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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by SilvanusII(m): 10:34am On Mar 23, 2016

Goes to show how very aware of HIV u r. While the chances of a male getting the virus is lower than females, there is usually a window period during which tests might not pick the virus. Its 3 months. Even if u haven't had sex with her in a month, u are still at risk. I suggest u take a test in 3 months, and den 6 months again...just to clear the air.
I am also quite impressed that you had the presence of mind to link her job and not her cheating to her exposure. Kudos. She needs you at this time. I trust you'll both be fine. Even in the advent you don't marry her (I would be very shocked to insist u will), I know she will be grateful u were there for her during this trying period.

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by MadCow1: 10:34am On Mar 23, 2016

iSellUsedCars:
Fellow Nairalanders, my 22yr old fiance who came to my place just a day ago got a call from her family doctor that her attention was urgently needed prior to some tests that were conducted on her 2 days back. I had to tell her to go see her doctor immediately as it could be something very important, so she left.

She calls me up some hours later to tell me her doctor says she's HIV positive. My head spun and I started thinking of where I must had gotten it from! We've been intimately together for 4years, and we make love as often as we feel like although our busy schedule hasn't made us see for up to a month now.

As I got the news, I felt so restless and just had to go join her at the hospital so they could carry a test to confirm my status. It came out negative. I promised her to always be by her side and wouldn't leave her cos of the disease. I trust her a lot and I believe she must have contracted it through sharp objects her makeup business exposes her to like razor blades.

Dear nairalanders, I need your advice. It's 3am in the morning, and she's called thrice already; she's depressed and suicidal right now. Pls air your matured and helpful opinion. God bless you.

Run My Nigga!! Run!

Drop her like shes hot and run..

Fhuck love, fhuck caring, fhuck all that other soft mushy bullshiit..

RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUN!!

if you cant run, get into a Car and drive like you were auditioning for Fast & Furious.

Change your phone number, quit your job, move to a new state, get a new name and identity and lay low for the next 5 years.

HIV no be children something o!

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Nobody: 10:34am On Mar 23, 2016

SirAweezy:

Nice one! I pray you won't change your mind.... I commend your spirit I must say!

Hes just intensely emotional.. When the reality hammers through about her hiv status ,his eyes go clear. Or does the op intend to have sex with her through condoms all his life with her, thats if she eventually lives long through drugs that doesnt come cheap

Or he bones the reality and continues fckn her skin to skin , so he could have kids and the process become infected with HIV and also in thesame process give birth to HIV kids?...
Not all HIV patients survive the virus

I know of a neighbour who had hiv with his wife, who gave who no one knew.. It was really hell in that house when their results came out.. Both couples were yelling at each other ,calling themselves names... Well on the long run.. The wife died first, followed by the husband and guess what all their three kids were infected and the kids died later on... One after the other.. The wife's mum was crying uncountrollable ..
It was a terrible sight to behold.. I really feel for the grand parents... Burying their children and grandchildren in a space of three years..

Op,support her through this process but remember u cant marry her... No need complicating yur life further with years of miseries ahead..
Sorry but thats stark and sad reality.

Choice is yours to choose

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by saint1010: 10:35am On Mar 23, 2016

Two of u should visit another clinic before conclusion

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by obailala(m): 10:35am On Mar 23, 2016

iSellUsedCars:
Fellow Nairalanders, my 22yr old fiance who came to my place just a day ago got a call from her family doctor that her attention was urgently needed prior to some tests that were conducted on her 2 days back. I had to tell her to go see her doctor immediately as it could be something very important, so she left.

She calls me up some hours later to tell me her doctor says she's HIV positive. My head spun and I started thinking of where I must had gotten it from! We've been intimately together for 4years, and we make love as often as we feel like although our busy schedule hasn't made us see for up to a month now.

As I got the news, I felt so restless and just had to go join her at the hospital so they could carry a test to confirm my status. It came out negative. I promised her to always be by her side and wouldn't leave her cos of the disease. I trust her a lot and I believe she must have contracted it through sharp objects her makeup business exposes her to like razor blades.

