Sister, I will advise to try and loose weight but as for the guy, place him on your shoulder
instead of your heart cos he may end up breaking your precious heart

Based on my little experience, it might be u that asked him that question if you look fat in one outfit or the other... This particular scene repeats itself any time a loving man accompanied a girl to a boutique....or when they were dressing up for a function.....and when he gave an honest opinion, it became a different thing....

And if he says u were good the way u were, u will feel he was avoiding the truth....and changing the subject.....He loves u but some times, some ladies tends to put words into a guy's mouth...

If he criticize you before marriage about your body, what will he do after you have given birth to your kids?
His love for you (if at all it's love) is not at heart, it's a love that satisfies him because he wants to have you fit and appealing before him. Simply put, you are his trophy and once you fall beyond his standards, then lights out on that love. How long will you continue to go the gym not because you want to exercise your body and prevent sickness, but because you want to please someone?
Look beyond the present and imagine how you will be in 15 years time, will he still see you as his pretty wifey who had everything intact?
It's a pity on what relationships and marriages has been reduced to today.

YorubaWoman:
Emi o gboyinbo o.

Ki la n ba ka
Okunrin to ba nife eyan kosi gbogbo pe o ti sanra ju, lo reduce wetii e, mi sure pe ma ma mu o re ode
Ko tie ni wo nkankan rara, ki lan pe ni ife latokan wa

Awa 84kg gan, won si nbe wa ka ma reduce. Awa ga na
Abi eyin na ma nfa bi igbin ni
E ma nro bi eni to ti dade ni joun
Abi ijewuru leyin na to je pe gbogbo mindinmindin le nda losi ona ofun
E gbera kan mo, ko sife larin yin

Your relationship is more of physical. No love!

yorubawoman you don talk am finish, I owe you one bottle of Alomo

Vinshu:
Go to the gym. Some guys don't like fat ladies.

Point of correction, most guys

sas91:


people that know me said i'm not fat, nor Slim just average but having the tendency of becoming fat, another problem with me I know is I don't have a flat tummy.

I weigh 75-78kg
Not even up to 5.5
I don't have a flat tummy either

But I sm hawt
Seriously
Tell that guy to feck his asshole
He's killing your self esteem
I am big
Bold
Black and beautiful

well my candid advice is ,please find your way when it is bright before its dark.it is obvius he will drop you after bearing a child for him because you will definitely add up later in the day.please i know it is difficult to quit but you have to summon courage to make decision now.secondly you never can tell if he is not connected to your friend in any way before comparing both of you

ellacute45:
He doesn't love you for who you are being fat isn't a curse..

......... Yes woooo! Me like them Fat and Curvy

Why are people complaining now? If she is of average height, she is tilting to the bigger side

You need to lose weight for yourself and for him

Funny how ladies feel a guy doesnt love them cos he complains about their weight. " he should love me the way i am" continue deceiving yourself. I guess doctors hate fat people too.
And besides the lady benefits more from loosing weight than the partner who complains.

sweetetlove:
sister pls hit the gym

gbam! Iji okwu..



Nairaland official comedian

Both of you should look for love and happiness first.

I'm glad you are making efforts to lose weight, that good for both of you.

sas91:


people that know me said i'm not fat, nor Slim just average but having the tendency of becoming fat, another problem with me I know is I don't have a flat tummy.

My dear dont kill yourself. If you know naturally you dont have a flat tummy, just try your best not to eat too much and above all, LOVE YOURSELF and tell that dude to go hug transformer. The man that loves you will not care about how you look but will love you because you are you. Go listen to kirk franklyn "imagine me"

shaibu123:
If you think your fiance is stupid,then watch this

O boy! what are comparing ? haba! that thing,that foto death trap.

ellacute45:
He doesn't love you for who you are being fat isn't a curse..

She asked for an advice n not a complain. I even doubt if you know anything abt marriage

My type BBW Back Beautiful Woman!

sas91:
Pls I need your honest opinion on this matter , i'm a lady with an average height and weighing 70kg, my fiance always complain about my weight and I know I'm trying my best working on it. But this time around he compared me with my friend and said my friend has a better body structure than I, that i'm not more beautiful as I used to be and that if I want to be his wife then I must Slim down. And so many things I can't even mention. He finally asked if I am ready to do all he wants.
my fear is did he truly love me? what if I Slim down now and even get fatter after giving birth to a baby, wld he then hate me so much? i'm confused and scared of going on with the relationship, Pls I need advice from experienced people.

look aunty... my advise to u is that YOU do wat it takes to keep your man cos men are hard to come by now and stopping complaining on social media those gals advising you to leave him are they same people that will tell you that they will sacrifice any thing to keep their MAN

Vinshu:
Go to the gym. Some guys don't like fat ladies.

