I need some help on how to keep my long distance relationship alive. We've been together for almost 2 years, the first year we were in the same city but he moved away almost a year ago. We've been fighting so much and with our wedding next July it's worrying. I was hoping I can get some ideas on keeping the romance in our relationship.

Urm night calls, be kinky, dnt be too holier Dan thou..


Tell him u miss him, u want him so badly. Etc.


Phew. Am so tired of all dem how are u, have u eatn talks. Bores me to death

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Shebi u knw as una dey do am. U go gossipally find one gossip informant as friend mounted around where he stays to dey give u info as he dey flex. Abi no be so?

RadicallyBlunt:
Shebi u knw as una dey do am. U go gossipally find one gossip informant as friend mounted around where he stays to dey give u info as he dey flex. Abi no be so?

no, that is not the case

Leave if you still can, once your very present self is not there, its nothing , just a waste of time and energy. I've being there.

fulanigirl:


no, that is not the case

How e come be

She is asking for a way to intensify their romance regarding the long distance....





But comments above...
Seems they reason with their anus.




And here comes Layla with some sense.

It can be really frustrating and boring at a point i tell you but a distant relationship that survives only grows stronger. I'll share some of my personal tips from experience with you which has helped and is still keeping us going.
1. Visit each other; if you're lucky to be in the same country, visit each other. And if in different countries, still visit. Spend time and money on travels.

2. Video calls/ chats; being able to see each other regularly and talking about EVERYTHING develops intimacy. Send photos, take shots specifically for him.

3. Make an effort and be determined to make things work; if he's a very busy dude like mine, my sister you have to really try. U jst have to pin him down to get things sorted. The longer issues linger, the gap becomes wider.

4. Keep yourself busy; focus on your life too, develop yourself... apart from the personal benefits you gain from this, it tends to take your mind off the thoughts of him for a while. And i'm sure he'll even respect u more for that.

5. Set some rules; in my case, i made it a standard that we should never sleep over a disagreement. We must settle it before it before we both go to bed...i've gone to bed 3am on an occassion because we just had to straighten out things.
We know each other's schedule for the whole day

6.talk dirty to each other and be very romantic; you know what to do
Plus, tell him when you're angry or unhappy about anything because he is not with you physically to see your expressions.

These are the ones i remember for now, i hope they were helpful? Hang in there sis

fulanigirl:
I need some help on how to keep my long distance relationship alive. We've been together for almost 2 years, the first year we were in the same city but he moved away almost a year ago. We've been fighting so much and with our wedding next July it's worrying. I was hoping I can get some ideas on keeping the romance in our relationship.

Allah ba da sa'a..

but really upto 2years apart while dating?
tchap! this is serious.. well i suggest he should come visiting to your city and 2-3months in touch, so u two can see if it will work out.. marriage is not something u just do coz u've been dating someone for a long time

layla129:
It can be really frustrating and boring at a point i tell you but a distant relationship that survives only grows stronger. I'll share some of my personal tips from experience with you which has helped and is still keeping us going.
1. Visit each other; if you're lucky to be in the same country, visit each other. And if in different countries, still visit. Spend time and money on travels.

2. Video calls/ chats; being able to see each other regularly and talking about EVERYTHING develops intimacy. Send photos, take shots specifically for him.

3. Make an effort and be determined to make things work; if he's a very busy dude like mine, my sister you have to really try. U jst have to pin him down to get things sorted. The longer issues linger, the gap becomes wider.

4. Keep yourself busy; focus on your life too, develop yourself... apart from the personal benefits you gain from this, it tends to take your mind off the thoughts of him for a while. And i'm sure he'll even respect u more for that.

5. Set some rules; in my case, i made it a standard that we should never sleep over a disagreement. We must settle it before it before we both go to bed...i've gone to bed 3am on an occassion because we just had to straighten out things.
We know each other's schedule for the whole day

6.talk dirty to each other and be very romantic; you know what to do
Plus, tell him when you're angry or unhappy about anything because he is not with you physically to see your expressions.

These are the ones i remember for now, i hope they were helpful? Hang in there sis

Thank you for your wonderful contributions

MuhdG:

Allah ba da sa'a..

but really upto 2years apart while dating?
tchap! this is serious.. well i suggest he should come visiting to your city and 2-3months in touch, so u two can see if it will work out.. marriage is not something u just do coz u've been dating someone for a long time

We were together for the first year but the second year has been long distance. He visits and he is in touch, it's when he's away we fight a lot.

Hmmmm

Constant communication is the answer.
You guys should learn to talk about anything and everything.

