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Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by femmy2010(m): 5:44am On Mar 22, 2016 |
From experience, those anger issues might only get worst after marriage. Halt the marriage thing first. Better t have a broken relationship than have a boring marriage. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 5:45am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5: Nope, I don't need that type in my life. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Montaque(m): 5:52am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Op. You have got to know that nobody is perfect before marriage. And if 'the two shall become one'. It means u have got to mold each other to suit urself. Do u know it's on u too to work on urself to suit/accomodate/contain the anger fit, that's what marriage does. So the ability to work on containing this issue, determines if you can agree as a couple. She is still young and impulsive. Show her direction. Every attitude has an underlying cause, find it and give her better and civil ways to express her emotion. Read making marriage work by Joyce Meyer. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by mykel25(m): 5:57am On Mar 22, 2016 |
MARKone: I'm with you on your opinion buh beg to differ on a view u had.....please don't let her know getting married to her depend on that issue else she ll fake it till she marry you....sit her down....make her understand the place of SORRY,PLEASE....that a soft tongue turns away anger n a grievous one stir it up.... start by telling her she should define a purpose for everything she does! "is she trying to solve the issue or escalate it" make her understand that she can only solve issues when there is understanding on solving issues with her partner....and d fact remains it can't ll be solved by bringing in third party buh it ll only escalate it......m currently facing d same issue with my gf tho not upto your buh she gets angry on unnecessary things...and I broke up with a girl too Cuz she nags n uses negative words when we have misunderstanding.....lastly I ll advice you not to marry any woman that you know u can't cope with her WORST side |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by here: 6:00am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Any partner be it male or female with anger issues enough to flare or raise voices constantly at thw other or discuss issues with third party has personal issues and ego. its common with our independent ladies,notice most without good relationship or late marriages are blessed with this habit or younger ladies in most pentecostal churches who are independent.Usually they believe its a way of survival, even your most private is discussed amongst friends that is if they have or a religious figure who counsel them almost weekly. No man would tell his fellow man to put away his woman but my dear consider you're not married and it could be rhis,what happens after pains of first Labour or second as we know not many woman contain their personality afterĺ. Another error I think is you dnt let a partner advice you on everything, its only way you gain some respect rather than seem clueless over time. Some would have said enforce ur manliness or cure her but there is no guarantee it would bring peace not even sure leaving would give u better but prayerfully take a decision and if possible slow on plans on marriage till events take better shape as in you both overcome this.But never overlook pointers before marriage, it comes to bite. First attempt to seat her down and list things ur nt comfortable with and let her list hers and each promise to amend and see how that works but dnt be deceived. Finally if your the type that complain at slight chance pls remember even the Bible said its in a man's honor to overlook an offence. but this doesnt mean u should not be creative to correct a partner without nagging or seeming weak Goodluck |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by mykel25(m): 6:03am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Tombilly: Bro don't be consumed by NOLLYWOOD movies.....you can't always do ACT that....sometimes you're saying d unpalatable sorry just to let peace reign.....you too might be furiously angry buh u faked all is well for by not exhibiting it for peace to reign |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 6:08am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Call the Nigerian Army guys they are good at beating women ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by mykel25(m): 6:16am On Mar 22, 2016 |
here: Bro I ll need you to purge your mindset on certain things 1. That independent ladies always have attitude problem.....it not Cuz they are independent buh u chose to c it that way...that means if your wife eventually make money than you do.....you ll attribute all her misbehaviour to her financial level? WRONG bro.....the only thing is that they feel free to make their minds known...unlike a wife that's a liability even if d marriage is he'll for her she won't give a sound Cuz she know when ure pissed u myt starve her of financial benefits 2. Taking advice from woman: men have FORESIGHT while women have INSIGHT....when working towards a GOAL both must be considered....thats y d bible said two shall become one...n d saying behind every successful man there us a woman 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nitefury: 6:17am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Neverquit: Merci Milady. Malheureusement, je n'avais en pause lorsque j'ai perdu mon téléphone. J'espère que vous êtes en train de faire une grande? |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by sucre: 6:19am On Mar 22, 2016 |
My dear brother let me candid with u am married ok. That her anger when you eventually marry her will still destroy the union pls pls pls don't go ahead with the proposal a word is enough for the wise. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by wonlasewonimi: 6:24am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Just propose and always wear armored pants before going to bed. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by AdeniyiA(m): 6:26am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5:Though age does not determine one's maturity and experience but in this case your lady is lacking in the two, kids shouldn't get married if they have not the required experience and knowledge to raise a happy home. You should buy books on marriage for her, buy tapes on raising a happy home/marriage . From your part you're wanting in Biblical knowledge because you aren't complementing her in that area. The truth is, she has biblical knowledge but lacks Biblical wisdom, which is disastrous if lacking. Do not propose yet until you make her wise up the more and she learns to settle issues with you only. At this point use your brain and not your heart. it's well bro |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by wisdompapa: 6:27am On Mar 22, 2016 |
[quote author=shaiba post=43941425]I'm happy for you, taking a step in the right direction. ![]() Relationships of any kind is to help each other's weakness. She may have some underlying pains that tends to trigger this anger, like you said she lost both parents and was abandoned by her brothers and sisters due to change of religion. What type of religion would separate a family? Has she tried to re-unit with them? They are the ones that will still give her out in marriage according to custom. What step has she/u taken to resolve this? She has not enjoyed parental love or that kind of family love? This she found in you. She is lost and frustrated at the same time. You need to talk more about everything and anything. let her know you are ready to listen and not try to solve all her problems. You are now her father and mother. As Christians, your foundation should be in the word of God. There are great prophets of God that lost out in God's Blessings because of anger. Two can only walk together if they agree... You should both go for counseling See a therapist if need be. Think, talk, pray and talk again. I pray God to help you both in taking the right decisions . remember anger is like a knife with no handle...it cuts both ways |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by bigtt76(f): 6:27am On Mar 22, 2016 |