Control your diet.

Avoid junk foods.

Do a lot of exercise. And if you give birth to a child still remain slim. It's not hard.

You said some guys dont like fat ladies!!!!! Was he blind before asking her out or was she forced on the guy. The guy is looking for a silly excuse jare.

My dear Op, the guy is not urs, if he loves you he's meant to support you on how to look slimmer not to condemn you or compare you with someone. If u force yourself to do his will, there's no how u will not add weight in the future if u av the trait in your blood and he will always complain. Never go against ur will to please anynody at ur own detriment. I'm not saying u shud not work out on ur stature but not to please someone who dont appreciate what he has.

LOOSE WEIGHT

most fat ladies hav bad smell

steve308:
look aunty... my advise to u is that YOU do wat it takes to keep your man [b]cos men are hard to come by now [/b]and stopping complaining on social media those gals advising you to leave him are they same people that will tell you that they will sacrifice any thing to keep their MAN

Yeah, you will soon go extinct too

Make you wait for me, I am coming to send you to Baba God

Nonsense!

Dyt:


I weigh 75-78kg
Not even up to 5.5
I don't have a flat tummy either

But I sm hawt
Seriously
Tell that guy to feck his asshole
He's killing your self esteem
I am big
Bold
Black and beautiful

She isn't asking for how to maintain a relationship but her marriage so if u don't have a reasonable advice u can kindly shut da fvck up

As much as I avoid this kind of thread but I have to write here. Op and others looking for emotional advice on NL are making a big mistake cos we have a lot of sadist n bitter people around, also some others reason with sentiment n bias so please sieve what u read
Op personally I love ur sincerity and I commend u for that, u said he told u that u are not as beautiful as u were before n that means he met u a slim babe so please get back ur shape, again u said u are trying ur best but let me tell u that ur best isn't doing u much good, get serious and make it a priority please, and finally for those telling u that he doesn't love u with all assurance without even knowing the guy, I just laugh at their ignorance.
The truth is everyone in love should fight for what they want and leave the ego thing out for those who enjoy staying single or divorced
Daalu nu

I don't know how old you are but 70kg isn't a bad weight @ all. I work in a gym and I'v seen fat people. I mean fat. As par your guy I don't tink you should be with someone that discorages u. Your self esteem alone is very important. Now if you have to loose weight do it for yourself and not to impress any1. I think u'll do just fine, jus believe in yourself and always have it in mind dt being fat isn't a sin

sas91:
Pls I need your honest opinion on this matter , i'm a lady with an average height and weighing 70kg, my fiance always complain about my weight and I know I'm trying my best working on it. But this time around he compared me with my friend and said my friend has a better body structure than I, that i'm not more beautiful as I used to be and that if I want to be his wife then I must Slim down. And so many things I can't even mention. He finally asked if I am ready to do all he wants.
my fear is did he truly love me? what if I Slim down now and even get fatter after giving birth to a baby, wld he then hate me so much? i'm confused and scared of going on with the relationship, Pls I need advice from experienced people.

Dyt:

I weigh 75-78kg Not even up to 5.5 I don't have a flat tummy either
But I sm hawt Seriously Tell that guy to feck his asshole He's killing your self esteem I am big Bold Black and beautiful

i'm just about your height

This question is ruffing my head here comes op's

swaggprofessor:
She isn't asking for how to maintain a relationship but her marriage so if u don't have a reasonable advice u can kindly shut da fvck up

You are an idiot
If you dunno
Now you know

eziokwu di na okwu a ikwuru bu na, nwata nwoke ahu ahuchaghi gi n'anya.

or...... o na acho i gwa gi ka ijiri ehihie chowa ewu ojii tupu chi ejie, my dear!.

gbalia fechanata otu ira, ka anyi mara style ozo o ga eji abia.

sas91:

5 years

and he just realized you are fat now, wasted years!

Tell him you are making efforts to slim down but he should stop comparing you with your friends. Watch what you eat, eat balanced diet and avoid those things that make you to put on weight.

Richy4:
Based on my little experience, it might be u that asked him that question if you look fat in one outfit or the other... This particular scene repeats itself any time a loving man accompanied a girl to a boutique....or when they were dressing up for a function.....and when he gave an honest opinion, it became a different thing....

And if he says u were good the way u were, u will feel he was avoiding the truth....and changing the subject.....He loves u but some times, some ladies tends to put words into a guy's mouth...

Dude dont u read? He said her friend had a better structure... He couldn't havd said it in a boutigue... Smh