The Virtue of Patience and Prayer
Allah says;
you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salah (the prayer). Truly, Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient).
After Allah commanded that He be appreciated, He ordained patience and prayer. It is a fact that the servant is either enjoying a bounty that he should be thankful for, or suffering a calamity that he should meet with patience.
A Hadith states: Amazing is the believer, for whatever Allah decrees for him, it is better for him!
• If he is tested with a bounty, he is grateful for it and this is better for him; • and if he is afflicted with a hardship, he is patient with it and this is better for him. Allah has stated that the best tools to help ease the effects of the afflictions are patience and prayer. Earlier we mentioned Allah's statement: And seek help in patience and As-Salah (the prayer) and truly, it is extremely heavy and hard except for Al-Khashi`in (i.e., the true believers in Allah). (2:45)
There are several types of Sabr ـ patience:
-one for avoiding the prohibitions and sins,
- one for acts of worship and obedience.
-There is a third type of patience required in the face of the afflictions and hardships, which is mandatory, like repentance.
Abdur-Rahman bin Zayd bin Aslam said,
"Sabr (patient)has two parts:
-patience for the sake of Allah concerning what He is pleased with (i.e., acts of worship and obedience), even if it is hard on the heart and the body,
and patience when avoiding what He (Allah) dislikes, even if it is desired. Those who acquire these qualities will be among the patient persons whom Allah shall greet (when they meet Him in the Hereafter; refer to Surah Al-Ahzab (33:44),

Pardon me, Me & Romance are on a break right now
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.Pls, I also need you guys help.
Abeg How I feet keep my 'bank account' alive 4 dis perilous times?

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fulanigirl:
I need some help on how to keep my long distance relationship alive. We've been together for almost 2 years, the first year we were in the same city but he moved away almost a year ago. We've been fighting so much and with our wedding next July it's worrying. I was hoping I can get some ideas on keeping the romance in our relationship.

last i checked it doesnt work...only 5 % chance it does

layla129:
It can be really frustrating and boring at a point i tell you but a distant relationship that survives only grows stronger. I'll share some of my personal tips from experience with you which has helped and is still keeping us going.
1. Visit each other; if you're lucky to be in the same country, visit each other. And if in different countries, still visit. Spend time and money on travels.

2. Video calls/ chats; being able to see each other regularly and talking about EVERYTHING develops intimacy. Send photos, take shots specifically for him.

3. Make an effort and be determined to make things work; if he's a very busy dude like mine, my sister you have to really try. U jst have to pin him down to get things sorted. The longer issues linger, the gap becomes wider.

4. Keep yourself busy; focus on your life too, develop yourself... apart from the personal benefits you gain from this, it tends to take your mind off the thoughts of him for a while. And i'm sure he'll even respect u more for that.

5. Set some rules; in my case, i made it a standard that we should never sleep over a disagreement. We must settle it before it before we both go to bed...i've gone to bed 3am on an occassion because we just had to straighten out things.
We know each other's schedule for the whole day

6.talk dirty to each other and be very romantic; you know what to do
Plus, tell him when you're angry or unhappy about anything because he is not with you physically to see your expressions.

These are the ones i remember for now, i hope they were helpful? Hang in there sis

I concur

as for me,
OUT OF SIGHT....OUT OF MIND
body no be firewood and i no be robot

I'm in a long distance relationship too. She's at Ghana while I'm in naija. Whenever we are apart we seem to quarrel sometimes but when together, we HARDLY have issues, in fact lemme say we don't... I found out that distance has a way of causing these issues.... Don't let it bother u, if u love him and he loves u, marry him, when together you'll see that it was just a mere illusion that distnace was creating... Thank you!

Ok

Hmm

video calls, chatting, texting and calling are essential in keeping a long relationship alive....

I don't do distance relationship , I dey craze ? Nope but it's none of my business tho

HMMMM I JUST DEY WATCH

The bobo go dey where im dey dey bleep any how, u go dey there dey mumu urself. U think say body na firewood??

En en?

hmmmm

April Fool Pranks used to be Fun until d day my Mum casted me.

I used Bomb sms to send a Credit Alert of 20k to my Mum with Diamond Bank format

She was so happy that she didn't even care about the Sender and Rushed to the Bank to withdraw it. The Cashier told her she got just 2k in her account, she said Never! She then showed the Cashier the Credit Alert she received. The cashier told her it is a Scam but she never believed

She came home and told me she is Having problem with her Account and she Explained. I just laugh and laugh and told her April Fool!!!

She slapped me Twice and told me she dont want to meet me at home when she is back from where she is going

I slept Outside for Days so Stranded untill she hear my Plea

Ever Since Then I Will Just Do Like I Didn't Notice April 1st Because My April Fool Pranks Are The Best

hmmmm

Dint work well for every1,,u might be lucky anyway