She's still within that Gara-Gara age naaa (20-25 years) ![]() ![]() mencade5: |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Titilayooni(f): 6:31am On Mar 22, 2016 |
If she has anger issues,think abt it well cause you would have read stories of wives that kill their husbands,the man can never believe it even if he was told...take your time bro,anger is destructive..God help you |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by taryur(m): 6:32am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5: if u really want her and like her to be your wife,you should start praying for her. Prayer changes things. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by taryur(m): 6:34am On Mar 22, 2016 |
bigtt76: quite sensible. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by komododragons: 6:36am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Montaque:RUBBISH! can you change a drunker within a day! if you are in a relationship that require working on one's character it only takes the grace of God to change some certain types of character. this one is anger management and when one can't control his/her Anger, something bad is about to happen. thank God he haven't married her yet and the only solution I see apart from beating her up to control her anger is to leave her and let her regret her mistake but it will be too late for her. WOMEN who are sounded in both mind and character are everywhere! let him go and look for a better WOMAN and stop wasting his time before this get out of hand. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 6:36am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5:Na Bleep make you wan marry? |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 6:37am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5: Do not marry a lady from pity. I sense it in your post |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by yomisley: 6:42am On Mar 22, 2016 |
with my own little knowledge you are too soft on her that's why she will always call people people to interfere. am not saying you should start beating your wife, but they are somethings you shouldn't take as a man forget love and face reality. except if you are scared of her. they are somethings she will do just bone and hold your lane tight so she can understand realize her own mistake, it's not everything you will admit in the name of love. .. PLEASE "DO NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE OR FIANCEE, SOMETIMES IT'S not good to be too cold for women, sometimes you need to show small madness for them make comport. am not perfect. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by komododragons: 6:43am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mykel25:that verse is literally talking about your mother but not of your wife or wife to be. if what you are saying, that means once can put it this way "every unsuccessful man there is a woman who cause his downfall" |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by swaggprofessor(m): 6:44am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5:reading thru ur post I discovered 2 feelings whc r:- admire & pity. no Mata hw deep I checked I couldn't find anytin like love in your relationship. if you are sure u love her and u know she loves u then u can help her change. But for now all I see in this relationship is 2 adults with the mindset that they will get married or I could be wrong after all what do I know ![]() |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by franugo(m): 6:45am On Mar 22, 2016 |
KingJhean: dnt bring freaking religion into this issue. logically speaking, religion, even if it were real, can't do shit abt a person's character. old man mencade5, listen to markone, he has written down d best advice i have seen so far...IGNORE D PRAYER SOLUTION, E NO GO WORK! |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by franugo(m): 6:49am On Mar 22, 2016 |
swaggprofessor: bros how u con take arrive at ur conclusion ni? op tell u say him love d bae n u dey doubt,,, u know any of them personally ![]() |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 6:49am On Mar 22, 2016 |
The girl is only 23 ,she will change maybe For me I can't love any girl I will change or something,manage ok but change no |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by mukthar2000(m): 6:50am On Mar 22, 2016 |
guy its just a matter of patient and perseverance, as u said that her parents are late,don't u knw that u have to br playing the role of her parents to make are realize the good from the bad, And always gave her world of advice when both u are in good mood i promise u she we change.And ladies behave differently in all stage of marriage, when u are dating they show different behave, when u wed her another behave and when she gave birth another behave. just be came she we soon change to ur taste |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by franugo(m): 6:53am On Mar 22, 2016 |
yomisley: ur post is kinda confusing. seemed like u were encouraging him 2 be more violent...then u advised him nt 2 be violent,..then u said he shud be more violent ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by mykel25(m): 6:53am On Mar 22, 2016 |
komododragons: Lolz....not every unsuccessful man buh it apparent a woman cud cause a man's downfall.....and d woman d OP is talking about is a wife to be |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by ashjay001(m): 6:53am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5: Noticed 3 different commenters giving u my line of tot, yet didn't read u acknowledging dem? So, its either ds stuff is unreal, or u'r tinking their take isn't an option. Well, wat u see is wat u get. Take it or leave it. U'r still in luv n u can't take it,wat happens wen d luv goes stale? And, trust me, it will go stale. Naija mite av d latest cars or phones, dey don't yet av d latest mindset to visit docs for mental health issues. Even u won't change ur jealous prob, doe u sound reasonable, n she does too. She mite av been brought up to be dependent on d opinion of others, hence inviting 3rd parties. So u either go ahead n hope for d best or just continue d trial n error search. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by komododragons: 6:53am On Mar 22, 2016 |
yomisley:but your wife or FIANCEE can display her madness and it is socially acceptable for a woman to be cold and behave STVPID on her husband? you WOMEN are just always in a favour of ya fellow WOMEN without considering what the man is going through in his life. do you know the reason why many men turn cold to a woman? because this world is not a place for the meek and gentle! if you are a gentle guy and easy going, ya WOMEN will state misbehaving and thinking ya are under a shield because he can easily overlook everything and start putting ya poo on him. the moment the guy beat that WOMAN up even if it is once her head will come back to it senses and that is when the love will even flow because she now understand her boundary and not to cross over it again. quote me anywhere! I recommend beating her up and that's just my ideology on this. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Aringon(m): 6:54am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5:The best way to solve such issue is going on your knees and pray for her |
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