useful to you

jobyyjob:
At the end of this write up I'll need input from everyone but especially from the ladies.

I am the last child in a family of 7. My mom died when I was 8 years old. Knowing the issues with step families, my dad didn't bother to marry until we were all grown up.

Fast forward 8 years, I was 16 now. My dad married his second wife. I didn't quiet take a liking to her but we coexisted nonetheless.

Still fast forward 14 more years, I've now graduated from the University for about 4 years without a job, so I basically depend on my dad and step mom for shelter and food.

Why I'm writing this is to give a proper background so you all can understand where I'm coming from. My step mom is a dubious character - she has a very uncertain personality.

One day, we had a quarrel which didn't end well. So, while handling me my breakfast, she said "here's your food. I don't even know if I put catgher (running nose) in it." I was shocked. I was picky throughout the meal and uncomfortably left it after a while.

Since then, I have been very cautious about my food. Sometimes, when I'm eating, she seems to be a bit uncomfortable as if something wrong is going on. It happened severally and I had to ask if she was putting foreign bodies in my food. Her answer was not satisfactory. I had to ask others, confront her in front of others and generally make a fool of myself without still getting any serious answer from her.

I know I've made a fool of myself. Many people around my area who here the episode quickly tell others and before long, people start looking at you strangely. Some start feeling sorry for me for having eaten saliva or whatever. Some girls that heard the story start avoiding me. The funny thing is that I'm not even sure it's what happened and from all indications, it didn't happen.

I've made a nasty reputation as someone who has injested foreign saliva whatever into his body. Not that it's harmful or causes diseases. No. But, I still feel a kind of stigma from people who know about this.

What do I do about this stupid problem. Please, any reasonable responses will be appreciated.

jobyyjob:

I was going through the most uncertain time of my life at the time. I totally lost it for sure. What I need advice on is if I can even salvage my image. If it's possible, then how?

jobyyjob:


You could say I'm over suspicious and she played to that to get me to lose my mind. Imagine asking someone a serious question and all they do is nod and smile. It doesn't clear your mind and it doesn't answer any questions. It only makes your suspicion increase. Someone innocent would be shocked at that question. But not her. She was smiling instead. But thanks for the advice.

mizquote:



thank God she didn't slap you. you should be grateful she prepared and handed breakfast to you.

go and apologize to her.

jobyyjob:

I was going through the most uncertain time of my life at the time. I totally lost it for sure. What I need advice on is if I can even salvage my image. If it's possible, then how?

jobyyjob:


Did you see me write that she plays mind tricks? I wasn't in a correct frame of mind. I acted foolishly and if given the chance again would do things quite differently. I really need to know what people think about the situation. Am I now officially unattractive to the opposite sex? Am I to try to deny it even though I'm not sure if it even took place? I have a sensitive nature. That's where my problem started sha.

jobyyjob:


Did you see me write that she plays mind tricks? I wasn't in a correct frame of mind. I acted foolishly and if given the chance again would do things quite differently. I really need to know what people think about the situation. Am I now officially unattractive to the opposite sex? Am I to try to deny it even though I'm not sure if it even took place? I have a sensitive nature. That's where my problem started sha.

mizquote:



thank God she didn't slap you. you should be grateful she prepared and handed breakfast to you.

go and apologize to her.