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sweet2blv:
I graduated from a private uni couple of years back and presently a master degree older.
I work with a multinational company with head office in Liverpool earning a net pay of 3.8M after tax and payee but the problem now is that, I am tired of heart break or whatever its being called. Just for me to find a true love, I gave out my car to an uncle possibly I will see a woman to love me for whom I am but all proved abortive.
Thou am still in my late 20s but wish to settle down soon.
Mind you, am not stingy or have any bad character as I am a cool christian brother.
To the house, what do I need to do to see a true love?

how is giving your car away be a solution to finding the proper partner?
what do you do apart from work? where do you socialize in order to meet women?
did you have a gf, back in Nov 2015, when you were still unemployed?
when was the last time you had a gf, and why did the r/ship broke?

also, many single women may read this so tell us what is great about you, what makes you special (sell yourself!!!)

MRBrownJ:


how is giving your car away be a solution to finding the proper partner?
what do you do apart from work? where do you socialize in order to meet women?
did you have a gf, back in Nov 2015, when you were still unemployed?
when was the last time you had a gf, and why did the r/ship broke?

also, many single women may read this so tell us what is great about you, what makes you special (sell yourself!!!)

You ask too. He's looking for true love but somehow thinks giving a woman a car is the right way to go about it, smh. Why do people reason like this?

See cool advert ooo
Jashar
Pls call others on that marxxx thread

Food don land oo
Make we take our share

I don land ooo.

Make I read.

**after**
. Dyt go for him naaa, he get money.

Like seriously....
Singing
all the single ladies, all the single ladies...oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh

Op, where can we apply oooo......

jashar:
I don land ooo.

Make I read.

**after**
. Dyt go for him naaa, he get money.

Like seriously....

He no get the kain money I dey faind
Ask him on my behalf
Can he gimme just 5million naira?

Dyt:



He no get the kain money I dey faind
Ask him on my behalf
Can he gimme just 5million naira?

Ok.

bro sweet2blv(this your moniker sef) as you know in this life, money makes the world go round .

So therefore, how much you gat?

Marx Marxxx Marxxxxxxxx... you berra come here and see something oooo.

Maybe the both of you can embark on the 'quest' togerra.

F

MRBrownJ:


how is giving your car away be a solution to finding the proper partner?
what do you do apart from work? where do you socialize in order to meet women?
did you have a gf, back in Nov 2015, when you were still unemployed?
when was the last time you had a gf, and why did the r/ship broke?

also, many single women may read this so tell us what is great about you, what makes you special (sell yourself!!!)

I gave out my car in order to live a normal life and for ppl coming my way to see me as I am and not for what I have. The good side of it is that I stays close to my office and the car was given out to an uncle not a woman
Lastly, I have never bn out of job so whr did u see that i was out of job in Nov 2015

sweet2blv:

With due respect, try n tink right.
I gave my car out cos of my experience wt Nigeria gals. By the special grace of God, I cruised the city wt venza and all u ladies want is already made guys.
For ur info, my moniker hs notin to do wt my personality. I was in a reltionship wt a well established lady bt one tin led to d other bt other ladies comin my way r jst here for what I av n nt whom I am.
Bear wt my shrtnd n use of words

I am thinking right alright, but you need to check yourself.

1) You don't know me, so don't compare me to other females. I could care less about how much money you make or the car you drive.
2) You won't find true love if you keep attaching it to material things and/or enticing females with material things. You created a thread telling us your net pay, as if anyone here asked for that info. Learn to keep some things private. You yourself just stated that the ladies coming your way are doing so because of what you have and not because of who you are. How do they know what you have if you're not making public announcements? Not everything is meant to be shared.
3) You need to start practicing humility before you can attract the right person. You get what you give.
4) I didn't say your moniker has anything to do with your personality. I didn't even mention your moniker nor your personality.

sweet2blv:
I graduated from a private uni couple of years back and presently a master degree older.
I work with a multinational company with head office in Liverpool earning a net pay of 3.8M after tax and payee but the problem now is that, I am tired of heart break or whatever its being called. Just for me to find a true love, I gave out my car to an uncle possibly I will see a woman to love me for whom I am but all proved abortive.
Thou am still in my late 20s but wish to settle down soon.
Mind you, am not stingy or have any bad character as I am a cool christian brother.
To the house, what do I need to do to see a true love?

is this a new method of advert

erhmm oga you forgot to drop ur number and house address for prospective clients. iranu.

