Eddygourdo:
As a child. I was a terror, as an adult a greater terror. The day I stood up a bank in the south East, disarmed the mobile police man and was in a stand off with his colleagues simply because he slapped me when my phone rang in the banking Hall (intercontinental bank. 2007). Was the day I decided to check my temper. I was saved by a soldier on scene who disarmed me and whisked me away. I was in hiding for months till I returned to the same bank months later to slap the same policeman, entered a bike and zoomed off. Only to go into hiding again. I realised then and there that my display was cowardice. Thus I started my philosophy of changing my behaviour.

Asides some incidents of road rage, revenge etc. I have calmed down alot. By the time I started dating bae I was technically an angel. Years have now gone. And I noticed my anger issues have surfaced. Though I don't get physical. But I raise my voice alot.

Bae is soft spoken, plus hates my screams and easy to cry,. I feel so bad whenever she cries and I always promise myself never to scream again. Yet I notice I keep doing it. She is really trying to ensure angry episodes never happen. I an trying too in my own way. I used to watch comedy series to bring out my fun side. But apparently comedy series like modern family and the rest are hard to come by.

I have alot of pent up energy in me, sex and comedy never solves it anymore like before. I need to change soon before my behaviour drives a good woman away from me. Thanks to my apparent lack of self control in anger.

Wat activities can I do to help myself. Please don't tell me to gym. I am naturally built and 6ft 4. Any other gyming would make me a bouncer look alike. I used to play soccer actively but I have stopped thanks to my job. Mature response from like minds highly required. Thanks

tripplephi:



brotherly you need to apply for a NEW bae THAT HAS MORE MADNESS THAN YOU O...... the CURE to a MAD man is A MADDER WOMAN.... thank me latter.... else GO TO MFM and GIVE THE DEVIL A PIECE OF YOUR ANGER IN PRAYER.... when you don tire... YOU WILL BE AS CALM AS A DEEPERLIFE BRO

Cutehector:
Try joining a choir

rubsaphy:
Be conscious. when ever you feel like exploding, stop talking, breathe and walk away. Go outdoor and reflect on the incident. you will realize it's not worth your rage.

Eddygourdo:
am thinking about that. Would consider church activities.

KingCheezyPuff:
1# Get away.
Take a walk
sit in a empty room
Stand on the balcane
Just find a suecluded space and calm down

2# Clear your mind
Cout to 100 ....It sounds silly but focused on the counting and you'll find your calm after awhile.
But you gotta focuse

Cutehector:
pls do. It will seriously help ur anger issues... dnt forget the choir part....

Eddygourdo:
am a gospel band kinda guy. Play many instruments. When I was active I behaved better. It takes alot of energy to play a lead guitar in a crusade, thus too tired to be silly enough to scream at bae or anyone else sef. Thanks bro

Eddygourdo:
most times its not worth my rage. I have realised that. That's why I fear more episodes of my nonsense would drive her away. Most times I cool down after awhile. Guess I should stop confronting any issue till am sure I will handle it calmly like a gentleman

Eddygourdo:
guess it would work. But that means I shouldn't handle issues directly then. Or am I to stop while about to explode to sit quietly till I clear my mind and ready to behave maturely

cruzita:
Bro a lot of girls find it difficult to stay with a bad tempered man and your bae might leave u because of it.someone like me,hate been shouted on not to talk of been beaten.I think u should try to be more self conscious and avoid anything that will bring you to anger.

Cutehector:
u welcome.... anger issues is a bad thing.. u can see stories of how people bath their spouses with acid or hot water or batter dem to death. I'm sure you don't want all that. Do u

MrsPhyno:
Anger management classes. It's like your amygdala is all out of wack. I just can't understand you volatile people, didn't you learn self control and emotional control as a toddler?

slyIsaac:
Yeah cheezypuff is on track...I can recomend some songs too

Ben cocks -so cold

Andrew belle - in my veins

Trent reznor -hurt

Sia -breathe me

Don't listen to fuji songs o...yhu'll freak out n kill someone
Those are some of the songs tat works 4 me...
My ex bae made me fall inlove with tat ben cocks song to calm me down when the anger episodes starts....n till date I still listen to it when I start to flare up

Eddygourdo:
what[s][/s] amygdala?

Eddygourdo:
of course not. Who would. Anyway have been dying to speak up about this issue. But since I noticed she is colder to me and has remained so for days because of what I said last week. It could be she is getting sick and tired of me and she is a lady I can never have a substitute for.

ireneony:
Op u need to visit a therapist.
I don't we have one in Nigeria self.

Cutehector:
u knw hateful words are far more demoralizing than battery itself. U may hit the lady, the pain goes away, she may forgive, but hurtful words are never forgotten. Take it or leave it. Well you are you, I have an elder brother who is a cousin dats just like u, when his anger starts, oh mehn, everyone just scamps... me sef doesn't even want his wahala so when he starts shouting, I just do whatever he tells me to do at dat moment and leave the house. He wants to get married and I really dnt think d girl he wants to marry will curtail his anger issues...


What I think is when someone understands u perfectly and knw what and what steers up the anger in you, she will try her best not to make u angry in d first place.

And BTW, my elder cousin takes weed to calm down

Eddygourdo:
As a child. I was a terror, as an adult a greater terror. The day I stood up a bank in the south East, disarmed the mobile police man and was in a stand off with his colleagues simply because he slapped me when my phone rang in the banking Hall (intercontinental bank. 2007). Was the day I decided to check my temper. I was saved by a soldier on scene who disarmed me and whisked me away. I was in hiding for months till I returned to the same bank months later to slap the same policeman, entered a bike and zoomed off. Only to go into hiding again. I realised then and there that my display was cowardice. Thus I started my philosophy of changing my behaviour.
Asides some incidents of road rage, revenge etc. I have calmed down alot. By the time I started dating bae I was technically an angel. Years have now gone. And I noticed my anger issues have surfaced. Though I don't get physical. But I raise my voice alot.
Bae is soft spoken, plus hates my screams and easy to cry,. I feel so bad whenever she cries and I always promise myself never to scream again. Yet I notice I keep doing it. She is really trying to ensure angry episodes never happen. I an trying too in my own way. I used to watch comedy series to bring out my fun side. But apparently comedy series like modern family and the rest are hard to come by.
I have alot of pent up energy in me, sex and comedy never solves it anymore like before. I need to change soon before my behaviour drives a good woman away from me. Thanks to my apparent lack of self control in anger.
Wat activities can I do to help myself. Please don't tell me to gym. I am naturally built and 6ft 4. Any other gyming would make me a bouncer look alike. I used to play soccer actively but I have stopped thanks to my job. Mature response from like minds highly required. Thanks