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Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by hanubarbie(f): 11:35pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Marxxx:sorry |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Marxxx: 11:35pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
dangotesmummy:funny you |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by An0nimus: 11:38pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Marxxx: The bolded has ruled out plenty potential comments already. Bar financial hitches, personally the next reason is not having met someone I feel I can stay married to. Anybody can get married to anybody these days. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Marxxx: 11:43pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
An0nimus:ohhh...This got me pondering....So lets say you have 2m naira right now will you take the money and get married right away? or will you hesitate and think of something else? I want to know what may cause the reluctance...I like the way you reason... |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by sisisioge: 11:51pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Marxxx: You got me wrong there but I will leave the thread for men alone to comment. |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by MRBrownJ: 11:55pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Marxxx: with prenups and what not, if a man really doesnt want to leave anything to his partner, then he can... (whether married or not). any man unmarried CAN/SHOULD sign a contract with his common law spouse to make sure that all their properties are protected. this contract covers only property that they acquired before they met their partner, and doesnt bind people to stay together. the REAL problem here is that, sadly, in Africa marriage is a do or die issue, and the REAL focus has been lost. you have: A) parents wanting to marry their offsprings, in order to cash in on the bride price, would groom them from an early age, telling them that the ONLY aim in life is marriage. so even miserable women (who have absolutely nothing valuable to offer a man) would seek for marriage and price themselves like a gem, due to that African way of thinking. women are no more human beings, they are valuable live stocks! B) also, there is such a big social/religious/family/peer pressure for people to get married because marriage = happiness in their mind. today, people in Nigeria dont seek for marriage because they found someone that they love and want to spend the rest of their natural life with, they seek for marriage as a STATUS.... the "i am finally happy" status, and they will gladly flaunt it, even if miserable in their false union. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Marxxx: 11:59pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
sisisioge:Alright do have a great night rest |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Marxxx: 12:01am On Mar 24, 2016 |
MRBrownJ:well you have a point. But I want you to look inwards now...search your heart deeply; why are you not married? 1 Like |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by MRBrownJ: 12:15am On Mar 24, 2016 |
Marxxx: as i stated earlier, i dont NEED to... the important question should be: why do YOU believe that this piece of paper would make any difference to what we already have. |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Marxxx: 12:20am On Mar 24, 2016 |
MRBrownJ:You know a lot of people think bcause their income is on the low side or because they do not have a good job that is why they are not married .But I believe that is entirely not true. I want people to really think about it consciously and know the main reason why they are still single |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by An0nimus: 12:22am On Mar 24, 2016 |
Marxxx: I'll most likely hesitate and think of something else. 2m naira off the bat won't see me rushing into marriage in at least the following six months even if I have someone. There are first other responsibilities to see to and things to set up. Hopefully, should this 2m lead to a fairly steady (extra )income after the six months, marriage will be fast tracked. Fast tracked in the sense that I have seen her already. |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Marxxx: 12:27am On Mar 24, 2016 |
An0nimus:wow so marriage is not at the top of your priority list. You want an investment that will produce more cash before you think about marriage....so it's not like money is the main reason. The main reason is because you don't have a large investment yet...okay I get you thanks 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by jashar(f): 12:34am On Mar 24, 2016 |
Dyt Dyttttt Dyyyytttttttt ooooooooooo......... our mutual friend is back. |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by MRBrownJ: 12:44am On Mar 24, 2016 |