Yieldings:


I am thinking right alright, but you need to check yourself.

1) You don't know me, so don't compare me to other females. I could care less about how much money you make or the car you drive.
2) You won't find true love if you keep attaching it to material things and/or enticing females with material things. You created a thread telling us your net pay, as if anyone here asked for that info. Learn to keep some things private. You yourself just stated that the ladies coming your way are doing so because of what you have and not because of who you are. How do they know what you have if you're not making public announcements? Not everything is meant to be shared.
3) You need to start practicing humility before you can attract the right person. You get what you give.
4) I didn't say your moniker has anything to do with your personality. I didn't even mention your moniker nor your personality.

you really have time oo, you think the op is serious?

Yieldings:


I am thinking right alright, but you need to check yourself.

1) You don't know me, so don't compare me to other females. I could care less about how much money you make or the car you drive.
2) You won't find true love if you keep attaching it to material things and/or enticing females with material things. You created a thread telling us your net pay, as if anyone here asked for that info. Learn to keep some things private. You yourself just stated that the ladies coming your way are doing so because of what you have and not because of who you are. How do they know what you have if you're not making public announcements? Not everything is meant to be shared.
3) You need to start practicing humility before you can attract the right person. You get what you give.
4) I didn't say your moniker has anything to do with your personality. I didn't even mention your moniker nor your personality.

Darn!! Yields the ghost.

Don't tell me if ol'boy were to buy you a Ferrari, you won't accept it.

I guess you won't mind dating a guy flipping burgers at maccies then. Me likey.

Shymm3x:


Darn!! Yields the ghost.

Don't tell me if ol'boy were to buy you a Ferrari, you won't accept it.

I guess you won't mind dating a guy flipping burgers at maccies then. Me likey.

If a guy I do not know buys me a Ferrari, I would gently decline. His lack of self-worth would be a big turn-off. His boastfulness would be a bigger turn-off. His unnecessary lavish spending on a female he does not know would be an even bigger turn-off. In other words, his attempt to impress me has failed. A man who is confident in himself would not feel the need to buy a female unsolicited gifts in order to show her that he has money or prove anything to her. I would not want to be in a relationship with such a foundation. Now if I were in an already-established relationship with a man or married to him and he wills to buy me a Ferrari, that is a different story because a relationship exists between us and I might feel more comfortable accepting it. But if a man truly knows me, he would know that buying me a Ferrari, a Bentley or Pegani would not make me happy but rather depressed. I would rather sell the car and give the money to those in need.

No, I would not mind dating a guy who works at Maccies. A job is a job is a job. As long as he is ambitious and still has dreams, I would be proud of him for at least doing something and striving to better things for himself. He might not have much today but his story might change tomorrow. I consider myself a ride-or-die-chick. If I am with you, I am with you. I am not moved by a man's money or lack of it.

Yieldings:


If a guy I do not know buys me a Ferrari, I would gently decline. His lack of self-worth would be a big turn-off. His boastfulness would be a bigger turn-off. [/b]His unnecessary lavish spending on a female he does not know would be an even bigger turn-off. In other words, his attempt to impress me has failed. [b]A man who is confident in himself would not feel the need to buy a female unsolicited gifts in order to show her that he has money or prove anything to her. I would not want to be in a relationship with such a foundation. Now if I were in an already-established relationship with a man or married to him and he wills to buy me a Ferrari, that is a different story because a relationship exists between us and I might feel more comfortable accepting it. But if a man truly knows me, he would know that I would rather sell the car and give the money to those who are in need of it, or just donate it so they can do with it as they wish.

No, I would not mind dating a guy who works at Maccies. A job is a job is a job. As long as he is ambitious and still has dreams, I would be proud of him to at least doing something and striving to better things for himself. He might not have much today but his story might change tomorrow. I consider myself a ride-or-die-chick. If I am with you, I am with you. I am not moved by a man's money or lack of it.