Dear nairalanders, I need your advice. It's 3am in the morning, and she's called thrice already; she's depressed and suicidal right now. Pls air your matured and helpful opinion. God bless you.

This is a very precarious situation, but like my doctor friend would always say, "it is only poor people that die of HIV/AIDS." Any comfortable person who can afford to feed well doesn't have a problem. HIV/AIDS has since been conquered and is technically not a killer disease any more.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by saintmark88(m): 10:35am On Mar 23, 2016

My advice man to man, guy gbaga............hiv no know love O, u say u trust ur woman, thts trash talk, a woman fit dey profess her love for u ontop or under anoda man, never trust 100percent....

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by HRich(m): 10:35am On Mar 23, 2016

Lexusgs430:

Tell her to tell you the truth of her extra curriculum activities, or you cannot stay with someone you cannot trust.
Remember to wear a condom!!!

You mean he should wear Condom on his mouth before asking her to tell him the truth? Or he should wear Condom for what?

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Dronedude(m): 10:36am On Mar 23, 2016

sben2308:
Am still lost cuz how could she and u not have wen u been intimate .I suggest u go to another clinic for test cuz there maybe a mix up along d way .It may be d doctor or nurse mistake .

It doesn't really work like that. years ago my girlfriend was diagnosed with HIV but as God may have it I didn't contact it. till date I am Ok and healthy. I did a lot of research and found out that contracting HIV from a female partner depends on the strain and the strength of the virus. It is quite difficult for males to contract once in an encounter but a prolonged one will lead to the contraction. This advise also goes to the OP, just take things easy and support her. She will need it at least for the next seven month and endeavor to check after 3 months and 6 months for confirmation.

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by scachy(m): 10:36am On Mar 23, 2016

I thought u just said that u went to the hospital with her n confirmed ur status.I believe The Dr would have been in d best position to give u and ur fiancé proper medical advice on the way forward. This is HIV dude, don't let love ruin ur life as well. Be available to her wen she needs u and assist her even more than u did before now, but know that nothing can work for u guys in terms of marriage or sex.marriage can only work for a HIV positive partners, in d sense that they are both positive and can give birth to HIV negative kids. Except if u r willing to contract the virus from her because u love her. D ball is in ur court. And I will advise that u take her to a different hospitals to confirm, cos there could be some complications with the family Dr's result.

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by yinkslinks(m): 10:39am On Mar 23, 2016

get it from her too and remain there grin

iSellUsedCars:
Fellow Nairalanders, my 22yr old fiance who came to my place just a day ago got a call from her family doctor that her attention was urgently needed prior to some tests that were conducted on her 2 days back. I had to tell her to go see her doctor immediately as it could be something very important, so she left.

She calls me up some hours later to tell me her doctor says she's HIV positive. My head spun and I started thinking of where I must had gotten it from! We've been intimately together for 4years, and we make love as often as we feel like although our busy schedule hasn't made us see for up to a month now.

As I got the news, I felt so restless and just had to go join her at the hospital so they could carry a test to confirm my status. It came out negative. I promised her to always be by her side and wouldn't leave her cos of the disease. I trust her a lot and I believe she must have contracted it through sharp objects her makeup business exposes her to like razor blades.

Dear nairalanders, I need your advice. It's 3am in the morning, and she's called thrice already; she's depressed and suicidal right now. Pls air your matured and helpful opinion. God bless you.

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Liljeez(m): 10:39am On Mar 23, 2016

UjSizzle:
Be supportive. And if you decide her wife material has reduced to 3yards, don't feel guilty about walking away.

Lol............so sth funny can come out from a science person

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Praktikals(m): 10:39am On Mar 23, 2016

Love is sharing. cool

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by 4nobody4every1: 10:40am On Mar 23, 2016

agarawu23:
why did you quickly came into conclusion that was where she contacted it from ? [size=15pt]do not trust ladies[/size], its one of the 10 commandment but God forget to put am.