Marxxx: and these people wouldnt be wrong, would they? remember i told you that these people marry to get that deluded status of "i am finally HAPPY"... well, part of the flaunting process is to have the biggest wedding possible, and invite EVERYONE so that they can now confirm their "happiness" status, and flaunt it even more. and sadly, these wedding receptions, traditional weddings etc COST MONEY. the majority refuse to just have a quiet civil marriage, the whole world needs to hear about their weddings (and they even have printed gifts to remind everyone in their own home, after the wedding). many have NO money yet, and subsequently will indebt themselves for that charade which bring them ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, apart from the flaunting of their new status. to those who have the money for it, so be it, but let us have a minute of silence for our fallen comrades who have been blackmailed by their spouse into borrowing the cash, thus starting married life in debts. its a self esteem thing, and a person who is secure about his r/ship/status, does NOT need to flaunt it to the world. i dont need people to confirm that i am happy, i KNOW i am. i was already happy while single, and a common law union is just an added bonus. have you ever asked yourself why every time Nigerian women hear about someone getting married, their first answer is "how lucky she is"?! the gal could marrying a monster, for all they know... 1 Like |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by obiaguna(m): 1:04am On Mar 24, 2016 |
Personally speaking, I think we have hammered too much on "lack of adequate finances" as the major reason why guys choose not to get married. I'm not implying that it isn't a good reason to put marriage on the break but I think finding the right partner is a bigger reason than finance. It's not easy finding a woman that you can confidently say you want to spend the rest of your life with, citing numerous cases of infidelity and divorces. I think one has to be prepared mentally, emotionally and financially. To your question. I'm not close to that age range so I should get married in a few years time. Say 3-4 years from now. Good topic by the way. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Marxxx: 2:46am On Mar 24, 2016 |
obiaguna:yeah I think most people don't really know why they are not married yet. Some will tell you no money. Give them 2m and they are still not married. It's basically not about the money I guess... 1 Like |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Marxxx: 2:48am On Mar 24, 2016 |
MRBrownJ:wow you really have it all figured out.... |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Marxxx: 2:50am On Mar 24, 2016 |
jashar:lol...this is strictly for the guys... |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Dyt(f): 7:52am On Mar 24, 2016 |
jashar: Don't mind that one jor He don get gf na 1 Like |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Slapsticker: 8:35am On Mar 24, 2016 |
Marxxx: if you can't understand this joke, how would you understand my reply? 4 Likes
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Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by ojun50(m): 9:16am On Mar 24, 2016 |
Marxxx: that much beside am nt looking for that amount. |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by jashar(f): 9:25am On Mar 24, 2016 |
Marxxx: Forgerrit mehn.... I don land. even caveat emptor can't move me . I'm as immovable as a steelpost. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by jashar(f): 9:26am On Mar 24, 2016 |
Dyt: Ehen, when did it happen? Wasn't it last month he was lamenting? Thank God ooooo..... |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Dyt(f): 9:44am On Mar 24, 2016 |
jashar: Marxxx Come and answer ooo It don't take time for men you know |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by yetseyi(f): 1:40pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by herboshedhe(f): 1:40pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
MRBrownJ: GOD BLESS YOU MAN!!! |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by herboshedhe(f): 1:41pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
hi marxxxx....my friend is here Awaiting that wedding IV o |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by herboshedhe(f): 1:46pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
www.nairaland.com/2901535/should-continue-relationship-25-only this post suppose the best thread of the year |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by SSpeter(m): 5:41pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
Apart from money, I believe finding the right partner is the most tedious task especially when you have made up your mind to get married. Ladies will start playing/Acting nice and you get confused. Finding the right partner is the most difficult. Mr Marxxx I want to ask you something in respect to a job stuff please reply me....thanks 1 Like |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by MRBrownJ: 5:51pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
Marxxx: it works for ME, now care to finally answer my question: why do YOU believe that this piece of paper would make any difference in anybody's life? |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by obiak4(m): 8:13pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
not mentally prepared to live in the same house with a wom an(my second mother, my princess, my bedmate,my soul mate) don't want to end up being a divorce most ladies nowadays don't know what they want my spec are as follows 100% FIDELITY older than me plus 30-32 should not wear earnings or attachment whatsoever UNTIL I MEET HER I WOULD ENJOY BEEN SINGLE BLESSED BE |
Re: Why Are You Not Married (28+ Men Only)? by Marxxx: 9:19pm On Mar 24, 2016 |
SSpeter:I agree with you. Sometimes searching for the right partner could be tantamount to searching for crude oil in sambisa forest....I will send you an email in respect to your career stuff |
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