Wow.

I'm impressed and I owe you a trip to the serengeti. That's why you're the homie cos ya mentality is different from the rest of the chicken heads. Just be yourself, you're good girl.

- Anti-materialism.
- Confidence.
- Helping the less fortunate/disadvantaged folks.
- Pride in labour.
- Ride-or-die chic.

taryour:




is this a new method of advert

erhmm oga you forgot to drop ur number and house address for prospective clients. iranu.

Damn
Wonder how sm ppl tink
Am nah here for any fucking advert and I wonder why ppl cant jst stay off. Mst u comment on a thread?
Sorry if I sound so harsh or buggative. Just tryin to express mysef and to u all, accpet my apology. Ok?

[s][/s]

Yieldings:


I am thinking right alright, but you need to check yourself.

1) You don't know me, so don't compare me to other females. I could care less about how much money you make or the car you drive.
2) You won't find true love if you keep attaching it to material things and/or enticing females with material things. You created a thread telling us your net pay, as if anyone here asked for that info. Learn to keep some things private. You yourself just stated that the ladies coming your way are doing so because of what you have and not because of who you are. How do they know what you have if you're not making public announcements? Not everything is meant to be shared.
3) You need to start practicing humility before you can attract the right person. You get what you give.
4) I didn't say your moniker has anything to do with your personality. I didn't even mention your moniker nor your personality.

Thanks for ur comment but to correct few of ur points, stated all such jst to b detailed and sinx no one here knw of my identity why shd I keep.a secrete from ppl dt cud help?
Above all, am sorry if i sound rude but its because of ur 1st comment

I feel you guys are too harsh to the OP now.

I have really not seen whats wrong in what he posted(sweet2blv you should have left out the salary details it was not necessary).

I also know people who stopped using their cars for a while in order to attract people that like them for who they and not what they are perceived to worth. Different people with different methods.


Besides one can find love anywhere even on nairaland.

Anyway OP, you will find one who will complete you just continue looking.

Shymm3x:


Wow.

I'm impressed and I owe you a trip to the serengeti. That's why you're the homie cos ya mentality is different from the rest of the chicken heads. Just be yourself, you're good girl.

- Anti-materialism.
- Confidence.
- Helping the less fortunate/disadvantaged folks.
- Pride in labour.
- Ride-or-die chic.

How is life, Shy? What are you up to these days?

yetseyi:
I feel you guys are too harsh to the OP now.

I have really not seen whats wrong in what he posted(sweet2blv you should have left out the salary details it was not necessary).

I also know people who stopped using their cars for a while in order to attract people that like them for who they and not what they are perceived to worth. Different people with different methods.

Besides one can find love anywhere even on nairaland.

Anyway OP, you will find one who will complete you just continue looking.

I don't think that's what they're getting at him for. I think it has to do with the fact that, rather than talk about why he's single and seriously searching, he spent more time alluding to the material things he's got. You don't need to hide whatever riches you've got to get decent chics (that's some primordial mentality right there), you just don't need to make everything about ya riches, stay humble, and be down to earth.

Personally, I don't understand why guys who're supposedly stable financially with a decent job always talk about being "single and searching", when everyone knows that the average chic likes comfort and when you're in a space where you can provide that comfort, you ought to be chics' magnet. So the problem is the guy and instead of talking about what he's got that's yet to give him what he desires - he needs to do the following:

- Socialise more.
- Learn how to have decent conversations with chics.
- Be confident and get used to rejection sometimes.
- Be down to earth, humble, and true to himself around people.

Chics are easy to get, regardless of looks, as long as the guy is stable.

Yieldings:

How is life, Shy? What are you up to these days?

Life's a biitch (pardon my Canadian French lol) as usual, depending on the energy you give to it. So I've been giving it good energy and getting a ricochet of positive results. Can't complain.

Just out here working, grafting, and trying to be best I can be - while trying to live the dreams of my papa/mama duke.

So, how are you and what's Canada saying?