Questions for u.
1. Since both of you have been together for 4 years, have u guys been having sex without or with protection ? I know the answer already and that made u rushed to the hospital to know your status.

2. When did she join the make up business? , is it after you guys didn't meet close to a months cos that space might be little but unexpected things can happen between that period. Who knows if she had a quickie with another guy

3. Do u ever think this might even be a 'test' from her. Cos I respect her boldness for telling u the real result of her HIV test. Is the doctor yours or hers?

4. Can you marry a HIV positive lady?

You still need to go for another HIV test weeks later to be sure you are negative abi you no nack her after you guys haven't seen each other close to month?

HIV/AIDS is real. Always use CONDOM, e no cost na #50

Spot on

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by nizetee: 10:40am On Mar 23, 2016

Do a research on colloidal silver aka CS. It is known to kill viruses. Hiv Aids virus, a piece of cake for CS. For now use Ionic Silver it's easy to get on jumia.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by octopusfreaky(f): 10:42am On Mar 23, 2016

MadCow1:

Run My Nigga!! Run!

Drop her like shes hot and run..

Fhuck love, fhuck caring, fhuck all that other soft mushy bullshiit..

RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUN!!

if you cant run, get into a Car and drive like you were auditioning for Fast & Furious.

Change your phone number, quit your job, move to a new state, get a new name and identity and lay low for the next 5 years.

HIV no be children something o!

which kian advice be ds

quit job

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by sonssyo(f): 10:42am On Mar 23, 2016

iSellUsedCars:

I insisted they took the test again. We've not been intimate for a month now. Thus, she probably just contracted it. I'll try another clinic in the morning however. Thank you

yes, she should take another test abeg, then u can still go for confirmatory test too. i know God will see her through !!!

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Olaniyi021(m): 10:42am On Mar 23, 2016

Mr poster, don't be depressed there is a solution to your fiancee problem if you have faith.

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Barayeks(m): 10:43am On Mar 23, 2016

the chances of getting HIV from a sharp object is highly negligible.... except the sharp object in her case is a deeek... You better go to church and shout 70 hallelujah to God for saving your life.

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by miqos02(m): 10:44am On Mar 23, 2016

let her do the test again in another hospital

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by kenzysmith: 10:45am On Mar 23, 2016

You kw wat go to ur his house ask him to ve a sex wit u without condom then come here and ask this question again I will surely give u a good reply

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by JOKLEVIZ(m): 10:45am On Mar 23, 2016

iSellUsedCars:

I insisted they took the test again. We've not been intimate for a month now. Thus, she probably just contracted it. I'll try another clinic in the morning however. Thank you

bro am nt wishing u ill but don't give urself hope, after a week go to another clinic nd run a test...

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by GIsrael(m): 10:45am On Mar 23, 2016

Being HIV postive is no big deal as people take it. My aunt has been living with it for over 15 years. The husband knows and they married all the same. They have beautiful HIV negative kids and the first is almost done with secondary school now.Oh, and the husband is still HIV negative.

Besides we can all drop and die at any point in time. HIV is not a death sentence, unless you don't take ur drugs or take on a healthy positive lifestyle.

If I loved someone and they happen to be HIV positive I will still marry that person instead of living a thousand decade of misery with someone else.

Op, its time to prove your love. She needs psychosocial support right now.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by sonssyo(f): 10:46am On Mar 23, 2016

MadCow1:

Run My Nigga!! Run!

Drop her like shes hot and run..

Fhuck love, fhuck caring, fhuck all that other soft mushy bullshiit..

RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUN!!

if you cant run, get into a Car and drive like you were auditioning for Fast & Furious.

Change your phone number, quit your job, move to a new state, get a new name and identity and lay low for the next 5 years.