Shymm3x:


I don't think that's what they're getting at him for. I think it has to do with the fact that, rather than talk about why he's single and seriously searching, he spent more time alluding to the material things he's got. You don't need to hide whatever riches you've got to get decent chics (that's some primordial mentality right there), you just don't need to make everything about ya riches, stay humble, and be down to earth.

okay,you might think its primordial mentality but it has worked for some e.g you get to meet people who ordinarily you wouldn't have met or looked at twice.

Personally I have seen it play out and besides what worked for someone would not work for another. As far as I am concerned do what works for you, I have seen a case of two sisters whereby what was supposedly the stumbling block to the elder was the stepping stone for the younger.

The reason why he's harping on the financial stability is because the popular opinion that money attracts ladies so he's wondering why he hasn't gotten one.

Shymm3x:


Personally, I don't understand why guys who're supposedly stable financially with a decent job always talk about being "single and searching", when everyone knows that the average chic likes comfort and when you're in a space where you can provide that comfort, you ought to be chics' magnet.

Now this is where you seem to get it wrong, there are a lot of financially stable, decent, cool headed and even "very Christian" guys out there and they seem to have a challenge with ladies and then one would wonder what the problem is. A major challenge a lot of Nigerian guys have is when they seem to have a bit of financial stability they tend to think majority of the ladies are after what they can offer finance wise ; they may be right or they may be wrong and then there are a lot of other factors involved in getting suitable partner and sometimes the odds may just not be in that persons favor.

So yes there are a size-able number of financially stable guys that are not "Chics magnet"

Shymm3x:



So the problem is the guy and instead of talking about what he's got that's yet to give him what he desires - he needs to do the following:

- Socialise more.
- Learn how to have decent conversations with chics.
- Be confident and get used to rejection sometimes.
- Be down to earth, humble, and true to himself around people.

Chics are easy to get, regardless of looks, as long as the guy is stable.

There are guys that do all these but still they have not seen "the one". Ladies easy to get because of financial stability? Maybe, maybe not It all depends


Happy easter bro , You can send my chicken

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yetseyi:

okay,you might think its primordial mentality but it has worked for some e.g you get to meet people who ordinarily you wouldn't have met or looked at twice.

Personally I have seen it play out and besides what worked for someone would not work for another. As far as I am concerned do what works for you, I have seen a case of two sisters whereby what was supposedly the stumbling block to the elder was the stepping stone for the younger.

The reason why he's harping on the financial stability is because the popular opinion that money attracts ladies so he's wondering why he hasn't gotten one.

I dunno but I don't think it's that necessary to hide what you've got to meet decent chics. It's always better to be yourself and let folks accept you for who you're. Hiding ya stuffs won't stop hungry/needy chics from swinging ya way cos there are different classes of hungry/needy chics. When you go low, the low hungry/needy chics would swing ya way. Go middle, the middle hungry/needy chics would swing ya way. Or go high, the high hungry/needy chics would swing ya way. So why not save yourself the stress and be more observant when dealing with chics? It's very easy to spot the hungry/needy ones.

Money does attract ladies but it also depends on usage. You can't be dressing like a bum, lack confidence and social skills, and stay stuck in ya own little world - then expect chics to come look for you. Even with money, everything has to be in place, with the money as the catalyst for fatal attraction.

Now this is where you seem to get it wrong, there are a lot of financially stable, decent, cool headed and even "very Christian" guys out there and they seem to have a challenge with ladies and then one would wonder what the problem is. A major challenge a lot of Nigerian guys have is when they seem to have a bit of financial stability they tend to think majority of the ladies are after what they can offer finance wise ; they may be right or they may be wrong and then there are a lot of other factors involved in getting suitable partner and sometimes the odds may just not be in that persons favor.

So yes there are a size-able number of financially stable guys that are not "Chics magnet"

There are guys that do all these but still they have not seen "the one". Ladies easy to get because of financial stability? Maybe, maybe not It all depends

Lol. Then they need to step their game up. When you're financially stable, decent, confident, and cool headed - with a decent social life/skills - you shouldn't be "single and searching", you ought to be "single and fvcking". Folks just need to work on themselves and try to demystify what they're doing wrong and how to improve. There are loads of chics out there trying to mingle and regardless of the imperfections a guy has, there's always a decent chic that will like him for who he's. Perhaps a lot of them want chics to come talk to them or maybe they're the type who're averse to rejection. You can't do that if you're not a celebrity and regardless of the financial stability, you still have to always make the first move and once you get their attention, then you can let whatever you've do the rest of the job for you.

Lmao @ "the one". "The one" doesn't exist. There's no perfect partner...you just need someone that you're attracted to physically, can complement/respect you, and accept you for who you're - with some level of loyalty. Finding "the one" is tantamount to Finding Forrester or the lost Kingdom of Atlantis.

Happy easter bro , You can send my chicken

Happy Easter, my Ijebu sister. How many chickens do you want?

Shymm3x:


I dunno but I don't think it's that necessary to hide what you've got to meet decent chics.

Actually you are right but since a lot of people think everyone (by everyone they actually mean all Ladies) is a potential gold digger, different testing methods are being employed. One of them is the hide your real status, pretend you are poor or not so financially okay and if she stays she is a wife material

Shymm3x:

It's always better to be yourself and let folks accept you for who you're. Hiding ya stuffs won't stop hungry/needy chics from swinging ya way [/b]cos there are different classes of hungry/needy chics.[b] When you go low, the low hungry/needy chics would swing ya way. Go middle, the middle hungry/needy chics would swing ya way. Or go high, the high hungry/needy chics would swing ya way. So why not save yourself the stress and be more observant when dealing with chics? It's very easy to spot the hungry/needy ones.

As much as I dont want to agree with you on the bolded statement its quite true, No matter what you show forth as your financial worth there will still be someone in that category that will want you just for what you offer. Everything has class, A gold digger will always be a gold digger irrespective of his/ her own financial worth at the moment, theres always some new gold to dig. Nothing beats getting a real/true Lady but of course the guys will most likely overlook the ones that wont give them problems

Shymm3x:

Money does attract ladies but it also depends on usage. You can't be dressing like a bum, lack confidence and social skills, and stay stuck in ya own little world - then expect chics to come look for you. Even with money, everything has to be in place, with the money as the catalyst for fatal attraction.

@bolded-some ladies, I still have not gotten you attracted to someone just because he is rich, Something else should be be attracting factor then if he's now rich well then its part of the package. There are somethings that should be sought first.

Shymm3x:

Lol. Then they need to step their game up. When you're financially stable, decent, confident, and cool headed - with a decent social life/skills - you shouldn't be "single and searching", ". Folks just need to work on themselves and try to demystify what they're doing wrong and how to improve. There are loads of chics out there trying to mingle and regardless of the imperfections a guy has, there's always a decent chic that will like him for who he's. Perhaps a lot of them want chics to come talk to them or maybe they're the type who're averse to rejection. You can't do that if you're not a celebrity and regardless of the financial stability, you still have to always make the first move and once you get their attention, then you can let whatever you've do the rest of the job for you.

I agree with you on this. There is a category of guys that feel, driving a good car, having a good job and some spare cash to throw around is all what they need to get a decent lady.

Shymm3x:

Lmao @ "the one". "The one" doesn't exist. There's no perfect partner...you just need someone that you're attracted to physically, can complement/respect you, and accept you for who you're - with some level of loyalty. Finding "the one" is tantamount to Finding Forrester or the lost Kingdom of Atlantis.

You just defined what most people call "the one" I will prefer -with a high level of loyalty instead of some.

Shymm3x:

Happy Easter, my Ijebu sister. How many chickens do you want?

I will manage a dozen or two How was service?

Cant believe what this thread is about, the title of the thread is misleading.

@op you have a long way to go, its not about the money you make noone gives a hoot about that but its very obvious that you have a low self esteem.
You will keep attracting wrong ladies if you dont work on yourself.

Work on yourself first and stop basing everything on money.

yetseyi:

Actually you are right but since a lot of people think everyone (by everyone they actually mean all Ladies) is a potential gold digger, different testing methods are being employed. One of them is the hide your real status, pretend you are poor or not so financially okay and if she stays she is a wife material

Lol. Personally, I think a lot of women are like crack dealers who don't mind what the crack head is paying with - notes or coins - or the status (rich or poor). They're just out there to suck whatever they can suck out of guys. No matter how you hide it, they'd still scrounge for whatever loose coins you've to offer. So what's the point? It's just always to be yourself but don't be all about whatever you've got. And be very observant.