HIV no be children something o!

this your name no be mistake at all

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by ewons1(m): 10:48am On Mar 23, 2016

@op....
u said she got a call from her family doctor....wait oo
first of all,what took her there for a test to be ran on her?
was she sick or was there any symptoms she was manifesting before she went to the hospital?
what did u personally observe before she went?
and what did she tell u was wrong with her before she visited the family doctor?
pls provide anmswers to these questions.....so sorry about ur lady.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by happney65: 10:49am On Mar 23, 2016

missyadorable:
Op,if you have ever had unprotected sex with her and tested negative doesn't mean you are indeed negative.Do a confirmatory test 3 months after...you could be in the window period.

Don't rejoice yet!

This is why God admonished us to stay from from fornication and adultery but people of the world will not agree

We dont agree by using condoms..he don do u? grin

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by truthspeaks: 10:49am On Mar 23, 2016

Offer her d best of ur comfort, re-do ur test in another clinic, but never give her false hope of marriage cos d harsh reality is its nt possible for u 2 get married again even she knows dat. My simple ten kobo contribution

iSellUsedCars:

I insisted they took the test again. We've not been intimate for a month now. Thus, she probably just contracted it. I'll try another clinic in the morning however. Thank you

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Praktikals(m): 10:50am On Mar 23, 2016

menix:
oga, u will be deceiving urself if u say u trust a gal in this 21st century, sharp object ko invisible needle nii......

Gbam!

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by Lexusgs430: 10:50am On Mar 23, 2016

HRich:
You mean he should wear Condom on his mouth before asking her to tell him the truth? Or he should wear Condom for what?

Where would you usually wear a condom and for what activities do normal people use or wear a condom?

Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by ireneony(f): 10:50am On Mar 23, 2016

menix:
OP, u need slap just i needed some years back..
She said she was HIV positive nd i was lost in love probably because i neva collect kpekus, had 2 days sleepless night because i wanted to convince myself to continue.

As i tell am my mind, she just dash me slap cry comot..

my advice; u know u cant marry her abii, just give her the support she needs now while preparing to take a long walk..

oga, u will be deceiving urself if u say u trust a gal in this 21st century, sharp object ko invisible needle nii......

take it easy grin

abeg give the op small hope grin

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by smileysmiley(f): 10:52am On Mar 23, 2016

Don't forget to go for your check up in 3 months time to be sure of your status. Be careful with her by the way.

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by solara: 10:53am On Mar 23, 2016

menix:
OP, u need slap just i needed some years back..
She said she was HIV positive nd i was lost in love probably because i neva collect kpekus, had 2 days sleepless night because i wanted to convince myself to continue.

As i tell am my mind, she just dash me slap cry comot..

my advice; u know u cant marry her abii, just give her the support she needs now while preparing to take a long walk..

oga, u will be deceiving urself if u say u trust a gal in this 21st century, sharp object ko invisible needle nii......

I owe U 4 bottles of big stout

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Re: Help! My Fiance Is HIV Positive, I'm Not; What Do I Do? by creekmayor: 10:55am On Mar 23, 2016

iSellUsedCars:
Fellow Nairalanders, my 22yr old fiance who came to my place just a day ago got a call from her family doctor that her attention was urgently needed prior to some tests that were conducted on her 2 days back. I had to tell her to go see her doctor immediately as it could be something very important, so she left.

She calls me up some hours later to tell me her doctor says she's HIV positive. My head spun and I started thinking of where I must had gotten it from! We've been intimately together for 4years, and we make love as often as we feel like although our busy schedule hasn't made us see for up to a month now.

As I got the news, I felt so restless and just had to go join her at the hospital so they could carry a test to confirm my status. It came out negative. I promised her to always be by her side and wouldn't leave her cos of the disease. I trust her a lot and I believe she must have contracted it through sharp objects her makeup business exposes her to like razor blades.

Dear nairalanders, I need your advice. It's 3am in the morning, and she's called thrice already; she's depressed and suicidal right now. Pls air your matured and helpful opinion. God bless you.

.............................................................

Saw this this morning follow up on it http://gizmodo.com/hiv-successfully-edited-out-of-immune-cells-1766413957

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