As much as I dont want to agree with you on the bolded statement its quite true, No matter what you show forth as your financial worth there will still be someone in that category that will want you just for what you offer. Everything has class, A gold digger will always be a gold digger irrespective of his/ her own financial worth at the moment, theres always some new gold to dig. Nothing beats getting a real/true Lady but of course the guys will most likely overlook the ones that wont give them problems

Lmao @ guys will most likely overlook the ones that wont give them problems. That's so true. I think it's not just guy - that's just a human problem. And it has to do with our innate way of being susceptible to making bad decisions. Hence the quote, "you don't know the value of something until you lose it". We all tend to get carried away with pretense, posturing, glitz, and glamour. I guess that's part of the imperfections that make us human.

@bolded-some ladies, I still have not gotten you attracted to someone just because he is rich, Something else should be be attracting factor then if he's now rich well then its part of the package. There are somethings that should be sought first.

Lol. And what are these things? He must follow you to Church every Sunday and wake up at 5.am every morning to do praise and worship with you? Jk jk jk ghsthahsjsjsjj

I agree with you on this. There is a category of guys that feel, driving a good car, having a good job and some spare cash to throw around is all what they need to get a decent lady.

Yes, you need other things apart from material things. Being able to hold a decent conversation is one of them. You just have to be able to talk to chics. Once you get that sorted - you won't really have that much problems.

You just defined what most people call "the one" I will prefer -with a high level of loyalty instead of some.

Lol. High level of loyalty doesn't exist anymore in today's world and those who possess it are a dying breed. The consciousness today is about, "all man/woman for himself/herself" and you've to accept that reality.

In terms of "the one", I was alluding to what most folks think is a perfect partner - and in most cases it's deeper than what I listed. If "the one" were just what I listed, then I don't think most people would find it difficult to find someone. However, in most cases, you'd see that "the one" is always something folks just created in their heads and only exist in the heads - just figment of one's imagination.

Err, let me get hypothetical and create "the one" for myself in my own head lol. I'd say I want a chic that's a mix between Esther Baxter (ti.ts) and Agnes Masogange (batty), with a face that looks like Sharon Leal or K.D Aubert's face. She has to be educated to at least MSc level with great knowledge of history (I want to home-school my kids, apart from regular schools, cos I don't think the system caters to black kids adequately). She has to be proud of her blackness, grounded, virtuous, and must be a great cook. She has to respect me for who I'm and there has to be connection.

^^^Now look at this: do you honestly think a woman like this exist? That's a classic example of "the one" most folks create in their heads.

I will manage a dozen or two How was service?

British or just normal chickens? Don't worry, imma cargo that to you soon.

Service? I didn't go to Church today. I was at the club all night watching chics twerk to Rihanna's "work" tune and I woke up late this morning. I'm not really a Church guy and since my parents never troubled me about Church this time, I just stayed at mines and went to see them after Church. I dunno but religion and pagan holidays aren't really my thing. But I don't have a problem with folks who are into them.

Regardless, I pray to God every night and though he never says anything back to me, I know he's got my back like the verizon man and he's always protecting me. Hence I don't worry too tough cos I know I won't be alive to day without his grace.

gentleheart1:
Cant believe what this thread is about, the title of the thread is misleading.

@op you have a long way to go, its not about the money you make noone gives a hoot about that but its very obvious that you have a low self esteem.
You will keep attracting wrong ladies if you dont work on yourself.

Work on yourself first and stop basing everything on money.

Dem DDs tho.

Shymm3x:

Dem DDs tho.

Huh whats DDs?

gentleheart1:


Huh whats DDs?

Check ya cleavage and tell me wagwan.

Or are you just a C/D trying to pose as DDs?

Shymm3x:


Check ya cleavage and tell me wagwan.

Or are you just a C/D trying to pose as DDs?

You haven't got over your DD obsession. You need Jesus!